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How To Stop Queefing – 4 Simple Ways to Prevent Queefing

First things first, queefing is a totally natural bodily function that happens when air gets trapped in your vagina. It’s also sometimes referred to as vaginal flatulence, but it’s even less of a thing you can control than regs flatulence, because it’s just air getting in there, which you really can’t be expected to “hold it in.” But somehow, no matter how often you remind yourself of this fact, it can still be a bit difficult not to blush a little when it happens.

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But queefs are normal, and worthy of being acknowledged as more than just an embarrassing moment that you try to forget as soon as they happen! Like, did you know that your likelihood of queefing can be influenced by whether or not you’re ovulating? Or that some dudes actually find it to be a turn-on? With the help of doctors and sexperts, we’ve put together a list of everything you’ve ever wanted to know about queefing and why you should never be ashamed of your queefs.

1. Queefing is totally normal and nothing to be ashamed of, but if you want to minimize your likelihood of queefing, try sitting backward on a toilet seat.

Why? Sitting backward on the toilet when you pee (aka straddling the seat facing the back of the toilet, as opposed to normally), opens up the labia majora and vaginal canal which can allow some of the trapped air to escape, according to Michael Ingber, MD, a board-certified doctor in urology and female pelvic medicine & reconstructive surgery at The Center for Specialized Women’s Health.

2. Some guys find queefing to be hot and flattering.

If you needed any more reason not to be ashamed of queefing, keep this in mind: “A surprising number of men are actually very turned on when a woman queefs,” says Kayla Broek, sex and relationship coach at Beyondages.com. To these dudes, a queef makes them feel like a more capable lover since they’re “filling you up” to the point that the air that’s naturally in your vagina has nowhere else to go, according to Broek. It def has more to do with positions and your own vaginal anatomy than your partner’s skills in bed, but alas. It’s a comforting thought that men can be turned on by them.

3.

You might be more prone to queefing depending on where you are in your cycle.

People can be more likely to queef when ovulating or on their period because your pelvic floor tends to be weaker during these times, says Gabi Levi, sexpert at ShagStory.com. As to when your pelvic-floor muscles are at their maximum strength? That would be during the luteal phase of your cycle or right after ovulation and before your period, explains Dr. Ingber. “We speculate that this is due to hormonal changes during this time,” he adds.

4. It’s not a fart.

Sheila Loanzon, a San Jose–based board-certified ob-gyn, says a queef is just the passage of air through the vaginal canal. A queef happens when air pushed in from something like sexual penetration (be it from a toy or a penis) needs to be released from the vaginal canal.

5. It’s the vibrations from the labia majora that you’re hearing.

“The sound comes from the vibrations of the labia majora, which includes the vulva and vaginal lips.” Dr. Loanzon explains. “It’s similar to the sound of flatus, colloquially known as farting, or gas exiting from the rectum, which occurs when the butt cheeks flap together.”

6. You can’t control queefs like farts, because your butt is just tighter.

“The anal sphincter is much tighter and better toned than the vaginal tissue, and therefore can be controlled,” Dr. Loanzon says. “It can contain passage of gas from the gastrointestinal tract, whereas you can’t control your vaginal muscles as readily.”

7. Certain positions will put you more at risk of queefing than others.

Dr. Loanzon says positions, like doggy-style, in which your partner pushes more air into your vaginal canal, can make you more prone to queefing than others. You can also be more likely to queef if you rotate positions too quickly after your partner has pumped air into you.

8. Depending on your birth history, you may also be more likely to queef.

Dr. Loanzon says women who have given birth to larger babies may have larger vaginal canals, which can accommodate more air.

9. There’s really nothing you can do about queefing.

“If you try to contract the vaginal canal to prevent air from coming in, it can cause sex to be more painful,” Dr. Loanzon explains. “If anything, you could try to manage the amount of air going in by slowing down the speed of penetration and using less depth — not having sex hard and fast, jackhammer-style—but it’s probably not that realistic in the heat of the moment.”

10. Using a lot of lube can mean delayed queefs.

Dr. Loanzon says if air bubbles get trapped inside lube, a queef can come out during sex or when urinating afterward.

11. Don’t be embarrassed by your queefs!

Dr. Loanzon says to remember that queefs are natural. “Just say, ‘excuse me,’ and carry on. And maybe laugh, because that can release the tension. It’s very anatomic so it’s nothing to be embarrassed about.”

12. You can queef from doing nonsexual things like jumping jacks, coughing, or even wearing underwear.

Yep! Dr. Loanzon says anything that can introduce air into the vagina, like jumping jacks or trampolining, or coughing and sneezing, can also lead to queefing. “Some people also notice when they’re wearing a thong, the labia gets trapped and air can get in that way too. That’s another reason why you shouldn’t be embarrassed, because it usually happens when you’re either having sex, exercising, or wearing clothes, which means you’re taking care of yourself in some way.”

13. The word “queef” is not a medical term.

Who knew? Dr. Loanzon says doctors normally just refer to it as “passage of air through the vaginal canal.


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Why Women Queef and What to Do About It

Air can enter the vaginal canal in a number of ways, but the result is always the same: The air gets trapped, forming an air bubble in the vagina. But why do queefs happen in the first place? The most common reasons are certain movements such as yoga or sexual activity (though keep in mind that queefs during sex should never be painful).

Exercises: yoga or stretching

Although any exercise can cause a queef, certain yoga poses are particularly susceptible to causing vaginal gas. Inversions are the most common poses that cause queefing. Headstands, shoulder stands, and downward-facing dog can all make you more prone to queefing. Anything that requires a deep level of strength in the abdominal and pelvic floor region can contribute to queefing.

During sex

Different forms of sexual activity can also introduce air into the vagina and create sex noises. The movement of a vibrator or penis in and out of the vagina can also introduce air that quickly becomes trapped. When the object or penis is removed, the gas is released. Oral sex can also introduce air into the vagina.      

In cases such as these, queefing is just a normal bodily function and nothing to be concerned about.

Can vaginal gas be a sign of anything serious? 

In some situations, frequent queefing can be a sign of a medical condition or issue. The two main conditions are pelvic floor dysfunction and vaginal fistulas (e.g., rectovaginal, colovaginal, vesicovaginal, enterovaginal, ereterovaginal, or urethrovaginal fistulas). 

Strong pelvic floor muscles help prevent incontinence, uncontrollable flatulence, and queefs. For many women, pregnancy causes their pelvic floor to weaken, which can lead to pelvic floor dysfunction. This is when the pelvic floor inefficiently tightens and relaxes the muscles. Some women experience frequent incontinence when this happens, or they may feel the need to urinate more. Some will experience more queefing than normal. 

OMG, I Queefed During Yoga Class

Yes, it’s embarrassing, but it’s nothing to be ashamed of. Not sure what a queef is? It goes by many names including vart and vaginal fart, but it most definitely is not the same thing as a fart. A queef is the result of a trapped pocket of air getting pushed out of your vagina and making a (sometimes loud) fart-like
sound.

The cause

First off, there is nothing wrong medically—there are zero health consequences of queefing. Some women are more susceptible to having air trapped in their vagina than others, including women with a weakened pelvic floor (pregnancy and childbirth naturally
loosen these muscles), wide hips or during her menstrual cycle. 

While you may be familiar with queefing caused by sex, it is also quite common during exercise, particularly yoga and Pilates. Essentially air enters the vaginal canal during an inverted pose (think downward dog, bridge, shoulder stand, etc.) and is pushed
out as you move into another pose and draw your navel toward your spine. 

The solutions:

  1. Engage the pelvic floor muscles (the muscles surrounding the anus and vagina) when moving into the yoga or Pilates pose and keep them engaged throughout the pose. This should help prevent air from entering your vagina.
  2. Strengthen your pelvic floor by practicing
    Kegel exercise outside of your group classes. The nice thing about Kegel exercises, is you can do them anywhere, anytime.
  3. Stop doing the queef-causing poses during group class. Instead practice these poses in the privacy of your home or do a variation on the pose. People abstain from poses in a group class for various reasons (menstrual time, injury, etc.). No one needs to know why you chose not to do a particular pose.
  4. Practice group yoga outside a studio setting. During warmer weather try an outdoor yoga class—the ambient noise may make it more difficult for others to hear your body noises. Another option is to try water yoga, practiced in chest- or belly button-depth water.
  5. Laugh it off. After all, queefing is a natural and common occurrence. If you feel comfortable enough in the class, laugh and simply move on.

I have heard of some women using a tampon, even when it is not during her menstrual cycle, to help stop incidents of queefing during exercise. I would strongly caution against this method as it has the potential to lead to toxic shock syndrome.

Sometimes, no matter what you do, your body is going to do things you didn’t intend—like when you laugh and a little urine escapes, or your stomach growls (loudly) during a meeting or queefing during bridge pose. It is simply part of life. The woman
next to you likely understands and has been there herself. The important thing is to not let the possibility of embarrassment hold you back from doing what you love.

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10 Tricky Tips To Prevent Queefing During Sex

Smart tips on how to avoid queefing

1. Prevent queefing by avoiding doggy style

If you have normal, missionary style intercourse, then you will definitely keep queefing in check or even avoid it altogether. For that matter, you will be required to find other sex positions that don’t involve you bending over. Positions such as doggy style shouldn’t be on the menu, unless you are ready to deal with lots of air being trapped inside of your vagina and in the end, embarrassing you in a very big, “queefy” way.

You can prevent queefing by making sure that your vagina isn’t exposed by lying down during intercourse. Researching with your boo and practicing other positions will also prevent queefing during sex. You can find other useful tricks by reading on that will help you prevent queefing.

2. Tightening your vaginal walls during sex can prevent queefing

Queefing is a sign that a lot of air is trapped into your vagina during intercourse. You can do yourself a favor by tightening your vaginal walls during intercourse. This tip will make sure that you aren’t getting as much air into your vagina. And in the end, it will limit the queefing which, as we all know, can be quite embarrassing.

