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Dry orgasm – Mayo Clinic

Dry orgasm occurs when you reach sexual climax but don’t release semen from the penis (ejaculate) — or you release very little semen. Semen is the thick, white fluid that carries sperm.

Dry orgasm usually isn’t harmful, but it can interfere with the ability to father a child. Over time, many men say a dry orgasm feels normal.


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What Having a Male Orgasm Really Feels Like, According to 15 Men

Every woman has wondered what the male orgasm feels like at one point or another. When you have different sex organs, you can’t help but wonder or feel at least a little curious about what their experience is like. Here, 20 guys try to describe the feeling of a male orgasm as best they can:

1.“It feels like popping a really big zit except the zit is your penis and the pus is ejaculate. It doesn’t hurt, but it’s still the same.” —Michael, 24

2. “It feels like that moment in between falling asleep and waking up. Total escapism.” —Paul, 23

3. “It’s like the most satisfying experience of being invincible and relieved at the same time. It lasts only a few fleeting moments before you come back down to earth.” —Alex, 24

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4. “It’s almost like the feeling of being tickled while you have to pee, but in a good way.” —David*,28

5.It feels different depending on what it’s inside and how much buildup there is. Orgasming in something warm and wet (like a mouth or vagina) feels like arriving home after a long trip and collapsing into my bed–intensely relieving, pleasurable, and a little tiring but in a good way. Orgasming in my hand with little foreplay and no lube feels satisfying, but not particularly pleasurable, like the end of a workday or Netflix show. The constants: the spasming, the mess, and the immediate search for tissues.” —Matthew, 28

6. “On a physical level, it feels like your whole groin area is tensing up. It’s like getting a cramp, but in a good way. Like, your dick is having a spasm, but it feels great. It’s really hard to explain.” —Tom, 24

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7. “Like peeing, on molly.”Greg, 23

8. “It’s exactly like your first sip of coffee in the morning, when, for a split second, the burden of knowing you’re going to die is gone. ” —Jim, 30

9. “It’s like your penis takes over your brain for a few seconds. Like everything goes numb, except for this amazing sensation in your penis. You can’t focus or feel anything else. You might as well not even exist. You’re just this good feeling, and then it goes back to normal and you’re like, ‘Dammit.'” —Shawn, 22

10. “Imagine a tube of toothpaste that’s almost empty and someone rolls it up and squeezes it as hard as they can and the toothpaste shoots out everywhere. Except the toothpaste is coming out of the most sensitive part of your body and it feels awesome.
Ryan, 25

11. “Think back to the time when you had to pee really bad. Like, a road trip when you realized you had to go but had to wait an hour to get to the next rest stop. And you finally manage to find a bathroom. Remember that sense of relief. Now multiply that by 1,000.—Brian, 27

12. “It’s like eating your favorite food, except you’re doing it with your penis.”
Eric, 22

13. “Like when it’s a really hot day and then you walk into a department store and the air conditioning hits you. It’s that very first split-second, but over several seconds.”
Chris, 29

14. “That feeling you get when you crack your knuckles, except all over your whole body.”Alex, 25

15. “I don’t know. It sort of feels like when you get a cast off after having it on for a long time. Like, how right afterward, your arm feels really weird but really good? It’s that but, like, more intense. Like, it’s that feeling but it’s so good you can’t handle it.” —Zach, 25

16. “I don’t know. I don’t even know where to begin.” —Tyler, 23

17. “There’s this buildup right before, like getting to the top of a roller coaster. And then you sort of get that feeling like when you hit the drop after, but tingling. —Stan, 26

18. “It’s so hard to describe because your brain shuts off. It’s all physical pleasure and I don’t even think I have the awareness to describe it.” —Brendan, 28

19. “Like your wiener is made of cotton candy. I don’t know if that makes sense, but it’s the first thing I thought of. I’m just going with my gut.” —Noah, 26

20. “It’s like when you go from the Jacuzzi to the freezing pool and then back to the Jacuzzi.”Curt, 28

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Sex: Fact and Fiction

If there were a roll call for the founding fathers of sex myths for men, a couple of no-brainers would surely make the list: porn legend John Holmes, whose yule-log-size penis still casts a shadow over anxiety-prone males. Ditto NBA-great Wilt Chamberlain, whose claim of having slept with 20,000 women makes Don Juan look monastic.

And then there’s purveyor-of-sex-myths Walt Disney.

“I think Walt Disney creates a lot of mythology,” says Seth Prosterman, PhD, a clinical sexologist and licensed marriage and family therapist practicing in San Francisco. “In Disney movies, people fall in love and walk into the sunset, and you get this myth that intimacy is a given once you fall in love, and sexuality is natural and follows that.

In reality, says Prosterman, “Sex is something that we learn throughout a lifetime.”

If sexuality is a continuing education, a lot of us are scrambling to make up course credits. And in a realm that’s clouded by ego, myth and advertising that preys on anxieties, getting the facts about sex can be difficult. What is the average size of the male penis? How long do most men last during intercourse? Can men have multiple orgasms? Does the G-spot exist, and if so, how do I find it?

(Need to talk to the guys about something? Check out the Men’s Health: Man-to-Man message board for straight talk.)

Penis Size: The Hard Facts

“Drastically enlarge the penis length and width to sizes previously thought impossible!” reads a website for the Penis Enlargement Patch. (One envisions a lab-coated mad scientist pouring chemicals on his own penis, then shouting “Eureka!” and phoning the Guinness Book.) Almost anyone with an email account has been deluged by spam for such miracle-growth patches and pills, and the endurance of sex myths may explain the pervasiveness of such ads.

“We equate masculinity and power with penis size,” says Ira Sharlip, MD, clinical professor of urology at the University of California at San Francisco and president of the International Society for Sexual Medicine. “Of course, there’s really no relationship.” Still, Sharlip says, “all” of his patients want to increase their penis size.

