Does penis size really matter to women. What do women actually think about penis size. How important is size compared to other factors in sexual satisfaction. What is the ideal penis size according to women.

The Penis Size Debate: What Women Really Think

The question of whether penis size matters to women has long been a topic of debate and curiosity. To get to the bottom of this issue, we surveyed 20 women to share their honest thoughts on penis size and its importance in sexual satisfaction. Their responses reveal some surprising insights that challenge common assumptions.

Key Findings from Women’s Responses

• Most women said technique and overall compatibility matter more than size
• Many expressed a preference for average-sized penises for long-term relationships
• Extremely large penises were often seen as intimidating or potentially painful
• Girth was frequently mentioned as being more important than length
• Skill, foreplay, and emotional connection were cited as crucial factors

The Importance of Technique Over Size

A recurring theme in women’s responses was that a man’s sexual technique and overall skill as a lover are far more important than his penis size. As one respondent put it, “There’s no skill without a tool and even the best of tools are useless without skill.” Many women emphasized that knowing how to use what you have matters more than size alone.

So what constitutes good technique? Some key elements include:

• Focusing on foreplay and building arousal
• Being attentive to a partner’s reactions and needs
• Using a variety of stimulation beyond just penetration
• Maintaining good communication during sex
• Having confidence and enthusiasm

The “Goldilocks” Effect: Not Too Big, Not Too Small

Interestingly, many women expressed a preference for penises in the average size range, especially for long-term relationships. Extremely large penises were often described as intimidating or potentially painful. As one woman noted, “It can’t be a Cheetos chip but no, size doesn’t really matter unless it’s a really big dick. That scares me.”

On the other hand, very small penises were sometimes seen as potentially limiting. The ideal for many women seemed to be what we might call a “Goldilocks” penis – not too big, not too small, but just right.

What is Considered “Average” Penis Size?

Research has found that the average erect penis length is between 5.1 and 5.5 inches (13-14 cm). Average girth is between 4.5 and 4.9 inches (11.5-12.5 cm) in circumference. This puts the oft-cited “6 inch” penis actually above average.

Girth vs Length: Which Matters More?

When discussing penis size, many people focus primarily on length. However, several women in our survey specifically mentioned girth (circumference) as being more important than length for sexual pleasure. As one respondent stated, “Possibly girth more than length. How they wield it is also important.”

Why might girth be more significant? The vagina has the most nerve endings concentrated in the outer third of the canal. A thicker penis may provide more stimulation to these sensitive areas during penetration. However, as always, individual preferences vary.

The One Night Stand Factor

An interesting distinction arose between preferences for casual encounters versus long-term relationships. Some women indicated that for a one night stand, a larger penis might be more exciting or novel. However, for a long-term partner, average size was often preferred for comfort and ease of reaching orgasm.

This suggests that the context and nature of the sexual relationship can influence size preferences. What’s ideal for a brief fling may differ from what works best in an ongoing intimate partnership.

Body Compatibility and Individual Fit

Several women noted that their own body size and anatomy played a role in their size preferences. As one petite woman shared, “I am a short person, so for me a big penis is a little difficult.” This highlights the importance of physical compatibility between partners.

Just as people’s bodies come in all shapes and sizes, so do vaginas. What feels comfortable and pleasurable can vary greatly from person to person. Finding a good fit between partners is often more important than adhering to any universal ideal size.

Beyond Size: Other Crucial Factors for Sexual Satisfaction

While our survey focused on the penis size question, many women took the opportunity to emphasize other factors they consider far more important for sexual satisfaction. These included:

• Emotional connection and intimacy
• Chemistry and attraction
• Communication and attentiveness
• Confidence and body positivity
• Willingness to experiment and be playful
• Overall hygiene and grooming

As one woman succinctly put it, “Skill, foreplay, and emotional connection were crucial factors.” This serves as an important reminder that satisfying sex is about much more than any single physical attribute.

Debunking Penis Size Myths and Insecurities

The responses from women in our survey largely serve to debunk many common myths and insecurities surrounding penis size. Here are some key takeaways:

Myth: Bigger is Always Better

Reality: Most women prefer average sizes and may find very large penises uncomfortable.

Myth: Small Penises Can’t Satisfy Women

Reality: Skill, technique, and overall intimacy matter far more than size alone.

Myth: All Women Want Huge Penises

Reality: Preferences vary greatly, with many women favoring average sizes.

Myth: Penis Size is the Most Important Factor in Sex

Reality: Emotional connection, chemistry, and overall technique are generally considered more crucial.

For men who may feel insecure about their size, these insights from real women should offer reassurance. The fixation on penis size is often more in men’s minds than women’s.