Queefing doesn’t just happen when a woman is experiencing pregnancy or when she is doing yoga. The truth of the matter is that queefing is very natural. As a matter of fact, it’s something that happens even to the very best of women. So, although you will be working extra hard to prevent it from happening, you will have to accept it when it does happen.

Air will always find its way into your vagina during intercourse. That means that you shouldn’t prevent yourself from enjoying some good, mind-blowing sex just because of your fear of queefing. Another importance of tightening your vaginal walls during sex is that it will not only limit queefing but will also make the sex much more sensual and enjoyable.

3. Limiting his pullout game will prevent queefing

It’s pretty normal for people to get carried away during sex, especially if it’s super hot and mind-blowing. Your guy might end up pulling out so far up to the point that air gushes into your open vagina. And when he puts it back in, well, queefing happens. If this ever happens, then the best thing for you to do would be to talk with your man about the thrusting thing.

You can try tightening your walls as instructed above to not only prevent queefing but to also limit just how far the thrusts go. Or have him pull out only part of the way after he thrusts. Doing so will make sex will be more sensual while stopping the air from finding its way in. Again, if queefing happens, don’t beat yourself up over it. It’s natural.

4. Put a finger in to prevent queefing

For the umpteenth time, you don’t have to be in a pregnancy or doing lots of yoga for you to experience queefing. As long as you are enjoying some amazingly wild sex or intercourse as some people refer to it, then queefing is bound to happen. Therefore, before changing your position, it would do you some good to put a finger inside your vagina, then wriggling it a little to let the air out.

It would be a good idea for you to make it a habit, especially if you can’t give up the doggy position. While putting a finger in your vagina before changing positions won’t get rid of queefing entirely, it will still release a significant amount of air from your vagina, reducing the chances of queefing in general.

5. Don’t stress when you can’t prevent queefing

Again, queefing is a normal occurrence. So, if it ever happens, you have absolutely nothing to worry about. This is because, well, it doesn’t mean a darn thing. As long as your man fully understands queefing and its origins, then you are good, baby girl. But if you keep stressing about it, then queefing will happen more often than not and you’ll be more embarrassed every time it does.

But if you ignore queefing during intercourse and choose to focus on enjoying the sex instead, then you will most certainly reduce the queefing altogether. I don’t know the science behind this, but ignoring it has been proven to reduce or prevent queefing.

It might be a psychological thing. You know, you only attract things that you think about – or something close to that. On top of that, ignoring the embarrassing effects of queefing is also a sign of sexual maturity.

6. Going on top can prevent queefing

Just like there are some positions that are notorious when it comes to queefing, there are those that are known to reduce or prevent queefing. So, whether you are in a pregnancy or not, trying going on top. You won’t regret it. Getting on top of your man during sex will also give you much more control during intercourse, making it amazing and queef free.

And even if queefing is going to be a factor, then you won’t have to worry much about it since you’ll have it under control. You can also do some yoga to make sure that your Kegel muscles are strong enough to control your vagina during intercourse. Remember, the stronger your Kegel muscles, the less the queefing will occur. And it goes without saying that the intercourse will be mind-blowing at the same time.

7. Prevent queefing by limiting the use of sex toys

I know this one is a rather tough pill to swallow. But sometimes, it might be a good idea to enjoy natural, normal sex if you want to prevent or limit queefing. Sex toys, as enjoyable as they might be, are notorious when it comes to trapping unwanted air in your vagina. Therefore, it would be a good idea for you to limit the use of sex toys, if at all you have to use them.

And if you have to use them, then limit yourself to those that don’t require penetration. For instance, you can avoid queefing altogether by not using dildos. Instead, you can use vibrators that excite your clit and outer vaginal lips. That way, you’ll manage to keep the queefing at bay.

8. Make love slowly and lovingly

9. Deep penetration can cause queefing

When sex is so sensual and exciting, it’s pretty normal for your bae to go in all the way. But doing this will most likely result in a lot of queefing.

Not to say that deep penetration is a bad thing! What I mean is that you can go for shallow but effective thrusts which can be surprisingly arousing. Apart from these shallow thrusts being enchanting and erotic, they can also go a long way in preventing queefing.

You can also avoid queefing while still deep thrusting. But the trick here will be ensuring that your man is making slow, sensual thrusts which can be controlled.

10. Try spooning while having sex

Controlling your man’s thrusting is easier said than done since we all want to let loose during sex. But if you want to have a really good time as you let loose, then the best thing for you to try is spooning.

This kind of sex is not vigorous but very, very sensual. It is very important that you take some time to learn the art of spooning.

Conclusion

So, there you have it. Queefing isn’t a sign of pregnancy or an occurrence strictly related only to yoga. It is just when air gets its way into your vagina and it’s perfectly normal!

Sexual intercourse is supposed to be interesting and enjoyable. And for that to happen, then it means you’ll have no other choice but to talk about everything sexual – and that includes queefing. You and your partner need to talk about queefing and find a long-lasting solution together.

If you just can’t give up that hot doggy sex, then you need to find better ways to get the queefing in check. Feel free to employ all the above techniques that will give you the opportunity to enjoy sex without queefing. At the end of the day, it is important for you to accept the fact that it is a very normal occurrence.

In fact, queefing only shows that your vagina is normal and that you have nothing to be ashamed of. So, in the event that you feel yourself queefing during sex, you can laugh it off rather than feeling embarrassed about it. A little queefing shouldn’t ruin your incredibly healthy sex life!

What Is A Queef? — Queef Meaning & Definition

Picture this: You’re in the middle of having super hot sex, totally lost in the moment, when your vagina lets out a noise that sounds suspiciously like you had too many beans for lunch. Welcome to the wonderful, wild world of queefing. Do you laugh? Do you cry? Do you *gasp* say something to your partner? As Sarah Yamaguchi, MD, FACOG, of DTLA Gynecology in Los Angeles points out, queefing isn’t dangerous but can be embarrassing. “Queefing happens when air escapes from the vagina suddenly with enough volume to notice it. A little bit of air can get pushed into the vagina, and it gets pushed out all at once sometimes,” she explains. This can happen during penis-in-vagina intercourse or with a penetrating object like a dildo.

Queefing is totally normal, but if you notice a foul discharge or odor associated with it, Dr. Yamaguchi stresses, then you should see a professional. Otherwise, it’s just a natural part of having a vagina, friends. “Please don’t think it’s because your vagina is ‘too big’ or ‘too loose,'” she adds. “If your partner makes you feel self-conscious about it, then you can try different things, but really, it is partially what they are doing, too. And so what? they are still lucky to be having sex with you.” (Damn straight!)

So, yeah, back to that steamy little bedroom scene from: You just queefed, nbd. While you’ve probably experienced this kind of “vagina fart” before—and btw, probs will again—you might not know what a queef actually is. Since this definitely wasn’t covered in your sex ed class, it’s time to set the record straight.

What exactly is a queef?

“…I tell patients it’s a very normal thing,” says Mary Jane Minkin, MD, clinical professor of obstetrics and gynecology at Yale Medical School. “It’s different from expelling gas from your rectum, which happens because of bacterial activity in the gut.”

Instead, queefing is the result of a trapped pocket of air getting pushed out of your vagina—that’s it. FYI: The vagina isn’t a straight tube, says Dr. Minkin. It has wrinkle-like folds called “rugae,” so air could easily get trapped in there. Though you probably won’t hear the technical term very often, a queef is also referred to as “vaginal flatus,” jsyk.

Should you be worried about queefing?

I know, I know. You may have gone down a Google spiral of “what is a queef” and “is queefing bad for you?” but it’s time to stop that vortex in its tracks.

You shouldn’t be worried about queefing. Bottom line, unless it’s associated with a foul discharge or odor: “Queefing is of zero health consequence,” explains Dr. Minkin. Slightly related, she does caution against blowing into a pregnant woman’s vagina because the air can get into her pelvic veins and create the risk of an air embolism. “You know how people get nervous when there’s an air bubble in an IV?” she explains. “It’s the same concern: What if the air gets into the vein and travels to the heart or lungs or fetus?” That sounds pretty scary, but Dr. Minkin says the worry is more theoretical than practical. (Still, good to know—just in case.)

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When does queefing happen?

It often occurs during sex, because a penis or other penetrating object is going in and out of the vagina, which can displace the air inside of it. “It can happen during any position and is usually fairly quick,” says Dr. Minkin.

A queef can also slip out during exercise, like when you’re getting into downward dog or knocking out the last set of crunches. But that’s not to say the air started building up in your vag when you walked into the gym, say Dr. Yamaguchi. “When you have penetrative sex, a little air can get trapped in your vagina, and it just stays there. But the next day, when you are lifting something heavy, it can get pushed out as you flex your belly and pressure is applied to your vagina,” she says.

“Similarly, if you are doing exercises where you are somewhat stretching open your vaginal opening, small amounts of air can get pushed inside,” continues Dr. Yamaguchi. “Then when you are later doing squats, it gets pushed out [of your vagina].”

Another time you may let a queef out? During a pelvic exam or when you’re inserting a tampon or menstrual cup, says Leah Millheiser, MD, NCMP, senior vice president, medical affairs, Hims & Hers, and director, female sexual medicine program, division of gynecology at Stanford University Medical Center in Stanford, California. Safe to say your doc has encountered a queef a thousand times before, so don’t even sweat it. (Truth be told, they may be so in the zone doing their thing, they may not even notice.)

Can you queef while you’re masturbating?

Queefing caused by sex is so not limited to times when a partner’s involved—anything that causes air to get caught in your vaginal canal, including a vibrator or other sex toy, can be a culprit, says Stephanie Ros, MD, an assistant professor of obstetrics and gynecology and maternal fetal medicine at the University of South Florida. “This is all about a tunnel that has no other opening,” she says. “If air gets trapped because of movement [no matter what causes it], it has to get out.”

Dr. Yamaguchi also notes that it’s especially common to queef during a solo session if you’re placing an object inside your vagina. “In general, you won’t feel it when a small amount of air gets pushed in your vagina, but as those small little pockets of air come together, you will feel it or hear it when it comes out,” she says.

Do some people just queef more?