The idea that bigger is better is “not just total mythology,” says Seth Prosterman, who has counseled couples since 1984 and notes that some of the women he’s worked with do prefer a bigger penis — aesthetically or “fit-wise.” But, he adds, “For the vast majority of partners, penis size doesn’t matter.”

So what, exactly, constitutes a big penis? Let’s whip out some data:

  • The average penis size is between five and six inches. That’s for an erect penis.
  • The flaccid male organ averages around three and a half inches.

Sex Fact: We Are Not Our Penises

If you had an anxiety hiccup before you read the “erect” qualifier, consider it a metaphor for the danger of jumping to conclusions about penis size — or about the primacy of the penis altogether.

“The idea that the penis is the most important part of your body underlies so many of men’s sexual problems,” says Cory Silverberg, a sexual health educator and founding member of Come As You Are, an education-based sex store in Toronto. “One of the biggest sex myths for men is the notion that we are our penises, and that’s all that counts in terms of sex.”

“It’s a myth that using the penis is the main way to pleasure a woman,” says Ian Kerner, PhD, a sex and relationships counselor in New York City whose book She Comes First offers a guide to “female orgasms and producing them through inspired oral techniques.” In his book, Kerner cites a study that reports women reaching orgasm about 25% of the time with intercourse, compared with 81% of the time during oral sex.

OK, OK, Size Isn’t Important. But How Can I Increase My Penis Size?

Despite the facts, the din of penis-enlargement marketing only seems to grow louder. (“Realize total and absolute power and domination in bed with your partner, with your new-found penis size and sexual performance” screams the ad for the Penis Enlargement Patch. ) Men keep chasing after the mythical, mammoth-sized member.

Silverberg says male clients at his store, and in his counseling work, constantly ask him about penis pumps, whose powers of elongation, he says, are a “myth,” although he adds that some men who’ve used them report satisfaction, a phenomenon he explains this way: “I think spending more time paying attention to our genitals will probably increase our sexual health.”

Just the Facts on the G-Spot

If sex myths have such power over men’s thinking about their own anatomy, they have even more sway when it comes to female partners’ bodies — especially the much-debated G-spot.

Named after a German doctor, Ernst Gräfenberg, who first wrote about an erogenous zone in the anterior vaginal wall, the G-spot was popularized by a 1982 book called … The G-spot. This region behind the pubic bone is often credited as the trigger for a vaginal (vs. clitoral) orgasm, and even a catalyst for female ejaculation.

At the same time, the G-spot is commonly derided as perpetuating the myth ensconced by Sigmund Freud — namely, that the clitoral orgasm is a “lesser” form of climax than the vaginal orgasm, which requires penile penetration. As Ian Kerner summarizes, “In Freud’s view, there were no two ways about it: If a woman couldn’t be satisfied by penetrative sex, something must be wrong with her.”

The G-spot’s existence is still debated, and whether it’s fact or fiction depends on whom you ask.

“The G-spot exists,” says Seth Prosterman. “It’s a source of powerful orgasm for a percentage of women.”

“I don’t think the G-spot exists,” says Ira Sharlip. “As urologists, we operate in that area [where the G-spot should be] and there just isn’t anything there — there’s no anatomical structure that’s there.”

Prosterman and others point out the importance of thinking of the G-spot in context — that it may be an extension of the clitoral anatomy, which extends back into the vaginal canal. Kerner writes that the G-spot may be “nothing more than the roots of the clitoris crisscrossing the urethral sponge.”

Helen O’Connell, MD, head of the neurourology and continence unit at the Royal Melbourne Hospital Department of Urology in Australia, says, “The G-spot has a lot in common with Freud’s idea of vaginal orgasms. It is a sexual concept, this time anatomical, that results in confusion and has resulted in the misconception that female sexuality is extremely complex.”

In the end, whether this debated locus of pleasure is fact or fiction may not matter that much. O’Connell, who is also co-author of a 2005 Journal of Urology study on the anatomy of the clitoris, says that focusing on the G-spot to the exclusion of the rest of a woman’s body is “a bit like stimulating a guy’s testicles without touching the penis and expecting an orgasm to occur just because love is present.” She says focusing on the inside of the vagina to the exclusion of the clitoris is “unlikely to bring about orgasm. It is best to think of the clitoris, urethra, and vagina as one unit because they are intimately related.”

How Long, Part 2: How Premature Is Premature Ejaculation?

The possibilities for exploring a woman’s erogenous zones may be tremendously exciting — which leads to another source of sex myth and male anxiety: How long can I last? And how long should I be able to last?

Premature ejaculation is “the most common form of sexual dysfunction in younger men” according to Ira Sharlip, and its prevalence is around 20% to 30% in men of all ages.

The medical method of determining premature ejaculation is called “intravaginal ejaculatory latency time” (IELT), a stopwatch-timed duration measured from the beginning of vaginal penetration until ejaculation occurs. However, Sharlip adds, this quantitative measure doesn’t tell the whole story: “There are men who ejaculate within a minute but say that they don’t have premature ejaculation. And then on other end of spectrum, there are patients who are able to last for 20 minutes, and they say they do have premature ejaculation.

In other words, the definition of “premature” may be largely in the eye (or mind) of the beholder, and depends on men’s sexual satisfaction and their perception of their ability to control when ejaculation occurs.

If you just can’t wait for the numbers, though, a study in the Journal of Sexual Medicine found “a median IELT of 5.4 minutes.”

Ian Kerner says a common cutoff time used to define premature ejaculation is two minutes, but he adds that many of the men he works with “are not guys who can last a few minutes; they’re having orgasms during foreplay, or immediately upon penetrating. They have a hard time lasting past 30 seconds.”

But a quick trigger is normal, says Kerner. “Men were wired to ejaculate quickly — and stressful situations make them ejaculate even more quickly. It’s been important to the human race. If guys took an hour to ejaculate, we’d be a much smaller planet.”

Sex therapists and physicians offer a number of techniques that can help men manage their anxiety and prolong their time to ejaculation. Several drugs — like some antidepressants and topical creams — have been prescribed by doctors to extend time to ejaculation.

