Migraine – Illnesses & conditions

There’s currently no cure for migraines, although a number of treatments are available to help ease the symptoms.

It may take time to work out the best treatment for you. You may need to try different types or combinations of medicines before you find the most effective ones.

If you find you can’t manage your migraines using over-the-counter medicines, your GP may prescribe something stronger.

During an attack

Most people find that sleeping or lying in a darkened room is the best thing to do when having a migraine attack.

Others find that eating something helps, or they start to feel better once they’ve been sick.

Painkillers

Many people who have migraines find that over-the-counter painkillers, such as paracetamol, aspirin and ibuprofen, can help to reduce their symptoms.

They tend to be most effective if taken at the first signs of a migraine attack, as this gives them time to absorb into your bloodstream and ease your symptoms.

It’s not advisable to wait until the headache worsens before taking painkillers as it’s often too late for the medication to work. Soluble painkillers (tablets you dissolve in a glass of water) are a good alternative because they’re absorbed quickly by your body.

If you can’t swallow painkillers because of nausea or vomiting, suppositories may be a better option. These are capsules that are inserted into the anus (back passage).

Cautions

When taking over-the-counter painkillers, always make sure you read the instructions on the packaging and follow the dosage recommendations.

Children under 16 shouldn’t take aspirin unless it’s under the guidance of a healthcare professional. Aspirin and ibuprofen are also not recommended for adults who have a history of stomach problems, such as stomach ulcers, liver problems or kidney problems.

Taking any form of painkiller frequently can make migraines worse. This is sometimes called “medication overuse headache” or “painkiller headache”.

Speak to your GP if you find yourself needing to use painkillers repeatedly or if over-the-counter painkillers aren’t effective. Your GP may prescribe stronger painkillers or recommend using painkillers along with triptans (see below). If they suspect the frequent use of painkillers may be contributing your headaches, they may recommended that you stop using them.

Triptans

If ordinary painkillers aren’t helping to relieve your migraine symptoms, you should make an appointment to see your GP. They may recommend taking painkillers in addition to a type of medication called a triptan and possibly anti-sickness medication (see below).

Triptan medicines are a specific painkiller for migraine headaches. They’re thought to work by reversing the changes in the brain that may cause migraine headaches.

They cause the blood vessels around the brain to contract (narrow). This reverses the dilating (widening) of blood vessels that’s believed to be part of the migraine process.

Triptans are available as tablets, injections and nasal sprays.

Common side effects of triptans include:

• warm-sensations
• tightness
• tingling
• flushing
• feelings of heaviness in the face, limbs or chest

Some people also experience nausea, dry mouth and drowsiness. These side effects are usually mild and improve on their own.

As with other painkillers, taking too many triptans can lead to medication overuse headache.

Your GP will usually recommend having a follow-up appointment once you’ve finished your first course of treatment with triptans. This is so you can discuss their effectiveness and whether you had any side effects.

If the medication was helpful, treatment will usually be continued. If they weren’t effective or caused unpleasant side effects, your GP may try prescribing a different type of triptan since responses can be highly variable.

Anti-sickness medicines

Anti-sickness medicines, known as anti-emetics, can successfully treat migraine in some people even if you don’t experience nausea or vomiting. These are prescribed by your GP and can be taken alongside painkillers and triptans.

As with painkillers, anti-sickness medicines work better if taken as soon as your migraine symptoms begin. They usually come in the form of a tablet, but are also available as a suppository.

Side effects of anti-emetics include drowsiness and diarrhoea.

Combination medicines

You can buy a number of combination medicines for migraine without a prescription at your local pharmacy. These medicines contain both painkillers and anti-sickness medicines. If you’re not sure which one is best for you, ask your pharmacist.

It can also be very effective to combine a triptan with another painkiller, such as ibuprofen.

Many people find combination medicines convenient. However, the dose of painkillers or anti-sickness medicine may not be high enough to relieve your symptoms. If this is the case, it may be better to take painkillers and anti-sickness medicines separately. This allows you to easily control the doses of each.

Seeing a specialist

If the treatments above aren’t effectively controlling your migraines, your GP may refer you to a specialist migraine clinic for further investigation and treatment.

In addition to the medications mentioned above, a specialist may recommend other treatments such as transcranial magnetic stimulation.

Transcranial magnetic stimulation

In January 2014, the National Institute for Health and Care Excellence (NICE) approved the use of a treatment called transcranial magnetic stimulation (TMS) for the treatment and prevention of migraines.

TMS involves holding a small electrical device to your head that delivers magnetic pulses through your skin. It’s not clear exactly how TMS works in treating migraines, but studies have shown that using it at the start of a migraine can reduce its severity. It can also be used in combination with the medications mentioned above without interfering with them.

However, TMS isn’t a cure for migraines and it doesn’t work for everyone. The evidence for its effectiveness isn’t strong and is limited to people who have migraine with aura.

There’s also little evidence about the potential long-term effects of the treatment, although studies into the treatment have so far only reported minor and temporary side effects, including:

• slight dizziness
• drowsiness and tiredness
• a muscle tremor that can make it difficult to stand
• irritability

NICE recommends that TMS should only be provided by headache specialists in specialist centres, because of the uncertainty about the potential long-term side effects. The specialist will keep a record of your experiences using the treatment.

Treatment for pregnant and breastfeeding women

In general, migraine treatment with medicines should be limited as much as possible when you’re pregnant or breastfeeding. Instead, trying to identify and avoid potential migraine triggers is often recommended.

If medication is essential, then your GP may prescribe you a low-dose painkiller, such as paracetamol. In some cases, anti-inflammatory drugs or triptans may be prescribed. Speak to your GP or midwife before taking medication when you are pregnant or breastfeeding.

The 4 Stages of a Migraine Explained: Rose Urgent Care and Family Practice: Urgent Care

If you’re one of the 37 million women, men, and children in the U.S. who suffer from chronic migraines, you probably don’t want to think about them at all when you’re headache free. But learning about the four stages of migraine helps you know when you’re about to suffer an attack, get treatment early, and prepare for relief.

Chronic migraines are differentiated from headaches by their longevity (an attack that lasts from 4-72 hours without treatment), frequency (at least five attacks), and the simultaneous occurrence of at least one other classic symptom, such as nausea or sensitivity to light. Migraines also tend to affect just one side of your head and occur in four stages, each of which has its own set of symptoms. You may not experience all four stages during each of your migraines, or may have your own individual variations.

Prodrome

The prodrome phase begins hours or even a day or two before your actual headache. This phase is marked by changes in mood or physicality, such as:

• Craving certain foods
• Being thirsty
• Urinating frequently
• Being constipated
• Yawning and feeling sleepy
• Irritability
• Excitability
• Depression

If you suffer from migraines and experience the symptoms of the prodrome phase, the medical professionals at Rose Family Practice Urgent Care in Vancouver and Battleground, Washington, encourage you to come in for an evaluation and be sure that your medication is up to date.

Aura

Only about one in three to four women, men, and children experience an aura phase before the attack. Nevertheless, an aura is a classic sign that you suffer from migraines. Auras tend to affect the nervous system and may manifest in a variety of ways.

Visual changes

You may experience a blind spot or, conversely, flickering or jagged lights that may grow bigger over time. You can also experience vivid hallucinations or “see” memories. Visual auras may make it difficult for you to focus and perform daily activities, such as driving.

Difficulty with language

An aura may also manifest as confusion, particularly verbal confusion. You may have difficulty expressing or understanding spoken or written words. Your ability to concentrate and focus may also be compromised.

Physical sensations

Numbness, tingling, and a pins-and-needle sensation on your skin are classic signs of a migraine aura. The sensations may be limited to your face and hands or may spread throughout your body.

Headache

A migraine attack lasts at least four hours but, if not treated, could continue for several days. Migraines often start behind the eyes and are limited to one side of your head, but they can also spread or even move. Other symptoms of a migraine attack include:

• Worsening pain when you move or bend over
• Sensitivity to light, sound, or smells
• Dizziness
• Fainting
• Nausea or vomiting

Between the pain and accompanying symptoms, you may be unable to function during your migraine attack. The World Health Organization considers migraine to be one of the 10 most disabling illnesses. The American Migraine Foundation estimates that the chronic attacks impair the education, career, and social opportunities for 90% of sufferers.

Postdrome

After your migraine attack subsides, you may experience yet another phase, called the postdrome. Some symptoms of the aura and headache — such as confusion or pain when moving — may persist into the prodrome. You can also feel tired and sluggish for up to a day.

Paying attention to how your migraine develops and what kinds of symptoms you tend to exhibit helps your Rose Family Practice Urgent Care physician develop an individualized treatment plan. In addition to lifestyle changes, they may recommend medications to help manage pain and symptoms and lessen the severity of the attack. You can also keep a diary to help identify triggers — including certain foods, sounds, or smells — that may precede your attacks.

If you have migraines or suspect you might, and need help managing your symptoms, contact us today. Call our Vancouver or Battleground office, or book an appointment online.

Migraine Headache: Practice Essentials, Background, Pathophysiology

Being ambitious and living with an incurable condition – migraine

I have suffered from migraines since childhood. Many people are not aware of how debilitating they can be or that there is still no medical cure for this awful condition.

I have worked for governments, the United Nations and leading international think tanks – on the first day that I start a new role I tell my line manager two key things:

1. I think the greatest quality in a leader is to invite challenge – and I will challenge you!
2. I suffer from debilitating migraines, on average once a month. If I’m at work it forces me to go home or, if already home, to stay at home.

Symptoms

Migraines are medically referred to as ‘attacks’, as the pain quite literally attacks the head, and the rest of the body endures severe pain that can last from a few hours to a few days.

My own symptoms are a desperately intense headache – it feels like someone is banging my head in the same spot with a large hammer – nausea, aura (which means I literally see flashing lights), and sensitivity to light, sound, smell and touch. I have to wear sunglasses, can’t let anyone touch me, as it tingles intensely, can’t eat or drink anything, and when I try there’s severe vomiting. I have to go straight home, lie down in the dark for one or, in rare cases, two days.

It’s really not a pretty sight. For my colleagues, friends and family, seeing me in a migraine is scary, perhaps especially because there is nothing anyone can do to help. I take prescription medication, Triptans, which doesn’t stop the migraine but help to reduce the pain. I emerge from a migraine feeling weak and 1 to 2kg lighter, as I will not have been able to keep food or water down.

Impact on others

How do migraines affect my work and life? A migraine can come on very rapidly, so whatever I have planned for that day – meetings, speeches, writing, meeting friends or family – must be cancelled. The most anyone gets from me in that moment is a one-line text or email: “Got a migraine, sorry, must rest.”

I know this has to be frustrating for my work colleagues, family and friends – but there’s genuinely nothing I can do about it. A common misunderstanding about migraines is that the sufferer can control them – by avoiding what triggers them. It’s true that alcohol, smoking, too much caffeine and some foods, like cheese and citrus fruits, can trigger a migraine. However, I don’t drink or smoke, only have two cups of tea at the same time each day, and avoid all food triggers.

 The triggers

My migraines, like many sufferers’, are genetic. My wonderful late mother sadly suffered them too. (Statistically, women are more likely to suffer than men due to hormonal differences.) My triggers are my monthly menstrual cycle and changes in the environment that cause sensory overload – if I am exposed to big shifts in temperature, light or noise, I will get a migraine.

My only way to try to strengthen myself against these and other triggers is to maintain a routine:

• drink 3 to 4 litres of water a day;
• eat well – I can never miss a meal and snack every 1-2 hours;
• sleep well;
• avoid too much light by wearing sunglasses;
• take regular exercise;
• have monthly head and neck massages and, occasionally, acupuncture at the base of my head.

The irony is that, while migraines stop me in my tracks at least once a month, I am a deeply passionate, positive and gregarious person! I am highly inquisitive, analytical, strategic and ambitious. I have worked in six countries, including two conflict zones, am widely published, sit on the boards of UNESCO, Concern Worldwide and UKRI, am a Fellow at the London School of Economics and University of Manchester, have been a regular on TV, and am currently Deputy on the amazing Race Disparity Audit website!

Inspiring and supportive

I work with an incredibly dynamic and diverse expert team of analysts, digital and policy professionals. We are led by an inspiring and fantastically supportive director, Marcus Bell, who invites challenge, open dialogue and encourages us to push the boundaries and produce ground-breaking work.

Zamila with Race Disparity Audit director Marcus Bell

I was spurred to write this blog when, as my most recent attack came on, Marcus said: “I noticed the temperature change today and was worried you might get a migraine – go home, rest and don’t worry, we’ll handle things here.”

I was so deeply moved by his acute awareness and understanding of my condition that I realised how great it would be if more people across the Civil Service understood migraines and other such conditions – how they affect the sufferer, impact on their team and how we all can work and get along better if we take the time to understand each other. And, crucially, recognise that such conditions – while debilitating – should not limit our ambitions, career and life goals.

We can genuinely achieve these if we have the right support. I still have many goals in my sights and my migraines, while a reality, will not stop me!

Marcus Bell, Director, Race Disparity Audit, writes:

I had no previous experience of migraines or migraine sufferers before meeting Zamila. The condition quite clearly knocks her for six, whenever it happens, though she usually bounces back from it really quickly.  

I’ve learned from experience to spot the warning signs that an attack may be on the way.  Zamila mentions temperature change – and that’s certainly a “tell” – but actually an even more obvious sign to me is that Zamila just stops being herself. She is a very outgoing and upbeat person, so if she stops being like that, it’s almost always a sign that something is up.

Zamila really doesn’t like making a fuss about her condition, so I try to let her know that it’s OK to talk about it and that, if she needs to take some time, she should take some time. She always returns brimming with energy!

It’s Migraine Awareness Week from 2 to 8 September. If you want more information, please visit the Migraine Trust website.

Migraine and stroke | Stroke Association

Stroke and migraine both happen in the brain, and sometimes the symptoms of a migraine can mimic a stroke. However, the causes of the symptoms are different. A stroke is due to damage to the blood supply inside the brain, but migraine is thought to be due to problems with the way brain cells work. 

In a stroke, the blood supply to part of the brain is cut off, killing brain cells. This causes permanent damage to the brain, and can have long-lasting physical, cognitive and emotional effects. 

A migraine causes pain and sensory disturbances, but the changes inside the brain are usually temporary. 

The relationship between migraine and stroke is complex. The symptoms can sometimes seem similar, and they may share some underlying risk factors.

Migrainous infarction

Occasionally migraine and stroke can happen together, but there is no evidence to suggest that one causes the other. Migrainous infarction is the term given to an ischaemic stroke (a stroke due to a clot) that happens during a migraine. This tends to happen alongside prolonged aura symptoms, but is extremely rare. 

Stroke risk and migraine

If you have migraine with aura, you’re about twice as likely to have an ischaemic stroke in your lifetime, compared to those without migraine. However, the overall risk linked to migraine is still very low, and you’re far more likely to have a stroke because of other risk factors like smoking and high blood pressure. 

If you have migraine, your GP or nurse can give advice on reducing your risk of a stroke from any other health conditions you may have, like high blood pressure, diabetes, atrial fibrillation or high cholesterol. They can also support you with making lifestyle changes such as stopping smoking, losing weight, healthy eating and exercise.

Women and migraine

Taking the combined oral contraceptive pill (combi pill) increases the risk of a stroke in women who have migraine with aura. Because of this, women who have migraine with aura are not usually given the combi pill. If you have migraine without aura you should be able to take the combi pill, unless you have other risk factors like smoking or being overweight. 

Other health conditions

Some health conditions are linked to migraine. For example, CADASIL (a rare genetic disorder), and the auto-immune conditions antiphospholipid syndrome and Lupus, are linked to a higher risk of stroke, and people with these conditions are also more likely to have migraine. 

Cluster, Migraine, Tension, Sinus & Mixed

I suffer from migraines; they began after a shoulder injury that I got when I was 22. The first time I had one I was terrified that I was dying. The pain is indescribable; every time that I’ve had one it has felt like my brain was swelling out of my skull, and that relentless pressure is scary as well as inescapably painful. Since I started getting migraines, I have always told people who do not have migraines that the key symptom of having one is fear. Normal headaches are a pain or an inconvenience; migraines terrify the person who is having them because the pain is that bad that they feel like some permanent damage is being done to their brain. It may be just an illusion but my goodness, it’s a convincing one, and it takes a strong constitution not to run directly to the emergency room! Also, the strange sensations that you get with a migraine, numb limbs, vision loss and dizziness, have you convinced that you may be having a stroke or aneurysm. In many sufferers, myself included, those neurological symptoms carry on for a week or longer before the headache begins, which means they interfere with daily activities and make you doubt your own state of health and state of mind. It’s a bit like having a mild seizure at times. These are the sorts of things that someone who hasn’t had a migraine simply cannot understand. I wish more non-sufferers would stop to consider how life would be if they had all these added symptoms (fear, paralysis, nausea, tunnel vision, etc.). They have to understand that this is a neurological condition, not just an ache in the head. Over the years, I’ve found that getting as many painkillers into my system as I need, at the first signs of a migraine, is usually the best and only way to stop it. That, and taking rest; far too many sufferers continue working through the pain, which is the opposite of what their body wants them to do. My advice to all sufferers would be to keep the right kind of painkillers on hand, always, and be prepared to drop everything so you can rest and get better. And as for the non-sufferers around them, simply showing some sympathy for us would be a great help!