Yeah. Some women’s vaginas are just graced with a greater queef-ability (add that to your vocab). “It really just has to do with anatomy and activity,” says Dr. Yamaguchi.

Your queefing frequency can change with time and experiences, too. For instance, you might queef more after childbirth or massive weight loss, says Dr. Ros. “When people lose a ton of weight, and they have a lot of sagging skin, the same thing can happen in the tissues of the vagina.”

FYI: For the queef-curious (another word to add to your dictionary), it’s particular to the female anatomy. “There is not really a male counterpart to queefing as they do not have any part of them that is a closed pouch like the vagina,” says Dr. Yamaguchi.

Is there anything you can do about queefing?

As you know, there’s no harm in queefing, but if you’d prefer to have less of ’em in your life, kegels may help. “Kegels can help increase the tone of the pelvic floor which may decrease the incidence of queefing,” says Dr. Millheiser. (For more on kegels, check out Women’s Health complete guide to these toning and strengthening exercises here.)

Are you more likely to queef in certain sex positions?

In general, positions that let more air into the vagina will cause more queefing, comments Dr. Yamaguchi. “So in positions with the women’s legs spread, it happens more. Also, if whatever is penetrating the vagina (like a penis or vibrator) is fully removed from the vagina and pushed back in, it will push more air in,” she says.

Ditto for being more likely to queef in positions where your pelvis is tilted upward, says Dr. Ros. So, doggy style fans, you’ve been warned. But the same goes for many, many other positions. If you’re in missionary but your butt is lifted off the bed (or floor, or couch, or beach…), for example, “that would be more likely to cause air entry and, with further movement, the air comes back out and, sometimes, it makes a noise,” she says.

So yeah, having a sex life with some queefs slipping out is pretty inevitable.

How should you handle it during sex?

Don’t even bother trying to avoid queefing. “Sex is weird, noisy, and messy,” says Dr. Ros. “Just laugh and go with the moment. Don’t try to fight it,” she adds. Dr. Yamaguchi agrees that making light of it and moving on is your best bet, but adds that “if it bothers you, you should just experiment with different positions.”

Since there’s no mysterious secret to preventing queefs, you might as well embrace ’em. Remember, it’s a natural bodily function—let hit happen and then get back to business.

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Here’s Why You Queef During Sex. (Don’t Be Embarrassed, It’s Normal.)

Queefing, as anyone with a vagina will tell you, can happen at some inopportune times: while you’re having sex, in the middle of a yoga class or during a visit to the gynecologist.

You may have heard some people refer to queefs as “vaginal farts” (charming). But while queefs do produce a toot-like sound, we can assure you that queefing is not the same as passing gas.

We talked to gynecologists and sex therapists to learn more about what causes queefs, some of the misconceptions about them and why they shouldn’t be as mortifying as we make them out to be.

What makes you queef, anyway?

Queefing is an involuntary bodily function that occurs when air is pushed into the vagina, gets temporarily trapped in the folds of the vaginal canal (called rugae) and is then released.

“Queefing happens when a penis, fingers or sex toy go in and out of the vagina bringing additional air along with it,” Sherry A. Ross, an OB-GYN in Santa Monica, California and the author of “She-ology: The Definitive Guide to Women’s Intimate Health,” told HuffPost. “Sex can involve a lot of thrusting of the penis in and out of the vagina, typically pushing extra air into a dead-end space.”

Certain sex positions, like doggy style where your pelvis is titled upwards, or abruptly switching from one position to another, may increase the likelihood of queefing. Even non-sexual activities, like putting in a tampon or menstrual cup, practicing yoga (like when you move out of an inversion pose) or your gyno inserting a speculum can lead to queefing.

“From my experience as an OB-GYN, almost every woman has experienced at least one episode of queefing some time during her life, sometimes even during a pelvic exam,” said Diana Hoppe, an OB-GYN in Encinitas, California.

While the gas that comes out of your rectum may have a foul odor (a result of bacterial activity in the gut), queefs are odorless, Hoppe added.

Can you prevent a queef?

There’s not much you can do to stop a queef in its tracks. You can’t just “hold it in” like you would a fart.

And as OB-GYN Sheila Loanzon told Cosmopolitan, “If you try to contract the vaginal canal to prevent air from coming in, it can cause sex to be more painful.”

Women who have previously given birth, in particular, may be more prone to queefing because pregnancy and childbirth can weaken the pelvic floor muscles. By strengthening those muscles via exercises like Kegels, you may be able to reduce your odds of queefing, Hoppe said.

“Also, when doing any abdominal exercises or weight-bearing exercise, it is important to squeeze the pelvic floor while holding the core abdominal muscles tight,” Hoppe said. “Many women squeeze abdominal muscles but do not activate the pelvic floor at the same time, thus allowing the pelvic floor to sag, increasing the likelihood of air entering into vaginal canal.”

During sex, keeping the penis, fingers or sex toy inside you while you change positions could lessen your chances of queefing because it “gives air less of an opportunity to get into the vagina,” Jamil Abdur-Rahman, an OB-GYN and the chairman of Obstetrics and Gynecology at Vista Health System in Waukegan, Illinois, told Self.

And in theory, you could just avoid certain sex or yoga positions altogether. But what’s the fun in that?

When queefing does happen, don’t sweat it.

So why does this very normal bodily function feel so embarrassing in the moment, be it during doggy-style or downward dog? It really just comes down to that pesky noise, Hoppe said.

“The stigma is due to lack of understanding the difference between release of air from the vagina and flatulence,” she said. “The sound effects may be the same though, so culturally there may be a stigma or embarrassment due to this occurring ‘down there.’”

Sex therapist Vanessa Marin underscored the fact that queefing is normal, common and “not anything to be ashamed of.” Embracing the awkwardness of the moment can even make sex more enjoyable for both partners.

“Our bodies make funny noises sometimes, and that’s OK!” she said. “Plus, there are plenty of other goofy things about sex, like getting sweaty, slipping out, getting into awkward positions and so on. The more we can laugh about these kinds of things, the more fun we’ll have during sex.”

When a queef slips out mid-coitus, you have two choices: ignore that deflating balloon sound completely or quickly acknowledge it and move on. Marin prefers the latter route.

“It’s a personal preference, but I think it’s better to just quickly acknowledge it and laugh it off,” she said. “That way you don’t have to sit there thinking about it, anxiously wondering whether or not your partner heard it.”

Is queefing ever cause for concern?

Generally, queefing is nothing to be worried about. While rare, if queefing is accompanied by pain or a bad smell, you should make an appointment with a doctor to rule out any more serious issues.

“If queefing is associated with a foul odor, it may be an indication of a vaginal infection or possible fistula, an [abnormal] connection between rectum and vagina due to previous radiation treatment or surgery that causes stool or feces to come out of the vagina,” Hoppe said.

But for the most part, queefing is a normal, if slightly awkward, fact of life. So let’s not get so hung up on it, OK?

Sex Ed for Grown-Ups is a series tackling everything you didn’t learn about sex in school — beyond the birds and the bees. Keep checking back for more expert-based articles and personal stories.

Everything you need to know about queefs or vaginal farts

Vaginal farts or queefs are completely normal and rarely a cause of concern. But if you’re still wondering why they’re happening to you, then read on.

Have you ever wondered why women fart through their vaginas? We know it can get embarrassing sometimes, but vaginal farts are nothing but trapped air. It is not waste gas and so it doesn’t smell. That said, there are a lot of reasons why air can get trapped in your vagina making you queef or fart via your vagina. 

Here are some of them:

1. Sexual activity
When something is inserted in the vagina (like a penis, fingers, or sex toys) it can trap the air inside. The “in and out” movement for sexual pressure can also trap the air, which is then released when the sexual activity is done.

2. Pelvic floor problems
Though vaginal flatulence is not harmful, trapped air can be a sign of some serious problems related to your pelvic floor. Vaginal farts are linked to conditions like urinary and faecal incontinence and pelvic organ prolapse. So It’s always advised to do pelvic floor exercises to strengthen your pelvic floor muscles.

Do kegel exercises for strong pelvic floor muscles. Image courtesy: Shutterstock

3. Tampons and menstrual cups
Feminine hygiene products like tampons and menstrual cups which are inserted inside the vagina can also allow air to get trapped inside. The air is then released when the product is removed or while exercising or stretching.

Also, read: The struggle is real! Here’s why Indian women still resist tampons and menstrual cups

4. Gynaecological procedures
Physical examinations and procedures during the vaginal examination can also allow air to enter inside the vagina where it can get trapped and subsequently released.

5. Exercises and stretching
Any exercises that stretch out the pelvic area often opens and relaxes your vagina which allows the air to enter. Hence you might hear some farts while you exercise.

6. Labour and childbirth
A study published in the journal ISRN Obstetrics and Gynaecology found that most cases of vaginal gas in women start after normal delivery.

Thank god! Vaginal farts don’t smell. Image courtesy: Shutterstock

Also, read: 5 unexpected ways your body might change permanently after pregnancy

7. Vaginal fistula
Fistula is a condition where an abnormal hollow chamber is created between two normally unconnected organs. So if you have been experiencing vaginal flatulence for a while and have also been experiencing some discomfort down there, then please consult a gynaecologist.

So how can you prevent vaginal flatulence or queefing?
While you cannot do much about this situation, you can make conscious efforts to feel less embarrassed about it as its just trapped air we’re talking about.

90,000 Queefing is natural and nothing to embarrass

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Vagina fart or fart, whatever you call them, queefs happen. When they happen during sex, it can be uncomfortable. But as humiliating as it may be, queefing during sex is completely normal.

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Just to be clear, queef is not really a vaginal fart. A bunch is the result of the intestinal activity of bacteria.Queef occurs when air enters the vagina. Your vagina is not a wind tunnel; it has folds called wrinkles. Think of it as if you were pasting a sticker and finding an air pocket. If you push on the pocket, air will come out. Therefore, when an object (finger, sex toy, penis) constantly enters the vaginal canal, it traps air there. Once removed, your vagina makes a sound that can only be compared to a deflated balloon. Regardless of when it happens (and queefs happen anytime), it’s embarrassing.But when it happens during sex, it can be super awkward.