And, contrary to the common perception that distraction or decreasing stimulation is the answer (slow down, think about baseball), some say that giving in to sensation can help address the issue as well. “The way to learn [to last longer] is by getting used to intense stimulation,” says Prosterman, “to increase the frequency of intercourse, and feel every sensation of being inside your partner and enjoy it.”

Come Again? The Mythical Multiple Orgasm for Men

While multiple male orgasm is possible anywhere two or more men are gathered and talking, actual male multiple orgasm is another story. Unlike the more established phenomenon of female multiple orgasm, men’s claims of successive climaxes can stray into the realm of sex myth. At the very least, male multiple orgasm is difficult to verify and may depend on the definition of orgasm.

Prosterman says that the book The Multi-Orgasmic Man popularized “an Eastern meditative process that involves wrapping the PC [pubococcygeus] muscle around the prostate. There’s a valve on the prostate that switches on and off before urination and ejaculation. The PC muscle stops this valve from opening, allowing an orgasm without ejaculation. The idea is to keep doing that five or six times in a row.

“Out of hundreds of guys I know who’ve tried this,” says Prosterman, “I know only one who’s been able to do it.”

Is this man Mr. Lucky, or just prone to poetic license?

A 1989 study in the Archives of Sexual Behavior recorded the testimony of 21 other men who claimed to be multi-orgasmic, but Ira Sharlip says “that doesn’t happen,” referring to the phenomenon of “multiple orgasms in succession over a short period of time — like minutes.” And there’s no such thing as separating ejaculation and orgasm, he says.

Orgasm or Orgasm-esque?

What may be at issue here is the definition of orgasm — which, according to a 2001 Clinical Psychology Review article, has been strikingly inconsistent. “Many definitions of orgasm “depict orgasm quantitatively as a ‘peak’ state that may not differentiate orgasm adequately from a high state of sexual arousal,” the study’s authors wrote.

In other words, those men who report multiple orgasms may be able to achieve orgasm-esque states before they hit the point of ejaculatory no-return. And many men report that strengthening the PC muscles through Kegel exercises allows them to edge closer to this “point of inevitability” without cresting the mountaintop of ejaculation and descending into the gentle valley of the flaccid and the “refractory” period, where the penis is temporarily unresponsive to sexual stimulation.

This refractory period — commonly 30 minutes or more — is an unfortunate reality. While you’re “waiting,” spending that time caressing, kissing, massaging, and nuzzling isn’t so bad. If you are trying to have a second round because your partner wants it, keep sex toys in mind.

And if that recovery period isn’t super quick, you can still enjoy multiple orgasms — you may just need to cancel your afternoon appointments.

Sex Fact: It’s Not Always about the Numbers

In the end, there seems to be a recurring theme in moving beyond sex myths: Don’t get too hung up on the numbers.

So often the key to sexual satisfaction is not about penis size, stamina records, or a technical isolation of the G-spot. Rather, it’s about understanding yourself and your partner’s desires and recognizing that, unlike those Disney characters, real people aren’t born with a perfect, divinely granted understanding of sex.

As O’Connell remarks on the perils of over-privileging of the G-spot, “It is best for partners to explore the precise areas that turn someone on and how a partner likes to be given pleasure. That applies to both men and women, and the idea that there is any consistent ‘magic spot’ in either sex is just tyrannical.”

Ejaculatory Dysfunction | Urology Associates

Ejaculatory dysfunction at a glance

  • Ejaculatory dysfunction is the inability of a man to efficiently ejaculate semen from the penis at the moment of sexual climax.
  • Ejaculatory dysfunction is the most prevalent form of male sexual dysfunction and is a common cause of male infertility.
  • Ejaculatory dysfunction is classified into four types: premature ejaculation, delayed ejaculation, retrograde ejaculation and anejaculation (no ejaculation).
  • Treatments for ejaculatory dysfunction include medications, behavioral therapy (for premature ejaculation) and sometimes surgery.

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What is ejaculatory dysfunction?

Ejaculatory dysfunction occurs when a man has a problem properly ejaculating his semen, either ejaculating too soon, too late, back into his own bladder or not at all. These situations can result in poor sexual satisfaction by the man and his partner, ineffective reproduction and emotional trauma.

Ejaculation disorders, also called aspermia, can be caused by a problem at birth (primary) or by acquired dysfunctions (secondary) after birth (often much later in life), such as disease, injury and adverse drug reactions. The four types of ejaculation dysfunction are premature ejaculation, delayed ejaculation, retrograde ejaculation and anejaculation.

Normal ejaculation involves an emission step, when semen is positioned in the penis near the prostate, and an ejaculation step, when the semen is forcefully expulsed from the penis.

Ejaculation occurs at sexual climax, or the expulsion of the sperm. Climax is different from an orgasm, which is centered in the brain and associated with ejaculation.

The mechanics of ejaculation are similar to a sneeze: both are reflexes with a point of no return. The average time from sexual penetration by the male to ejaculation is nine minutes.

Evaluation of ejaculatory dysfunction

Asking a patient about his personal history is generally the first step a physician takes in diagnosing and evaluating ejaculatory dysfunctions. This can reveal if the problem has always been present, which may indicate if it is due to a birth defect or to an acquired condition.

Elements of evaluation include:

  • Physical exam of the genitalia and testicles for structural problems
  • Semen sample for evaluation of sperm presence and health
  • Post-ejaculate urine sample if no ejaculate was produced
  • Hormonal testing
  • Transrectal ultrasound (TRUS) to look for structural problems.

Following are the four different types of ejaculation disorders, along with their causes, symptoms and treatments.

Premature ejaculation: causes and treatments

Premature ejaculation (PE) is when the man ejaculates within a minute of vaginal penetration or, more generally, when he ejaculates sooner than he or his partner would like. PE occurs in about 30 percent of men and is the most common type of ejaculatory dysfunction. Most cases of PE are treatable.