Headaches during pregnancy | BabyCenter

Is it common to get headaches during pregnancy?

It’s normal to get tension headaches when you’re pregnant, especially in the first trimester. Migraine sufferers usually get some relief during pregnancy – although some women get their first migraine headache when they’re pregnant.

If you have headaches in your first trimester, you’ll probably find that they diminish or even disappear during the second trimester, after the flood of hormones stabilizes and your body gets used to its altered chemistry.

What causes headaches during pregnancy?

Experts don’t know exactly what causes headaches during pregnancy, but the hormonal free-for-all that’s taking place in your body probably has something to do with it. Your increased blood volume and circulation may also play a part, especially in early pregnancy. Quitting caffeine abruptly can also make your head pound.

Other possible causes of headaches during pregnancy include:

Can headaches during pregnancy be a warning sign of something more serious?

Yes, sometimes. In the second or third trimester of pregnancy, a headache could be a sign of preeclampsia, a serious pregnancy-induced condition marked by high blood pressure. Other symptoms of preeclampsia include an unusual amount of protein in the urine, vision changes, and liver and kidney abnormalities.

If you have a migraine or another severe headache for the first time and taking acetaminophen doesn’t bring relief, call your healthcare provider. You may need a full medical evaluation to be sure nothing else is going on.

How can I tell if I have a migraine or another type of headache?

It isn’t always easy to tell what kind of headache you have. Here’s how to tell them apart:

Tension headaches are the most common kind of headache. They can feel like a squeezing pain or a steady dull ache on both sides of your head or at the back of your neck. If you’ve always been susceptible to tension headaches, pregnancy can make the problem worse.

Migraine headaches cause moderate to severe throbbing pain, typically on one side of the head. They can also be accompanied by other symptoms, such as nausea, vomiting, or sensitivity to light and noise. If untreated, they can last from four to 72 hours and may be aggravated by physical activity as well as many of the same factors that trigger more typical headaches.

Some migraine sufferers have a condition known as migraines with aura – that is, headaches that are preceded by symptoms that may include visual changes (such as bright flashing lights or blind spots), sensations of numbness or “pins and needles,” weakness, and speech disturbances. These symptoms may start up to an hour before a migraine starts and may last as long as an hour.

Sinus headaches typically feel like pressure or pain in your cheeks, around your eyes, and in your forehead. They typically occur after a cold or respiratory infection, and they aren’t as common as you might think.

People commonly mistake migraine headaches for sinusitis – if you’re getting more headaches but otherwise have been healthy, you might be having migraines. But if you’re feeling congested, you might have a sinus infection requiring treatment.

Cluster headaches are much less common, and they don’t seem to be affected by pregnancy. Cluster headaches are marked by sudden, severe pain usually around one eye or temple, sometimes with tearing eyes or a stuffy nose. They tend to occur at the same time each day, often a few hours after falling asleep, over weeks or months.

How common are migraines during pregnancy?

This varies a lot from woman to woman. Experts estimate that about 1 in 5 women has a migraine headache at some time in her life, and up to 16 percent of those women get migraines for the first time when they’re pregnant (most often in the first trimester). On the other hand, most women already suffering from migraines have fewer problems during pregnancy.

Also, about two-thirds of women who are prone to migraines notice that they improve during pregnancy. (This is more likely if migraines tended to be worse around the time of your periods or started when you first began menstruating.) Others notice no change or find that their headaches become more frequent and intense.

Can migraines cause problems during pregnancy?

Migraines don’t appear to increase the risk of most pregnancy complications, even if you’re in the unlucky minority whose migraines don’t improve or get worse.

However, women who have migraines tend to have higher rates of preeclampsia (especially if they didn’t get migraines before pregnancy), so it’s important to let your healthcare provider know if you start to have them.

Can I take pain medication to treat headache pain during pregnancy?

Acetaminophen is safe to take as directed on the package label, but many other headache medications – including aspirin, ibuprofen, and most prescription migraine drugs – aren’t recommended for pregnant women unless approved by a healthcare provider. If you’re prone to severe migraines, ask your provider which medications you can take.

If you have frequent, debilitating headaches, the benefits of certain medications may outweigh any possible risks to your baby (although some drugs will remain strictly off-limits). You may be referred to a maternal-fetal medicine specialist (MFM) or a neurologist to help with your migraines if they persist.

How can I relieve headache pain without using medication?

Here are some ways you may avoid or get relief from a headache during pregnancy:

Figure out your headache triggers. Headache specialists often recommend keeping a “headache diary” to help you identify specific triggers. The next time you get a migraine or headache, write down everything you ate for the 24 hours prior and what you were doing when it started.

Some common migraine triggers include food that contain:

• Monosodium glutamate (MSG)
• Nitrites and nitrates (common in processed meats like hot dogs, salami, and bacon)
• Artificial sweeteners

Other food that can trigger a migraine include:

• Certain beans and nuts
• Aged cheese and cultured dairy products (like buttermilk and sour cream)
• Certain fresh fruits (including bananas, papayas, avocados, and citrus)
• Smoked fish
• Chocolate and carob
• Fermented or pickled foods (like soy sauce or sauerkraut)

Other triggers may include:

• Glaring or flickering lights
• Loud noises
• Excessive heat or cold
• Strong odors
• Tobacco smoke

Use a compress. For a tension headache, apply a warm or cool compress to your forehead or the base of your skull. Cold compresses tend to work best for migraines.

Take a shower. For some migraine sufferers, a cold shower brings fast – if temporary – relief. If you can’t take a shower, splash cool water on your face. A warm shower or bath can soothe tension headaches.

Don’t go hungry or thirsty. To prevent low blood sugar (a common headache trigger), eat small meals frequently. When you’re on the go, take along some snacks (crackers, fruit, yogurt). Avoid straight sugar, like candy or soda, which can make your blood sugar spike and crash.

And don’t forget to drink plenty of water to stay hydrated. Sip water slowly if you have vomited from a migraine.

Avoid fatigue. Get plenty of sleep at night. When you’re having a migraine, sleep in a quiet, dark room.

Exercise. Some evidence shows that regular exercise can reduce the frequency and severity of migraines and reduce the stress that can cause tension headaches. If you’re prone to migraines, get started slowly – a sudden burst of activity could trigger one. (And don’t exercise once a migraine has started because it will aggravate the headache.)

Exercises to help you maintain good posture may be especially helpful with headaches during the third trimester.

Try relaxation techniques. Biofeedback, meditation, yoga, and self-hypnosis may be helpful for reducing stress and headaches in some sufferers.

Get a massage. Some women who suffer from tension headaches swear by massage, although it’s unclear whether it’s effective in preventing or relieving headaches. A full-body massage (ideally from a therapist who specializes in prenatal massage) can release tension in the muscles of your neck, shoulders, and back.

If a professional massage isn’t an option, ask your partner to rub your back and head.

Consider acupuncture. Acupuncture treatment is most likely safe during pregnancy, although whether it’s effective for headaches is a topic of debate. If you’d like to try it, ask your healthcare provider for a referral and keep her posted on your treatments. If you prefer to see an acupuncture practitioner who’s also an M.D., check out the American Academy of Medical Acupuncture website.

Which headache symptoms are signs I need to call my healthcare provider?

Call your provider right away if:

• You’re in your second or third trimester and have a bad headache or a headache for the first time. It may or may not be accompanied by visual changes, sharp upper abdominal pain or nausea, sudden weight gain, or swelling in your hands or face. You’ll need to have your blood pressure and urine checked right away to be sure you don’t have preeclampsia. (If you’ve been having any problems with high or rising blood pressure, call even if you have only a mild headache that persists after taking acetaminophen.)
• You have a sudden “explosive” headache. This type of headache is a violent pain that wakes you up, doesn’t go away, or feels unlike any you’ve ever experienced.
• Your headache is accompanied by a fever or a stiff neck.
• Your headache gets worse and you have other problems, such as blurry vision or other visual disturbances, slurred speech, drowsiness, numbness, or a change in normal sensation or alertness.
• You have a headache after any kind of head injury.
• You have congestion in your nose, as well as pain and pressure underneath your eyes or other facial or even dental pain. This could signal a sinus infection that needs to be treated with antibiotics.
• You notice that that you get headaches after reading or looking at a computer screen.

In any case, don’t hesitate to call your provider whenever you’re worried about a headache. Even if you’ve had headaches before, talking to your provider can help you decide which evaluation and treatment might be best for you during your pregnancy.

Learn more:

90,000 Treatment of migraine with botulinum therapy – Ekaterininskaya Clinic Sochi

– What is chronic migraine?

Chronic migraine is a headache that torments more than 15 days a month. The pain becomes pressing, and the patient develops accompanying symptoms: nausea, vomiting and photophobia.

By the way, an interesting fact: according to WHO statistics, almost 372 million people on Earth suffer from chronic migraine.

– What causes migraines?

– Hormonal background.Women suffer from headaches 2 times more often than men. This fact is associated with the dependence of migraine on the state of the hormonal background;

– Heavy weight. A body mass index over 30 increases the likelihood of migraines;

– Stress. Anxiety in family, circle of friends or at work leads to constant, almost daily headaches. Depression quadruples the risk of migraines;

– Caffeine. Coffee in small quantities has a beneficial effect on the elimination of headaches, but its excessive use, on the contrary, provokes their chronic nature;

– Frequent use of pain medications.This happens when the patient takes simple analgesics for more than 15 days a month, and combined – more than 10 days a month;

– Head and neck injuries. During mechanical trauma, there is a disruption in the work of blood vessels and some parts of the brain, which can provoke new migraine attacks.

– When should you see a doctor?

– The duration of the pathological condition is more than 3 months;

– Pulsating or pressing headache – increases over time and intensifies due to external stimuli;

– The patient has had at least 5 seizures in the last month;

– Headache accompanied by nausea, vomiting and photophobia.

– What is the essence of botulinum toxin treatment?

As you know, botulinum toxin is used to smooth out wrinkles. During the injections, it was noticed that the patients stopped suffering from headaches. After that, botulinum toxin began to be used to treat chronic migraines.

The drug is injected into the head and neck area intramuscularly. The procedure should be repeated every three months, as Botox will dissolve over time.

– What are the advantages of this method?

– Just one procedure can significantly relieve pain: this allows you to reduce the amount of pain relievers and other drugs taken to treat headaches.

– When used correctly, botulinum toxin does not cause any side effects, because it is administered locally and does not enter the bloodstream.

– The drug is administered simultaneously at a time by a doctor in the form of a series of microinjections into the necessary areas of the head.

Sign up for the botulinum therapy procedure by calling 8 (862) 295-11-11.

09/28/2018

90,000 8 ways to prevent or manage migraines

Anna Mozgovaya

collected readers’ stories

Author’s profile

Migraine is not a common headache.Attacks are so strong that you just want to close in a dark room and lie.

We have already talked about how to keep migraines under control. In the comments, readers shared their stories and ways of dealing with the disease. In this material, we have collected all the non-drug methods that, together with basic treatment, can help cope with headaches or prevent attacks.

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These are comments from readers from the T⁠ — ⁠J Fellowship.Collected in one material, carefully edited and decorated according to the editorial standards. There are no recommendations for treatment in the article, only the personal experience of the readers. Consult your doctor before deciding on treatment. The responsibility for your health lies solely with you.

Method No. 1

A couple of cups of coffee

I still remember my first seizure. I was 12 years old, I got ready for a training session, closed the door with a key and did not have time to leave the apartment when my head just exploded.The attack began to grow, I vomited, photophobia appeared, I barely made it to bed and passed out. So she lay until the evening in an incomprehensible state, which was somewhat like a dream, but it was not him.

Then such attacks began to occur more often: I rarely feel sick, but the photophobia is strong, I get into a terrible rage from everything and everyone. Sometimes coffee helps me with migraines: a cup or better two. And sometimes you just want to collapse in complete silence and darkness. If I manage to do this before the attack dissipates, having found the position of the body in which it hurts the least, and freeze without moving, then it gradually cuts out.And when I come to my senses, there is no headache. Otherwise, you need to take pills and also be chopped off.

The worst of all is when on a hot sunny day the attack begins somewhere in a traffic jam, on a crowded bus. Then I wish I could die right there. But when the attack passes, optimism and vitality return.

In addition to migraine, I also have a common headache. It does not pulsate, with it there is no photophobia and rage. This usually happens from overexertion or stress, sometimes from too much joy or grief.

Now I keep my migraines under control: I keep track of the frequency of attacks and their intensity. Triggers I know how to stop an attack – too. While everything works out, pain rarely occurs.

I also keep a diary of headaches through Migrainebot. Cool thing

Method No. 2

Cardio load

I have a migraine too. It began in childhood, but then it did not smell of any special drugs. At a later age, he drank Caffetin tablets with codeine, and when they disappeared for a while, he took NSAIDs, which ruined his gastrointestinal tract.

When an active cardio load appeared in life – road cycling – the frequency of attacks dropped five times. I ride my bike at least 200 km a week. Fast and almost every day. Not as a transport, but as a type of training. In terms of time, this is at least 7-8 hours a week. I think that, for example, 10 minutes a day will not give such a result.

Now my head hurts 2-3 days a month, and not every month, only under the weather or after drinking. I struggle simply: I buy Sumatriptan at 100 mg, I break the tablets in half, one half is enough.

Method No. 3

Headache diary

I keep a migraine diary in the Migraine Buddy app. It helps to identify what exactly triggers the seizure. I like it very much, especially the fact that the area of ​​pain can be marked in the picture. The app also reminds you to go to sleep if the phone screen is active at a later time, which is great. I often have migraines – a reaction to a lack or excess of sleep.

Still, when I understand that it was the migraine attack that started, I take Amygrenin, I don’t even try to save myself with ordinary painkillers, here every minute is torture.

Method No. 4

Several hours of sleep

I have been suffering from migraines since I was 10 years old. In childhood, they were quite often after intellectual and emotional stress: Olympiads, control. The attacks were very severe, I lay in darkness and silence with a basin in my arms. I could lie like this all day, and the next morning I felt like nothing had happened.

In adulthood, migraines arose from lack of sleep and stress. She escaped with “Citramon”, “Novigan”, “Sumatriptan” and always lay in silence and darkness with a damp cool cloth on her forehead.The main thing is to fall asleep and sleep at least a couple of hours, it will become easier. My relatives are used to the fact that sometimes I do this.

After six months of taking oral contraceptives, severe attacks almost suddenly stopped. And what is left is carried with the pain reliever and on the legs.

Method No. 5

Complete silence and darkness

Migraine began to bother me when I was 12 years old. I associate this with the beginning of hormonal changes. An attack can be provoked by severe stress, lack of sleep or, conversely, too long sleep, jet lag, overload – both physical and mental.

During an attack, complete silence, darkness and fresh air help. From drugs – “Nimesil”.

Method No. 6

Daily walks

Headaches with increased blood pressure tormented me from the age of six. At this age, I was in the hospital, where they turned it inside out, but did not determine the cause. The attending physician wrote out with a meaningless diagnosis, which he honestly admitted.

A little later, when the headache began to be localized on one side, it became clear that it was a migraine.But at that time, my grandmother relieved me of my headaches: she gave me herbal teas and every day let me go on long walks in the forest with my grandfather. That helped. Since then, the movement has become both a medicine and a prevention.

I do not associate migraine with heredity, no one in the family has been seen with such a diagnosis. But with psycho-emotional stress and mental – yes. In my case, there were complex relationships in the family, and heavy loads at school.

Method No. 7

Sleeping mode

I have had migraines since I was five.I try to follow the regime, as migraine often comes after a sleepless night. Coca-Cola also helps, as does any caffeinated product.

In general, you can live normally with migraine. The main thing is to learn how to stop the attack at the beginning, and not wait for it to suddenly pass by itself. Simple pain relievers, caffeine to raise blood pressure, or aspirin to thin the blood helped me. With age, attacks have become less frequent.

Method No. 8

Cold towel

Began to suffer from severe headaches around high school or even in the first year.Before that, of course, my head hurt, but it was tolerable and passed relatively quickly. Immediately, the pain simply began to cover my eyes, I felt sick, it was difficult to listen to someone, to answer, I just wanted to hide in a dark corner.

Then I just died in pairs for several hours, since the pills for headache, which were poured by my compassionate classmates, did not help at all. But sometimes I didn’t give a damn about everything, clenched my teeth, drove home and lay with a cold towel on my head. The cold worked: the pain did not disappear, but at least it subsided, the nausea went away.The attack itself ended in forty minutes – compared to several hours of hell at the university.