Queefs happen to me all the time. I often call myself Sir Kuif because they just run away at random. Especially during sex. Seriously, I have so many queefing stories during sex that I could be here for hours. Full disclosure, I am in a relationship with a woman and do not have heterosexual sex. Sometimes this means that there is a higher chance of air entering the vagina.At this point, my partner and I just laugh when it happens. You can let this ruin your sex time, but why? It is mostly just noise, and although distracting, it is harmless. If you feel like you have to admit it, don’t waste a lot of time on it.

The bodies are generally strange. But somehow, sex manages to exacerbate all these oddities. Queefs are definitely one of the strangest things that can happen during sex. Because you are really in the present moment, and then you hear this pffttt , which can completely take you out of this state.Not to mention, they seem strange. Knowing that they are completely normal is reassuring, but that doesn’t mean it’s not strange. I remember one time during sex, my vagina gave out fast queefs. At first I was so ashamed, although my partner knows very well about my vaginal teeth. But after that, the third, she just laughed. then I started laughing, which made me feel better.

Fun fact: if you have had a baby (or several), you are more likely to pump during sex.As you know, pregnancy and childbirth can weaken the pelvic floor. Pelvic floor exercises can help, but they won’t make your shooter reliable. You should also be aware that if you have lost significant weight, you may be more prone to coughing. Remember, the more folds of skin down there, the more likely it is to hide from the air.

Some women are more prone to coughing than others, reports Tamika K. Cross, MD, FACOG, a board-certified obstetrician-gynecologist in Houston, Texas. Cosmopolitan . She adds that the shape and length of a person’s vaginal canal can affect how often it is used. And vaginal lubrication also plays an important role. So if you have a wetter vagina during arousal, you will probably hear it more often.

In the same article, Dr. Vanessa Callins, VP of External Medical Affairs at Planned Parenthood, shared another useful tidbit. Your vagina also expands when you turn it on, which gives more room for air.See? Queefs are science, not something to be confused about.

Remember that queens cannot be avoided during sex. Unlike a fart, you can’t hold on to a queef. It goes whether you like it or not. But if you want to keep your cutters in mind, there are certain positions you might want to stay away from. Almost any position in which your pelvis is raised makes you an easy target. So if you like doing it on all fours? Maybe you want to skip it. This pose simply asks for air to enter the vagina.Believe me, I know from experience.

Once I was on all fours and my partner was using her fingers. Got enthusiasm, and when did she get them out? The longest and wettest queef comes out of my vagina. Let’s talk about a deflating balloon! And you know what? There was nothing wrong with that. We really laughed at this for a long time. We still talk about it today because of his fun. When that happens, you can’t take yourself seriously.

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Another time I released one, holding my partner’s head between my legs.Let’s talk about embarrassment. And again everything grew, and I felt that it was happening. Remember, the more vaginal lubrication, the more likely you are to allow one rupture. The only thing I could do was tell my vagina to gather in between laughs.

You don’t have to worry about queefing during sex. Yes, it can be inconvenient, but who cares if it’s your regular partner? Most likely, they saw that you were doing worse.In fact, it only matters a lot if you make it a big deal. In fact, it could be a compliment to your partner (or to yourself, because queefs can also be alone). Sex is generally weird and messy and sometimes noisy. Honestly, there are worse sounds during sex than the whistling of air coming out of the vagina.

However, if you really feel uncomfortable with queef during sex, just talk to your partner about it. They probably don’t mind at all.“I think it’s better to just admit it quickly and laugh it off,” says sex therapist Vanessa Marin. HuffPost . This way, you don’t have to sit and think about it, anxiously wondering if your partner heard it or not.

Queefs happen during sex. As unpleasant as they are, you cannot prevent them. So instead of worrying and letting it ruin your good time, rely on it. Laugh at yourself! Make a joke. Hell, you can make the same sound if you feel it coming.Sex should be fun!

Appendix A. Ladies’ tricks. The Pleasure Point

Vulvas and vaginas deserve to be treated with respect and care, and there are many great ways to keep them healthy. In fact, there are so many of these methods that I cannot list them all, but this application provides a variety of useful information, including detailed information on grooming, smells, vaginal flatulence (yes, vaginas fart!), Lubricants and exercise.

Shave or not shave

The topic of pubic hair removal can be quite sensitive and delicate (and I don’t mean your “oops!” When waxing).Women either do not talk at all about what they are doing with their hair below, or they enter into hot (like heated wax) discussions about why they are doing this (for themselves? For a partner?). Sometimes a heated debate revolves around where it came from and why the fashion for prepubertal smooth genitals, ubiquitous in porn and in the big business that hair removal has become, has become so persistent. I will not go into details, but I will suggest reading a little on this topic on my own (just ask a search engine for “pubic hair removal and feminism”).

To dispel the situation a little: did you know that when you are my age, you will no longer need to think about what to do with the hair below? They will start to fall out by themselves. My mother jokes that loose hair bounces off the floor and sticks to her chin. Yes, a tempting prospect!

But since pubic hair loss is a long way off for most of you, let’s discuss two other hot topics: what other women are doing in this regard and what doctors are recommending.First of all, despite the fact that the media images inspire us that almost all women shave and epilate the intimate area, in fact, there are much more options. One study found that among women 25-29 years old, 12% remove their hair regularly, and 16% never do it. Others remove some of the hair from time to time. For this, ladies use different methods, most often shaving or waxing. However, gynecologists warn that shaving and hair removal can be unsafe (razor abrasions, painful ingrown hairs, micro-cuts and, most importantly, an increased risk of developing a variety of infections, including sexually transmitted infections).Some women’s health experts advocate a complete ban on intimate hair removal, while others believe that moderate – but not completely absent – vegetation provides certain benefits. One way or another, experts agree on one thing: the safest thing is not to completely remove your hair, but to trim it carefully with scissors or a bikini trimmer.

Self-cleaning and odorless

Your vagina is like a self-cleaning oven.The bacteria living inside it naturally destroy potentially harmful ones that come from outside. This is why douching is not a good idea (unless a doctor recommends it). It flushes out beneficial bacteria. In addition, there is evidence that douching can carry harmful bacteria further into the uterus and fallopian tubes, leading to the development of STDs and other infections. Please do not believe that your vagina is dirty and smells bad – this is complete nonsense.

Vaginas naturally have an amazing musky scent.Research shows that it serves as a sexual stimulant for men. But in order to sell their products (intimate hygiene products, deodorant sprays, aromatic pads), advertisers suggest that this smell must be masked. Women’s deodorant sprays and scent pads are as damaging to your vagina as douching. In some cases, they promote the growth of harmful bacteria and hide the smell of a real infection.

Try to become familiar with your own unique scent of your vagina – if the smell changes and becomes strange, you will know that it may be an infection and you should see your doctor.In addition, during the month, the vagina produces a variety of secretions – get acquainted with the typical ones and if they change, see your doctor.

Who farted in the tent

Do you remember: when a woman is sexually aroused, her vagina stretches (like a tent): the front part narrows, and the back part expands and increases in length. She also makes fart sounds. But the sounds that come out of the vagina are different from those made by the anus: they are not accompanied by a characteristic odor.Vaginal flatulence is called queef. More often than not, you queefe after intercourse when the vagina is distended. The fact is that the air that the penis pushes inward accumulates in the back of the penis. And when the vagina shrinks to its original size (that is, its walls are folded like a fire hose), the air is released back. In essence, any action that draws air into the interior, such as certain yoga postures, can cause a queef. A friend of my daughter’s, who discovered this in her preteen years, loved to entertain her friends by publishing queefs on purpose.However, many women are unaware of how common this phenomenon is and feel uncomfortable, even though this is completely normal and should not be ashamed of!

I need more grease

You will also remember that the vagina produces natural lubrication, but some women need (or just like) to add commercial lubricant to it. There are products on oil, water and silicone bases, as well as combined, on the basis of water with the addition of silicone.Combined lubricants are universal, so the owner of A Woman’s Touch recommends starting with them. But first, it is helpful to learn a little about all species.

Oil-based lubricants . They cause problems for many women – irritation and infection. They are also unsafe to use with latex condoms, as they eat away at the material.

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With the exception of pure coconut oil, cooking oils (olive, sunflower, or almond) are not recommended as a lubricant.The same goes for the contents of your home medicine cabinet – shea butter and petroleum jelly. A pure vitamin E oil solution is safe, but it is very sticky and difficult to rinse off, so you should not use it either, although lubricants containing vitamin E may work for you.

Water-based lubricants . Made from water and a number of other ingredients (more on them below), they are easier to wash off than other types of artificial lubricants, but many women find that they do not glide well enough and are absorbed too quickly during intercourse.They can be used with all sex toys and almost all types of condoms, but you should read the label first because some have not been tested and some are not recommended for use with polyisoprene condoms.

Silicone lubricants. Strong enough to provide good glide, therefore well suited for penetrative sex. But they cannot be used with silicone sex toys; you can – with latex and polyisoprene condoms.

Combined lubricants . Made from silicone and water, sometimes with the addition of other ingredients to improve gliding properties. They can be used with almost all kinds of condoms (but read the label or description if you buy from an online store), and some can also be used with silicone sex toys.

… and “other ingredients”. Some water-based lubricants contain glycerin, which enhances their glide properties.While glycerin does not cause any problems for many women, there are those who have it increases the risk of infections, especially candidiasis. This is why you often see ads for lubricants that are labeled “glycerin free.”

Also, some water-based and combination products sometimes contain other ingredients that are not very useful for the health of the vulva and vagina, causing irritation and increasing the risk of sexually transmitted diseases. Here’s a list of ingredients to avoid:

• capsaicin;

• chlorhexidine gluconate;

• lidocaine;

• menthol;

• nonoxynol-9;

• polyquaternium-7, -10 or -15.

Some also contain preservatives that can irritate sensitive skin and allergy sufferers. If you are in this group, test the lubricant by applying it to your underarms to make sure it doesn’t cause you a reaction.