Causes of premature ejaculation are erectile dysfunction, anxiety, heightened sensitivity and neurological problems.

Treatment of premature ejaculation

Medications, physical therapy and psychotherapy are tools for treating PE. The goal of treatment is to decrease penile sensitivity and increase the patient’s control over his behavioral responses.

Oral medications can delay ejaculation for many men. Urologists may prescribe one of several medications for men with PE. The choice depends on whether the PE is primary or secondary.

Another medication is a topical lidocaine-prilocaine cream applied to the penis before intercourse to reduce sensitivity and delay ejaculation.

While medications may provide temporary relief, behavioral therapy is the only way to cure premature ejaculation. This can involve sex education to modify behavior and psychological counseling to address such issues as anxiety that may be causing PE. Education can involve relaxation techniques and methods of prolonging excitement without erection or ejaculation.

Behavioral modification involves such methods as:

  • Ceasing stimulation when the climax approaches
  • Altering stimulation before climax
  • Mental distraction from the stimulation
  • Other ways to reduce stimulation and delay climax.

Delayed ejaculation: causes and treatments

Delayed ejaculation is when ejaculation is retarded beyond a reasonable period after sexual stimulation. This happens from time to time with many men as a normal occurence but can be problematic if it occurs over a long period or frustrates either sex partner.

Delayed ejaculation can be a permanent problem present from the beginning of sexual activity. Or it can be an acquired problem occuring after a history of normal ejaculation. It may be general or situational, in which it may occur only with certain partners or situations.

Causes of delayed ejaculation can be physical, psychological or the side effects of certain medications. Causes also include alcohol abuse, diuretics (drugs or food and beverage ingredients that accelerate the body’s loss of water), high blood pressure, or the use of antidepressant, anti-seizure or antipsychotic medications.

Physical causes

  • Birth defects
  • Infections
  • Injury to pelvic nerves
  • Hormone issues
  • Neurological disorders
  • Prostate surgery.

Psychological causes

  • Depression
  • Sexual performance anxiety
  • Sexual fantasy issues
  • Low self esteem about body image
  • Personal problems in the sexual relationship.

Treatment for delayed ejaculation

Psychotherapy can deal with underlying mental health and psychological issues. Some mental health counselors are specially trained to deal with sexual issues. Counseling can involve just the male or he and his partner.

A few medications are also used to treat delayed ejaculation. These are not specifically approved for treatment of delayed ejaculation but are approved for treatment of other conditions. This is referred to as “off-label” use.

Retrograde ejaculation: causes and treatments

Retrograde ejaculation, also called dry ejaculation, is when some or all of the ejaculate is discharged back up into the bladder at sexual climax rather than out of the body through the penis.

Retrograde ejaculation can cause infertility but not any other problems. Doctors most often diagnose it through physical exams and ordering tests of a post-ejaculation urine sample that may show semen in the urine.

The cause of retrograde ejaculation is a fault in the muscle at the neck of the bladder that usually prevents ejaculate from flowing back into the bladder through the tube carrying ejaculate from the prostate to the urethra. The fault may be due to nerve damage from a medical condition (diabetes, spinal cord injury), reaction to certain medications or surgery (bladder, prostate).

It’s usually not necessary to treat retrograde ejaculation unless it is causing infertility that the male wishes to reverse. Stopping medications that can cause retrograde ejaculation is one form of treatment.

Off-label drugs can help the bladder neck muscle remain closed during ejaculation, preventing ejaculate from going into the bladder.

Assisted reproductive technologies, such as intrauterine insemination (one form of artificial insemination), may be used to work around retrograde ejaculation. This can involve procedures to retrieve the sperm from the male’s body and place it in the female’s uterus or inject it directly into an egg in her ovary (intracytoplasmic sperm injection).

Anejaculation: causes and treatments

Anejaculation is when no ejaculation occurs at sexual climax. This can be total anejaculation, occuring always during sexual stimulation, or situational anejaculation, occuring only under certain conditions.

Anejaculation can be primary — present from the start of sexual response — or secondary, brought about by some acquired condition, such as diabetes or multiple sclerosis.

Situational anejaculation is usually caused by stress and/or psychological issues associated with a particular partner or situation. This may mean the male can ejaculate with one partner but not another, or in one setting but not another, such as in a doctor’s office to supply a sample.

Total anejaculation may be anorgasmic, meaning the man can never reach an orgasm and ejaculate. Total anejaculation can also be orgasmic, meaning the man has an orgasm but does not ejaculate. Despite the lack of orgasm in anejaculation, the male may still produce semen discharge during sleep.

Reactions to certain medications can cause anejaculation, as can surgical procedures that affect the nerves involved in ejaculation. Most likely, the cause is a psychological issue that may involve upbringing and lack of affection.

The most common treatment for anejaculation is psychological counseling to address underlying causes and sexual therapy. Sexual therapy can involve sex education for a clearer understanding of the arousal process by the affected person. It can also involve therapy to encourage pleasurable reaction to touching and progression toward orgasm and ejaculation.

Treatment of anejaculation to overcome infertility includes sperm retrieval and placement options through what’s known among doctors as assisted reproductive technologies.

For men experiencing anejaculation as a result of spinal cord injury, a therapy known as penile vibratory stimulation can result in ejaculation. This treatment utilizes a vibrating device designed to make the penis erect and help achieve ejaculation.

Older Men Sex Problem, Decline in Orgasm, Ejaculation

Don’t worry. You’re not alone. Plenty of guys 50 and older experience difficulty with orgasm and ejaculation, says Dr. Louanne Weston, a sex therapist. One study found the problem affects as many as 16 percent of men in their early 60s, 23 percent of men ages 65 to 74, and 33 percent of men 75 and older.

The good news is that these difficulties can usually be resolved. The first step is to understand what’s behind the issue. The likely culprits include:

Aging. “As men age, they notice that their penis needs more stimulation to trigger ejaculation,” says sex therapist Dr. Dennis Sugrue. “This is normal, but often disconcerting.” Aging also weakens the pelvic floor muscles, whose contractions trigger an ejaculation. When these muscles weaken, semen dribbles out and orgasms may provide little pleasure.