Later, the parents kicked him to the doctors. They selected me medicines, I will not name them, so that no one would self-medicate. I still accept it. Attacks occur much less frequently, and I try to stop them quickly.

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90,000 Migraine leaves a mark on the brain and career

The higher the income level, the less often people suffer from migraines.And the disease itself can lead to structural changes in the white and gray matter of the brain.

From migraines suffer from one tenth of humanity, mostly women. Severe headache attacks that occur up to several times a month, and sometimes more often, lead a person to a state of complete disability. The pathophysiology of the disease and the causes of its occurrence have not yet been clarified, therefore, the treatment is usually not very effective. The latest issue of the journal Neurology published results from two migraine studies.

Migraine affects the structure of the brain, according to scientists from the University of Copenhagen, Denmark.

“Traditionally, migraine has not been seen as a disease that leaves a mark on the brain,” says Messod Ashina, co-author of the study.”But our meta-analysis proves that it affects the brain in several ways.”

The meta-analysis included six population studies and 13 clinical studies. In healthy volunteers and patients with migraines, specialists performed magnetic resonance imaging of the brain. Among the latter were patients with two types of migraine.

Migraine without aura manifests itself in regular attacks of headache lasting from 4 hours to 3 days.As a rule, pain is localized in one side of the head, increases with physical or mental activity, and is often accompanied by increased sensitivity to light or sound. Migraine with aura is characterized by neurological symptoms that appear before the attack – it can be “fog” before the eyes, auditory, visual, gustatory, olfactory or tactile hallucinations, problems with speech.

The results of magnetic resonance imaging allowed scientists to evaluate the structure of the white matter (pathways) of the brain and measure the volume of various brain structures.

They showed that migraine, and in particular migraine with aura, can lead to a change in the white matter of the brain (hyperintensity).

These changes are associated with vascular pathologies and are often observed in the aging brain. In the case of migraine with aura, the researchers estimated the risk of such changes to be twice as high as in the case of migraine without aura – at 68%. Migraine also increases the amount of gray matter lesions visible on MRI and changes the volume of certain areas of the brain.

In another study from the University of Pennsylvania, researchers examined the relationship between the severity of migraines and income levels.The analysis showed that people with higher incomes suffer less from migraines. However, the reasons for these differences, according to the authors of the work, are not obvious and debatable.

The survey involved 257,339 people aged 12 years and older. In the questionnaire, they reported whether they have migraine symptoms, at what age they first appeared, how often and how severely they manifest, and the level of income for each family member. Low income was considered to be less than $ 22,500 per person per year, average – from $ 22,500 to $ 59,999., and high – $ 60,000 per year and more.

It turned out that both men and women suffered from headache attacks in about the same way. Elderly, over 65 years old, people of the white race complained of headaches much less often than all other categories of respondents. The “flourishing” of the disease was observed, as a rule, in women at the age of 38 years, in men – at the age of 40 years. At the same time, in men, the first and isolated symptoms of the disease appeared much earlier than in women – at 12 and 25 years, respectively.

In people of low income, migraines happened on average twice as often as in people of wealth, regardless of age and gender.

At the same time, the frequency of remission – a relatively steady state, when seizures occur rarely or even stop altogether – was approximately the same in all three social groups. Although there were differences here as well: the level of remission among wealthy elderly men (over 60 years old) and financially secure young girls was approximately twice as high as in the corresponding age categories of the poor.

The authors of the study are looking for a causal relationship between migraine and social status. In their opinion, the hypothesis that the poor have headaches due to lack of livelihood, constant stress and life upheavals is not entirely correct. They suggest that it is possible that migraine itself is a factor that interferes with successfully studying, working and moving up the social ladder. The authors believe that this is where social selection, “downward drift,” comes into play, although their research is insufficient to provide conclusive evidence.

90,000 Migraine, symptoms – Clinic Health 365, Yekaterinburg

Migraine is a disease associated with changes at the biological level. Symptoms are caused by changes in brain function, not by weakness or inappropriate responses to stress. For many years, scientists believed that migraines were caused by narrowing and widening of blood vessels in the head. It is now believed that the cause of migraine is a hereditary pathology of certain brain cells.In people with a predisposition to migraine, attacks can be triggered by a variety of factors. In some forms of migraine, special gene disorders are observed.

The excruciating throbbing of migraines can be extremely painful. Migraines are often accompanied by nausea or sensitivity to light or sound. Anyone who has had migraine attacks can attest that if these headaches are ineffective or not treated at all, they can disrupt the normal course of things, from the ability to work to interpersonal relationships and daily activities.Pain makes a person less self-confident, loses a sense of control and self-esteem.

The American study of the prevalence and prevention of migraines showed that approximately 12-16% of people in the United States suffer from migraine headaches, and in 40% of cases, patients benefit from preventive treatment. The situation is similar in terms of the prevalence of migraines and in Yekaterinburg.

Women have three times more migraines than men.Researchers have found that migraines have a more pronounced impact on the lifestyle of women with the disease, affecting their self-esteem, professional growth, family and social life.

People who have migraine headaches are particularly sensitive to certain triggers, such as bright light, smells, stress, approaching menstruation, changes in the weather, or certain foods and drinks.

5-20 minutes before the onset of a migraine attack, the so-called “aura” may occur.During the aura, a person may temporarily lose sight, see flashes of light that resemble interference on a TV. Other typical symptoms of aura are difficulty speaking, weakness in an arm or leg, tingling in the face or hands, and confusion. According to the results of the study, in 20% of cases, an aura precedes a migraine attack. Even if you do not have an aura, you may experience a variety of vague symptoms before a migraine attack, including confusion, mood changes, or simply fatigue.

Most patients describe migraine pain as severe, throbbing, or shooting pain in the forehead, temple, ear and / or jaw, around the eyes, or over the entire head. Nausea and vomiting may occur, and a migraine attack can last from a few hours to 1-3 days.

In addition, people with migraine may experience cutaneous allodynia, a condition in which the scalp hurts. Pain occurs even from exposure that normally does not cause severe pain, such as brushing your hair.

Migraines can occur several times a week or once every few years. Some women experience migraine attacks at specific times, such as before menstruation or every Saturday after a stressful work week.

In addition to the usual migraine, which was described above, migraine pain can take other forms:

Hemiplegic migraine.

Patients with hemiplegic migraine experience temporary paralysis of one half of the body (hemiplegia).Some people with this form of migraine have vision problems and dizziness. These symptoms appear 10 to 90 minutes before the onset of the attack. It may take weeks for a full recovery.

Ophthalmoplegic migraine.

With ophthalmoplegic migraine, pain occurs around the eye. It is combined with drooping of the upper eyelid, diplopia (double vision) and other vision problems.

Basilar migraine.

With basilar migraine, disturbances occur in the basin of the basilar cerebral artery.Before an attack, dizziness, double vision occurs, and muscle coordination is impaired. This type of migraine is common in adolescent girls and young adult girls and is often associated with the menstrual cycle.

Migraine status.

A rare and severe type of migraine that can last 72 hours or more. The pain and nausea are so severe that people with this type of migraine are often hospitalized. Taking some medications can provoke a migraine status.Neuropathologists say that a large number of patients with migraine status experienced depression and anxiety before the onset of headache attacks.

Migraine without headache.

Characterized by vision problems, nausea, vomiting, constipation, or diarrhea. The headache does not occur. Experts suggest that sudden pain in any part of the body, fever and dizziness may also be possible types of migraine without headache.

Survivor’s diary

EDITORIAL

Svetlana Vazquez Cremades is a Vladimir journalist.She is the founder of the TV-MIG website and at the same time remains our contributing author, although today Svetlana lives with her husband in Spain. The last time she came to Vladimir was for the New Year holidays …

A week ago, we were shocked by the news that Sveta was diagnosed with COVID. She was hospitalized in Valencia. Many Vladimir colleagues were interested in her health, worried …

Today she herself will frankly answer questions about her health and tell you whether to be afraid of the coronavirus.

I have to tell it

I decided to talk about my illness, about what is happening to me and what happened for several reasons.

First, there is still a lot of speculation on social networks about whether COVID-19 is so dangerous. “Sofa experts” cite as an example “data” on deaths from SARS, flu and other diseases, “secrets” of the world conspiracy are “revealed”, a lot of fake information and rumors: “Here is my grandfather’s friend’s cousin told.”

Secondly, many people may miss or misunderstand the first symptoms of the disease and miss the time to seek medical help when it is still able to help.

Thirdly, perhaps my story will make you more careful and more serious about your own and other people’s health.

In addition, I have noticed a number of features that can alleviate or aggravate the condition in case of illness.

I have 15 days of illness.You can assume that I survived. The condition is almost excellent, although doctors warn that for at least another 14 days I must observe the self-isolation regime at home.

Everything has changed

I am in Spain. It happened. I have a family here. We live mostly in Valencia. Back in February and even at the beginning of March, when the virus was raging in China with might and main, life in Spain went on as usual. Very warm winter. During the day, the temperature rose to 25 degrees. The Spaniards are very fond of gatherings in cafes and bars, communication, all sorts of holidays.There is no stiffness in their culture, and double kisses when meeting friends and acquaintances is an old and good tradition. Was.

Everything changed in mid-March. There were signs that it was time for the country to enter quarantine, but the political ambitions of the country’s current leaders led to the quarantine being delayed. For about a week. This led to a large outbreak. After all, tens of thousands of people have visited feminist marches across the country, many of whom were infected there.

I am a very responsible and disciplined person.When quarantine was introduced in the country, I tried to minimize the threat of infection – a mask, gloves, a hat on my head, disinfection of goods from a store where I went once a week.

But it did not help. I think that my assumption about who and where could infect me is absolutely correct. But there is no point in talking about it. That person appears to be asymptomatic with the virus. And this makes the virus especially insidious.

The first day

Everything was as usual: shower, breakfast, teleworking, cooking dinner.At about five or six in the evening, when we watched a movie, I felt nauseous. Strange. Heavy. But by this time the stomach was already almost empty. Therefore, going to the bathroom “talk to Walter” did not bring relief. About an hour later, apparently tired of watching my throwing to the toilet and back, my husband offered me a Coca-Cola drink. Say, they all here are so struggling with nausea. I remembered reading somewhere about this strange effect of this drink, which helps in such cases.She took a can of cola out of the refrigerator and drank it almost in one gulp. The nausea is really gone. But towards the night there was a sensation of a sore throat. But I figured it was because of the cold drink I drank so quickly.

Second day

In the morning, the sore throat did not go away, but increased. There was a strange weakness and a wadden sensation in the head, when thoughts are difficult to collect in a heap. However, I tried not to unstuck too much, began to drink “Tsitovir” brought from Russia.I even managed to go to the store to shop.

Day three

In the morning she refueled on Russian medicine again. It seems that I feel much better. Did a general cleaning. In the evening, I got a headache and a nasty feeling of trembling in my body. The temperature began to jump – from 37, 2 to 36.

Day four

The headache intensified, weakness returned again, a cotton head, confusion, a cough (at times – dry, at times – not very), trembling in the body.It was then that for the first time I wondered what it was for me, and where did it come from. However, my condition, though unpleasant, is not critical. I try to protect my loved ones as much as possible – I began to wipe everything around with bleach more often.

The fifth day

The weakness increases. Confused, like a drunk, consciousness, temperature 37-37.3. Cough. Dry. Paroxysmal. Pains began to appear in the lungs, well, or in the chest, both in front and behind. Lost appetite.You have to force yourself to eat. I feel the taste and smells and so calm myself. Communicating with loved ones via video link, I see how they are worried, and just like me, they are afraid to believe that this is IT.

Sixth day

It became a turning point. It got much worse. The feeling that air has been released from you, like from a balloon. No strength at all. When performing any action – the strongest sweating, so that you have to change clothes several times a day.The head is still wadded and not thinking, the temperature jumps like crazy – from 37.5 to 35.7. I decide to go to the local clinic.

The girl at the front desk writes down my data and sends me to the doctor. Rather, they come for me and take me to another office. The doctor asks carefully about the symptoms, listens to breathing, measures oxygen in the blood and pressure. For some reason, special attention is paid to the symptom of the loss of taste and smell, although according to statistics, this symptom occurs in only 10% of patients.She writes me prescriptions, including a cough mixture, and sends me home to self-isolation. At the same time he repeats several times that if I feel worse, I have to call the hotline. You don’t have to come to the clinic anymore. Now they themselves will call and ask how I am.

When I was returning home, I saw neighbors walking in the courtyard. No, they are not a couple, they are just neighbors, they walked side by side, walked and talked. No masks and no protection. Mothers with children are located on the playground.Also all without masks. I wanted to shout to them, “People, what are you doing? Put on your masks. Get away from each other! It is very dangerous!”. Of course, I didn’t shout anything. I just didn’t have the strength.

Seventh day

Easier again. This virus has strange retreat-onset periods. In medical practice on the COVID-19 pandemic, it has been repeatedly noted that people can feel relief and fall into a coma in a couple of hours. This is a very dangerous and insidious enemy.It is easier for me, of course, slightly – pain in the sternum and coughing persist, my head still does not understand well, the temperature is still jumping. Slightly less weakness. I can get up. Appetite appeared. The last two points please the doctors from the local clinic who call me every day. They say I carry the virus mildly.

Eighth day

Rollback again. Right in the morning. The weakness increased again. I try not to panic, although the first attacks of shortness of breath appear.Distracted by work and household chores. Every night before going to bed, I tell myself that tomorrow will be easier. Doctors remind that if it worsens it is better to call the hotline. I make excuses for myself why I don’t. I called my sisters in Russia, whom I hadn’t seen for several years. In Russia, they still treat the disease with sarcasm and irony. And that’s bad.

Ninth day

Condition, as on the previous day.But the difficulty in breathing increases. I told about this to the physician from the local clinic, who called. Spanish relatives insist on hospitalization and ask me to believe that their doctors are good specialists, and in the hospital I will be calmer and more reliable. By the evening, my health deteriorates sharply – I am shaking, there is not enough oxygen, I am suffocating. A panic attack hits me. It seems that now I am going to die. I go out onto the terrace. Chilly. I’m out of breath. The terrace seems to be better. The coolness and iodized sea air help a little.Manages to inhale oxygen. I have never felt so bad in my life. My husband demands that I call the emergency hotline, or threatens to do it myself. And I’m scared: the language barrier when the head does not work. With great difficulty I fall asleep by three o’clock in the morning, having opened the doors to the terrace, from where coolness and fresh air come.

Tenth day

Everything is the same as in the ninth. Difficulty breathing, paroxysmal dry cough, extreme weakness.The phone never stops. These are relatives from Russia and Spain who persuade me to go to the hospital. The local doctor does the same and calls to see how I feel. Realizing that I will not survive one more night like this, I dial the hotline number. My data is recorded there. After 15 minutes, they call from the local clinic to specify the address. They say that you have to get ready, the ambulance will arrive within half an hour (the ambulance in Spain is not the same as in Russia, it only travels in case of emergency). An ambulance arrives in an hour and a half.I am not outraged by such a delay, because I understand how many emergencies there are now. They call me to come down. The driver guy in the outfit of almost an astronaut gives me new gloves. We’re going to the hospital. In Castellón, in comparison with all of Spain, there are not so many sick people. No one has died from COVID-19 for the entire time of the epidemic. An additional hospital block is being built here for the infected, but endless torrential rains prevent completion of the construction. Everything in the hospital is divided into zones covered with thick cellophane.I will be escorted to the hall where I am waiting for the doctor to see me. Nearby (but further than 1.5 meters) a mother and daughter are sitting. A girl of about 7 years old seems to have appendicitis – she complains of pain in the lower abdomen, she vomits, she has a temperature. The girl is taken away. It is good that they continue to provide assistance to emergency patients here. It’s my turn. Again measurements of temperature, pressure, oxygen, pulse. X-rays are taken. There is no pneumonia. And this is a great joy. Difficulties in breathing, as the doctor explains, are caused by two factors: the trachea is inflamed – this is also one of the virus entrances to the lungs, and a spasm arises from constant coughing in the lungs.Now Russian pathologists say that breathing problems in patients are caused by the fact that hemoglobin in the blood, affected by the virus, cannot deliver oxygen. I don’t know which of all this is true. I am offered to move into the “ward”. This is the staff’s area, separated by a thin partition. The hospital is overcrowded. And if at night they bring someone who needs oxygen, they will move me to the “waiting room”. The spasm from my lungs was removed, and it is much easier to breathe. Therefore, in order not to take the place of another person, I decide to go back.Moreover, the doctor agrees that I have a mild form. I don’t need intensive care. Through the open doors of other chambers, I see people hooked up to oxygen. They let me go, but with only one condition – total self-isolation in one of the rooms, no contacts in others. On the street – not a foot. In case of any deterioration, return or call an ambulance.