Enhancing Sexual Satisfaction Beyond Size

Given that size is just one small factor in overall sexual satisfaction, what are some ways partners can enhance their intimate experiences? Here are some suggestions based on women’s feedback:

1. Focus on foreplay and building arousal before penetration
2. Explore different positions to find what works best for both partners
3. Use sex toys or aids for added stimulation
4. Practice open communication about desires and preferences
5. Work on building emotional intimacy and trust
6. Stay attentive to your partner’s reactions and needs
7. Be confident and enthusiastic regardless of size

Remember, every individual and couple is unique. The key is to explore and discover what brings you and your partner the most pleasure and satisfaction.

The Bottom Line on Penis Size and Sexual Satisfaction

After analyzing the responses from our survey of 20 women, as well as considering broader research on the topic, we can draw some clear conclusions about the penis size debate:

• Size does matter to some degree, but it’s far from the most important factor
• Most women prefer average-sized penises, especially for long-term relationships
• Technique, skill, and overall intimacy matter much more than size alone
• Individual preferences vary greatly – there’s no one-size-fits-all ideal
• Emotional connection and chemistry are crucial for sexual satisfaction
• Men’s insecurities about size are often unwarranted

Ultimately, the takeaway for both men and women should be to focus less on size and more on overall sexual compatibility, communication, and intimacy. As one survey respondent wisely noted, “What difference does it make, they’re not gonna change their size.” Instead of worrying about physical attributes we can’t control, we’re better served by developing our skills as lovers and nurturing strong connections with our partners.

Moving Beyond the Size Fixation

The cultural obsession with penis size has arguably done more harm than good, creating unnecessary anxieties and insecurities. By listening to what women actually say about the topic, we can begin to shift the conversation in a healthier direction.

Instead of fixating on measurements, consider asking questions like:

• How can I be a more attentive and skilled lover?
• What can I do to make my partner feel more comfortable and aroused?
• How can we improve our emotional intimacy and communication?
• What new techniques or experiences might we explore together?

These are the types of questions that lead to truly satisfying and fulfilling sexual relationships. At the end of the day, connection, compatibility, and mutual pleasure matter far more than any number on a ruler.

As we move forward, let’s strive to create a culture of body positivity, open communication, and focus on overall sexual wellness rather than arbitrary physical ideals. By doing so, we can all enjoy healthier, more satisfying intimate relationships regardless of size.

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20 Women Talk About Whether Or Not Penis Size Matters

We have always been confused if or not size matters for women. We have also wanted to figure out what women need to satisfy their sexual needs. It’s time to toss away another myth, though it is not so much a myth but a perception. We figured the best way to get an answer is to ask women themselves. 

Most men are curious to know what is women’s take on the ideal penis size. Most women had the same reaction when asked- they said, “what difference does it make, they’re not gonna change their size”. Maybe men can’t change their penis size (unless enhancements are up to their alley), but they can definitely change their technique, so size actually doesn’t matter and we don’t mean just small penis size here. Most women face issues with big penises too.

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In a poll carried out recently, the tally revealed that women preferred a small to average penis size in men they see themselves long term with, since reaching orgasm was comfortable and possible with an average sized penis. It was also revealed that women preferred a big penis during a one night stand to stimulate nerve endings in their vagina, instead of making an orgasm their ultimate goal.

So trying to put an end to this eternal confusion we asked 20 women to reveal what their ideal penis size is and if size mattered more than the technique and this is what they had to say (results in the end).

Sanya, 27

I mean it can’t be a Cheetos chip but no, size doesn’t really matter unless it’s a really big di*k. That scares me but if the guy makes me comfortable, then it’s all cool.

Sanjana, 28 (name changed)

Yes, size matters. There’s no skill without a tool and even the best of tools are useless without skill. I met a guy who sprung up with his 7.5 inches. I wanted to run. Because there is only so much your body can take. Besides, he was kind of behaving like an ogre, if you know what I mean.

The I also met one with a 5 inch one (I think) he got the skill right but I think there was room for more. So, the length and girth. Possibly girth more than length. How they wield it is also important. But yes, size matters. Not much you can do with an earthworm and a fist-ish will most definitely destroy you.

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Ritika, 30

It actually depends on a lot of factors. I am short person, so for me a big penis is a little difficult. I mean not because it has problems finding its way but it hurts in the, “you’re hurting my stomach kinda way”. If it’s too small, it gets lost in my pubes. So I prefer an average size that gets the ‘job’ done.

Gia, 32

My ex had a small one but his girth was just about right. It was thick. So even though his penis didn’t extend more than 5 inches (when it was hard), the girth made it possible for me to climax. Plus he had these moves that compensated for his size. Small penises aren’t bad at all if the man knows how to use it.

