25 Easy Yet Effective Ways To Make Your Husband Happy

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Marriage is a beautiful institution that brings two people together. However, what keeps the two people together forever is an equal and constant effort. If you are beginning to feel that your husband is not being showered with the love he deserves, there are many ways in which you can make your husband happy and love you more.

So, if you think he’s been investing a lot into your relationship but you have been lagging behind, this article is for you. To ensure that your bond remains strong and your relationship keeps sailing smoothly, we bring you some foolproof tips on how to make your husband happy.

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Let’s be honest – most men aren’t very expressive. It can be hard to read when he needs some extra dose of love and attention. However, why wait for him to express?  You can make your husband happy when he seems sad or frustrated which will showcase that you know and understand him.

There are plenty of ways to make your husband feel loved. First of all, knowing him inside out is a great start already, and makes a valuable contribution to your marriage. You don’t want to reach a stage where you have to deal with an unhappy husband. To keep it exciting and fresh, below are 25 tips on how to make your husband happy and to make your marriage prosper:

1. Dress up, especially for him

It is one of the easiest things a person can do to make their husband happy. Make an effort to dress up nicely on occasion. Sometimes to spice things up, wear sexy clothes to attract him toward you so that he knows you have groomed yourself just for him. Do you remember how you used to dress up for your first dates? ( Hope you have that little black dress or that perfect gentleman’s suit handy…*wink wink*) 

Try and bring that spark, care, and excitement back through the way you dress. Take him somewhere that is special to the both of you where you can show off your love AND that outfit. How do you know your husband is happy? You just know that when he can’t take his eyes off you.

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2. Work on the romance to keep your husband happy

Who says romance has to die after marriage? Obviously, the weight of responsibilities buries that puppy love and dreamy romance. But that’s all the more reason to work hard in reigniting the sparks. That’s how you can make your husband happy and make him love you more.

Surprise him with a mid-week candlelight dinner, or leave handwritten notes all around the house for him to find. Romance doesn’t need to be extravagant. Small gestures of love are enough to make your husband feel special.

3. Prioritize your sex life

When family responsibilities increase and you have kids to look after, you tend to forget about your sex life. Keeping romance alive if you are living in a joint family can be all the more challenging. It’s not like your man needs your physical proximity at all times, but keeping your sex life interesting and happening will go a long way in strengthening your relationship. 

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On days when you are wondering – what can I do to make my husband happy – get into the bath together and light some aromatic candles. You can also take a sexcation, and read up on new positions and sex toys. Whether it is a small peck on the cheek, or fireworks between the sheets, maintaining physical intimacy is one of the best ways to make your man happy. 

4. Give him some personal space as well

Sure, he is your husband but you can’t refuse him his personal space and follow him everywhere — whether that’s literally or on social media. Keep note of the signs he needs some space and don’t bother him when he requires peace of mind. We all need to regulate our systems when it gets too overwhelming.

We have different thresholds for stress and different capacities for what we can take in a day. Remember that when he seems ‘distant’. Before you feel left out or rejected, try thinking about if he really is an emotionally distant spouse or just needs some good, old space at times in order to function better for his own sake and for yours. 

Your man may need some personal space

5. Book that special corner table

Romance doesn’t need a special occasion. You can make your husband happy and love you more by showing that his emotions matter to you. If you have been noticing that your partner is under stress, make him feel special by taking him out to his favorite restaurant. It will give you both a chance to communicate and your partner might end up sharing what’s on his mind. A good meal will not only help him relax, but the change of scenery and a loving spouse will also help him recharge. 

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6. Learn to cook his favorites 

It is rightly said that food is the way to a man’s heart. But if you have never been much of a chef, don’t worry. YouTube’s here. And so are various recipe books. If you have a foodie partner, toss up that perfect spaghetti with meatballs or carbonara pasta which he loves, and see him licking his fingers at the dinner table. There’s a strange satisfaction in making your husband happy with your cooking. 

“We were on a downhill path in our marriage. It was extremely unsettling to see someone you love looking lost. He used to cook for us all the time. That’s when I decided I’ll learn how to cook. It started as a whim but became a much-needed ritual for both of us. Now we even cook together and it’s given us that bridge back to our love that we were both looking for,” shares Ian, 35, who has been happily married to his partner for 6 years. 