Eleventh day

We bought medicines from the pharmacy (these are medicines with codeine) that relieve pain in the lungs and relieve spasms.Breathing is easier, albeit a little. The cough persists but has become productive. Temperature 37.2. Headache and weakness. The shaking inside also persists. I spent the whole day in bed. Only in the evening I went out onto the terrace to breathe a little fresh sea air. Doctors from the local clinic continue to monitor my health. And I am very grateful to them. They are very attentive.

Twelfth day

The wrinkle is gone from the head, although the head itself still hurts.There is still a cough. Still cowardly on the inside. Appetite is so-so – I eat more, because I have to eat. The temperature is still over 37. There is still weakness. The cough also persists. But not in fits. I am a smoker. But during the illness she began to smoke two or even three times less. There is nothing to breathe without tobacco.

Thirteenth day

You can breathe. For the first time in a week, I was able to breathe deeply. Lord, what a happiness it is. No, it’s really happiness – to breathe.The head still hurts, but the temperature is already exactly 37. The appetite is coming back worse, and this worries the doctors. Weakness is also there, but not so critical. Today I even managed to walk on the terrace. And in the evening she went out to applaud with all the doctors.

Fourteenth day

How I looked forward to this day! According to rumors, the infection is being treated for 14 days, however, the doctor from Castellón said that from 14 to 21. My friends in Tarragona – a married couple – were sick for three weeks.

The weakness is still there, but mild. There is almost no cough. The head is clear. The temperature is below 37. I survived!

Now the answers to the main questions

Did I do the test and what did it show?

I did. I am attaching a photo from the appointments. They took it from the nose, thrusting a cotton swab almost into the brain. Gave a positive result. It is clear that no one in the world sends the test results on paper.They just call and speak. Whether you take my word for it is up to you. In Spain, due to the difficulties with the number of patients, only those who need urgent help are diagnosed. Then you will have to pass another one to confirm the negative one. But this does not mean that I can immediately leave the quarantine. After recovery, the person remains infectious for about two weeks.

Does alcohol help?

No. Every time I drank even a sip of wine, I got worse.Alcohol reduces the body’s defenses.

Can I get sick again?

I am not a physician, and virologists all over the world argue about this. On the one hand, there are re-illnesses, on the other hand, the reliability of the tests is not so high, there are both false-negative and false-positive results. In addition, the virus constantly mutates, but the transfusion of plasma from the recovered helps the newly ill. In general, no one will give you an unambiguous answer to this question now.

Y Is it true that I have recovered?

No. If you read carefully what I wrote, you noticed that there were days when it seemed to me that the virus had receded. But then he came back. Here he is so insidious. Even on the same day, you can feel normal, and within an hour, the state of health sharply worsens. However, if I had not had pneumonia before that day, I definitely survived.

Will everyone have this disease like this?

No.Each person will have a different course of illness. For some, it is completely asymptomatic.

What are the most dangerous days in illness?

6th and 8th to 10th. These days the crisis is coming. These are the statistics, at least in Spain. The main thing is to survive them. However, in case of a severe course of the disease, another 15th and 22nd day are added. You may not survive them.

Are there as many sick people as they say?

There are many more.Tests are done to people in critical condition, in a severe form of the disease, during hospitalization (at least in Europe and the USA), the tests give a 30% error, and they, in an amicable way, need to be repeated, but there are few of them, so people with false negative test can actually be sick and be dangerous to others, without knowing it. The exact number of survivors can be determined after a pandemic by the presence of antibodies to the virus in their blood. Unfortunately, most likely, the whole world will be faced with the fact that they will find lonely deceased people who could not wait or call a doctor.The statistics will be further refined.

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Is it easy to be the wife of a military man

My husband and I met in childhood. I came to my grandmother in the village where my future husband lived. Then I could not even think that fate would bring us together. I was 13 years old when he joined the army. Then the difference of 5 years was very noticeable.

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After returning from the army, my future husband became adult and serious. That’s when I drew attention to him. He decided to continue serving for the good of the Motherland. Was often on the road. Business trips were long, rarely came to his native village to visit his parents. We met again after 4 years at his sister’s wedding. When I saw him, I realized this is the man of my dreams. Such a tall, stately, courageous man is a real man. It was from that day that we started dating.It was very difficult at that time: we practically did not see each other, only communication by phone. After 2 months of our relationship, we got married and never parted.

We had many obstacles on the way to our marriage. My parents were afraid that they would not see me at all, that we would constantly ride around the garrisons. Then I was only 18 years old. Parents were against our living together. They even locked me at home so I wouldn’t go out on a date. If they were not allowed through the door, then I climbed out through the window.Soon my parents gave up, and we got married on Defender of the Fatherland Day on February 23rd. And exactly one year later our son was born. Just for the holiday, it was a real gift for my husband! Now my son is already 5 years old. He, like his dad, dreams of becoming a military man – his father is an idol for him. In everything he tries to copy his behavior and words.

Recently we have a daughter. I think her father’s example will help her in choosing a groom. After all, it is not for nothing that they say that daughters choose husbands for themselves who are similar to their father.

The wife of a military man – that sounds proudly.From the very beginning of the relationship, I learned what it means to be close to the military: constant training camps, exercises, training grounds, irregular working hours. Sometimes it hurt a lot. Once I could not hold back my tears when I had to celebrate my birthday alone. I wanted the most ordinary life: to cook for a loved one, to walk with him, to visit guests, to live a civil life. Until now, I am teaching myself to be wise and patient. I understand: this is all for our secured future.

The wife of a military man must definitely find a hobby or hobby.I went in for sports to always stay in good shape. I read books, tried to walk more time, met the same wives of the military, with whom we have a lot of topics for conversation. I met on sites, in social networking groups created by the same girls and women who are looking for communication. Some of us became close friends.

After the birth of my son, I was no longer so lonely. A lot of troubles and worries, which made me very happy. I can take care of him, hug and communicate.Thanks to my conversations, my son began to speak quickly. Now he is already big, he helps me take care of the baby.

Is it hard to be the wife of a military man, you ask? Yes and no. I cannot give a definite answer. Constant travel and, because of this, rare meetings with relatives, experiences, frequent business trips.
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Is it hard to be a soldier’s wife? Easily! If you truly love and trust your man, and he, in turn, helps you with raising children.

The military is a special kind of men. I like my husband’s character. He is very restrained, although I know how difficult it is for him at work, and sometimes he has to make tough decisions. At home he is affectionate, he never breaks down on me and children. He solves all family problems, important issues are also on him.

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Marrying a soldier: pros and cons

How romantic it is to marry an officer, the defender of the Motherland! The dream of many girls is a military man.Such qualities attract girls to the military: character, courage, courage. A real man must defend his homeland and his family. Many girls do not stop paying attention to whether the guy served in the army or not. When choosing a husband, this is an important indicator. Everything seems to be fine. The military is the standard of masculinity and reliability. So why are not all girls in a hurry to connect their lives with a military man?

Features of the life of the military

Only recently in Russia have scientists begun to study the family life of the military, their problems and the impact on the work of family relations.Indeed, in today’s world, the military is getting more and more workload every day. In addition to the problems that have been on the shoulders of law enforcement officials for many years, the threat of terrorism has also increased.

In connection with the workloads experienced by military personnel, psychological problems arise that must be taken into account by a girl who has decided to link her life with the military. The life of the military even in peacetime is dangerous and brings enormous stress, which is why the military retire so early.

To marry a military man: pros and cons

To marry a military man. Cons:

During her husband’s traveling service, the military’s wife will also have to wander around the garrisons. And here lies the big problem.

1. The wife will not be able to build a career. After all, she constantly has to move, if her husband is a contract soldier, respectively, she has to either stay at home or look for an easy fickle job in a military town. And this is a very big problem if a girl wanted to become a leading engineer, but she has to work outside her specialty due to frequent moves.

2. If a wife does not find a job at all, sometimes it happens, then she stays at home. Since there are still few friends, acquaintances, and there are no activities to her liking, she begins to degrade from such isolation. Her only entertainment is her husband, and her husband dreams of rest and peace after a hard day at work. Hence the conclusion: if the wife does not occupy herself with useful business, hobbies, work, then scandals and misunderstandings with her husband are guaranteed to her. Read more about this situation in the article: How can a wife meet her husband from work?

Honestly, not all girls can decide on their lives and careers in their native walls, and acclimatizing in another city is even more difficult.

3. Poor infrastructure in sparsely populated military camps is a problem. It happens that the service takes place in villages where there are not even kindergartens. Apartments, where military families have to live at the beginning of their careers, sometimes have disgusting living conditions. In addition, the problem with housing after the service hangs on my soul. These are all factors. taken together, from a gentle and affectionate wife, almost any girl will be made a shrew.

Advantages when you marry a soldier:

1.If a couple at the beginning of a husband’s career can overcome together the hardships that make up all the disadvantages of marriage with a military man, then, according to statistics, further family life is considered one of the most successful. According to surveys, officers and their wives who have been married for more than 10 years consider their marriage to be 95 percent happy out of 100.

2. An officer will never leave his wife, who supported him in difficult times. As a father, the soldier will be an attentive and responsible parent. One of the first roles in terms of importance, according to polls again, for military men is the role of the father.

3. A man who has chosen the military profession is distinguished by discipline, knows how to achieve goals, tries to live here and now. As one officer’s wife says, it is not known what may happen tomorrow, what business trip they will send, so she and her husband enjoy every minute and every available moment.

Tips for marrying a military man

1. A home for a military man is a peaceful haven, support and support. In principle, any man treats his home this way, but nevertheless it means more for the military than, for example, for a factory worker who can relieve stress in the evening over a beer with colleagues.It is more difficult for the military to relieve stress, so the atmosphere of comfort and tranquility in the house is the main thing.
2. Household routine bypasses the military family. They have no time to swear over an unwashed cup. Due to frequent travel, spouses no longer pay attention to such trifles.
3. Help your husband, make his life easier, where possible. The military receives a large salary. Therefore, on the weekend, do not nag your husband that you need to repair the crane if he is tired. Better to spend time together, and the called master will be able to fix the crane.
4. By the nature of their activity, the military rarely do without sores. Therefore, learn how to treat gastritis, migraines and the like with herbs. You will make life easier for your husband with such knowledge.
5. Each profession has its own exceptions. This article contains general guidelines. Each person has his own character and preferences. It all depends on the compatibility of people and on love! If you love a person, then the profession is not important.

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Wives of men in dangerous professions – Family and children – Domestic

Wives of men in dangerous professions Many women, at some genetic level, are attracted to men in military uniform and those who risk their lives on a daily basis. In their minds, the image of a defender is formed, able to lend his reliable shoulder not only to the homeland, but also to his beloved, a rescuer who will pull out of fire, water and other troubles … In a word, the image of a courageous and strong knight.What are the pros and cons of living with a hero?

Pluses

1. He’s to be proud of.
His profession is not boring office work, he is in danger every day and quite often human lives depend on him! Sometimes he receives awards for his work. Children have someone to take an example from.

2. A man in uniform always evokes a sense of security.
Who, if not he, knows about all the dangers of this life and is ready to lend his shoulder at any moment (except on duty).Reliability, quick reaction and willingness to come to the rescue for representatives of dangerous professions are mandatory components of his personality.

3. Doesn’t talk about work.
A representative of a dangerous profession, having come home, does not lead tedious monologues about what an unbearable boss he has, idiots colleagues and what stupid clients he had to face, if only because he is too tired and talks about his bosses are enough for him at work.

4. He always looks great.
To chase criminals, carry several kilograms of equipment, put out fires and dive to the depths requires excellent physical preparation. The wife of such a man does not have to look at her husband’s beer belly and secretly think that her friend’s husband looks much better at this age.

5. Tough at work and romantic in relationships.
Hazardous professions require great composure, resistance to stress, concentration and constant decision-making.After such a man, he wants to forget about work and remember what happens in a different way. For example, he can drive a fire engine and give his beloved a bouquet of roses through the window, climbing there by the fire escape. After harsh everyday life, they want romance and tenderness.

6. He does not make an elephant out of a fly.
Alas, your husband, who is constantly risking his life, will not complain about the arrow that suddenly appeared on tights or that you and Svetka had identical dresses at a corporate party.But on the other hand, you will not hear the groans that the temperature of 36.9 is certain death, or that he lost the argument yesterday, as a result of which he is now in a terrible depression.

7. It is unpretentious.
It is unlikely that your hero will be a bore in matters of food and clothing. In terms of cooking, he can give a head start to his wife, since working in extreme conditions sometimes contributes to unprecedented culinary ingenuity. But still, the husband will be glad if, upon returning home, there are not only sandwiches and purchased dumplings on the table, although no one will demand from you a baked goose with apples.Clothes are even easier. He does not have time to understand all these subtleties. The main thing is that it is comfortable.

8. He has a developed sense of humor.
It is this that allows you to stay in a job that is risky and dangerous. You can laugh to your heart’s content, and such a man has so many tales and anecdotes that will be enough for a hundred feasts. True, sometimes humor is black, but this, as they say, is the cost of the profession. Better to joke than to be silent.

9.He sees the situation systematically.
A man of dangerous professions, as a rule, works in a team and is faced with many non-standard situations, which allows him to grasp the essence of the problem and find a solution without unnecessary questions. True, when you ask him about which of the 10 selected blouses to buy, you risk seeing a puzzled look. He is interested in global tasks, and the variety of blouses is beyond his understanding.

10. You won’t get bored with him.
Living with a potential hero is unlikely to be routine.Midnight work calls, drills, and extended business trips. In addition, such a man knows a lot and knows how, and in order to be distracted from work, he often has a hobby. You have the chance to learn how to fish, skydive or go spearfishing.

Cons

1. He is often not at home.
We are not talking about traditional dinners, however, as well as planned family events. It is on your birthday or on your wedding anniversary that your husband may be urgently called to work, which requires a philosophical attitude to this situation, otherwise the word “divorce” will appear more and more often in your conversations.You need to be prepared for this. Some wives have unplanned holidays or celebrate when the husband is on vacation.

2. Children do not see dad for months.
If the husband’s work implies a long business trip, then it is quite possible that he will not be under the windows of the hospital, he will not see the first steps of the child and will not hear the first spoken word, will not go for a walk with him and at first he will not even know which child the kid walks in the garden. The wife of my friend, a lifeguard, found a way out when her husband was taken on a business trip for a year.She began to send him a video of the child’s achievements. And my husband did not feel cut off from his family.

3. Sometimes it is difficult to talk to him.
Men of dangerous professions at work see so much that they simply do not want to bring it all home and dump it on their relatives. No wonder the Spaniards have a proverb “who cries a lot, he saw little” . They don’t cry, but they also keep conversations to a minimum. And the tension never goes away. It’s great if he is a firefighter and his wife is a psychologist.If not, then it is better to wait until the husband is resting, and then begin to gently ask about how his day went. With a person who knows how to listen, one involuntarily wants to share the painful one.

4. Life on a powder keg.
They try not to think or talk about it, but willy-nilly, every wife of a man risking his life involuntarily flinches from sudden calls. When she sees him off to work, she does not know whether she will see him again or how he will return (no one canceled injuries and injuries).She has to follow the news and deal with the unknown. Therefore, the wives of husbands of dangerous professions unite and seek support from each other.

5. He takes risks for a small salary.
Almost every wife of a firefighter, rescuer, policeman, pilot or miner is deeply outraged by the fact that her husband goes to no one knows where, works in difficult conditions in inhuman stress, sleeps little and harms his health for symbolic money. Of course, there are some benefits, but from the point of view of many wives, they do not justify this risk at all.Their husbands usually laugh it off: “There is such a profession – to surprise the Motherland!”

It is hardly worth marrying a member of a dangerous profession if you:

• hate surprises;
• consider that daily gatherings at a common table and memorable dates are sacred;
• start all conversations with your partner with claims: “Where have you been?” and “How many women were there and who were they?”;
• call and write to him every five minutes;
• demand constant attention to yourself, but are not ready to listen to it;
• constantly tell your loved one that he is not working there;
• put him before the choice “either me or work!”;
• tell your friends how unlucky you are with your husband;
• do not have a duty set of food in the refrigerator to collect for the trip.

Generals of Russia – about what qualities a general’s wife should have

There are legends about the strength and patience of generals’ wives. Not every woman can withstand the years of moving from one garrison to another, the lack of comfortable living conditions and the constant expectation of her husband from service. In our material, the generals of Russia talk about the sacrifices their spouses have to make and what qualities a real general’s wife should have.

Colonel General Valery Baranov

Photo: portal Moscow 24 / Anton Velikzhanin

It is only in the cinema that a woman marries a general.In real life, she usually marries a lieutenant, a senior lieutenant, or, at most, a captain. Yes, every officer dreams of being a general. But I, for example, graduated from the Kazan Higher Tank Command School, and there are now six generals from our platoon of 30 people. From a company with more than 100 cadets, there were about 12 of us (generals). So count how many officers ‘wives become generals’ wives.