Medical conditions. Neurological conditions (diabetes, paraplegia, multiple sclerosis) might damage the nerves that control orgasm. Surgery for benign prostate enlargement has no effect on orgasm, but it eliminates ejaculation.

Drugs. Antidepressants are notorious for impairing sexual performance. Alcohol is most associated with erectile dysfunction, but in some men, it causes orgasm problems. Other drugs may also contribute, such as pain relievers (Aleve, Naprosyn),  anti-anxiety (Xanax, Valium), and numerous blood pressure and psychiatric medications, among others.

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Stress. Sex therapists say that several emotional stressors may be associated with the problem: anger at one’s lover, fear of pregnancy or sexual infections, or fundamentalist upbringing. “I’ve seen ejaculatory problems linked to strict Catholic, Protestant and Jewish upbringing,” Weston says. “It’s not the religion. It’s the fundamentalism.”

“Delivery boy” attitude. Lovemaking involves giving and receiving pleasure, but some men believe their only job is to give it. “When a man pays too much attention to his partner’s experience and not enough to his own, he loses erotic focus, which can interfere with orgasm and ejaculation,” says sex therapist Dr. Marty Klein.

Delayed Ejaculation Causes | LloydsPharmacy Online Doctor UK

Some men would do anything to last longer during sex, thinking that’s what makes someone ‘good in bed’, which isn’t necessarily the case. But what if you found it difficult or impossible to climax?

Delayed ejaculation (DE), also called male orgasmic disorder, retarded or absent ejaculation, isn’t a source of pride, but of frustration and distress.

DE is talked about less than some more common male sexual problems such as erectile dysfunction (ED) and premature ejaculation (PE), however that doesn’t make it any less distressing for the man and his partner.

What is delayed ejaculation?

DE occurs when the ejaculatory reflex is ‘over inhibited’ – the threshold to orgasm is too high to achieve. Men suffering with DE tend to still feel sexual desire and arousal; they can get and maintain an erection. Sexual arousal can build up to a point where you feel very close to climaxing, but it just won’t happen, even after 30 to 60 minutes of thrusting during intercourse. This can leave you feeling starved of closeness to your partner as well as missing that release of tension and subsequent relaxation, which reaching orgasm can bring.

You may have suffered with DE since you were sexually active or it may have begun gradually or suddenly. Many men with psychologically induced DE find that it only occurs during penetrative intercourse with a partner. Masturbation on their own, with a partner masturbating them, or oral sex may often lead to a fulfilling orgasm and ejaculation. The problem may be specific to a certain situation – often this is penetrative sex.

Delayed ejaculation and relationships

DE can lead to the avoidance of sex and relationships. If you are left feeling frustrated or disappointed every time you have sex, it’s understandable that you’d tend not to engage in sexual activity.

A partner may feel that you don’t find them sexually stimulating enough, that they are bad lovers, or have an inadequate body. This is most likely not the case, but identifying and discussing the actual cause of the problem can be sensitive and far from simple. DE can lead you and your partner to become physically sore after lengthy penetrative intercourse. Using plenty of lubricant can help.

What causes delayed ejaculation?

DE can be caused by physical issues, psychological issues, or both.

Physical causes of delayed ejaculation:
Many conditions can contribute to DE:

  • Diabetes
  • Multiple sclerosis
  • Spinal cord injury
  • Bladder and prostate surgery
  • Certain substances: anti-depressants, blood pressure treatment such as Beta Blockers, antipsychotic drugs, muscle relaxants, strong painkillers, recreational drugs, steroids and alcohol.

Ageing can also have a part to play. The penis may lose some of its sensitivity with age and testosterone levels decrease in older men, slowing the arousal process. Equally, a female partner’s vagina may become more slack with age, providing less sensation during penetrative sex. Pelvic floor exercises are a good way for women to maintain condition in the muscles around the vagina.

If you have adopted a very fixed style of masturbation, perhaps with a very firm handgrip and vigorous movement, sex with a partner might not be as stimulating for you.

Pin-pointing the cause of your DE can be difficult, which is why you’re encouraged to discuss any concerns with your GP.

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Psychological causes of delayed ejaculation

Certain mindsets and attitudes may be having an impact on your DE:

  • Fear of causing pregnancy. Even if your partner is using contraception, you could try using condoms as well – the added benefit of that is protection from STIs and HIV and their associated anxieties
  • Inherited negative attitudes about sex
  • Feelings of shame
  • Strong cultural or religious beliefs about sex
  • Stress or depression
  • Sexual trauma
  • Relationship difficulties
  • Fear of feeling out of control or vulnerable – relaxing and ‘letting go’ does not always come naturally. DE may be a physical manifestation of psychologically ‘holding back’
  • Negative feelings about the look, smell or feeling of semen
  • Fear of losing physical control during orgasm, particularly the fear of sudden incontinence

How to overcome delayed ejaculation

You might be hoping DE will go away by itself. And maybe it will. However, if it has persisted for more than six months, start by visiting your GP to rule out any underlying health issues. Some medications affect your ability to ejaculate, so ask whether there are alternatives you can take, without those side effects.

If the problem has psychological causes, the following suggestions may help:

Explore what sexually stimulates you

It may be that you require more intense or varied stimulation to reach orgasm. You may benefit from watching some porn, looking at erotic images or literature, using sex toys such as vibrating devices and masturbation sleeves, cups or strokers. There are even specific devices available designed to help provoke ejaculation, through penile vibratory stimulation. These can all be incorporated into sex with a partner and can liven things up for them too.

Focus on the moment

Don’t make ejaculation or orgasm your ultimate goal during sex. Try to relax, enjoy the entire process, and don’t think about how it’s going to end.