7. Appreciate him for what he does for you

Sometimes, the simplest thing a spouse can do to make their husband happy is to appreciate him. Little or big — whatever he does for you, appreciate it. We forget to do that in long-term relationships. Even if you say a simple “thank you” sincerely, that will be enough for him. If you shower appreciation on your husband, he will know that you are noticing the efforts he is making to keep you happy.

8. Do not shy away from expressing your love

Occasionally, kiss him, hug him, or cuddle with him. Sometimes, you can even send cute texts to your man during the day to make him feel special. Sending him videos of songs special to both of you can be another way of expressing your love for him. Let him know that you are happy being married to him and you love him a lot. When he is far, send him a love letter or a sexy picture to show him how much you miss him. 

An old friend, Meryl, once shared with me the story of how her husband reminded her to be more vocal about her love. She said, “I remember when I recently told my husband that I love him a lot, he reacted with surprise. He told me that I hadn’t said it in so long, that it’s usually him who says it, and I just respond to it. That was a real eye-opener. I decided I must change things right away.” 

9. Exude positivity and happiness

This can only work if you are truly happy. ‘Fake it till you make it’  is not the strategy here. Sometimes, we tend to be grumpy in front of those we love the most and keep our smiles on for others. If that’s the case, change that. It is important to him that you are happy. If you are not, the whole home will be dull for him. Smile and greet him when you see him after work. It is something he will always look forward to.

You can make your husband happy when he is sad by simply keeping a positive environment in the house. If both of you are sad together, it doesn’t help anyone. Words of positive affirmation or a hug when he seems down can go a long way. Remember, you can only make a happy home as a happy spouse. 

10. Try to speak kindly

Talk in a kind and affectionate tone with your husband. Speak to him warmly and politely. Try to not speak loudly or in a rude tone. But this should be reciprocated with the same amount of politeness from your husband’s side as well. You should refrain from saying hurtful things to him, especially after a tiresome day as it is bound to make him upset.

If you’re both tired after a long day at work, it’s best to be honest, and tell him you’re tired and unable to muster the energy to communicate instead of snapping at him. Honesty helps manage expectations too.

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11. Cheer him up

If his work has been stressing him out lately, and you can see he’s been spending long hours at work, it’s time to make your husband feel special. He might feel dull and tired, but try to support him through his stress. 

Exchanging work stories is a great way to share your day. If you think there is financial stress in your relationship, ease that through honest conversations. In case he is upset about not getting that promotion or raise, just let him know you are always there to stand by him. You can even bring out that bottle of wine and suggest watching a movie he likes.

12. Respect his decisions

How do you know your husband is happy? Anyone who is in a relationship where there is mutual respect and support is a happy person. When he’s trying to work out for the future of the family, and planning finances or work accordingly, try to respect his decisions. If you disagree, express it gently and with curiosity instead of with dismissal and judgment. One of the keys to making your husband happy and love you more is to show that it is a marriage of equals. 

13. Be honest with him

If there is something that you do not like about him or there’s something else bothering you, try to talk to him about it. Lots of couples make communication mistakes and this is the major reason for an unhappy marriage and may even lead to a divorce. So, always try to be honest with each other and share your thoughts.

Many people are scared of this direct approach, which is understandable. All of us have different reactions toward conflicts and deal with them differently. At Bonobology, we offer professional help through our panel of licensed advisors who can help you embark on a path toward recovery. 

14. Try love letters and sticky notes

Rekindle the love and affection by writing love letters or small love notes to him. Slip them into his shirt pocket or other places where he can find them. These are the little things that can make your marriage stronger and will make him feel cherished by you. Leave sticky notes on the fridge, laptop, and TV and see the effect they have on him as they brighten up his day.

Your love notes can be sex-themed and they can build up through the day so he knows what to look forward to at night. These little notes could also include compliments like, “I value your presence in my life”, “I am so grateful that we met on <insert the date>!”, “You have the most beautiful smile I’ve seen”, and even “Let’s make out when we see each other next. ”

15. Take interest in his hobbies

If he likes to play a sport or dance, then join him in these activities. When you show interest in his hobbies, it will uplift his spirits and it will be a bonding activity for you both as well. Tara, an office colleague, once asked us, “What can I do to make my husband feel happy?” Another colleague gave an insightful answer to this. 