Being the wife of an officer is a very difficult, difficult duty. After all, an officer, especially a junior officer, is on duty all the time, he practically does not come home.If this is a deployed military unit, then these are obligatory night training in firepower training, shooting and driving. In addition, once a week, you still need to go to the outfit. And there are only seven days in a week. It’s good if you spend at least two or three days completely overnight at home.

When you become a big boss, it is even more difficult because responsibility increases. And the responsibility is even higher on the wife. She not only has to take care of her family, but also work with other wives of the military.

For example, her husband became a regiment commander; she has to meet and interact with the wives of the regiment’s officers. There is no such thing that she does not participate in the life of a regiment, division in a certain direction. This is the same commonality between husband and wife, they work for the same business.

I changed my place of service 19 times, served in Mongolia, Transbaikalia, GSVG (Group of Soviet Forces in Germany. – M24), the North Caucasian Military District, in the Moscow Military District and many others. My wife has been with me all this time.In food, we officers are usually picky: what my wife cooked, we eat. She also does not have enough time for everything: children, cooking, household chores. Today women say: when Saturday and Sunday come, I work in all-inclusive mode: the washing machine is on, the stove is on, and everything else is also on.

Any woman, if she marries, even if not for a military man, has to sacrifice something. Only by sacrificing something, you can create a good, wonderful family and live in peace and harmony for as long as my wife and I have lived, and this is already 47 years.

Colonel-General Viktor Barynkin

Photo: portal Moscow 24 / Anton Velikzhanin

First of all, a general’s wife should be tolerant. Secondly, deep love and respect for her husband. Tolerance is expressed in the fact that she always has to wait. It is necessary to be able to withstand it.

An officer’s wife is also a profession. Sometimes it is even more difficult than the profession of an officer, because they worry much more about us.

And then, the wives get more, because they have children.As a rule, officers do not do enough with raising children. They also carry the whole family, the entire household, so even the transfer of the officer to a new place of service is handled by the wife herself. The officer took the suitcase and drove away, while his wife took care of the rest. Therefore, one can only envy them: their tolerance, love and respect for their spouse.

General of the Army Anatoly Kulikov

Photo: portal Moscow 24 / Anton Velikzhanin

A general’s wife must have such qualities to be able to go through her whole life with her husband from lieutenant to general.We have been together with my wife for 52 years now, we have three children, ten grandchildren and two great-grandchildren. My wife never resented and did not interfere when it was necessary to move in the service to a new place. And I had to do it as many as 19 times. And where did we not live! Even in the barracks.

She gathered in silence, children in an armful – and went to the next garrison. The wife never showed that it was hard for her, and perceived the transfers with understanding: where necessary, we will go there. Much the same as in the movie “Officers”.

In general, there are a lot of women in such marriages who came from military families. After all, a lot depends on what kind of education the future wife of the officer received in her family. If she is not spoiled, if she knows and understands the difficulties and hardships of military service, then, of course, she will walk this path with her husband with dignity. But the main thing is her devotion, love for her children, the ability to quickly settle in a new place, cook and be able to wait for her husband.

Reviews of the owners of Hyundai Creta (Creta) – all the pros and cons, disadvantages and personal operating experience

Review of the car Hyundai Creta

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Hyundai Creta 2017 / tenure period 1 – 3 years

Advantages:

Quality, height, efficiency, convenience, simplicity, automatic transmission

Disadvantages:

Sludge plastic throughout the car interior – from the windshield to the rear cracker

Hyundai Creta car review

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Hyundai Creta 2017 / tenure up to 6 months

Advantages:

Good car for your money

Disadvantages:

Good car for your money

Review of Hyundai Creta

– Great car, full of delight. – Good car, I advise you to take it. – Average car, think before buying.- Bad car, I don’t advise. – Awful car, I don’t advise. – rate the car

Hyundai Creta 2017 / tenure up to 6 months

Advantages:

For that kind of money you can’t take anything else like that

Disadvantages:

Algorithm of the pair: engine – automatic transmission

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– Excellent car, complete delight. – Good car, I advise you to take it. – Average car, think before buying. – Bad car, I do not recommend it.- A terrible car, I do not recommend it. – rate the car

Hyundai Creta 2017 / tenure up to 6 months

Advantages:

I have not understood yet.

Disadvantages:

EVERYTHING !!!! With 1.6 engine, automatic, four-wheel drive – in no case take it !!!

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Hyundai Creta 2017 / tenure period up to 6 months

Advantages:

Great car for any life situations

Disadvantages:

Imposition of special stages by officials

Review of Hyundai Creta car

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Hyundai Creta 2016 / tenure up to 6 months

Advantages:

Price / quality ratio, warranty

Disadvantages:

Noise isolation, fuel consumption

Car review Hyundai Creta

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Hyundai Creta 2017 / tenure up to 6 months

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Disadvantages:

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Advantages:

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Disadvantages:

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what is it, is it worth taking, the pros and minuses?

In the heat of the entrance campaign, applicants are almost ready to sell their souls to the devil for such a coveted place in the university. For some, the destination becomes a lifeline. Adukar studied the Statement on Targeted Training and will tell you what a target direction is, who and where can get it, what are the pros and cons.

What is a target direction?

The target direction allows you to get free vocational, secondary specialized, higher (bachelor’s and master’s) and postgraduate education (postgraduate, doctoral studies). An agreement on targeted training is a document that is signed by three parties: the applicant, the customer organization and the educational institution.

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Organizations that need certain specialists can apply to local or republican government bodies, which are subordinate to educational institutions that train such specialists. Then the governing bodies, where applications for targeted training are received, form the numbers of the target recruitment taking into account the planned admission and report this information to the Ministry of Education, customer organizations and educational institutions.

Public and private organizations can apply for targeted training.

The Ministry of Education told about the nuances of the target area

Who is the target area for?

Any applicant can acquire a target area from 2020. However, target directions can be issued only by those contracting organizations that are located in cities with a population of less than 20 thousand people, in villages, as well as in settlements located on the territory of radioactive contamination.But soon organizations in large cities, regional centers and even Minsk will be able to make requests for targeted training.

How to get a targeted referral?

There are two ways to go. Call the admissions office of a university, college or lyceum and find out from which organizations you can bring a targeted referral to a specialty of interest. You focus more on the place of work, then contact the organization where you would like to work and ask about the possibility of getting a target direction.

It is possible to acquire a targeted direction at the admissions office of an educational institution, provided that there are vacancies for targeted training.

How many places are allocated to target people?

Until 2021, the number of places for target-oriented bloc is limited to 60% of the recruitment plan for agricultural specialties, up to 50% – for specialties of the “Health” profile, and up to 40% – for all others. Since this year, the numbers have changed: a project on targeted training has been prepared, in which the percentage of places will be higher.For agricultural specialties – up to 70% of the admission control figures, for medical specialties – up to 80%, for others – up to 50%.

Having received a long-awaited direction in your hands, you should not relax, because in a university (lyceum, college) you will have to go through a competition among target groups. For example, for a certain specialty, three places are allocated for targeted training, and there are five applicants. Of these, the first three with the highest number of points will be selected, the remaining two can participate in the general competition.

If the target places are not filled, at the discretion of the educational institution, they can be transferred to the general competition or left vacant.In the second case, students of the same specialty or a similar one, and from a paid department too, can transfer to free places, having concluded an agreement on targeted training. You can take a targeted direction and not submit it to the admissions committee, but participate in a general competition. By the way, the target student is no different from the rest of the state employees, except for the term of work.

Many target places are allocated by medical colleges and universities

How much to work in the target area?

Those who have received higher education – at least five years, secondary specialized – at least three years, vocational – at least two.At the request of the graduate, the period of compulsory work may include, for example, the period of military service by conscription or in the reserve of the Armed Forces of the Republic of Belarus, other troops and military formations of Belarus, maternity leave (until the child reaches the age of three). Studying in master’s and postgraduate studies does not affect the reduction of the working time.

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Reasons not to work out in the target area

During training, the contract may be terminated for the following reasons:

– establishing a disability for a citizen under the age of 18;

– the establishment of a disability of the I or II group;

– establishing one of the parents or husband (wife) of a citizen of disability I or
II group or disability to a child of a citizen;

– the occurrence of medical contraindications to work on the received
specialty (direction of specialty, specialization) and assigned
qualifications;

– liquidation of the customer organization;

– early termination of educational relations due to circumstances beyond the control of the will of the citizen, educational institution.

The reasons for not working out in the target area are spelled out in the Regulation on distribution. This can happen due to disability, illnesses incompatible with work in the specialty, liquidation of the institution that issued the target direction, etc.

If you really do not want to work in the target direction at all, you can return the funds spent on training.

Advantages and disadvantages of targeted training

Should you take a targeted direction?

The conclusion of such an agreement is suitable for those applicants who plan to return to their native lands after studying or want to secure a job in advance.If your main goal is training on a budget, it is better to think seven times before deciding to conclude this contract. Nobody knows how life will turn out in a few years, and the lifeline can be a heavy burden. Legal advice will not be superfluous when signing such a serious document.

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Long-distance sailors – about earnings, the pluses and minuses of life “on the water”

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Seafarers of long-distance voyages – about earnings, the pluses and minuses of life “on the water”

Long-distance sailors – about earnings, minuses and pluses of life “on the water”

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MOSCOW, June 25 – RIA Novosti, Maria Semenova. The twenty-fifth of June is the day of the navigator. At first glance, this profession seems romantic: constant travel, exotic countries, a multinational team. But in fact, after six months of wandering, sailors may never go ashore, and many of them would be happy to change their profession. Who and why chooses such a job – in the material of RIA Novosti.Nikolay Ibisov (name has been changed), Novorossiysk Every year I go on a flight for six to seven months, so for 12 years. It is very difficult, especially the first few times: you are away from your family and friends, you can only correspond with them for a maximum of an hour a day, because the Internet is very expensive. I fly a lot. Take my last flight: the company buys tickets, I fly to Los Angeles, take a tanker when the contract ends, from Houston (an airport in Texas – Ed.) Via Frankfurt (an airport in Germany.- Approx. ed.) I get home. I’ve traveled all over the world, I’ve been to Africa and Australia. This is very hard work, the only bonus is that after the watch you can go ashore and buy clothes for yourself and your family. And there are a lot of disadvantages: you have to work with a pneumatic gun, which destroys joints, with chemical paint, which stinks very strongly, constantly breathe in oil vapors. I do everything from washing toilets to helping the pilot at the helm. Everything is decided by the captain, no one dares to say a word to him, on the ship he is a king and a god.According to the contract, my working day is eight hours, but this is nonsense, in fact, sometimes it turns out 12-15 hours. Despite all the disadvantages, it is profitable, and there is not much to work in Novorossiysk. Now I plan to get a job under the Russian flag, sail on our tankers. Tired of being in a vacuum for six months – no family, no friends. I live in the World Ocean. This year my wife left me. We were together for three years, both have a second marriage. Everything was going well, with me she sat at home and embroidered with a cross, cooked well, ran the household.I transferred all the money I earned to her, an apartment and a car were issued in her name – I trusted completely, it seemed to me that she was a reliable person, I knew her family. This year she took all the money, got into the car that I bought her, and left for Dagestan. Now he lives in Makhachkala at my expense. In Novorossiysk, this is not an isolated case. The sailors are being deceived, a woman of my acquaintance took everything out of the apartment, it’s good that the house was registered in his mother’s name, or even the house would be squeezed out. Maxim Alekhanov (name has been changed), Arkhangelsk I am from Arkhangelsk, all my relatives worked at sea.I knew that I could save up there for something. I went to the fishery college, I thought how I would serve in the army, I would go on a fish steamer. But to travel around the Barents Sea is neither one nor the other. I work with foreign companies: there the salary is in foreign currency, in connection with the exchange rate it is profitable. Before that, it was different: you look, but people on the shore, especially in Moscow, get more. There is a stereotype that sailors can see other countries. Sometimes it really works, but I had a contract for a container ship – in six months I never went ashore.Many people think that sailors are uneducated people. In fact, we have all the engineering department with higher education, everyone has good English. The rank and file are mostly Filipinos and have a strong union. God forbid they will not have rice and karaoke – they will immediately write a complaint, and such checks will come! When I went to sea, I thought that the whole crew was probably running around prostitutes. But where I was, this is not at all, except for a couple of people, mostly from young people. It happens that there is a lot of work, not to get out: the cranes will break down, constant checks, survey of the vessel.Very strict environmental requirements: a drop of oil falls – there will be huge fines. If there is time to get out into the city, we usually cooperate. Everyone wants to go to the store, buy souvenirs, ice cream, sit in a restaurant (but you can’t drink, except for a glass of wine). For me, a contract for three to four months would be comfortable. It seems to an ordinary person that this is a very long time. We cannot understand each other with those who work on the shore. For example, I post a photo of a barbecue on the deck. Me: “Wow, sea, meat, beauty!” And in fact, it does not bring any joy – just dinner.I would like to go home, to be with a loved one and friends. All sailors dream of working ashore. And someone thinks: “I would also like to look at other countries, as they are, otherwise everything is just work – home.” My friend just got divorced, his wife told him: “You are tired of your sea.” But she knew who she was marrying. I also had a breakup with my girlfriend because of this, I also had complaints, she said that I needed to change my job. Now I found one lady, so far everything is fine, I waited two contracts. There is communication in the sea, satellite Internet, although not cheap.The main thing is to find an adequate companion, because those who constantly see each other, if the head is a mess, get divorced. It’s hard to change the regime. There are sailors who come – and on a binge for a week. I make plans in advance: what to buy, where to call, what to do in school. Once every five years, you need to change your diploma and take a lot of courses: fire safety, medicine, ship security. When you plan everything in advance, it is easier to get on new rails. Mikhail Kondratyev, Beloretsk I became a sailor not so long ago, just a year ago.I am an electrician by education, I used to have my own individual entrepreneur – I was engaged in quests. I changed my job spontaneously and in an unusual way – I am far from from the maritime region, in my city there are only three sailors, including me. The sailors are very superstitious. There are different signs. For example, you cannot pack your things in advance: once a sailor did this, and we got up for a week due to bad weather. Until you climb the ladder, you should not tell anyone that you are going on a flight – in my case, only my wife knows about it. I am a minder. I stand on watch in the engine room four hours after eight, doing maintenance and repair of engines, diesel generators, boilers.Always in oil and fuel oil. Before studying, I thought for a long time which way to go: start as a sailor and grow to a navigator, or from a minder to a mechanic. After the first voyage, I realized that I was not mistaken, choosing the path of a mechanic and servicing the very heart of the ship. While I was on only one flight, I am preparing for the second. I saw the Azov, Black, Marmara, Mediterranean seas. It all started with the fact that, in addition to a good income, I wanted to have an unusual profession. The sea is just what you need. All my youth I spent traveling around Russia, I was an ardent football fan and traveler.And then it hit me: “Why can’t you combine travel, craving for trials and work? How could I not have thought of it earlier? ” Before that, it seemed that work at sea was somewhere in another distant, distant galaxy, but now it became clear that it was quite achievable. Of course, you can’t just get a job on a ship, you need a bunch of documents: an international passport, a sailor’s passport, a seaman’s book, an educational diploma, a working diploma, a lot of certificates. To get one, you need another, and so on step by step. And so I went to St. Petersburg to get these “artifacts”, like Thanos – the stones of infinity.We said goodbye to my wife, there were a lot of tears, when I return – it is not clear. Now we remember and smile. The courses lasted three months, then there were several more months of practice, that is, we tuned in for at least six months of separation. But in St. Petersburg, I found a job, everything started spinning, as a result, a month later, my wife and daughter came to me, there we celebrated our best New Year, and we were preparing for a long separation. But then I unlearned, went to my first practice, and my wife and daughter – to our hometown. Then we parted for four months.Now I want to go on a flight for six months at once to improve my qualifications. My daughter is still too young to understand where I am going. She is three years old. However, according to the stories of his wife, sometimes it comes to hysterics. One day the daughter got dressed, said “dad” and asked to open the door. Probably going to look for me. Yuri Prokazov, Novorossiysk I live in the port city of Novorossiysk. My father was a sailor, my family also persuaded me to go to study as a navigator. I like this kind of work: six months there, six months here.And the salary at sea, of course, is normal, quite enough to live peacefully on vacation, although out of boredom you still look for some kind of hack. I leave, as a rule, for six months, plus or minus two months. I had already met my wife as a sailor, so she knew what she was doing. Of course, when I leave for the flight, she gets a little hysterical. However, each time she takes my departure more and more calmly, although she says that it is impossible to get used to it. The child is still only one and a half years old, he still does not understand much.But on my own I can say that it was not a tragedy for me when my father went on a flight, but it was very joyful when he returned. Mother explained to my brother and me where dad was and why he was not there. Some are sure that a sailor has a wife in every port, this is complete nonsense. Young and unmarried people sometimes visit women, but more often than not there is not enough time for this. On tankers, for example, only a day is given for loading and unloading, out of these days you have eight to twelve hours of watch. Plus, maybe taking food, this also takes time.The study of new countries is also a myth. Occasionally it turns out to get out into the city, but basically everyone goes to the supermarket to shop, on the islands you can try going to the beach. Plus, getting to the center is simply expensive, a taxi sometimes costs 20-30 dollars.