Try alternating between masturbation and penetration with a partner

Masturbate yourself very close to the entrance of your partner’s vagina/anus/mouth (whichever opening seems to cause you this problem) and when you feel ready to orgasm, or just before, insert your penis. This will get you used to ejaculating inside your partner.

Try the ‘In-Method’

If you experience DE only with partnered sex, there is a 5-step method designed to bridge that gap between only you being able to stimulate yourself to orgasm and your partner being involved in that process.

  1. Start stimulation with your penis in your own hand.
  2. Allow your partner to stimulate your penis with their hand.
  3. Insert your penis into your partner’s vagina/anus/mouth, whilst holding your penis at the same time.
  4. Insert your penis into your partner, this time with them holding your penis.
  5. Insert your penis into your partner without holding it.

Find some alternative routes to arousal

If pornography or a very specific sexual act is the only route to ejaculation, try different ways to get aroused (without porn). Explore how you like to be touched, focusing on all your physical senses, noticing what temperatures, textures and pressures you enjoy.

Avoid ‘edging

If you are very practised at ‘edging’ – the technique where you hold back from orgasm for as long as possible, particularly whilst watching porn – you might have conditioned yourself not to ejaculate easily.

Extend the time between masturbating and partnered sex

Masturbating very frequently may cause your body to not be ready to ejaculate again by the time you have sex.

Talk about how DE makes you feel, either with a partner or a trusted friend

With a partner, discuss both of your fears and anxieties. Talking can lead to more trust and openness, a lack of which might be maintaining the problem.

Reduce your stress and anxiety levels

Regular physical exercise, mindfulness exercises and cutting down on alcohol can have a very positive impact.
If you have been experiencing DE most of the time, for at least six months and it is causing you distress, visit your GP.

Sex therapy

If physical causes are ruled out, and symptoms persist, you may wish to address the problem psychologically, by having sex therapy and working with a qualified psychosexual therapist. The College of Sexual and Relationship Therapists (COSRT) provides a directory to search for a psychosexual therapist in your area.

Charlotte Simpson is an Accredited Psychosexual Therapist and Relationship Counsellor in Private Practice in North West London.

Male Orgasm: What It Feels Like & How to Intensify It

We Looked at the Science Behind Your Climax

Before the scientific advances that led to the development of in vivo fertilization, the male orgasm was directly responsible for the existence of every human being in history.

Of course, without eggs, wombs, birth canals, midwives and everything else that goes into growing a sperm into a living human, none of those orgasms would have amounted to anything. But it’s still an interesting thing to consider, and helps explain, perhaps, the intense importance that many men place on their orgasms.

Of course, modern-day sex is very rarely about procreation. Even so, we’re not exactly looking at a shortage of humans being born, so the importance of a guy ejaculating is quite likely as low as it’s ever been. But it’s still worth asking the question — what is the male orgasm? Why is it such a big deal? How, if at all, is it different from the female orgasm?

We spoke with two doctors who specialize in such things — a urologist and a sex therapist — to help get to the bottom of all this.

1. What Is a Male Orgasm?

In most mainstream pornography, the male orgasm is the literal and figurative climax of the story, acting as the goal towards which all the participants are working. In real-life sex, that’s often the case, too, but it doesn’t need to be. It is something that requires work, however, since you can’t just orgasm accidentally, First, you need to enter into a state of physical arousal, i.e. achieve an erection.

Then, what happens next relies on your brain in a big way.

“The male orgasm is a sensation that is basically driven by the sympathetic nervous system, activated by your five senses,” says Dr. Koushik Shaw, MD of the Austin Urology Institute. “It is a complex interplay between your brain, your brain stem and your spinal cord. It can be heightened through your sense of touch, smell, and visuals. All your senses can activate the sympathetic nervous system, which in turn helps trigger the sensation of orgasm.”

And how long does this sensation last?

“That is going to be varied between different people and across various excitement states,” says Shaw. “Usually between a few seconds to 30 seconds.”

What Does the Male Orgasm Feel Like?

“Most people describe it as a pulsing, wave-like release of pelvic tension, associated with high levels of sexual arousal and pleasure,” says Dr. Jason Winters, founder and director of the West Coast Centre for Sex Therapy. “It’s the release.”

That being said, when you experience an orgasm, you’re not “most people” — you’re you. So your specific experience of orgasm can differ from other people’s.

“This is different for each person,” says Shaw. “It could be a feeling of euphoria, or just a general ‘feeling great.’ Your blood pressure can go up, your heart rate goes up. There could be a tingling sensation in your spine or your brain. It can really be a multitude of sensations and is different for each person.”

He also notes the “release of endorphins and enkephalins — the same hormones that give you a runner’s high or are released when you win a prize” that you feel during an orgasm.

“They are the ‘feel good hormones’ that will be released during an orgasm,” he adds. “So, in short — you’ll know because you’ll feel good.”

You’ll also likely know because you ejaculate — that is, shoot a quantity of semen, a white-ish sticky liquid out of your urethra — though sometimes younger boys can achieve orgasm before they begin producing semen to go with it.

Are There Different Types of Male Orgasms?

Are there kinds of orgasms you’ve yet to experience, new and unexplored forms of orgasm?

“In terms of what’s going on in the brain, no,” says Winters. In short, an orgasm is an orgasm. But, he notes that “from a sensory point of view, however, any add-on sensory stimuli can make the experience feel different. This can be from stimulating other parts of the body (i.e., other than the penis) during orgasm, for example, or different ways of stimulating the penis.”

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Basically, an orgasm you get from masturbation might feel different from one you get from a blowjob, which might feel different from one you get from penetrative sex, which might feel different from one you get from a handjob with additional prostate stimulation.

Apart from that, Shaw notes that your orgasms are likely to change slightly as you age.

“Orgasms are generally better when you’re younger, and not as strong as you get older,” he says. “Also, heart disease, diabetes, a high-fat diet, lack of exercise and anything that can affect your neurovascular system and sensation pathways negatively can diminish your sense of orgasm.”