She said, “My husband loves playing tennis on Sundays. I didn’t. However, I wanted to spend more time with him on weekends so I started going with him. Now, we have an intense match every weekend and we look forward to that time for the whole week. It has made him so happy and also helped us unlock a new level of comfort in our relationship. He’s even started taking interest in the things I’m passionate about.”

16. Make his family your family

For him, his family is important. If you make an effort to form a bond with his family, you can instantly make your husband feel happy and love you more. There are many effective ways of dealing with your in-laws, like taking them out for dinner, getting them thoughtful gifts, calling them regularly to check in on them, and mingling with them whenever possible because your husband will really like and appreciate this. 

Keep in touch with his siblings and cousins, call them on special occasions, and give them gifts. He will be happy to know you care so much. You are now one of them, so he will appreciate your efforts toward his loved ones. 

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17. Do household chores together

Share the responsibility of household chores. Do not micromanage by telling him not to do this or that. Let him do his part, in his own little ways, and watch the satisfaction on his face. When he gets a chance to do his bit at home, he will feel more connected to you.

Try some fun recipes to cook together. It is always a great bonding experience for couples. So go grocery shopping together for some fancy ingredients and get cooking together. Set the table for a cozy candlelight dinner and see the magic happen. Now, this is how to make a husband happy and love you more.

18. Go for a vacation

Make your husband feel special by planning a random visit to a place he would love to go. Make all the arrangements for the trip and then give him a big surprise. This is bound to make him ecstatic and give him a well-deserved break from the usual activities, work, and humdrum of life. You can plan a vacation full of adventure and hikes, or a laidback one at a luxury destination. Get as creative as you want to ensure your man is relaxed and satisfied.

19. Spoil him with gifts

If he can buy you sexy lingerie, you can also get him sexy innerwear. Buy him some and see his reaction. Go with what he likes – the pops, the dots, the hearts – trust me, you are spoilt for choice. You can even ask him to model for you in his new outfit! In fact, he would love it if you buy him just any gift. Go ahead and pamper him with presents and treat your husband like a king.

20. Don’t try to change him 

Making comparisons between your partner and other men will only infuriate and annoy him. He will consequently become resentful and distant. You will drive your husband away from you if you try to shape him into the person you want him to be. Comparisons are one of the biggest unhappy marriage signs, so stop expecting your man to become like your friend’s husband because that is not the man you married. In order to make your husband happy and love you more, you need to show him that you love him for who he is. 

21. Don’t be a nagging spouse

Every husband’s biggest nightmare is a nagging spouse. You are misguided if you think that bugging your husband would make him a better person. Never pester him if you want to make him happy. You might have genuine issues up your sleeve which you wish to let him know about, but there’s a time, method, and tone that you need to keep in mind.

22. Don’t play the blame game 

A happy spouse makes a happy home. A happy spouse also doesn’t rush to accuse or blame their partner. Your husband might stumble or act carelessly, or he might forget to do something. When this occurs, be patient and don’t be harsh with him. Make him aware of his error and gently tell him a better way of doing something.

23. Don’t cling to minor problems 

Keep your mind off small irritations if you want to make your husband happy and love you more. Many marriages end in divorce for trivial reasons. Avoid exaggerating little concerns and turning them into major problems. Put it behind you and concentrate on the positive aspects.

24. Make your husband your best friend 

Most couples forget that beneath love and romance, the foundation of a relationship is friendship. Show him that he is your best friend. Have long gossip sessions, get goofy together, and play pranks on each other. Such things make a marriage more fun and sustainable.  

25. Most importantly, trust him

Trust in a relationship makes it stronger. Make sure you let your husband know that you trust him and that you will never break his trust, and expect the same from him. You will make your husband happy and love you more simply by believing him and not doubting him at every step.

If you both have been through a mutual deficit of trust for any reason, there are many ways to rebuild it. There are even trust exercises for couples to improve relationships. You can seek a therapist too. Many couples go through this, so don’t think you’re alone.