Pelvic floor exercises

As you know, orgasm produces a pleasant sensation of muscle contraction in the genital area. Your urethra, anus, and vaginal opening are surrounded by three layers of fourteen muscles.Collectively, they are called the pelvic floor muscles. By strengthening them with Kegel exercises, you can make your orgasms stronger. Below are some of the best Kegel learning tips I can remember, adapted from A Woman’s Touch.

Find the muscles you want. The best way to find your pelvic floor muscles is to insert one or two lubricated fingers into your vagina and try to tighten the muscles around them. When you feel the muscles around your fingers tighten and lift, then you have found what you were looking for.

Do not stop urinating

You may have read elsewhere that the pelvic floor muscles can be detected by stopping urination at some point. Physiotherapists do not recommend doing this, because it is impossible to determine all the necessary muscles in this way, and if you repeat this, you can get used to unconsciously retaining urine, which is fraught with the development of urinary tract infections.

Do your first Kegel exercise:

• Lie on your back.This will relieve your muscles.

• Contract and hold the detected pelvic floor muscles for up to five seconds. You should feel them pushing inward and upward towards the navel. Concentrate and try to squeeze only your pelvic floor muscles, not your abdomen, thighs, or buttocks. (While exercising, it is helpful to place your palm on your stomach, thighs, or buttocks to make sure you are not squeezing them.)

• Gently relax your pelvic floor muscles. Don’t push or push them out of you.

• Take a deep breath from the diaphragm and hold for five seconds to make sure you are truly relaxed. So you’ve finished your first Kegel exercise, which consists of muscle tension, relaxation, and deep breaths.

Start this exercise regularly and gradually strengthen your pelvic floor muscles.

• Do two sets of five repetitions of the five second Kegel exercise you just learned.Repeat them twice a day.

• Gradually increase the duration by contracting the pelvic floor muscles for up to ten seconds. When this succeeds, also increase the breath hold to ten seconds.

• Begin doing two sets of ten Kegel exercises, doing each exercise for ten seconds. Repeat twice a day.

When NOT to train

Kegel exercises strengthen the pelvic floor muscles, but in some women these muscles are initially too tight, and in some they are prone to spasms.This makes intercourse difficult or impossible, and also causes pain during arousal, penetration and / or orgasm. Similar symptoms can indicate other health problems, so you should first consult your doctor and make sure that your pain and / or discomfort in the genital area is associated with your pelvic floor muscles. If so, check out the books listed in the Additional Resources appendix and find a qualified physical therapist.

Add a new exercise:

• Once you have mastered these exercises, add Kegel clicks to your routine.Lying on your back, quickly squeeze your pelvic floor muscles, and then relax – all this without holding your breath. This should take about three seconds. Repeat the exercise 20 times, and when done, take one deep breath. Repeat the complex twice a day.

Change position and place:

• When you are comfortable with these exercises, try them sitting down.

• Once you’ve mastered this, do Kegel exercises anywhere, anytime.Nobody knows what you’re doing, so they’re especially fun to do in boring classes or meetings.

Do Kegel exercises with a partner:

• Once you learn to use your pelvic floor muscles, you and your partner may like it if you contract and relax them during intercourse. While it doesn’t lead a woman to orgasm most of the time, it is still quite fun, and contraction of the pelvic floor muscles can make it even more interesting.Of course, this can be done not only with the penis: you can squeeze your partner’s finger in the same way.

Would you like to know more about how to take care of your private places? Read the book Read My Lips: A Complete Guide to the Vagina and Vulva by Debbie Herbenick and Vanessa Schick or Caring for the Vulva: Making Your Pussy Happy in the Eighth Edition. Bibles of Sex. ” Find more resources to help your pussy purr below.

90,000 Women’s Handbook on Knowing Your Genitals

About 30% of my clients never paid attention to what was going on between their legs. About 75% have some misinformation or inaccurate understanding of their genitals.And almost all of my clients feel insecure or ashamed about some aspect of the most intimate areas of their body. Here’s your guide on how to get out of these statistics and befriend your crotch.

If you have a vagina, you have been taught that it looks weird, smells weird, tastes weird, and overall weird. Sometimes you might even be a little confused. But you probably want your genitals to feel good too? It is difficult for both speakers to exist at the same time.If you want to experience pleasure and orgasm – let alone be proud of your body – you need to have a certain level of comfort with it.

First, let’s take a tour of your women’s clothes. It doesn’t matter if you’ve done it before; If you are unable to draw an exact copy of your genitals from memory, it will be helpful for you to take another look. If this bothers you, try relaxing by taking a few deep breaths, drinking a glass of wine, or making an appointment when you know you will have uninterrupted privacy.Try to find the most comfortable position for your body that will allow you to pry. Depending on your physical capabilities, you may need a hand-held mirror, props, or creative positioning.

We’re now going to go on a treasure hunt to explore some of the major parts of your anatomy. After reading the description, try to find this part on your own body. Whoever finds them all first will receive a prize!

You can read more and also see some handy diagrams on the Wikipedia page for the vulva.

As you examine each area of ​​your body, try experimenting with different types of touching that point. See if you can find all the pleasant ways to stimulate every part of your genitals. You may like the gentle pinching of the outer labia, circular motions around the clitoris, and light pressure on the anus. This kind of exploration can literally last a lifetime and is the best way to develop a more pleasant relationship with your body! And the more comfortable you are with it, the better your sex will be.

Now that you are a little more familiar with anatomy, let’s talk about what can happen inside, around and with your genitals.

This is undoubtedly the funniest thing about female roles. Women have about three times more nerve endings in the clitoris than in the middle penis, so our ability to have fun is much higher! (Sorry guys.) We are also capable of multiple orgasms.

The clitoris is the center of the orgasmic universe for most women.For most women, an area of ​​the clitoris, such as the surface or upper left quadrant, appears to be more sensitive than the rest of the clitoris. Repetitive stimulation of the clitoris usually results in orgasm.

However, a fun little thing for parties is that the clitoris is much larger than most people think. The visible part of the clitoris can range in size from a small pea to an inch or more, but in reality the clitoris extends into your body and splits into two legs, much like a wishbone! Most sex researchers believe that stimulation of the inner parts of the clitoris can lead to orgasm, as can stimulating the outer part.The significance of this relatively recent discovery is enormous. The vast majority of women cannot achieve orgasm from penetration alone, and virtually all of these women feel guilty and lack the ability to do so. I try to remind my clients that women who can have penetration orgasms are simply getting the inner part of their clitoris stimulated. It is still stimulating the clitoris, just different parts of it!

Your vagina is also extremely stretchable (remember, this is for newborns!).The vagina also goes through a fascinating process known as “pulling,” where the muscles in the vagina help the uterus lift up to make more room for penetration. Fortunately, the vagina is also designed to return to normal after this stretch. Many women are embarrassed about their perceived vaginal “looseness”. Without seeing your vagina, I can assure you that your muscle tone is absolutely fine.

However, if you want better control of your muscles, try Kegel exercises.Contract the muscles you are using to cut off the flow of urine, then relax and repeat. You can also purchase a nifty little toy like KGoal to help you develop a workout regimen!

Pubic hair care is an important part of your relationship with your genitals. Pubic hairstyles change all the time, but it’s worth noting that pubic hair doesn’t just appear: it helps prevent chafing during intercourse. If you decide to remove all or part of your pubic hair (and this, of course, is not necessary!), Contact a trusted specialist in a hygiene salon.Shugaring appears to be the easiest hair removal method for the skin. The most commonly used hair removal method is shaving, but it can lead to rather unpleasant razor burns and ingrown hairs.

If you insert your finger into your vagina, you can probably feel the natural lubrication that your body exudes through the walls of the vagina. When you are aroused, your vagina releases more lubricant to make penetration easier (even if penetration is not your plug).Women vary greatly in the amount of lubricant produced, and the amount of lubricant can vary with cycle and age. Getting “enough” is another of the myriad ways women feel stressed and insufficient, but there is nothing wrong with getting a little help from artificial lubrication. In fact, adding more lubricant is almost always more fun!

The lubrication process is ongoing, so unfortunately the presence of a vagina means discharge.Most women are embarrassed to find moisture in their underwear at the end of the day, but rest assured that this is completely normal. The vagina is a charming little ecosystem that is great at keeping itself clean and at the right pH.

If you insert your finger into your vagina, you can probably feel the natural lubrication that your body exudes through the walls of the vagina. Your body is always producing natural lubrication. It fluctuates throughout your cycle, so there are days when you have a lot more secretion than others and times of the month when your secretion looks different.

Absolutely NO need to douche or wash your insides with soap. In fact, it will actually do much more harm to your vagina than it does good, as it will kill the beneficial bacteria that your vagina needs to stay healthy. You will know that something is wrong with your vagina if your discharge is thick and lumpy, noticeably different in color, or has a very strong odor.

Just as the G-spot is the source of a lot of controversy, squirting is also known as female ejaculation.Some sex therapists believe that all women are capable of squirting, while others believe that this is a rare occurrence. This is another question that seems to have already been answered, but there is still debate about the exact identification of the fluid that is released when a woman squirts.

Women who squirt usually report that they require G-spot stimulation to do so. G-spot usually requires very intense stimulation. This is why I recommend hefty toys like the njoy Pure Wand if you want to experiment with it.When you start stimulating the G-spot, you may feel like you need to go to the toilet at first. Don’t worry – this will go away if you keep walking and a more pleasant, non-urine sensation is created. You may be oozing fluid, but it will not be like sitting on the toilet and urinating. Place a towel on the bed if you like, but don’t worry about anything but a pleasant sensation!

You probably learned the basics of menstruation in a sweaty gym when you were in elementary school, but there are still many women who are unsure of what is “normal” and what is “abnormal” when it comes to menstruation.It is a good idea to talk to your doctor if you notice any sudden changes in your period, if you have been without it for a long time (months), if you have bleeding (“spotting”) or another full period between normal periods, or if your period is so heavy that you find it difficult to change tampons quickly enough.

Speaking of tampons, change them every eight hours and try to find tampons made from raw cotton (or switch to the Diva Cup).Tampon users may be susceptible to toxic shock syndrome due to over-absorbing tampons being left on for too long, but TSS is fairly rare these days.