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MOSCOW, 25 Jun – RIA Novosti, Maria Semenova. The twenty-fifth of June is the day of the navigator. At first glance, this profession seems romantic: constant travel, exotic countries, a multinational team. But in fact, after six months of wandering, sailors may never go ashore, and many of them would be happy to change their profession. Who and why chooses such a job – in the material of RIA Novosti.

Nikolay Ibisov (name has been changed), Novorossiysk

Every year I go on a voyage for six to seven months, so for 12 years.It is very difficult, especially the first few times: you are away from your family and friends, you can only correspond with them for a maximum of an hour a day, because the Internet is very expensive.

I fly a lot. Take my last flight: the company buys tickets, I fly to Los Angeles, get on a tanker when the contract ends, from Houston (an airport in Texas – Ed.) Via Frankfurt (an airport in Germany. – Ed. ) I get home. I’ve traveled all over the world, I’ve been to Africa and Australia.

This is very hard work, the only bonus is that after the shift you can go ashore and buy clothes for yourself and your family. And there are a lot of disadvantages: you have to work with a pneumatic gun, which destroys joints, with chemical paint, which stinks very strongly, constantly breathe in oil vapors. I do everything from washing toilets to helping the pilot at the helm. Everything is decided by the captain, no one dares to say a word to him, on the ship he is a king and a god. According to the contract, my working day is eight hours, but this is nonsense, in fact, sometimes it turns out 12-15 hours.

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Russian sailors have been living on a ship in inhuman conditions for six months already

Despite all the disadvantages, it is profitable, and there is nowhere to work in Novorossiysk. Now I plan to get a job under the Russian flag, sail on our tankers. Tired of being in a vacuum for six months – no family, no friends. I live in the World Ocean.

This year my wife left me. We were together for three years, both have a second marriage. Everything was going well, with me she sat at home and embroidered with a cross, cooked well, ran the household.I transferred all the money I earned to her, an apartment and a car were issued in her name – I trusted completely, it seemed to me that she was a reliable person, I knew her family. This year she took all the money, got into the car that I bought her, and left for Dagestan. Now he lives in Makhachkala at my expense.

This is not an isolated case in Novorossiysk. The sailors are being deceived, a woman of my acquaintance took everything out of the apartment, it is good that the apartment was registered in his mother’s name, or even the house would be squeezed out.

When you are in a vacuum for six or seven months, you have to be prepared that your wife will not be so faithful and honest.I am grateful to her that at least she did it now, and not in five years. Let him live happily. She left the documents for the apartment, which means that sooner or later she will appear, make a deed of gift, divorce me, and I will forget about her as a bad dream. I’m not afraid that she will take the apartment. I am her legal husband, the maximum that she can – divorce and divide in half. But her mother said she would side with me in any court.

Maxim Alekhanov (name has been changed), Arkhangelsk

I am from Arkhangelsk, all my relatives worked at sea.I knew that I could save up there for something. I went to the fishery college, I thought how I would serve in the army, I would go on a fish steamer. But to travel around the Barents Sea is neither one nor the other. I work with foreign companies: there the salary is in foreign currency, in connection with the exchange rate it is profitable. Before that, it was different: you look, but people on the shore, especially in Moscow, get more.

There is a stereotype that seafarers can visit other countries. Sometimes it really works, but I had a contract for a container ship – in six months I never went ashore.

I really like to meet people. In Brazil, one girl was surprised: “Oh, are you from Russia? And I thought that all the gloomy walk there. ” We talked, found out that she likes Gagarin. I say: “Here Gagarin was so joyful, and I am the same.” And she: “Are all Russians like that?” “Everything,” I answer, “but not on Mondays.” I always take with me five magnets with the image of Arkhangelsk. It happens that I talk to someone in the port, I give it back with the words: “I give only to good people.” A person may have seen a Russian only once in his life.If you show yourself somehow wrong, he will decide for life that the whole nation is like that.

Many people think that sailors are uneducated people. In fact, we have all the engineering department with higher education, everyone has good English. The rank and file are mostly Filipinos and have a strong union. God forbid they will not have rice and karaoke – they will immediately write a complaint, and such checks will come!

When I went to sea, I thought that, probably, the whole crew was running around prostitutes. But where I was, this is not at all, except for a couple of people, mostly from young people.It happens that there is a lot of work, not to get out: the cranes will break down, constant checks, survey of the vessel. Very strict environmental requirements: a drop of oil falls – there will be huge fines. If there is time to get out into the city, we usually cooperate. Everyone wants to go to the store, buy souvenirs, ice cream, sit in a restaurant (but you can’t drink, except for a glass of wine).

A contract for three to four months would be comfortable for me. It seems to an ordinary person that this is a very long time. We cannot understand each other with those who work on the shore.For example, I post a photo of a barbecue on the deck. Me: “Wow, sea, meat, beauty!” And in fact, it does not bring any joy – just dinner. I would like to go home, to be with a loved one and friends. All sailors dream of working ashore. And someone thinks: “I would also like to look at other countries, as they are, otherwise everything is just work – home.”

My friend just got divorced, his wife said to him: “You are tired of your sea.” But she knew who she was marrying. I also had a breakup with my girlfriend because of this, I also had complaints, she said that I needed to change my job.Now I found one lady, so far everything is fine, I waited two contracts. There is communication in the sea, satellite Internet, although not cheap. The main thing is to find an adequate companion, because those who constantly see each other, if there is a mess in their heads, get divorced.

Difficult to change the mode. There are sailors who come – and on a binge for a week. I make plans in advance: what to buy, where to call, what to do in school. Once every five years, you need to change your diploma and take a lot of courses: fire safety, medicine, ship security.When you plan everything in advance, it is easier to get on new rails.

Mikhail Kondratyev, Beloretsk

I became a sailor not so long ago, just a year ago. I am an electrician by education, I used to have my own individual entrepreneur – I was engaged in quests. I changed my job spontaneously and in an unusual way – I am far from from the maritime region, in my city there are only three sailors, including me.

Sailors are very superstitious. There are different signs. For example, you cannot pack your things in advance: once a sailor did this, and we got up for a week due to bad weather.Until you climb the ladder, you should not tell anyone that you are going on a flight – in my case, only my wife knows about it.

I am a minder. I stand on watch in the engine room four hours after eight, doing maintenance and repair of engines, diesel generators, boilers. Always in oil and fuel oil. Before studying, I thought for a long time which way to go: start as a sailor and grow to a navigator, or from a minder to a mechanic. After the first voyage, I realized that I was not mistaken, choosing the path of a mechanic and servicing the very heart of the ship.While I was on only one flight, I am preparing for the second. I saw the Azov, Black, Marmara, Mediterranean seas.

It all started when I wanted, in addition to a good income, to have an unusual profession. The sea is just what you need. All my youth I spent traveling around Russia, I was an ardent football fan and traveler. And then it hit me: “Why can’t you combine travel, craving for trials and work? How could I not have thought of it earlier? ” Before that, it seemed that work at sea was somewhere in another distant, distant galaxy, but now it became clear that it was quite achievable.Of course, you can’t just get a job on a ship, you need a bunch of documents: an international passport, a sailor’s passport, a seaman’s book, an educational diploma, a working diploma, a lot of certificates. To get one, you need another, and so on step by step. And so I went to St. Petersburg to get these “artifacts”, like Thanos – the stones of infinity.

We said goodbye to my wife, there were a lot of tears, when I return, it’s incomprehensible. Now we remember and smile. The courses lasted three months, then there were several more months of practice, that is, we tuned in for at least six months of separation.But in St. Petersburg, I found a job, everything started spinning, as a result, a month later, my wife and daughter came to me, there we celebrated our best New Year, and we were preparing for a long separation.

But then I finished my studies, went to my first practice, and my wife and daughter went to our hometown. Then we parted for four months. Now I want to go on a flight for six months at once to improve my qualifications.

My daughter is still too young to understand where I am going. She is three years old. However, according to the stories of his wife, sometimes it comes to hysterics.One day the daughter got dressed, said “dad” and asked to open the door. Probably going to look for me.

Yuri Prokazov, Novorossiysk

I live in the port city of Novorossiysk. My father was a sailor, my family also persuaded me to go to study as a navigator. I like this kind of work: six months there, six months here. And the salary at sea, of course, is normal, quite enough to live peacefully on vacation, although out of boredom you are still looking for some kind of hack.

I leave, as a rule, for six months, plus or minus two months.I had already met my wife as a sailor, so she knew what she was doing. Of course, when I leave for the flight, she gets a little hysterical. However, each time she takes my departure more and more calmly, although she says that it is impossible to get used to it. The child is still only one and a half years old, he still does not understand much. But on my own I can say that it was not a tragedy for me when my father went on a flight, but it was very joyful when he returned. Mother explained to my brother and me where dad was and why he was not there.

Some are sure that a sailor has a wife in every port, this is complete nonsense. Young and unmarried people sometimes visit women, but more often than not there is not enough time for this. On tankers, for example, only a day is given for loading and unloading, out of these days you have eight to twelve hours of watch. Plus, maybe taking food, this also takes time. The study of new countries is also a myth. Occasionally it turns out to get out into the city, but basically everyone goes to the supermarket to shop, on the islands you can try going to the beach.Plus, getting to the center is simply expensive, a taxi sometimes costs 20-30 dollars.

Pros and cons of a military spouse

Over the past few years, public awareness of veteran suicide has increased, and more importantly, people are more aware than ever of the resources available to help fighting veterans and military personnel. However, in the past year, we have noticed a disturbing new aspect of the problem – recently there have been a number of suicides among senior veterans who have been a beacon of hope for others in the suicide prevention movement.

At the Tragedy Survivor Assistance Program (TAPS), our Red Team reflects on these losses and their impact on suicide prevention and suicide prevention among military personnel and veterans.

Deceased Pfc. Kevin S. Jacobs, U.S. Marine. PFC. Kevin Jacobs has struggled with anxiety, emotional pain, and grief over his war experiences. Both he and his brother Brian Keith Jacobs, a US Navy veteran, suffered from PTSD and were emotionally at odds.In the end, Kevin’s worries prevailed, and on Memorial Day May 28, 2014, Kevin committed suicide. (Guest photo by Brian Keith Jacobs, veteran of the US Navy)

If any of us thinks suicide is weak, we must change our mindset: even the most powerful of us – the brutal warrior tribe of our wars – sometimes die by suicide. A man or woman can be a hero for many, marked by extraordinary courage and invincible fighting spirit, but still remain in danger.Such a man or woman is a real hero.

The second truth is that death by suicide leaves behind losses, risks and regrets that are devastating to our community. Many times I have witnessed and walked with veterans who are deeply saddened by such a loss. They often say they “didn’t expect it.” In addition to the shock and unbearable grief, they often become angry that their brother or sister did not reach out to them. Too often I have heard: “I would give up everything to be there if I only knew .“

Soldiers from the Battle Group of the 2nd Armored Brigade, 3rd Infantry Division, Mental Health Team hold the Cars Against Suicide auto show on December 1, 2017 in Fort Stewart, Georgia. The Suicide Machines event was organized by the 2nd ABCT to raise awareness and offer resources to help prevent suicide. (US Army photo by Robert Winns)

They also express a deep sense of helplessness, a kind of helplessness that puts them at direct risk of self-destructive actions.And sometimes, when they think that they have lost a leader due to suicide, they experience intense fear. If that fear had a voice, it might say, “If suicide seems like the only way out for such a strong person, what does it mean to me?”

These reactions are the last thing their hero would like them to think and feel.

The family and the whole community can change forever if the decision is made in one day of suffocating despair. It is a heroic life lived, but also death, which leaves behind even greater losses and destruction.How can we understand meaningless loss?

Building on our work with veterans and military personnel over the past ten years, here are 3 things for the community to consider.

3. The tribe is stronger than the force of despair.

Learning to be flawlessly interdependent is to reach the pinnacle of our human potential – this is not a sign of weakness. The lifeblood of those who fight together is love and trust between those who gave their lives for each other.

Tribal connection is a protective factor that protects against despair and disconnection even in the most extreme situations.The bond of trust is stronger than despair, and when the tribe unites and shields it, they have the power to defeat demons.

2. Balancing legacy and prevention.

Suicidal thinking occurs in the context of an ideal storm of events; there is never just one provoking event. Self-destructive actions are most often the result of a combination of overwhelming mental pain, physical pain, biochemistry altered by chronic poor sleep, and events that create a sense of acute hopelessness.What do we do when the perfect storm looms before us? Here we can continue to find meaning and hope in the hero’s life and in what he or she championed.

Silkies Hike members pose for a photograph on October 21 in Bakersfield, California. The hike led the veterans for a 22-kilometer march through the city to draw attention to the suicide veteran. (Photo courtesy of Susumu Uchiyama)

While it is important to respect the life lived, it is equally important to balance this message with education, resources and support to prevent additional suicide.We need to think about the message he or she has carried over the years of our lives and also understand the factors that contribute to this one day of the perfect storm. What was this man arguing with all his energy about while he was alive? Can their death be used to support the message that was so important during their lifetime? Did this person advocate appealing to his tribe, for trusting his community, to give strength to fight demons? Was this person able to do for himself what he encouraged in others?

These are lessons learned from the past that balance the prevention of another heroic loss of life.

1. Leaders also need a tribe.

Finally, those who remain a beacon of hope may have underestimated vulnerabilities. Veterans are often eager to find their next mission and gain a great sense of purpose – sometimes even a saving purpose – by encouraging others to stay in battle. However, when veterans become guardians and public models of strength, additional pressure falls on their shoulders as they hold the hope of their brothers and sisters. Veterans told us that once they began to patronize other veterans, they felt, in some indescribable way, the door is closed for them from the point of view of seeking help for themselves.

Brian Watson, secretary of the nonprofit Pittsburgh Freedom Defenders of Pittsburgh, PA, flies the American flag and leads volunteers during their 2nd annual stop on March 22 at North Park in Allison Park, PA, November 11, 2017. held on Veterans Day to draw attention to the suicide of veterans. (US Army photo, ATP. Miguel Alvarez, Mobile Public Relations Unit 354)

Working with veterans and military leaders, we have noticed that their first impulses are often to isolate themselves in the hope of “putting it all together” when they experience stress.feels overwhelming. Turning to their tribe when they themselves need support goes against their instincts, developed through training and culture. This does not mean that they do not believe in the value of seeking help, but that they may feel ashamed and guilty when they need it for themselves.

Maybe these leaders and heroes will become like a beacon, helping to keep other people out of the storm. But what happens when the lighthouse itself is covered with raging waves and raging seas? How does it signal a distress? Who is looking at the lighthouse and how can we make it so that and can turn to the tribe of those they love and trust to give them the strength to fight their demons? Leaders need a tribe too.

When we know the perfect storm is coming, the best we can do is connect the person with their tribe and with resources that can help, whether that person is a colleague or a leader.

Members of the 111th Assault Wing volunteered to take part in the 22nd March in Doylestown, PA Sunday to help raise awareness of U.S. veteran suicide rates, October 22, 2017 111th communications flight gathered the entire bags.It included Senior Pilot Jarrod Ziegler, Client Systems Technician (left), 1st Class Pilot Jonathon Zhang, and Major Daniel Minameer, Flight Commander. (Photo of the US National Guard, Captain-Sergeant Christopher Botzum)

TAPS offers comprehensive, optimal postoperative support services for suicidal survivors, including a 24-hour hotline (1-800-959-TAPS), virtual groups and survivor chat rooms, and at ground events and gatherings.

Veterans and their loved ones can call the Veteran Helpline by dialing 1-800-273-8255 and Press 1 , chat or text 838255 for 24/7 support 7 days a week, 365 days a year.

Shauna Springer, Ph.D.

Shauna Springer is the senior director of the TAPS Red Team of the Tragedy Survivor Program. Dr. Springer is a licensed psychologist with a BA from Harvard University and a PhD from the University of Florida. Known to many veterans as “Doc Springer,” she has helped hundreds of warriors reunite with their tribe, strengthen their most important relationships, and build a life driven by their deepest values. The TAPS Red team offers training and advice on suicide prevention and suicide prevention for doctors, military leaders, politicians and organizations.

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Pros and Cons of Joining a Family in the Army

Becoming a military family can be difficult for a soldier, his or her spouse and children.The military family has several advantages and disadvantages. It is important to understand both before enrollment.