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Garima, 30 (name changed)

Both actually. but technique more than size. If you don’t know how to make love to a woman, you will not make her orgasm even with the biggest dick in the world. Having said that, even the most skilled lover might fall short of pleasing their woman, if they are too small.  

Most women do not orgasm from penetration, proving technique (foreplay and much more) is more important than size. Also, if size was more important than technique, penis enhancement procedures and condoms would have been more popular than articles telling men how to make women orgasm.

Preeti, 36

One guy was just too big for me. That’s the day I realised big penises mean shit, actually. He probably didn’t know what to do with it himself and he kept ramming me like hitting the bottom of a sauce bottle, to get it to come out. I could feel his whole body inside me. Size does matter and big penises are hard to figure! I prefer average and technique.

Vrinda, 30 (name changed)

I have had a range of sizes and in my experience, skill compensates for the lack of size, any day. Also, size or no size, the quality of sex or what a guy does with a woman in the sack depends largely on what he feels for her or how generous or selfish he is in bed. Big di*k’s, small di*k’s: orgasms have more to do with the effort men make to get their ladies off sometimes, instead of just the length and girth of their little man.

Nandini, 25

This one guy I was with kept showing his big penis off. His words “look at this big di*k. does it turn you on”? And it really didn’t turn me on because he kept showing off. It was like all talk and no action. He wasn’t good in bed at all. So no, penis size has nothing to do with how good or bad the sex is.

Maampi 24 (name changed)

I think both size and technique matter because there are some women who like crazy fetishes and want their guys to give them complete pleasure in bed. So if you look at it, technique is equally important and foreplay is a must. Eventually, of course size does matter.

Aashna, 33

This guy’s penis was actually the size of a chap stick. I couldn’t even feel him inside me! It was bad. I feel bad saying this because he’s a nice guy and he tried real hard but I prefer a big one I guess.

Pratichi, 26

I think men with big dicks are way more confident and you can see that confidence ooze out while in bed with them. So even if you don’t climax, they give you a good time.

Megha, 33

For me it’s not about size. If a man can give me some good loving, I absolutely have no qualms about how big or small his penis is. Also FYI, a penis is not the only way to make a girl cum!

Tamanna, 28

I don’t want a thumb for a penis size! Other than that size, any other is just about fine.

Mainika, 24

I have no issues with size. I just don’t want to see a bent penis! Yes, they exist and it freaks me out. Other than that, if the man is big or small really doesn’t matter. All that matters is how he uses his tool.

Ragini, 30 (name changed)

Size, definitely. There’s no such thing as bad sex, actually, except when there’s no sensation. Which is what happens if it’s too small. You don’t even feel it. What’s the point in that? But, if the guy well-endowed, then he doesn’t need to work very hard, and neither do you.

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Apeksha, 38

In my experience with men, I’ve come to realise size is not too important. I have been with a lot of men, with different shapes and sizes. If the penis is too big, it barely does the work but still satiates you. If it’s too small, the guy compensates that with his extraordinary moves. So size really isn’t the question as much as technique is. Guys really shouldn’t be insecure with their size. If they tank in bed because of bad technique, that’s something of concern.

Malini, 30

I have a petite frame and I think guys with big di*ks are overrated. Average vagina’s are only 3-4 inches deep, so if a big penis man penetrates that, he can only come halfway through. It’s quite a waste. Besides, it becomes quite painful to take in a big penis for someone as petite as me. My vote is for an average sized penis, any day!

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Malvika, 29 (name changed)

Although, a vagina can expand almost 200% of its average depth, a mighty huge penis can’t reach the clit properly for an orgasm. Average sized penises usually find their way hassle free. A big penis might be good to look at and a great ego boost for a man but they fall short to make ends meet, if you know what I mean. I have been with men who’ve sprung out their 5 inch di*ks at me and have used them very well!

Richa, 27 (name changed)

Technique for me, always. Size doesn’t matter!

Priya, 25

As long as I don’t have to ask if it’s in, I am happy!

Naintara,32

When I think about the good sex I have had and the bad sex I have had, the two experiences have no correlation with penis sizes, whatsoever! So I’d say, size doesn’t matter!

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Results:

Size does not matter as much as technique does: 7

I like big penises: 6

Average sized penis does the trick: 5

I am okay with a small sized penis: 2

So, in this expansive study, women mostly supported technique to be the genesis of making women reach orgasm. The size of the penis matters but not as much as to make her reach climax. A lot of women may like big penises but more than the length the girth matters. The right girth and penis size can do wonders for women and of course, good technique plays a vital role in doing so too. Otherwise, most women prefer average Indian male, with an average sized penis, wins the lucky draw!