A delicate bacterial balance is maintained in the vagina. Ingesting harmful bacteria or killing good strains can lead to infection. Here are some simple tips to avoid yeast infections:

Yeast infections are never pleasant, but the good news is that it only takes a dose of fluconazole and a few days to heal.(Pro tip: Don’t worry about the suppositories you find at the pharmacy. These things are difficult to deal with!)

The location of the urethra – right in the center of the whole process – makes urination immediately after sex an absolute must. The bacteria are pushed into the urethra when you descend, which can lead to a urinary tract infection if you don’t urinate right away. UTI is excruciatingly painful; it seems as if thousands of tiny shards of glass hit your urethra every time you urinate.Trust me, you want to avoid UTIs like the plague. You can also take cranberry extract as a precautionary measure.

The walls of the vagina are delicate and prone to tiny microcracks. Most of these lesions heal quickly and on their own, but it is worth taking a break from penetration when you feel pain. Using artificial lubricant is a great way to prevent rupture in the first place.

If your sex life includes any energetic jerks, at one point or another you will definitely have a queef (aka “vaginal farting”).Queef occurs when air enters the vagina and exits. Queefs may be embarrassing at the moment, but they are a natural byproduct of penetration. Just laugh at it or ignore it!

Since we are talking about air in your vagina, never, NEVER let anyone forcefully blow air into your vagina. In rare cases, it can cause an air embolism, which can be fatal.

Vanessa Marin is a licensed psychotherapist (# 78931) specializing in sex therapy.Her mission is to rid sex therapy of fear and bring pleasure back to the bedroom. Have questions about sex? You can reach her at [email protected] or at VMTherapy.com.

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Illustration by Tina Mailhot-Roberge.

90,000 30 NICE PROBLEMS EVERY GIRL AGE 20 FACES – LIFE

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Ask Reddit has brought up several issues with girls that each of us understands all too well.

1. All of a sudden, realizing that you can leave a blood stain on any surface you sit on and move awkwardly to prevent direct contact.The fear of damaging another person’s property is much stronger than shame.

2. You know when your boyfriend pulls his penis out of you all the time, sticks it back in and pushes a whole bunch of air into you. And then you try to avoid queef, but you really can’t do it, because queef doesn’t work that way.

3. Attempting to gently adjust the underwire of your bra so it doesn’t look like you are fondling yourself.

4. I don’t know if everyone is experiencing this or not, but every now and then I get this INTENSE tingling / itching sensation sent to my clitoris and when it happens in public it is excruciating not to be able to adjust it or get it leave.Usually lasts about a minute, oh my god.

5. Getting your period when you don’t expect to leak. Nobody wants that stain on the back of their pants to be visible to everyone.

6. Your underwear gets stuck in your slit or vagina and you have to do something like wiggle to free it.

7. Underarm and chest sweat when wearing a particular color or material.

8. When you understand that your light leggings are transparent and everyone can see your underwear.

9. I wear a lot of dresses. When I get wet in public, I can smell it, and I’m afraid other people can smell it too.

10. Cameltoe. Literally the curse of my entire existence. I always lower the crotch of my pants because I think it shows.

11. Trying to hide protruding nipples, it is not necessarily cold outside or in a situation where I am aroused, they just do it.

12. Put on a baggy hoodie to hide that you are not wearing a bra.

13. The need to wear feminine hygiene products with audible sound. Some honestly sound like you’re carrying a plastic bag in your underwear, but if you get caught, sometimes you just need to put it on. You spend the rest of your day trying to move as carefully as possible so as not to make noise.

14. If I have my period and I am swimming, I am always afraid that the string of the tampon could slip out of the swimsuit bottoms. Haven’t happened yet, knock on wood.Also, if you have been swimming, it is very difficult to tell if the bleeding is bleeding if you suspect that it is because your swimsuit is already wet.

15. When you’re in a situation where you need to run somewhere (like catching a bus / train / whatever) and you’re either in heels or without a super safe bra and your boobs just bounce all over the place , or you stumble. Damn sorry.

16. Water gun-like effect you feel when you sneeze during your period.You know you’ve just unloaded the entire clip onto your pad, but you have to play quietly until you can apologize to the bathroom.

17. When you fart and it goes through the front. Then you have to try to move and pull it out.

18. I noticed hair on my chin and frantically found tweezers to pluck them.

19. “Oh. Oh no. “Feeling right before my period. I hated road trips around my period week because guaranteed I would get a shit period signal as far from the rest stop as possible.

20. Try to sneak a pillow or tampon into the toilet, especially if you have it in your closet or bag.

21. Go to the bathroom quickly to make sure the warm, moist liquid you just brought in is not an unexpected start to your period.

22. Lines of panties on tight clothes.

23. Has anyone else ever felt uncomfortable sitting on a machine in the gym when you had to bend a little to get your cunt to really snuggle up against the seat? And when you get up, there’s a damn wet spot on the seat, and you rush for a paper towel and spray to wash it off, but the guy is already ahead of you and is looking at you.

Sir. I swear I wiped the seat before you saw anything. I’m sorry.

24. Accidentally dropped a popcorn into a bra and tried to pull it out without being noticed.

25. Menstrual blood odor, like sweet, rotten meat or fish.

26. Trying to pull the hair out between the boobs when you don’t really know where it is.

27. How about condensation on the chair after getting up? That line of moisture that has accumulated due to the damp environment between your legs? I know it’s okay, but it always confuses me.I just don’t like it.

28. Wear a jacket around your waist at school because you are embarrassed to have blood on your pants for a month.

29. Sometimes it just gets very wet there, the fabric on which sweat stains are visible, other wet stains are also visible … they are also found in places that you cannot always see.

30. Like a nursing mother – when my husband turns me on, my boobs flow.

90,000 Queefing: Super-Embarrassing Vaginal Flatulence | Fashion

As a woman, there will definitely be a time when your vagina will put you in a really awkward and seemingly awkward situation where it will make a squeak-like sound, especially when Thu

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What is Queefing?

As a woman, there will definitely be a time when your vagina will put you in a really awkward and seemingly awkward situation where it will make a squeaky sound, especially when something comes in or out.This is weird. Some of you may be familiar with this term, but some of you may even find this new word amusing. Perhaps this little phenomenon happened to you, but you just did not know that it has a name.

Conversations with many gynecologists and sex therapists have shown that queefing is very common, people are usually too shy or embarrassed to discuss it. Firstly, women do not realize that there is nothing wrong with this, because it is natural, so they cannot reveal such a delicate topic to anyone.So by clearing this delusion, there is nothing wrong with that.

You may be thinking about your own or someone else’s similar experience and even hear the term “vaginal farting”, but I assure you, gas production is something else entirely. Of course, the quacking sound is kind of like YES, very strange, but it has other reasons. And no, queefs DO NOT smell, so another difference from farts.

Some important facts you need to understand:

If you are new to the term, clarify the facts.

How does the vagina make this sound?

Like other normal reflexes in your body, think of queefing this way. When air enters the vagina, it is trapped there. Air entrapment occurs due to the internal folds of the vaginal canal. When the air is discharged, a beep-like sound is emitted. How can air get into the vagina? This usually happens when something is inserted, such as a finger, sex toy, or penis. Sex is the most common cause of repeated injections.Below we will discuss a few more reasons.

The word “queef” is not a medical word.

Why don’t most people know about this? Because this is not really a common term used in medical practice. Therefore, it would be better if you just call it “the air passing through the vaginal canal”, especially when you tell your doctor about it so that it doesn’t sound silly.

This is related to a birth history

Women who have larger natural vaginal canals and those to whom they are born after several births are more likely to develop the disease, which is considered one of the causes.

Large amounts of lubricant cause queefe retention

Some people are generous when it comes to applying lubricant, but when this slippery dirt gets BIG, small air bubbles can get stuck inside and then released spontaneously or during urination.

The main causes of wrinkles

Now that we know what happens in queefing, now let’s look at the most common causes that some people may not know about.

1. Floor

This is the most common option. It is natural that when there is a constant pushing and pulling action, air goes in and out, and it makes a lot of noise. Don’t be shy about it, if you have great chemistry with your partner and you get to know each other deep down, then you have nothing to worry about.

2. Exam Gynae

The first few visits to the gynecologist or obstetrician can be very uncomfortable, you feel embarrassed on your part, but for them it is a common thing.The awkward situation and especially these terrible tools make you nervous. And sometimes during special vaginal examinations, instruments called “mirrors” or even endoscopes are used for a better view. They can also cause tremors, so don’t panic when this happens, your doctor is familiar with this.

3. Masturbation

Playing and fiddling with yourself, especially with modern sex toys and vibrators or any object used for sexual pleasure, will lift the air inside your V-region and make this funny sound, so don’t worry if it’s yours first time.Even inserting a tampon does this.

4. Childbirth and surgery.

Childbirth greatly expands the pelvic muscles, this stretch also weakens them a little. Weakening of the muscles can cause vaginal flatulence, especially if you have given birth multiple times or have just given birth. Surgeries make your body weak, and some procedures, such as colonoscopy, make life too difficult.

5. Stretching and exercise.

Trapped air in the vagina or just flatulence can also occur when your body is stretched to some extent, especially below the torso area.This is what women who practice yoga, aerobics, etc. complain about more often. Other physical activities, such as jumping from a springboard, jumping on a trampoline, even wearing a thong, can cause a queef, which can be unexpected.

How to deal with a situation when you have a queue in an enclosed space

It is impossible to completely stop the queue because it is a natural mechanism in your body. It is also difficult to avoid because, unlike farting, your muscles around the vagina (pelvic muscles) are not as strong or tense as the muscles in your back that control farting.So yes, it can fall out of your hands, or, if you mean, out of your vagina. It doesn’t even smell, so don’t worry about other people.

But you have to understand one thing: there is absolutely no point in worrying about it or being ashamed of it afterwards. For example, if you have a new sexual partner and something like this happens, instead of being distracted, he may get used to you. So instead of making it a big deal, embrace it and feel comfortable with yourself so that others feel the same way.