We assure you that the above-mentioned steps are simple to follow and can work their magic on your husband without any hassle. Do your bit and see how your marriage becomes a dream come true.

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23 ways to make your husband happy (complete guide)

You’ve probably heard the saying, “Happy wife, happy life. ”

But shouldn’t there also be a similar saying for husbands?

Because, obviously marriage is not going to work if you have a happy wife, but an unhappy husband.

It seems like a simple thing to make a husband happy.

But there’s a problem — and it’s called life.

If you’re like a lot of us, you’re probably struggling with work, taking care of kids and their activities, cleaning the house, and completing all of the endless chores and tasks that seem to spring up like weeds every single day.

By the time, we’re done taking care of our daily needs, it’s easy to forget that we need to spread a little sunshine and love towards our husband.

Fortunately, there are many ways you can make your husband happy. Some of them are small gestures; while others may take a bit more planning.

But in the long run, learning how to make your husband happy also has its benefits for you. Because when a husband is happy, he’s more likely to return your signs of affection.

But, first things first. Before you can learn how to make your husband happy, you need to learn your husband’s love language, so that you can communicate your feelings effectively to him.

Learn his love language

The best-selling book “The 5 Love Languages” describes the distinct ways people express and receive love. They are:

• Words of affirmation
• Quality time
• Receiving gifts
• Acts of service
• Physical touch

According to the book’s author Gary Chapman, problems can arise in a relationship when couples speak different love languages to each other.

For example, your husband’s love language might be acts of service. That means he expresses his affection by doing things for you.

He might change the oil in your car or build you a birdhouse.

But if your language of love is physical touch, you might not recognize his acts of service as signs that he loves you.

On the other hand, you may long for a gentle caress on the cheek that never comes because touching is not your husband’s language.

By learning your husband’s love language, you’ll be able to select the best ways to make your husband happy from the list below.

It’s also important to explain to your husband what your language of love is so that he can learn how to effectively communicate his affection towards you.

23 things you can do to make your husband happy

1. Be present for him

While you might spend time together each day, are you really there for each other? Are the two of you actually listening to what the other is saying? Or are you both staring at your phones, watching silly videos or answering emails?

Although you might not see the harm in taking a quick peek at your Instagram while your husband is talking, he might see that little glance down at your phone as a sign of disrespect and disinterest in what he has to say.

It’s also telling him that you value whatever is going on in the virtual world more than whatever it is he’s trying to communicate to you.

According to People, studies have shown that if a partner feels like they’re being ignored for a cellphone, it could lead to feelings of dissatisfaction with a relationship.

So, if you want to have a happy relationship with your husband, it may be time to put the phone down and/or turn the TV off and be fully present to each other as much as possible when you are together.

2. Make time for sex and romance

In today’s busy and fast-paced world, it can be difficult to set aside time for sex and romance. But being intimate and having sex, according to a recent study, is a key ingredient to a happy marriage.

Sexual chemistry can, in fact, be the glue that will hold a marriage together.

That’s why experts on relationships recommend that you set aside time on a regular basis for a date night.

And, yes, a date night may seem like an artificial way to create intimacy. But in the long run, if it brings you closer, it doesn’t matter how you do it, just do IT!

3. Trigger his hero instinct

If you want your husband to be happy, you must make your guy feel like your provider and protector, and someone you genuinely respect for what he does for you.

In other words, you have to make him feel like an everyday hero.

I know it sounds a bit silly. In this day and age, women don’t need someone to rescue them. They don’t need a ‘hero’ in their lives.

And I couldn’t agree more.

But here’s the ironic truth. Men do still need to be a hero. Because it’s built into their DNA to seek out relationships that allow them to feel like one.

Men have a thirst for your admiration. They want to step up to the plate for the woman in their lives and service, provide and protect her. This is deeply rooted in male biology.

And the kicker?

A man won’t be happy in his life when this thirst isn’t satisfied.

There’s actually a psychological term for what I’m talking about here. It’s called the hero instinct. This term was coined by relationship psychologist James Bauer.

How do you trigger his hero instinct?

There’s an art to doing this which can be a lot of fun when you know exactly what to do. But it requires a little more work than just asking him to fix your computer or carry your heavy bags.