2. Can Men Orgasm Without Ejaculating?

While most people associate orgasming and ejaculating together, they’re actually different things. Though this might be relatively rare cases, it is possible to ejaculate without orgasming, and also to orgasm without ejaculating.

“Orgasm without ejaculation is called ‘dry orgasm’,” says Winters. “It’s achieved by flexing the PC [pubococygeus muscle] during orgasm. This pinches the urethra shut, preventing ejaculation.”

Not sure what that means? Essentially, you’re performing the same move you’d do in order to stop peeing. If you know how to do that, you already know how to flex your PC muscle — now it’s just a question of trying to do it during your orgasm. Easier said than done, perhaps, but still possible if you’re willing to put in the effort.

However, in some cases an ejaculation-free orgasm might be an accident rather than an intentional outcome.

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“Alternatively, it can be the result of a problem called retrograde ejaculation (ejaculate goes up the urethra into the bladder, rather than out the urethra),” says Winter. “It’s also possible to ejaculate without orgasm.”

Shaw notes that ejaculating without having an orgasm could occur post-pelvic surgery.

“Prostate surgery can have this effect,” he says. “In other words, some medical procedures can have you lose your orgasm, but still ejaculate.”

And on top of physical procedures having an impact, chemical ones can affect your orgasm, too.

“People on certain antidepressants may keep their erection for minutes or hours and potentially delay their ejaculation for quite some time,” explains Shaw. “Sometimes, we use low-dose antidepressant medication to help treat people for premature ejaculation.”

3. What’s the Difference Between Male and Female Orgasms?

When it comes to sex, particularly between a man and a woman, people often focus on the differences between the male experience and the female experience.

But when it comes to the difference between the male orgasm and the female orgasm, apparently, there’s not much to focus on.

“There isn’t really much [difference] at all,” says Winters. “The few brain-imaging studies that are available show wide-spread activation of a whole bunch of regions of the brain in both males and females. There isn’t really much to differentiate the patterns of activation when you compare the sexes.”

That being said, what’s going on in the brain and what’s going on in the rest of the body are different things.

“If you compare female orgasm with male orgasm and ejaculation (which is a separate, but related, process), then differences emerge,” says Winters.

Which isn’t to say that women can’t also ejaculate — but female ejaculation is a wholly different phenomenon.

4. Can Men Have Multiple Orgasms?

Perhaps the main difference between men’s orgasms and women’s orgasms is how many they’re able to give themselves.

While men might have a hard time giving women orgasms, women are quite good at giving themselves orgasms, courtesy of an elevated capacity to be multi-orgasmic.

“Some people have the capacity to be multiorgasmic,” says Shaw. “Women tend to be more so than men, however, men can definitely have multiple orgasms.”

If you don’t have a ton of orgasm experience (or even if you do), that may be news to you. After orgasming, most guys experience “a refractory period, which is ‘how long before you can go at it again’” notes Shaw. “That can be anywhere from a few minutes to a few hours when you’re younger to a few days as you get older.”

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During the refractory period, Winters says “the body enters a state of sexual inhibition.”

“Arousal can’t continue or happen,” he states. “This is why guys typically lose their erections after ejaculation and no amount of stimulation will get them hard again.”

So are multiple orgasms on the table at all? Well, it seems to all come down to your ejaculation.

“The refractory period can be circumvented by preventing ejaculation during orgasm,” says Winters. “This can be achieved by pinching the urethra shut with fingers, or by learning (i.e., training) to flex the PC hard enough to prevent ejaculation.”

5. Can Men Intensify Their Orgasm?

Regardless of whether you ever achieve multi-orgasmic status, if you’ve had enough individual orgasms, you’re likely to realize that some of them feel more intense than others. Which raises the question — why? And the follow-up question: Can I make my orgasms more intense?

For starters, orgasm intensity is, according to Shaw, “complex, and also affected by testosterone.”

“Higher testosterone levels at a younger age can lead to a more intense orgasm,” he says, while “age-related lower testosterone, stress, lack of sleep, etc. can affect it negatively.”

As a result, “it is important to take good care of your penis and your sexual life, along with your health, to maximize the quality of your orgasms,” he adds.

That being said, it’s definitely possible to amp up certain factors in order to make your orgasms more intense. For one, using an erection-enhancing sex toy like a cock ring could potentially help. But more broadly, a lot of orgasm intensity is tied to build-up. Meaning if you just came a few minutes ago, having another orgasm not long after is likely to produce a relatively weak one. If you’re orgasming several times a day, you’re likely to have weaker ones in general.

Staving off orgasm over a long period, whether by avoiding masturbation and sex or by using a technique called “edging,” can help produce an extra-powerful one when you do.

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At the end of the day, everyone’s orgasm will be a unique experience brought on by a combination of factors — their sexual triggers, their surroundings, how much stimulation they’ve experienced since the last orgasm, and so forth.

But no matter the exact feeling, weak or strong, having the opportunity to bask in one of the best sensations known to humankind isn’t so bad, is it?

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90,000 Male orgasm. A topic that is not raised

Both in real life and in sexology, the female orgasm receives more attention than the male. There is an opinion that a man who has no problems with potency always experiences an orgasm, while for women the absence of it is normal (except in cases of anorgasmia). It is also often believed that ejaculation is the manifestation of orgasm. But, although both processes most often occur simultaneously, ejaculation is a mechanical release of sperm, and orgasm is a whole complex of sensations and changes in the body.

Prolonged sex: male strength or weakness

Half-hour frictions, which are often cited as the best way to satisfy a partner, are by no means the norm to strive for. Young, physically healthy men with a strong sexual constitution complete intercourse after 2-4 minutes. It upsets them, but from the point of view of sexology, this is the norm. A man, as a successor of the family, must transmit the seed as quickly as possible.

So men who are called “weaklings” can be proud of their health.By the way, it is these “weaklings” who are capable of heroic sexual marathons, as a rule, each subsequent sexual intercourse is lengthened. But a relatively sharp change in the duration of intercourse may indicate violations:

  • if you notice that intercourse has become consistently short, perhaps these are the first symptoms of prostatitis;
  • An increase in the duration of intercourse, especially a sudden and stable one, may indicate endocrine disorders.