Pros of a Family Joining the Army

When you think about joining the army with your family, the first thing that comes to mind is usually being away from them. However, Hayley Strong, mother, a 9.5-year veteran sergeant and a veteran support group facilitator, said that joining the military offers very strong benefits if you have a family.

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Insurance

Health insurance, as well as other types of insurance, are available at low cost to individuals and families in the military.In a world where premiums keep getting higher and higher, this can be a great incentive for a large family. The military also offers affordable life insurance to its members, according to Military.com. Those on reserves can also get full or partial coverage if they are active.

Affordable Cost of Living

In addition to the military providing housing if you live in the base, they will also provide subsidiaries if you live outside the base.This can help lower the cost of living. In addition, Strong announced subsidies are offered for off-base food, and basic necessities such as food and gas are cheaper at the base level. It can help families save money and make life more accessible for a large family.

Training Opportunities

The military offers training assistance and other educational programs not only for active members and veterans, but also for their families.Many of these programs pay not only enrollment fees but other fees as well. For example, the possibility of submitting a draft law on military personnel after 9/11 allows military personnel to share their benefits under the law on military personnel with their next of kin.

Travel

Do you want your family to see the world? Serving in the army will help you with this. Depending on where you are, your family can visit different parts of the world. It can give your children and spouse the opportunity to experience the world and see a world that would otherwise be difficult to obtain.

Disadvantages of joining the army with family

Having a spouse or children when joining the army may have some advantages, but it is not all fun and games. Strong notes some of the clear disadvantages of a military life with family.

Difficult reintegration

As you would expect, deployment for a family is not an easy task. One or both parents are separated from their children for a certain period. However, returning home after service is also difficult for the family.Reintegrating into family life and the intimacy that you shared prior to deployment takes time and can also cause anxiety between spouses and children as the parent re-integrates into family life.

Constant movement

Change of duty in the army. This could happen every two to four years, Strong says. This means that children and spouses often need to move. This can make stability and consistency difficult. For example, constant travel makes it difficult to have regular friends for children and spouses.It can be difficult for teachers, school districts, and parents to develop rapport with multiple schools and classrooms.

No Family Time

Your work week at home won’t be typical. Strong states, “The clock is always changing.” As such, it can be difficult to plan family time as you will also have to struggle with the scheduling of your children and your spouse. Lack of an agreed or set schedule can also lead to disrupted communication between family members.

Lack of support systems

During deployment, it can be difficult for you and your family to get the support you need, especially if you are away from you or your spouse’s family or in another country. Not only can this have a negative impact on you, but the stress and anxiety of your spouse and children can cause psychological and even physical damage to families. However, the American Psychological Association notes ways to combat this through community programs.

Consider All Options

Joining the Army with your family can be a fun and exciting adventure that takes you anywhere in the world. However, deployment and commitment can be serious if not properly supported. Therefore, it is important to consider all parties when considering joining the army with your family.

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Difficulties in finding a job for the wife of a military man

Lauren Creamer
| Correspondent

As the New Year is in full swing and resolutions are being adopted, the life of a military spouse continues to move forward.The military spouse has its pros and cons. One of the biggest downsides I usually hear about is the spousal unemployment rate. Military Times recently published an article about the spouses’ difficulties in finding a job. Only about 4% of us actually work; this is a terrible number. There are many barriers to military spouses that can contribute to the increased unemployment our community faces. While we are offered the top priority when working in places like exchange offices and military stores, we are also competing with almost every other spouse with the same idea.

Many employers seem reluctant to hire military-related interlocutors due to the lack of stability they have to offer the company. We move so much and our lives can be unpredictable, which means that for most employers, a military spouse is not the ideal candidate. I understand. Unfortunately, this has led some people to lie about their military affiliation in order to get the job. I’ve done this before and I don’t blame others for doing it.This is the world of dogs and dogs.

Of course, having children makes it difficult to find a job, whether you are a military spouse or not. Childcare at the post is usually filled to the brim with waiting lists extended to 2021. Add to that the fear that someone deemed more in need of care will take your child’s place, leaving you uncared for in no time. a pair of fingers, and it may seem like you just can’t win. This causes a lot of uncertainty in the spouse in finding a job.

To be a homebody or not to be? Such an insolent question.

Regardless of education or skill level, our community faces a number of challenges that seem to be constantly growing in this department. I can’t stress enough how hard it is to put off your hobbies or start over every four to five years to follow your soldier. Resources may also be limited by the number of spouses looking for work and assistance. I know that every post does its best to help its soldiers and their families, but sometimes I know that it just isn’t enough.

Fortunately, for spouses not all rainy days, and many, if we are blessed with the ability to choose, stay at home or look for work in any form or form. According to the Department of Defense, we number about 650,000 military spouses, which is enough to spark excitement if we really want to change our communities or even create new jobs for ourselves. What have you and your family decided to do, being one of the military spouses for many others? Did you find resources that were helpful, or are you trying to do this? Email me and let me know; I’d love to hear how my community is overcoming these obstacles that we all seem to face.

Columnist Lauren Creamer can be contacted at [email protected]

The pros and cons of living in Fort Bragg

Lauren Creamer
| By correspondent

I see myself being asked over and over again what the pros and cons of living at Fort Bragg are. I’ve touched on this before, but now that I’m quickly approaching the end of our first year on Bragg and almost two years here, I thought I now have more inside information to share.

Let’s start with a couple of pluses:

• Living without service: This is a big plus; You don’t need to worry if something breaks or gets damaged. You can simply call on the phone and we will schedule an appointment to resolve any issues.

• Facilities: Playgrounds, Pools, Laundry Mats, Party Events, Gyms, etc. Are within walking distance and some within walking distance.

• Travel time: Obviously, soldiers are closer to work, and children are closer to preschool and schools after service.

• Community: You are surrounded by other spouses who want friends and understand what it is like to be a military spouse.

• Security: The neighborhood is patrolled regularly so you don’t have to worry about crime as much.

Most people can skimp on the cons of living in Bragg, so let us dive into:

• Potential Health Problems: One of the biggest problems with living in an old basic apartment building is the risk of being dangerous.exposed to lead, asbestos, mold, etc. While living on Bragg, we personally had no problem with any of them as far as we know, but we do know the people who have them. My best recommendation is to consult with your neighbors before moving in and ask what kind of house you have been offered. The couple are very kind in helping to shed light on such things.

• You cannot choose neighbors / schools: You are placed wherever there is space. If you are not a social person, it may be difficult for you to crowd around others.

• No High School: A big cheat for many people with older children is that there is no high school at Fort Bragg. This means you can end up with a lower grade for your children.

• No interruption: There is no interruption from the military lifestyle. If your family is like my family, you like to keep your personal life and work separate. It is very difficult to do this if you cannot leave at the end of the day.

• Small houses and courtyards: Some houses are very small and you may or may not get a decent backyard because of the way they are built.

• Check Out: Leaving home at the base can be a nightmare. I’ll leave it as it is.

Every life situation has its pros and cons. In general, everyone decides for himself what is best for his family. Either way, you’ll find best friends here, people who understand you, and a tight-knit community! So, if you, like many others, are traveling to Bragg, you will be welcomed with open arms by many spouses who are ready to help you every step of the way.

Columnist Lauren Creamer can contact [email protected]

Married in the military: military wives work and earnings versus civilian wives

Today’s military is an army of families.About every seventh
members of the active service enter the army married, and by the eighth
year of military service, approximately three-quarters of the members
married, many have children. Military duties, adversity,
and the risks affect not only the soldier, but also his
the whole family as part of RAND’s compensation range analysis
questions in support of the 9th Quadrennial Military Compensation Review,
the researchers found out whether the incomes of the families of military personnel were lower
than the income of the civil family, and if so, can this difference be partially
to explain the low earnings of the spouses? March 21, 2002leader James Hosek presented a preliminary overview of the RAND results
Pentagon. These results were published in a report by RAND, Married.
into the army: comparison of employment and earnings of wives of military personnel
with common-law wives.

Research on recruitment and retention generally takes a point of view
soldier and little information about
the employment and earnings opportunities of the spouse and their
influences the decision to join or stay. RAND analysis focused
about hiring and earning military wives as a step towards
gives a more complete picture of the life of spouses-military personnel.

The study specifically looked at the families of husband and wife during
period from 1987 to 1999 Samples of military and civilian families
were taken from the current population survey and weighted to reflect
the population of the active service. CPS data showed that the military family
earnings are on average $ 10,000 lower than the earnings of a civilian family.
CPS’s reported war revenues may have left out some military
however, benefits such as tax-free benefits, health insurance,
and housing at the base.If these items were omitted, including them
will bring the income of a military husband to parity with
the earnings of a civil husband; in this case, the wife’s salary will be
then take into account most of the remaining difference between the military
and civil family income.

Compared to common-law wives, the wives of military personnel are less frequent
work per year, less often full-time, less than weeks
work, and have similar, albeit slightly smaller, opening hours
in Week. Taken together, these factors mean that the wives of the military are working
fewer hours per year.Researchers also found that military wives
Wages are lower, regardless of whether they are measured by weekly or hourly wages.
The researchers then examined the factors that could explain this discrepancy.
Among the hypotheses they considered, several especially
useful for explaining this different model of results for
military wives.

To begin with, the wives of the military are becoming an increasingly select population.
as her husband’s military career progresses. Many members get married
as young junior officers or rank-and-file members, as well as significant
the share of junior and middle employees is dismissed from the army.The family’s decision to stay in the army or leave it presumably
takes into account the career prospects and career aspirations of the wife
as well as a member. Wives who believe in their capabilities
being big outside the army will affect the decision
member to leave the army, all other things being equal.
hypotheses offer reasons why this might be the case.

One hypothesis is that more frequent military movements
families are brought into equilibrium with lower wages. Military families are moving
more often and further civil families; therefore researchers
found that the moves alone add up to an additional 2.6 weeks difference.by the number of weeks of work between civilian and military wives.
Therefore, the researchers recommend that the quality of life policy be directed towards
attention should be focused on improving the relative position of women in the military
to reduce the frequency of long-distance travel or compensation
for losses associated with such steps.

A related hypothesis is that the military requires a member
the time and decision of the family regarding the offer of labor to the wife
takes into account these requirements.A member must appear on command
for this, and in the participant’s schedule there may be rigidity and uncertainty.
which are more visible than in many civilian positions. These requirements
can influence the wife’s labor supply and induce her to seek employment with
flexible schedule, in which there may also be lower wages. Besides,
the military may demand time from the wife.
The wives of senior non-commissioned officers are often required to organize and participate
in family support activities.

RAND’s analysis of

also refuted some common misconceptions.
about military wives. Contrary to stereotypes, the wives of the military:

• Do not have very different fertility patterns
• Having children in terms of their work does no more harm
  market performance than common-law wives with children
• Not living disproportionately in rural areas
• People living in rural areas receive almost the same wages as
  in suburban or urban areas, while common-law wives in rural areas
  wages are much lower
• Those who move do not suffer more loss of wages than common-law wives
  who moves in a stroke of a given length

Looking to the future, research highlights the value of
researching the career aspirations of a military wife and job prospects
affect the re-enrollment of a member.Ultimately, if services want to
to extend a military career, it may be important to include
military spouse when formulating future policy.

From a double military couple to the life of a military spouse | Military spouses

Life is about tough decisions and often the plan looks better on paper, especially when you are trying to make decisions as a couple with two military men.

I intended to serve in
in the Air Force for 20 years, so when the decision came to retire
after six it was hard.It seemed to me that I was leaving my dream – or maybe
even quit. I wanted to continue serving with my husband, but I earned
Working through life as a dual military couple just didn’t work for us.

Should I stay or should I leave?

There were three main factors that pushed me to permanently hang up the uniform, changing my military ID – and my own identity – to a dependent. My husband, who also served in the military, had a career that was not the same as mine, and we knew that in order for both of us to serve the full 20 years, we would probably have to split up into at least one mission.

The second factor came
with my first deployment. It was a year-long deployment, including training, and
It was hard to be separated from my husband for so long. My husband too
PCSed while I was deployed. All these small inconveniences were relatively
easy to overcome without children, but then I found out that I was pregnant and
everything has changed.

Just what I am
listed above it should have been clear that leaving the army
meaning. Although then I was not yet sure.

Our decision making

Easy to put on
rose-colored glasses and dream of what life could be after both of us
have reached 20 years of military service, especially if you ignore the realities
this million-dollar life can throw at you.So, we decided to make a list. Not in
our heads but on paper We have included the pros and cons and this is not what we are
made in one sitting. In the end, the cons far outweighed the pros, but they are not.
then the choice has been made.

Amanda Huffman.

After we finished
list, we’ve covered the sacrifices we both need to achieve
retirement stage – including daily sacrifices required along with external
factors of the unknown. As a result, we decided on the best choice for our family.was for me a transition from the role of a soldier to a military spouse.

Leaving a military career

The transition will be
call. You are going through a process where you have to grieve the loss of what
could be, and what is your new life. It’s hard to do.
But in the process, you will learn a lot about yourself and become stronger.

I thought to be a military man
it would be easy for my spouse and mother, but I quickly realized that the military life of a spouse
is very different. It has a sense of order and expectation.military In the life of a military spouse there are ups and downs, and nothing can be
replicated. I once knew who my friends would be in every workplace, since I
became associated with the people with whom he worked. For military spouses there is
there is no guarantee that you will find your tribe at each new location.

Looking back, I understand that
could better prepare for the transition by changing my attitude towards one
where I can do everything myself, to build a community on the Internet or in person
with others who have gone through similar circumstances.So often I felt alone
in my struggle, but every time I reached out my hand, I was greeted with understanding
and with open arms. I understand that many of my loneliest moments were caused by my pride.
and fear of judgment.

Three smooth transition tips:

One thing you can do
Before you begin the transition process, you need to contact the military
community in your area. If you are married to an employee, even if
serving you as your military spouse.By attending these events, you can start
meet other spouses for support. There are also great online social groups
you are with others with similar interests.

After creating your
communities the next step is easier, but even if you are in the early stages,
ask for help when you need it. People are ready to cook food, watch
your kids as a last resort or just listen. Fear kept me from asking for help. Putting
the appearance that everything is in order did not help me, but only made me
feel more lonely and a failure.

Finally, leaving
the military can make you feel lost, which is why there are so many transitional classes
focused on finding a new target. If you do not plan to work in traditional
employment, planning to pursue a hobby, enroll in courses or think about entrepreneurship – growing
a trend among spouses who are passionate about a particular product or service. V
The military gave you so many tools during your service. Use these tools to
create a new vision and dream.

This is what it means to be a working military spouse │ W. S. Veterans Magazine

Finding a permanent job can be a daunting task for military spouses, a quarter of whom are reportedly unemployed. All military spouses face unpredictability, which often makes them less attractive to employers, but wives, who make up more than 90% of military spouses, also face the challenges that all women face in the workplace due to gender pay.a gap in punishment for motherhood. Even among military spouses, men are more likely to get paid work: according to a recent survey by Blue Star Families, about half of male spouses work full-time, while only 27% of female spouses are employed. Women’s income potential is also threatened: only 19 % of spouses earn more than $ 50,000 compared to 44% of male spouses.

But working, period, is a problem when an acting spouse can be involved for several months.“You are not a single parent,” one of the military spouses told me. “But you are the only breadwinner for your children, and your spouse is unpredictable. They have no control over whether they came here or not. Sometimes you have breakfast and they leave and you don’t know when they will return. “For some spouses, the answer is entrepreneurship or teleworking, but this creates its own problems. We spoke with three military spouses about what it is like to find work, combining unpredictable schedules and childcare responsibilities.

“I had to have three different nannies”

“I believe that being a military man is still a privilege in my life,” says Maggie, who is now an entrepreneur. “But it’s really difficult.”

Maggie, who was a military wife for eight years, lived in more than seven states; her husband is usually away for about six months a year. She started her own company about three years ago with several technical roles. “One of the things that I found really great about being an entrepreneur is that it allowed me to have a high degree of flexibility,” she says.”But I wouldn’t say my story is necessarily typical.”

For military spouses like Maggie, who are parents, combining work with childcare is even more challenging, as their spouse may have to leave at any time. “It’s not just a business trip,” she says. “They’re out for weeks or months, and you can’t foresee when they’re going to leave or return home.” To prepare for a recent weekend work trip, Maggie had to put off the work of three nannies to take care of her four-month-old and two-and-a-half-year-old baby.

Yet many military spouses are drawn to jobs in, say, education or healthcare – roles that do not necessarily provide flexibility and require different licenses from the government. In families with two members of the military, Maggie says a woman is often able to give up an operational role. Despite the prevalence of telecommuting, Maggie hasn’t noticed much of a shift in spouses of servicemen working remotely. Military spouses have fewer opportunities, she said, especially if they work in areas such as nurses.“You don’t see many opportunities for highly skilled remote work,” she says. “Many communities are not necessarily centers of innovation. So how would you even establish a relationship to have such opportunities? “

While there are many initiatives now to help veterans recruit civilian employees, companies do not necessarily try to hire military spouses — in fact, they are often opposed to them.” kind of out of sight, out of sight, says Maggie.“People don’t remember that we are still in Afghanistan. They forget that deployment cycles still exist in these communities. ” She adds that hiring military spouses to work remotely would be beneficial for companies. “If companies are looking for people to fill certain types of remote positions, this will be an amazing community to connect to,” she says. “You would find a hungry workforce.”