The best thing you can do is watch this free online video. James Bauer reveals the very simple things you can do starting today to trigger this very natural male instinct.

When a man genuinely feels like your everyday hero, he’ll become more loving, attentive, and committed to your marriage.

Here’s a link to this excellent video again.

4. Do things to make him feel special

Take a moment each day to show your husband how much you love and appreciate him. Just make sure to use the love language he understands.

For example, if his love language is words of affirmation, he may not understand that you’re showing him love when you buy him his favorite ice cream at the store.

Instead, shower him with words of affirmation.

For example, tell him that he’s a great husband or father or that he’s sexy.

When you speak the right love language to your husband, you’re more likely to make him happy.

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5. Dress up just for him

You don’t have to wear heels and makeup all the time, but your husband is sure to appreciate it if you throw on some sexy lingerie to bed or wear a pretty dress to go out to dinner on date night.

Why? Because this will show him that you still care about your relationship and that you want to do something special just for him.

6. Be understanding of his personality type

When your husband comes home from work, does he have a hard time communicating?

Perhaps, the most you can get from him are a few grunts. This is when you’ll need to understand his personality type.

If he’s an introvert, for instance, he may really need downtime after work to decompress in silence.

Or, maybe, he’s the opposite.

He loves telling you all about his day, which means he’s probably an extrovert, who wants to spend time with you.

Understanding your husband’s personality type can be a key to a happier marriage.

For example, you’re less likely to feel hurt or annoyed if you realize that your introverted husband is not trying to avoid you when he comes home.

He just needs some alone time in order to recharge his internal batteries.

7. Don’t expect him to read your mind

Have you ever been mad at your husband because you believed he should have known or done something, but then he failed to live up to your expectations?

Maybe, you were feeling down, and you expected him to notice and comfort you. But he didn’t.

Or you were really hoping that he would throw you a party for a significant event in your life, but instead, he took you out to dinner. Now, you’re angry at him, and you’re both unhappy.

Unfortunately, these types of problems arise when you expect your husband to read your mind. He can’t.

While it would be wonderful if your husband could pick up instinctively on your needs and wants, studies have shown that men just aren’t very good at reading and decoding nonverbal cues.

So, if you want your hubby to be happy, stop expecting him to read your mind. Instead, be straightforward and verbalize what you are thinking or would like him to do.

8. Make him feel appreciated

We all want to feel as if we’re important and appreciated by those around us.

But after a while, it’s easy for husbands and wives to take each other for granted.

In fact, at some point in your marriage, you probably stopped telling each other thank you all of the things that you do for each other.

And when was the last time you expressed gratitude for having your husband in your life?

If it’s been awhile, take a moment to tell him that you love him and that — while you may not say it all the time — you really appreciate all that he does for you and your family.

Feeling appreciated is a big part of the hero instinct.

First coined by relationship expert James Bauer, the hero instinct is all about activating an innate drive that all men have — to feel respected, needed, and appreciated.

To learn more about how you can trigger this instinct with very little work on your part, watch this excellent free video by James.

9. Give one of his hobbies a whirl

Has your husband ever asked you to join him in an activity that he enjoys?

Perhaps, he loves golfing or skiing and has even offered to teach you the ins and outs of his favorite sport, so you could spend more time together.

Although it may not be your cup of tea, it would probably make him very happy if you were to at least try.

And who knows? You might just find that you enjoy this activity more than you thought you would.

10. Be understanding

Sometimes, it can be hard to relate to some of the things that upset your husband. Take sports, for instance.

You may think your husband is ridiculous when he mopes around the house after his favorite team loses a championship.

Or, perhaps, he’s angry about something that happened at his job that seems trivial to you.

Even though you may feel like your husband is being overdramatic or is making a big deal out of nothing, don’t make light of his feelings or — worse — dismiss them.

Instead, do something special to cheer him up.

Maybe, go out for a drink or watch a comedy together.

In the end, when everything has blown over, what he’s going to remember is that you were there for him when he was feeling blue.

11. Let things go

Few things will sink a marriage faster than partners who can’t forgive one another for mistakes and slights committed during the marriage.