What to do if someone is stuck

Ask yourself, should it be embarrassing? The answer is obvious: no. What would you do if you were in this situation? The more you think about it, whoever you are, the more problems you create in your head. If you see someone in this crisis, release their anxiety or just nod and blink slowly to show that this is COMPLETELY normal.

Managing it during sex

The main thing is to react in these unpleasant situations.Sexually active people and adults are well aware of this fact and expect it to be when it comes to sex. It’s easiest to just ignore it, it’s best for everyone and the most mature way to deal with the situation. But if there is a special bond between you and your partner, when you can draw attention to it, make a joke, or just clarify in a funny manner, for example, “That wasn’t a fart, right?” or “Continue!” and not create an obvious but awkward moment.

Tips for Avoiding or Avoiding Queues

The key to controlling and preventing queuing is to prevent excessive air from entering your vagina.Here are some ways to reduce it:

Kegel Exercises

Experts believe that strengthening the pelvic muscles can go a long way toward controlling frequent air entry and exit. To do this, it’s like a mini workout. To do the Kegel exercise, squeeze your muscles until you stop while urinating. Then hold the contraction of urine for 10 seconds and then relax for 10 seconds. Do at least three sets of 10 reps every day.

Sex positions

There is nothing you can do to avoid this because it is usually inevitable.Basically this causes a lot of movement and frequent position changes. If your posture and activity during sex is too high and excessive, then there is a greater chance of queefe compared to a relaxed, more relaxed and lazy posture. According to Cosmopolitan magazine, if you change your sexual posture, such as avoiding bending upside down, your queefs will be constrained on their own.

Slower thrust

The faster the thrust, the dirtier it is and the greater the likelihood of air getting in.Making him rude and energetic will only make things worse. But if you do it slowly and adapt it, there will be less awkward noise and more fun.

Summary

It is clear that sex is a mess. There are noises, smells, etc. So instead of making it a big deal out of it, work out some chemistry with your partner so that you can easily alert them that this might be happening, OR the two of you can just laugh at it later and bond.

Nyakusa people

At Nyakusa (also called Falcon , Ngonde or Nkonde ) an area Bantu ethnolinguistic group living in the fertile mountains of southern Tanzania – former German East Africa. They speak Nyakusa, a member of the Bantu language family. The population of Nyakusa was estimated to be 1,050,000 in 1993, of which 750,000 were in Tanzania. Nyakusa are noted as highly educated and active farmers.Nyakusa colonize people where success and survival depend on individual efforts. The Nyakusa have managed to collect more wealth from trade and agriculture than any tribe in Tanzania. [1].

Historically they were called “Ngonde” below the Songwe River in British Nyasaland, and “Nyakusa” above the river in Germany. The two groups were identical in language and culture, so that the Germans called the Nyakusa region over the Songwe River and its inhabitants Conde until at least 1935.

History

Origin

According to their oral history, they trace their roots back to an ancient Nubian queen named Nyanseba.She was kidnapped by a warrior and shepherds, it is said that the shepherds handed the rule of empresses to the emperors, but the power and influence of women among the Nyakusa In their traditions, it is seen that boys take the name of their mother’s clan, and girls take the name of their father’s clan.

Colonial history

The Scots founded Karonga in 1875. In 1889, Harry Johnston’s treaties lessened the state of regular warfare between the leaders of Condé and the Arabs. In 1895, the British hanged the slave trader Mlozi. Finally, the area was incorporated as ‘British Central Africa’, and Karonga itself was fortified by palisades on the lake and protected on three sides by trenches that could be washed out of brick bastions.The gates defended the fort’s trenches with two cannons, one Norden field machine gun and 300-400 armed residents who were ready even in peacetime. Administrators and warehouses could be found inside – residents’ houses were outside – within their own palisades, protected by the fort’s cannons. The slave raids are said to have been carried out almost within Karonga’s line of sight, leaving Nyakusa and others unaware of whether to support Mlosi or European power. Finally, England was supported by between three hundred and five hundred soldiers.Karonga was important as England’s main base for Stevenson Road, from Lake Nyasa to Lake Tanganyika, which by 1892 was already falling apart due to lack of funds.

Unlike the Ngonda in the south, the Nyakusa were simple-minded and isolated from contact with the outside world, had unfortified villages, little associated with the ivory trade, slavery, or Arabs, or anything to the east of effectively defending the Livingston Mountains, and retained their independence more one hundred small chiefdoms, at least before the arrival of the Europeans.As warriors, they were able to repel the attacks of Sangu from Merere and Ngoni repeatedly.

European accounts

European travelers, impressed by its cleanliness and neatness, seem to have found it north of Lake Nyasa. Joseph Thomson, in To the Central African Lakes and Back (1881), comes close to Nyakews’ description: “It seemed like the perfect Arcadia …. Imagine a perfectly flat plain, carefully cleared of all weeds, debris, and unsightly things. Dotted here, and there are many huge shady sycamore trees with branches almost the size of a single tree.Each few spaces are charmingly neat round huts with tapered roofs and hanging walls of clay, beautifully crafted into rounded bricks and stained symmetrically. (They were always considered normal and typical, but due to the German “hut tax”, rectangular huts became prevalent). The thatched roof is also very neat. The tout ensemble will make these huts a place in the garden of any nobleman. ”

Merensky, at Deutsch Arbeit am Nyaßa , quotes the missionary: “We roamed the magnificent banana groves and elegant, clean-built huts of our Nyakusa.When you look at people, it seems as if they are celebrating a holiday every day. They look so clean they don’t know the job. One. sees women and children picking up fallen fruit from the ground, while men and young people walk, mostly holding hands … The whole image gives a charming picture, indeed more beautiful than the words conveyed “Similarly quoted by missionary Richard “You can imagine yourself in a garden on Lake Geneva.” To quote Major von Wiessmann: “They are as happy as Africans can be… modest, hospitable, and so far they have managed to keep dangerous enemies out of their necks and maintain their independence. ”

The film Mother Night is set among the African peoples of the Chaga and Nyakusa and claims to be based on the funeral rituals of these tribes. After the death of his father, the main character, Danny, according to the custom, has to have sex with all seven of his widowed stepmothers in one night.

Condé Riot

By 1897 the Germans were no longer happy with their status in East Africa, and we have what could be called the Condé Rebellion of 1897 , a tripartite dispute between the military, missionaries and nyakusa with some Kinga, including including the German safari conductor Bauer.Zugführer Bauer was personally acquainted with Baron von Eltz and with almost all the missionaries in the area and at least some of the leaders. Almost everyone knew Bauer, but few knew his rank. (Even Charsley calls him a lieutenant in his book.)

Von Eltz, who did not have Askari available, decided to cede the administration of justice to missionaries of “trivialities and punishments”, making the case truly amaze fans on December 2, 1893. Lutheran Missionary Schumann writes: “Muambeneke stole five head of cattle from Mount Rung.I tried to influence Muambenek, but to no avail. ” Missionary Schumann continues: “On December 23, 1893, another chief also stole the cattle, but as they say … in the process of returning it. Muambeneck refuses to return stolen cattle, etc., Saying that he doesn’t even know “White” (Els) in Rumbier (Langenburg), maybe you need cattle, etc. etc. I want to note that the protectorate forces have not yet presented themselves to the black population as the highest judicial authority, there is currently no concept of distinction between protectorate forces and missionaries.In the eyes of the inhabitants, they are one and the same. “(The latter probably refers to Bauer.)” I (Schumann) was even accused of having tried with a pistol in my hand. ” said: “If someone wants something from him, the Germans must come to him, because he was afraid of Nyassa (lake?). On the other hand, if we wanted war, he was ready.” Governor Scheele writes: “. … Temporarily no company should be sent there … “

Finally, in October 1894, Bauer reports that he took the cattle from the leader Masakiwande and burned the village due to the theft of cattle, and although many residents brought him their Complaints pending, he found no one to act as porters, and in confusion were forced to drag Bauer’s cargo to Manow’s mission.When Bauer listened to their complaints, they suddenly fired him. On November 5, 1894, he (Bauer) reports: “Muarukwa did not agree with the return of 10 head of cattle, saying that the Europeans in Langenburg had nothing to do with it.” The problem ended when Bauer burned down the village and took away the cattle, killing five men and three women.

The situation was completely out of control by 1897, when the leader Makelimba “killed” two Askari on February 5, and Bauer barely left (chatterbox Ne Davon), and by December 1897, after Bauer left for Germany (he may have felt the approach of trouble).) Nyakusa and some of the King’s leaders came together to rid the land of all missionaries and other whites. German authorities belatedly learned of the conspiracy from missionaries who did not provide information. Lieutenant Alpones claimed to have gone with a detachment of forty-five Ascari who were then ambushed by more than two thousand condes ( Hehe style ) who, confident of victory, did not use their spears because they wanted to strip Alpon naked and putting a brass ring on his head for taunting them for their nakedness, wanting the condes to work, buy clothes, make money, and probably by paying taxes, the Condes were defeated in overwhelming firepower.Missionary Maas reported that he saw about 30 dead Condé in one place only.

It appears that Lieutenant Alpons and missionary Christoph Bank of the Lutheran missionary Gesellschaft were accused of not notifying the military for the entire rebellion. The missionaries argued that Lieutenant Alpons deliberately provoked Condé. As a result, the missionary bed was transferred to Ubena, and Lieutenant Alpons was recalled as district commander.

Culture and Society

Collectively, the Nyakusa are traditionally thought to be associated with the Kinga of the Livingstone Mountains, which themselves spread westward as immigrants.The “nobles” who ruled the land possessed divine power, lived in strict religious seclusion, their leaders (princes) strangled their advisers in old age or due to illness in order to maintain rain, fertility and health of the village. … The chief’s advisers were never his relatives, but were only non-hereditary commoners who wielded considerable power over the chief.

Nyakusa were colonizers where success and survival depended on individual efforts. According to M. Wilson, in 1892 nothing was known about slavery, although the slave trade definitely existed in the vicinity of Kondé in Karong.They lived in very small chiefdoms, not in groups of relatives, but in groups of peers trying to live in harmony to avoid unhappiness.