For Maggie, the key motivation for starting her own business was the presence of women in her life, who showed her what her career could look like.It also helped that she co-founded a software company before becoming a military wife. “I think I had role models in other women who said, ‘There’s a way to deal with this,’” she says. “This was mainly due to the search for mentors. If a soldier’s wife wants to start something, there are ways to do it. ”

“Being a male spouse is another matter entirely. You’re a little out of the way. ”

David was a college basketball coach for 20 years.That all changed when he married a soldier four years ago. Since then, David and his family have lived in three different locations, and in a few months they will be moving from North Carolina to Washington, D.C. “These [coaching] positions are pretty limited,” he says. “It’s not like I’m a lawyer or a mechanic – jobs can be found anywhere in the world.”

David struggled to find a professional coaching job that was close enough to his family and his wife.When he applied to be a junior college sports director, he went through the last round of interviews and then didn’t get a job, in part because he believed he was a military spouse, so he now works remotely part-time at a company that founded by a friend of his who hosts the college basketball tournament in Jamaica. (In general, he says, the military spouses he knows work remotely.)

“I could live anywhere in the world with my phone and computer,” he says.He admits that he could have taken a very different type of job if something in the field of coaching was not a suitable option. “If I wanted to get a job at Kinko’s or something, I’m sure I could do that kind of work,” he says. “But something in the professional field is a little more complicated.”

It was also important for David and his wife that one of them stay at home with his children, since they had a new daughter two months ago. “You can’t miss the time you could spend with your kids,” he says.“I was there every day with my daughter and luckily I found something where I can still work from home, be with the kids and make it work.” He notes that when you come from a military family, you also cannot rely so much on family support. “The chances of you living with your family are very small,” he says. (Last year, when David had to fly to Jamaica for work, his wife was also involved; they had to ask her aunt and uncle to stay with the kids for a week.)

As a male spouse, David sometimes feels that he is not always included in community of military spouses.Many spouses tend to work in pink collars, such as nurses and teachers, or run small businesses outside the home, he said. When job opportunities arise, they often target women; For example, some of the workshops offered to military spouses teach them how to start a successful Avon business. “Being a male spouse is a completely different matter,” he says. “There are groups on Facebook, but it feels like you’re the only man. They will write, “Hey ladies, this is an opportunity that is perfect for us,” but you don’t really qualify.So you will be expelled a little. ”

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. 90,000 Mysterious behavior of cats | Blogger santamarra on SPLETNIK.RU 21 June 2016

The most charming character in Mikhail Bulgakov’s mystical novel The Master and Margarita is undoubtedly a cat named Behemoth. So the author himself thought. Cats are mysterious creatures that live next to us. The Egyptians revered them as sacred animals, considering them to be representatives of the royal family.
It was believed that cats are under the protection of the sun god Ra and the goddess of joy Bastet, who were sometimes shown in feline form. From Egypt, cats came to Europe, retaining their regal status. And they took root in our homes, distinguished by their independence of behavior. “It walks by itself,” people say about the cat. Meanwhile, cats are much smarter than we think about them, they have the foresight of catastrophes, they save people in fires, they catch thieves no worse than dogs, they can take revenge if they are offended, and even… influence our destinies.

In Egypt, a cat was more expensive than a person

The history of domestic cats begins in Ancient Egypt, where they were in great esteem. The Egyptians deified cats so much that if there was a fire in the house, it was not the child or the woman who was saved in the first place, but the divine creation – the cat. And the cat lived without fail in every home. If the cat died of old age or died from an accident, the owners shaved off their eyebrows as a sign of mourning, and the deceased was embalmed with great honors.Needless to say, killing a cat was considered the most serious crime. This was extremely rare in Egypt. The cat killer faced severe punishment, up to and including the death penalty. However, cats turned out to be really mysterious and not so simple – their worship led the Egyptians to sad consequences. The Persian king conquered Egypt, ordering his soldiers to tie cats to their shields. The Egyptians did not dare to raise their hand against the sacred animals and surrendered without a fight. The history of Egypt took a different path – they were conquered by the Arabs.For a very long time, cats were not known outside the country, the export of pussies from Egypt was strictly prohibited, under the threat of death. But even then there were smugglers and … cats appeared in Europe.

Cat’s revenge

In the Middle Ages in Europe, the descendants of the Egyptian gods of the feline kind had a hard time. The sorcerers “loved” them in their own way. It was a real nightmare: how many witchcraft recipes began with the words “boil one black cat alive.” And besides, the Inquisition was zealous, destroying the unfortunate cats, if the poor fellows were destined to be born black.True, the knackers-sorcerers from the Inquisition got hard. And as a result, in the Middle Ages in Europe, black cats were practically bred, but black cats with a white speck appeared in a variety of cats. After all, cats have always been smarter than humans and quickly figured out what’s what. But then they were deeply offended by the people and … a plague broke out in Europe. Cats stopped catching rats, namely rats and became the main carrier of this terrible scourge of humanity. So it’s dangerous to quarrel with the cat tribe!

Favorite prophet Mohammed

But in the East, cats lived freely.True, they were not considered sacred, as in Egypt, but there was no persecution against them, as in Europe. The Prophet Muhammad loved cats very much, and respected their peace so much that when a cat fell asleep on his dressing gown and it was time for him to pray, he cut off the floor so as not to disturb the peace of a mustachioed royal person. It is still believed that the Prophet Muhammad marked especially beloved cats by drawing the letter “M” on their forehead – the capital letter of his name. Cats with this mark are the descendants of the beloved cats of Mohammed.

Cats are not accidental

We often don’t think about why we decide to have a cat in the house on a certain day and hour.But this does not happen by chance and is connected with our destiny. Here is an excerpt from a letter from our reader Elena K. from Moscow: “The thought occurred to me that the appearance and disappearance of cats and cats in our life is not accidental. This is an omen. My cat died on the eve of my wedding. I still don’t know what that would mean. Around the same time, they killed two cats, which were looked after by the mother of my then-future husband. When my grandmother returned home after my grandfather’s funeral, a cat was sitting under her door, which somehow (especially with its eyes) looked like my grandfather.She named him after her grandfather. A friend’s cat died on her eighteenth birthday. A colleague’s cat died on the eve of the birth of her child. Do you think there is any sense in all this, or I have too much imagination? By the way, in fact, they were all cats, not cats. ” And the reader Svetlana S. from St. Petersburg writes: “My friend’s cat died, she was terribly worried, she cried for a long time. Soon she discovered that she was pregnant, and before that she could not get pregnant for many years. She truly believes this is not a coincidence.It was a cat. ” Anastasia L. from Bryask writes: “I noticed here that as soon as I have such events ….. such ….. life-determining, it must somehow affect the cats. All of a sudden, every week the cat gets sick and dies … “.
According to magicians and astrologers, cats take away part of the family’s negative karma, thus atoning for our sins. Therefore, the death of our domestic cats and cats saves us from atonement for these offenses. The souls of the dead can move into cats.The grandfather, mentioned in Elena’s letter, loved his wife very much and was worried about how she would live when he died. After his death, his soul could move into a cat to be near his beloved. In addition, cats are known to be directly related to procreation. After all, it is not for nothing that the fertility of cats, along with the fertility of rabbits, has become a proverb, and even a reveler man, weak “to female”, is popularly called “the March cat”.
Do not kick out the cats, they will leave when they want!
The departure of cats is as mysterious as their appearance in the family.If the cat is kicked out, trouble will come. But you can love your mustachioed friend very much, and not deny him anything, and one fine day when his “X-hour” comes, he will leave home. These are the “revelations” about this we found on the Internet:
“A cousin told me: her niece was in pain, severe pains in her head. She had a black cat. And in the morning the girl is asleep, and the cat keeps trying to lie on her head. The girl’s mother drives him away that she did not interfere with her daughter’s sleep. And he is not in any. But, you see, the mother won: she drove the cat out.And during the day the girl got worse. She fell down and that’s it … In the morgue, she was all blue, swollen. Before the funeral, the cat diligently washed his face every day. At the funeral, all the blue and swelling disappeared, she lay as if she were just sleeping.
But in vain the mother drove the cat away. Oh, in vain … “
“He was a native creature and had a wonderful relationship with him, so why did he leave? Sometimes it seemed to me that when we were not at home he was reading books on the sly, or he was somehow odd, he was all-understanding, they were amazed … ”

Werewolf Cat

Our reader Alexander T.from Kaluga: “I saw it with my own eyes. Clear day. Road. There are no cars. A cat comes up, sits on the side of the road and looks. First to the left, then to the right. There are no cars. Is sitting. A car appears. Sits, looks at the car. Follows with a glance. He continues to sit. So two more cars pass by. Follows with a glance. He continues to sit. Zhiguli appears. Looks. It gets up about 100 meters before the car, but does not cross the road. There were about ten meters left. I started to cross the road, but I looked at the Zhiguli. It felt like it was taking aim.And for sure! Like a trained dog under a tank, so this cat jumped right under the front wheel. The car passed, the cat jumped up and, meowing, disappeared into the bushes on the other side of the road. No body was found in the bushes. Was it a werewolf? ”
Pompeii died because there were no cats!
Cats have an amazing foresight of catastrophes and disasters. It is known that before earthquakes or volcanic eruptions, they are the first to leave their homes. It happened in 1944 – Vesuvius volcano again “spoke” to Italy.The last eruption of Vesuvius before this incident happened 80 years ago, and then no one was afraid of an extinct volcano. Two old men were sleeping peacefully in their house, and only their cat Toto could not calm down. He did not eat and did not want to stay in the house. At night, he began to scratch the owner’s face. The wife persuaded her husband to leave home, taking the cat’s behavior as a sign of fate. In the end, he agreed. The old men loaded the essentials onto a cart, took the cat and went to the wife’s sister, who lived in a place inaccessible to lava.An hour later, Vesuvius exploded, their house was blown away by a stream of lava. Historians believe that if cats lived in Pompeii, an ancient city that flourished at the beginning of our era at the foot of Mount Vesuvius, none of the inhabitants of the city would have died – they would have simply been taken out of the city by cats. But then there were no cats in Europe.

Cats know the future

Unlike most people, cats can foresee the future! Barney the cat lived in the north of England and loved to doze on TV. He usually lay down on his couch when the TV was turned on, and got off it only after the TV was turned off.However, one evening, he woke up, got off the TV, looked at the screen for a while, and then with a decisive step went to the door and demanded to release it. After a while, the kinescope exploded, filling the entire room with shards of glass. The cat learned that an explosion would occur a few minutes before the explosion.
During the war, the British suffered greatly from German bombing. People died because no one could know when they would start. Nobody … except cats! A black and white cat named Sally, who lived in wartime near the London docks, has developed its own system for alerting the owners of the danger.When she felt that the bombing was about to begin, she ran to the counter in the hall where the gas mask hung and pounded on it with her paws, and then rushed to the hostess and meowed. Then she ran to the bomb shelter. Once, when the hostess was already in the shelter, the cat rushed to the neighbors and began to meow, attracting attention. And only when everyone went down to the bomb shelter, she curled up into a ball and fell asleep peacefully.

Timofey the Firefighter

How Reasonable Are Cats? Most likely, we do not underestimate their abilities.Cats not only know what is going to happen and where, but also understand what needs to be done and how to help people. It happened in the city of Lebedin, Sumy region. On the night before Christmas, the owners of the Angora cat Timofey went to bed without turning off the electric oven. The fire started. In the morning, the fire engulfed the entire apartment. Timofey smelled smoke. With a loud meow, he grabbed the owner’s hair and began to pull him out of bed. Waking up, the owner called the firefighters. If it weren’t for the cat, four family members would have been burned to death.In appearance, this beefy cat does not look very much like an Angora, rather, a mixture of a striped Persian with an Angora or Siberian, but he is very cute, although his muzzle is gloomy. Timofey was awarded a medal and a box of canned fish for his courage in the fire. A similar story happened earlier in New York. The cat’s owner and his flatmate, both elderly retirees, were fast asleep when the fire started. At first, the cat simply screamed deafeningly, when it did not help, it simply began to slap the owner in the face with a paw.He woke up, woke up the neighbor, and everyone managed to leave the house. The cat was awarded a medal, however, the Americans did not give her canned food. Cooperdies!

Who is the boss?

Cats consider themselves the owners of the house and do not tolerate objections in this matter! A farmer from South Africa introduced an iron discipline in his house: he allowed his cat to sleep only where he himself established a place for this and fed her by the hour, but not more. When the limit of patience of the mustachioed friend of the farmer came to an end, she took revenge on him rather severely.One evening he left a pile of dirty clothes on the bathroom floor, and in the morning he remembered that he had left his favorite fountain pen in his shirt pocket. When he reached in there, he pulled out … a dead viper. The owner was in shock. And when he came to his senses, he figured out what was the matter. It turned out that the cat had killed the viper, played with it and left it in the owner’s shirt so that he knew who was really the boss in the house.

The offender was detained by six cats

Guard dogs are recognized as the best house guards.Meanwhile, cats are the true guardians of the family hearth and protectors of the home. After all, they are on “good terms” even with brownies, which cannot be said about dogs! And they can smell thieves a mile away. A resident of Saransk, a great lover of nature, kept 6 cats, 16 parrots and 1 hamster at home. She went on vacation, leaving all the living creatures for a neighbor. The thief showed up at night. As soon as the unfortunate man approached the cabinet with the equipment, how … you would not wish the same on the enemy! -All six cats jumped down on him with a wild howl, tearing the face and clothes of the unfortunate thief to shreds.The parrots woke up and started yelling, a neighbor came running, rescued the criminal and helped the cats to detain him. The perpetrator turned out to be a dangerous repeat offender. Now it will not be cats that will punish him, but our justice.

The cat killed his rapist stepfather

What do cats understand about our life, about the complexities of family relationships? It turns out, how everyone understands! A cat named Shadow killed his mistress’s stepfather. He raped the girl when she was 7 years old, and constantly bullied her for several years.She did not dare to complain to anyone, because the bastard threatened her that he would kill the cat. Shadow hated his stepfather, and when he appeared, the cat’s fur stood on end. One day, when a drunken stepfather once again tortured the girl on the board for several hours, the cat was apparently lying under the bed. Then this bastard threw the girl out the door and locked himself from the inside. The cat stayed with him. After some time, when the alarm was sounded, the door was broken open and they saw a man with a torn throat. At his feet lay a cat with a bloody muzzle.The police wanted to shoot him, but after hearing the story of his stepdaughter, they acquitted the beast. In addition, according to the recommendations of everyone who knew the cat, he never bit or scratched a person.

Cats smell someone else’s misfortune for tens of miles

Rescue cats show miracles of clairvoyance. They live peacefully until they suddenly sense trouble for tens of kilometers and rush to help. How do they know about the misfortune? Unknown.
One night, an English family picked up a freezing cat on their porch.He recovered his strength and stayed in the house. They named him Slowley Cat (Slow Cat). He went outside every evening, but returned home after a few minutes. And once he did not return. It was very cold, twelve degrees below zero, and the worried owners went to look for him. They searched for him all night and only in the morning they saw an old bag near the house. The cat climbed out of it, looked at the owners and dived back. In the bag was a tiny boy, whom the cat warmed with his body all night. The child was rescued in the hospital.
Tom the cat and Stick the cat were born on an English farm. Tom grew up to be a very beautiful and courageous cat. Sticky was a skinny and fearful cat. They were very friendly. Later, their owner was forced to move and could only take one cat with her. She gave the cat to her sister. One morning Tom’s owner noticed that the cat was very worried. He could not find a place for himself. The hostess called her sister, and she, in tears, said that Sticky was missing. Neighbors said they saw several teenagers chasing a distraught cat with fear.The owner of Tom immediately went to her sister and did not even notice at first that the cat jumped into the car. When they reached the city, the cat jumped out of the car and rushed down the street, not paying attention to the cries of the owner. But at the corner he stopped and turned to her, waiting for her. She called her sister, and they ran after the cat. He went through a maze of streets, absolutely not counting, and ran to a vacant lot. There he began violently clawing at a large jute sack tied with a rope, which suddenly moved. There was Sticky! It is impossible to explain how the cat learned about the fate of his sister and found her in a strange city.

Traditional healers

Cats have an amazing ability to identify sore spots in people and can heal them. Angora purebred cat for three months cured his little mistress from enuresis – every night he lay down on her stomach. There are many such cases. Tatyana V. from Kaliningrad writes that she got rid of the migraine – every night the cat came to her bed and lay down on her .. forehead.

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