But first, let us be clear. We’re not talking about the big transgressions, such as cheating and abuse. Instead, we’re talking about those small- to medium-sized annoyances that occur in any long-term relationship.

You know the ones. Like the time he forgot your anniversary or the way he leaves his dirty socks on the floor no matter how many times you tell him that this really bothers you.

Yes, your husband can be so aggravating, but dragging your anger and resentment with you through each day of your marriage is going to create a toxic environment.

One that will eventually kill off any happiness in your marriage.

So, what can you do?

Forgive, and let these small things go.

No one is perfect, including yourself. It’s also important to stop over-analyzing mistakes your husband has committed.

Yes, he may have forgotten your anniversary, but that doesn’t mean he doesn’t love you or that he’s an awful human.

According to the Los Angeles Times, men are not instinctively good at remembering important dates. So, let it go. Tell him you love him even if he’s forgetful.

He’ll appreciate your forgiving him. And both he and your marriage will be happier in the long run.

12. Don’t try to change him

One of the biggest mistakes women make in relationships is to try to change their partners.

They hint to their husbands that they would be perfect if they would just lose a few pounds.

Or they nag them to get a better job, even though their husbands are happy with their current employers.

When you’re always trying to change your husband, you’re sending a message to him that you don’t really like the person he is today.

It’s a sure way to make him feel unappreciated and unhappy. Besides, trying to change another person rarely works.

What does work? Changing yourself.

You may, for example, have to learn how to change your reaction to the flaws you see in your husband.

Or, maybe, you can turn your focus onto your own issues and the ways you can change to become a better person.

13. Ask his friends over

Does your guy enjoy spending time with his best buds?

Then, consider having a few of his friends and their spouses over for fun gatherings, such as a barbecue.

Keep it low-key, so that you and your hubby can sit back and relax with your guests.

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14. Spend time in the great outdoors with each other

Studies have shown that spending time outdoors can elevate a person’s mood.

So, if your husband has been feeling stressed out by his job or life in general, invite him to go on a walk, hike or a bike ride together.

According to Time, being outside can lower a person’s blood pressure, improve their mental health, reduce their stress levels, and lower their risk of heart disease and asthma.

In addition, exercising is also a natural way to treat anxiety and relieve stress.

15. Don’t disrespect him

You don’t have to agree with your husband 100 percent of the times, or even 50 percent of the times.

But what is important is that you are always respectful of one another when you disagree. That means there are no low blows when you argue, and you never belittle him or make him look bad in front of others.

And, of course, he should do the same for you.

16. Tell him you love him

Sounds obvious, right?

But when’s the last time you told him that you love him and really put your heart into it? If it’s been a while, make a point of looking him deep in the eyes and telling him, “I love you” in a way that shows you truly mean it.

17. Listen. I mean really listen.

There’s no getting around it. Communication really is the most important factor in making a relationship.

The biggest barrier to effective communication?

Not listening!

When there is a lack of understanding in a relationship, not listening properly is usually the culprit.

I know what you’re thinking. You think you are a good listener.

But oftentimes, that may not be the case. According to a study reported in Psychology Today, people tend to think they’re better listeners than they actually are.

And while it may be the case that you’re husband isn’t the good listener in the relationship, the truth is, if you listen properly to him, it’s much more likely he will do the same to you.

Why?

Because when he feels respected and valued in the relationship, he is less likely to act toxic in the relationship as well.

So trust me, try to listen to your husband and understand where he’s coming from. It will do your marriage the world of good.

Here are some tips to help you become a better listener to your husband:

– Put yourself inside the mind of your husband. He has a different life experience to you. Most likely, he needs to provide for you and your family. Perhaps he is sensitive about not earning enough.

– Pay attention to his body language. Men don’t typically communicate well with words, but you can usually get the message of what they’re feeling or saying by observing their body language. Is his arms crossed? Perhaps he is defensive. Is he not saying much but is whole body is turned open towards you? Perhaps he desperately wants to express himself fully to you but doesn’t know-how.

– When he does open up, make sure he knows he’s being understood. Repeat in your own words what he has told you (empathetic reflection).

– Acknowledge that you’re listening by nodding or saying “Uh-huh”.