A British therapist explained whether penis size should be worrying about

Even before Sigmund Freud, the world could hardly do without discussing a juicy topic: the size of a man’s penis did not leave in peace, probably, both rulers and simple male workers. But the shame from the discussion did not allow me to look at everything honestly and openly. Here are the main factors to consider.

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The simple answer given by many girls and biologists is no, “what you do with your organ matters. ” However, some men still firmly believe that their penis is not big enough and that if they had a bigger penis, they would be better lovers. Charlotte Simpson, an accredited psychosexual therapist and relationship consultant with a private practice in North West London, has dotted all the i’s so that men can finally become more confident and not worry about their penis.

Measuring the penis will not change the size, so ask yourself why measure it? If you find out that your penis is in the “mid range”, will that assuage your fears? What will you do if you find that it is actually less than average? Unfortunately, many men try to increase the size of the penis with the help of various interventions, which can be invasive, expensive, but the person’s sense of self will still not change. The solution, most likely, will be a change in attitude towards yourself and your penis, in other words, you need to learn to love what you have.

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Average penis size and girls’ opinions

Studies show that the average adult’s penis is about 13 cm long when erect (meanwhile, about 45% of men think their penis is too small). Some studies show that men place more importance on size than their women. As a rule, it is more important that the partner be gentle and caring. So, not only penis size, but also knowing how your partner likes to be touched and caressed contributes to better sex.

The belief that the priority is the penetration of a giant penis is not quite close to reality. In fact, for women, most of the pleasant sensations do not come from inside the vagina, but outside, in the clitoris, where the most sensitive parts of the female body are located. By the way, during intercourse, the woman’s vagina adapts to the partner’s penis, deepening, expanding, and vice versa. Some note that a smaller penis is often preferable for oral and anal sex.

Ownership of the penis

Psychosexual therapist Charlotte Simpson’s advice: make friends with your penis. If you see the penis as your enemy, always letting you down and embarrassing you, then you won’t be able to form positive feelings about your body and sexual relationships. Think about what conditions can improve the performance of your penis: sobriety, sufficient and proper stimulation, proper nutrition, sports are a few influencing factors.

If you are overweight, try to get rid of it with a healthy diet and regular exercise. Not only will you feel better, but your penis will also appear larger without being surrounded by fat. Some men find that removing pubic hair makes their penis more visible.

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Worrying about the size of your penis can lead to erection problems. Good sex is all about being comfortable and relaxed, focusing only on the physical sensations you are having with your partner. You may have a smaller than average penis, but that shouldn’t stop you from having relationships and having good sex. Like all parts of the body, penises come in many shapes and sizes.

When upright, many of them have a natural curve and point in different directions. Pornography is a common source for comparing one’s size and one’s sex life. Given that male porn actors are often hired for their extraordinarily large penises, comparing your body to theirs is not relevant, and certainly won’t make you feel better. It is worth considering that porn films are always staged and have little in common with real sexual contact.

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Biologists from different countries have found out how the ideal of male beauty looks from the point of view of the fair sex. At the same time, scientists figured out how this point of view influenced the process of evolution of the male genitalia.

A study published in the journal PNAS states that women carefully evaluate the size of a man’s penis when choosing a partner, while the masculinity of the body and broad shoulders do not play such an important role.

Researchers tested women using questionnaires and drawings. 105 straight Australian women were shown computer images of male bodies that differed from each other in three dimensions: height, shoulder-to-hip ratio and penis length. There were 53 images in total.

The results showed that most women prefer tall men with a large shoulder-to-hip ratio and a long penis. But here it is impossible to say “the bigger, the better,” since the penises, the size of which greatly exceeded the average, were not considered attractive by the subjects.

The lead author of this study, biologist Brian Mautz of the University of Ottawa, believes that women have a certain ceiling in their preferences regarding the penis of their potential partner.

Scientists have calculated that the most attractive were those penises whose length ranged from 12.8 to 14.2 centimeters in a non-erect state. This figure is quite close to the average figure of 9 centimeters. At the same time, the preferences of women in the field of the male figure, apparently, are very far from reality.

The current conclusion of scientists contradicts a study conducted by William Masters (William Masters) and Virginia Johnson (Virginia Johnson) in 1966. Then these researchers said that for most women, penis size does not play any role in assessing male attractiveness.

Mautz and his colleagues believe that female preferences influenced sexual selection and could influence the evolution of male genital organs, because today, of all primates, humans have the longest and widest penis. Biologists tried to figure out what factors could influence the development of this organ, but came to the conclusion that more data is needed for this.