Nyakusa were avid farmers. Practiced intensive crop rotation with corn, beans, squash, sorghum, millet, yams, etc., with banana plantations for miles. Clearing and loosening the ground three to four hours a day was the responsibility of the men and his sons, not the women. The harvest was used for food, beer and hospitality, as well as for sale and exchange.Neither old age nor high status relieved a man from his duty with a hoe. It is said that they were afraid to leave their area due to fears that they would not be able to exist without the usual food of meat, milk, bananas, etc. their leader Kyungu calls for rain. All villagers are advised not to light a fire in their homes in the morning during the ritual ceremony of calling for rain. All residents await the sacred fire from the sanctuary called moto ufya to be distributed.

Arbitration in a dispute between a friend or neighbor is considered very important. The headman or prince did not have the power to enforce decisions, and although there was no attempt to calm the quarrel, it is considered most appropriate to come to an agreement through some group opinion of equals, prevailing before adolescence, based on friendship, help and cooperation.

There were no clans or hereditary groups with a common name, and family ties in the third generation were often forgotten. War is rarely mentioned in the tradition, although border disputes were normal and could lead to fights.The hunters, not the warriors, were heroes, and they hunted to protect life and property, although the choice of weapons indicates that they were also organized for war. Missionary Nauhaus was told of a border dispute in November 1893 in which six people fell on one side and only one on the other. This friction was not called a war, “I was told that it only happens to have something to talk about.”

Outside of the chiefdom, the world can also be dangerous. The journey of twenty-five miles could take three days due to the need for frequent shelter.Not only were there unfriendly villages, but also because there were many leopards, elephants, buffaloes, hippos, crocodiles, etc. Before the arrival of the German missionaries, the Nyakusa simply “threw their dead” or left them to die in Itago.

Public life

Older men predominated among women. They lived in their husband’s house, got married ten years earlier than men, lacked solidarity, lacked leadership, and had no family to protect their interests.Missionaries reported widespread adultery, divorce, litigation, and family instability. Nyakus was accused of being “frivolous” about marriage, as few women in their thirties were still married to their first husband and were very often fifth or sixth. Women spent thirty hours a week firing wood, and only when their wives were sisters, aunts, or nieces could they regularly work together. Missionaries believed that fierce competition for favorite among men’s wives partly explained the low status of women, which was still considered higher than that of other tribes.

Age groups have dominated their entire lives. The boys guarded fields and livestock and lived in separate camps from about ten years old and lasted a lifetime. Since women married much earlier than men, incest was very troubling for Nyakyus and was resolved by placing fathers in one village and sons in another. Until the age of ten or eleven, the boys herded their father’s cattle in groups, then plowed the fields of their fathers and continued to eat their mother’s food. They no longer slept in their fathers’ homes, but joined an age-appropriate boy village with a separate leader, laws and customs, and they could be considered members of two villages.Men and boys were expected to eat regularly with their peers, and they were encouraged to bring two or three friends home to eat; the parents were proud of this, because if a young man often came home alone to eat, his father could beat him or even take a spear and injure him. The isolates were not easily tolerated. Next from M. Wilson: “This great fool comes to my house alone, over and over again, to eat well with friends or to walk in groups of four or five.”Eating with peers was considered correct, correct and moral. It was considered indecent, indecent and somewhat immoral to eat with juniors or women. The women ate alone with their young children and unmarried daughters.

Sexual morality depended on the separation of sexual activities: “If he sleeps at home, he will hear what his parents are talking about at night, the night is always full of lewd talk; he can even see them undress. He will grow up to be a fool. ” Again> Wilson

When there was an oversupply of young bachelors and a shortage of unmarried girls, the problem was solved by creating a new settlement.Only after the young man had a wife with him constantly, he was able to have his own fields and eat their products. The cultivation of the land required the cooperation of men and women, and the skillful preparation of food required women. Until the man got married, he still worked in his father’s fields and ate in his father’s house.

When the eldest sons of the chief reached the age of thirty-three to thirty-five, the father handed them over to rule the country in a “coming out,” a ceremony of great pomp. All fires were extinguished and new friction fires were ignited.As the sons were now the new owners of the chiefdoms, other principalities were raided in search of livestock and food; they also raided their father’s land in search of milk, livestock and bananas.

“Swagger”

Revelry parades consisted of feasts, dances, demonstrations of the beautiful bodies and physical strength of both men and women. It included ceremonial ornaments, beautiful clothes, or magnificent livestock. The father would say “swagger first” if the son wanted to get married at a young age.

Since a bachelor was considered a more brutal warrior than a married man, marriages were often delayed because, although politeness and good disposition were praised, the willingness to fight was a valuable trait useful in war. “In the old days, we did not drive out cruel people; they will fight us in the future. ” [ citation needed ] Demonstration of swagger was considered appropriate, especially among bachelors, but married men also fought skillfully, and none of them created a military kingdom.They simply attacked their neighbor’s livestock, leaving the missionaries in disarray.

Feeding

Nyakusa were primarily herders and banana cultivators, with cattle and milk being the most important. Small ruminants, which were their greatest pride, were hooked and milked only by men at night. Women were not allowed to deal with livestock, and they did not play any role in public life. They were expected to be obedient, respected, and used “yes, my lord” when addressed, and were reported to be completely submissive to men, but missionaries still viewed their position as superior and better than that of other tribes.Cattle for the Bride However, they were considered vital and gave men even more control, although the missionaries believed that the position of women was not bad.

Although the nyakusa were skilled mats, they did not make pots, cloth, iron or salt, and the trade remained very small. The only trade was with the Kings, where the Nyakusa traded surplus food for weapons and agricultural implements of significant artistic value.While the arms and tool trade with King was important, marriage partners with King’s women were not, as King’s women were considered too filthy to marry.

The outbreak of rinderpest may not have devastated their herds until 1892–1896. Protecting livestock from raiders by day and witches by night has long been a traditional social activity. Humans continued to use bark, house cloth, or animal skins at least until the advent of Germany.calico The chieftain’s power depended on his right to demand food, high bride prices for his daughters, and anticipation of entertainment.

Njakus’ practice was to work together in community groups, each family doing this two or three times a year. From a missionary perspective, being prone to insecurity, lying and theft, they considered “company by the fireplace” very important and emphasized the duty to eat and drink along with urban manners and friendliness. They considered the fun conversation to be a discussion among equals, considering it an outstanding example of sustainable comfort attainable in African life through simple Iron Age culture.

Cultivation was prestigious and provided the hospitality on which the Nyakusa community depended and depended. Great attention was paid to cordiality and the person was praised for communicating well. Significant pressure forced both men and women to cultivate diligently, but not too noticeably, since everyone must keep up with their neighbors. The pressure helped to keep the laggards at the proper level and did not allow the players to get too far ahead.

There was little trade between the various small principalities in Nyakus.However, economic ties between princes were unreliable at best, and exchanges most often took place within chiefdoms. In fact, there was very little trade between the various chiefdoms, as there has always been a state of war among the Nyakusa, whether actual or potential. The weakness of any central authority is indicated by the periodic civil wars prior to the Ngoni invasion.

Belief System

Nyakyusa stood naked before evil. [ Clarification Required ] There was no concept of reward or punishment in the afterlife.The religion was earthly and was associated with fertility and prosperity. They were afraid of punishment on this earth; and, in the words of Monica Wilson, “the woman’s infertility was the result of her failures, and she was oppressed by feelings of guilt.” Only with the advent of Christianity did the fear of being burned in hell appear with rewards and punishments intended for the afterlife.

Medicines

Medicines were essential for success, cultivation, herding, hunting, love, war, healing the sick, protecting and retaliating, or even directly harming the enemy and defending against witches.It could be used against a thief or an adulterer, or applied to homes or fields to legally bring evil. Medicine can be good or evil, legal or illegal, and can help or harm.

Spiritual Beliefs

The belief in the existence of witches was pertinent to Nyakus’s worldview. It was believed that some people fly pythons, harming people and livestock at night. These witches inherited their strength and pythons from their parents, and greed was the typical motive for harming people and livestock.The pythons craved meat and milk at the funerals of the slain. It was believed that sexual dreams were not related to witchcraft, although witches always walked naked, flew through the air astride their pythons, and “strangulation” is a polite word for sexual intercourse.

Some people in the village had the ability to see witches and fight with them in their dreams, and they were called “protectors”, the most important of whom were the headmen of the village. The visions and power of the protectors came from the same source as witches and pythons.The defenders acted within the bounds of law and morality, while the witches acted selfishly against the law and morality. The defenders worked through their dreams at night. They were powerful, used their power to punish criminals, and acted in particular to protect cattle, as they all ate bananas, beans, and cattle milk, and while witches could avoid protectors, they were considered pillars of society. They could see and drive away witches and make them or their children sick using Python Power, Human Breath, Curse, or public opinion.No one admitted that he possessed the power of a python: that would be boastful, proud and ill-mannered.

It was not only the lack of hospitality that shocked people and could cause “human breath”. Bad behavior towards a husband’s parents or relatives, cursing or beating the husband, having children after a daughter-in-law has reached puberty, and signs of pride can all lead to long-term illness. However, in general, the Condés were considered brave and smart.

Witches are commonly described as isolated and unpopular, proud men who disdained neighbors and remained silent in public, and as somber women who did not greet other women or ask about their children.Witches rarely acted without reason: they acted out of greed or hatred, and against those with whom they have grudges.

Since childhood, most Nyakus have a lifelong fear of witchcraft. When a person was accused of witchcraft, he could be forced to move from the village, and sometimes from the chiefdom. The woman was usually divorced, but soon remarried. Rarely has an alleged witch been killed, as the witch was too useful in war to be lost to the chiefdom.

If there was any doubt about the accusation of witchcraft, they resorted to Umwafi. If a person did not vomit while using umwafi, he was considered guilty. Doubters claimed that each family chose members who vomited easily. Sometimes entire groups of people were tested by the Umwafi to see where the problem was coming from. According to Monica Wilson, the last incident took place in 1932.

See also

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