– Summarize his comments when given the chance.

And don’t forget. When it comes to communication, it’s important to share your own feelings as well.

This is important for your husband because he’ll better understand what you’re feeling and where you’re coming from. He’ll know exactly where you stand.

Psychologist Barton Goldsmith Ph.D. explains why honesty is so important in a relationship:

“What honesty gives you is a great deal of comfort. Knowing you can implicitly trust your mate allows you to be your best self, and your relationship will continue to thrive because you are able to give each other the positive energy you need to navigate life’s ups and downs.”

18. Make time to do fun things together

When you’re getting deeper into your marriage, it’s easy to forget to have fun.

You get lost in your day-to-day routines and going out and having fun become a thing of the past.

After all, this is usually the consequence of being in a marriage. Your focus turns towards your career and providing for your family.

This “boredom” or lack of spontaneity may be what’s causing your husband to be unhappy.

Don’t worry, it’s a common scenario many women and men find themselves in. But just because you’re married doesn’t mean the fun’s over. Not at all.

It’s important that you don’t get lost in your boring-old routines. Life isn’t about that.

Having fun together is part of the fabric of a relationship. It’s a huge part of what binds you together.

Think about how you two got together in the first place. I bet a large part of it was being spontaneous and having fun together.

Well, it’s time to bring the passion back!

I know this sounds lame, but scheduling a regular Saturday night date or a Sunday movie, can help you bring the fun back. Just make time for it, and give yourselves a moment to let loose and enjoy each other’s company.

19. Every time you see your husband, give him a warm hug and farewell

Let’s be honest, most of us get lost in our boring old routines when we’re deep in a marriage. That’s normal.

The problem?

Not only does this make the relationship not as fun, but in the process, you forget to do the little romantic and affectionate things.

And one of the most important romantic behaviors is how you greet and say goodbye to your partner.

Sounds simple, but the smallest tweak can make a huge difference.

So when you greet your husband, give him a big hug and let him know how excited you are to see him.

That type of physical affectionate contact is bound to reignite any man’s mojo.

In fact, research suggests that physical affection is related to greater satisfaction in romantic relationships.

So take the time to give your husband a big warm hug when you see him and when you say goodbye. It’s another small step to turn the needle of love in your favor.

20. Make friends with his friends

You know what guys are like. They want to be “one of the boys”. They want to mess around with their buddies and talk shop.

But if you’re stopping him from seeing his friends, then not only will he begin to resent you, but he’ll become unhappy in the process.

The solution?

Try to get along with his friends. After all, it’s important to gel with the people in your husband’s life.

Relationship expert Karen Jones told Best Life that men have a habit of giving up their man friends when they get married which is a “shame”.

She says that “one thing you can do to be a better wife is encouraging him to hang out with other men…there’s something they get from each other that they can’t get from women.”

You don’t need to adopt his group of friends as one of your own, but if you have petty grievances with any of his close friends, why not resolve to get over those differences.

Doing so will make life easier for your husband, and it has the bonus effect of reducing the level of animosity in your life.

It’s important not to compete with is friends, either.

Remember his friends are going to be a constant presence in his life, so it’s important that you don’t try to stop him from seeing them so he can see you.

21. Support your man from the sidelines

It’s not easy being a man. You’re expected to be the rock in the marriage. You’re expected to provide for the family. And in the face of all that pressure, you’re supposed to keep your head high and soldier on.

After all, most men grow up being taught that they shouldn’t show any signs of weakness and that it’s imperative that they succeed in whatever they do.

But in a capitalist society such as ours where competition is naturally fierce, it’s important that their wife cheers them on from the sidelines.

To know that you’ve got the love of your life supporting you at every turn is incredibly encouraging and motivating.

So if he has his own personal dreams and aspirations, cheer him on and be his number one supporter.

In fact, making sure you’re supporting each other is crucial to making a relationship work.

When there is competition in a relationship and an attitude of “one-upping” each other, iit can lead to a toxic relationship.

A toxic relationship is described in the name – a relationship that has gone sour.

When a relationship becomes toxic, every interaction in the relationship can feel wrong or out of place, brimming with negative energy that makes both partners uncomfortable, angry, and disappointed.

That’s what you don’t want.

So make sure you support each other. It’ll boost the positive energy of the relationship and make sure you grow together as a couple.

22. Write him a love letter

Look, it may sound a little like grade 2, but notes actually work, especially in the current age of smartphones and computers.

It’s also a great way to express how you feel about your husband. Tell him how lovely and smart he is.

Just let your mind go and your pen write. Writing also has a way of structuring the information in your head so it’ll make you clear on what you love about your husband.

It’ll be great for him to know, and it’ll make him feel good about himself.

23. Surprise him

Marriages can start to get predictable. And look, some level of predictability is good. But at some point, you need to be surprised.

Surprising him doesn’t have to be about some big grand gestures like a fancy night out and a weekend at an expensive 5-star hotel.

It can be about tiny, simple surprises designed to brighten up the day.

These surprises are important because they help move your relationship away from the mundane.

They take you back to those early days of dating when everything was surprising and new.

Simple, everyday ways to surprise include buying a little gift that you think he’ll love, filling the fridge with his favorite foods and tipples one weekend, or getting dressed up and cooking a fabulous dinner when he thought you were having a takeout night.

If you can stretch to a passionate and sexy night out as well, that will generally go down pretty well with most people.

If you can’t find the cash or time, what about a surprise day out somewhere?

Tell him to get in the car, and you drive to the beach.

He may not even know if he is happy…

I’ve just given you 23 ways to make your husband happy.

Yet I’m sure you’ll agree with me that knowing if your husband is happy is not always clear cut. Especially for a man.

The truth is that often men don’t even consciously know when they’re truly happy in a marriage. This is because men are driven by biological urges that lie deep inside them.

We can thank evolution for this.

But there are phrases you can say, texts you can send, and little requests you can use to trigger his natural biological instincts.

Relationship psychologist James Bauer’s new video reveals these emotional trigger points. He’ll help you to really understand what makes men tick—and who they are happy with.

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A Happy Husband: 5 Tips for a Magical Wife

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We have already written a lot about how a woman can become happy. But, you see, when you are happy, but your loved ones are not, then happiness is somehow inferior. We already know how to make children happy, it remains to make the husband happy 🙂

A happy husband. Tip 1

Where to start? Try to understand what a man’s happiness is. For the strong half of humanity, joy is:

• satisfaction of basic needs,
• feeling that he has achieved what he aspired to,
• man harmoniously combines home, work and hobbies,
• his family understands him, his wife supports and admires him.

Happy husband. Tip 2

Understand that men and women are different. And yes, people are different. Some like brewed tea, and the second – in bags. And it’s not difficult to put a teapot and buy tea bags. And so it is with everything else. There is no need to impose your requirements, sometimes you can not notice some trifle, and we do not get upset over trifles.

Watch out for signs of deterioration in relationships: alienation, loss of interest in intimate life together, rudeness in case of conflict, indifference, desire for constant solitude, isolation, and more. Some experts also recommend paying attention to dreams, for example, what do you think, why does a husband’s betrayal dream? It turns out that this can also be a signal of a deteriorating relationship. So instead of fear, just take it as an incentive to get serious about improving your relationship and especially rebuilding trust between you, as the closest people.

Happy husband. Tip 3

Happiness is like a boomerang. Focus on how to make him happy.

There are a few clues here:

• We let the husband feel that he is a real man. Sometimes you can be 1000 times right, but let him win the argument if he is not so principled.
• Men are children. Yes, it’s hard to nurse another overgrown child, but the feeling of comfort is where you always want to return and where you want to disappear.
• Trust him, as in a dance – let him lead.

Happy husband. Advice 4

You need to clearly understand that a husband is a person who will be with you all your life. And you need to find compromises, negotiate, give in to each other.

Sometimes you need to understand what your husband wants, to listen without interrupting. Moreover, sometimes it is the wife who must help her husband understand himself.

You cannot take the husband’s place in the family, he must communicate with the children, he must have time to rest, you must be able to stay together.

Happy husband. Advice 5

If the husband is happy in the family, then everyone in the household is also happy. Children get a good example to build their relationships in the future. The wife feels confident and calm. My husband is pleased to return home and feel comfortable.

Be happy!

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