Sexual marathons – an ordeal for a man

In his youth, a man can have several sexual acts in a row. Such sexual rises depend on many components, and they can be called a “special” situation in the life of any man. If a man is stable and every night he is ready to commit 5, 6, or even 10 sexual acts in a row, it is worth contacting a sex therapist.

Specialists in the field of sexology do not consider such feats to be a manifestation of health.But the lack of ejaculation or orgasm during intercourse, which are performed without a significant pause between them, should not scare you. Often, by the end of the “marathon”, a man retains only an erection, but the strength to complete intercourse is no longer there. For many, the lack of ejaculation is a serious blow. But in this case, as in many others, the man has the right to be weak. A rise in pressure, an excessively warm room and many other reasons can make a man “feel sick”. Reconsider the conditions and time for intimacy, and this problem will go away by itself.

If an orgasm disappeared with a consistently good erection and ejaculation, then the main reason, as a rule, is depression and depression, but sometimes this happens with mental and urological diseases or traumatic brain injury. Some medications can have these side effects.

Multiple orgasms – a reason to think

Normally, a man should not experience multiple orgasms. As a rule, this is a symptom of a violation of the work of higher nervous activity, although this violation does not always pose a threat to health.

Male orgasm and ejaculation characteristics can tell a lot about a man’s health. If you find the above symptoms in yourself, we recommend that you visit a doctor. The same goes for sudden changes in sensation.

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Sexology: Male orgasm. A topic that is not raised

90,000 Honest reporting on what is actually taught in sex training

“A man should see that you like it,” – a correspondent for “Gazeta.Ru ”boldly attended the training at the Sexuality Education Center and found out what men really want.

At the entrance to the building where the center is located, a sign bashfully reads: “Secrets. Education Center”. Another sign – “18+” – is already hanging at the entrance. Here you understand that this is education for those over 18, and you are not mistaken.

In fact, this institution is called the Center for Family and Sexual Education. Inside there will be a showroom, where vibrators of all colors and styles are laid out on the shelves, including miniature ones (“a guarantee of good mood”, as the coach later will tell us), simulators for training intimate muscles, lubricants on a water and silicone basis and other devices that will add variety to the sex life of all comers.

At the reception desk are advertising brochures with a list of trainings: “Training of intimate muscles”, “Male orgasm in your hands”, “Secrets of Thai mistresses”, “Oral seduction”. Questions about the direction of the educational center are removed by themselves. However, not everything is so simple: the local coaches are not only sexologists, but also psychologists, specialists in family relations.

Program director of the center Valeria Aginskaya states: their trainings are intended primarily for couples who want to strengthen relationships, improve their sex life and learn something new, and not at all for girls who want to master the techniques that have already allowed their girlfriends to achieve from men good things like a new car or a trip to the Maldives.Fine! I just have a relationship that would be nice to improve. (Although a trip to the Maldives would certainly do them good too.)

I choose the training by the name: “Male orgasm in your hands” seems to me the most intriguing. By the way, he is one of the most popular here.

Sex coach Alla begins her lesson with statistics: it turns out that out of 20 women, only one knows how to manipulate the male genital organ with her hands. “How do we usually do? We kiss, kiss, then hand down, felt the size – m, okay, ”she says, waving the dildo as if it were a pen or pointer.

In fact, she explains, hands are a great tool that can give a man a sensation that no other organs would.

Further I learn a lot of new and interesting things. In the meantime, we take out the visual aids hidden in opaque paper bags. Dildos. An embarrassed chuckle echoes through the audience. I’m holding back with all my might – I’m still not 14!

Besides me, there are three more girls at the training. And they, of course, are not 14. One of them had been to Oral Seduction the day before and was so inspired that now she brought her friends to learn manual seduction: this morning they came to visit her from Stavropol just in time.We have never been to Moscow – and it was such a success. I hope that after the training the girls went to Red Square. Still, it’s also an attraction.

Alla starts from scratch. Reflexively, I grab the pen and remember my college note-taking skills. “My husband is on the 33rd era of the zone. Urethral lips, bridles, shovch, cheeks. On the cheeks – yes, cheeks! – I guess to open the training manual, which is right there on the table.

Everything is set out there, and I can without panic sign the “anchoring technique” that Alla reveals to us: in the most general sense, it is to bind the memories and emotions experienced at night (or when people have sex there) to events of the day.In this case, we mean a kiss on the cheek, only the cheek is different day and night. Alla claims that this will tie a man to us once and for all, but it occurs to me that this will also help to take the man out of the family, if necessary.

However, the feeling that we are being taught this very soon disappears, because throughout the training the coach will repeat, like a spell: “your man”, “your husband”, “in your family.”

We apply a silicone-based lubricant to our hands – in this case, we need it on a silicone-based one, do not try to take it on a water-based one! “This is how the hands of a kind woman look like!” – Alla informs.We nod obediently and move on to the actual techniques of manual exposure. For the beginning of the technique for the emergence of an erection: “Dial”, “Corolla”, “Spider legs”. This is not difficult. It is much more difficult to follow the face.

On the opposite wall there are mirrors, in which you can clearly see how four women repeat manipulations on the simulator after the teacher – diligently, concentrating. Alla chooses one of the girls and gives her the task to follow our faces. As soon as we start frowning, the girl Natasha should shout the word “boobs”.“Remember: the face must be accessible! It is better to collect hair with an elastic band or a hair clip. And most importantly: on your face you should have heavenly pleasure written. Paradise! A man should see that you like it. ”

Next in line are stimulating techniques. “Gloss”, “Entry-exit”, “Dive”, “Wheel”. “Girls, keep in mind: you shouldn’t train on men,” says Alla, while we repeat the movements “three-two-times”. – Keep a dildo at home!

Movements should be brought to automatism: with a man you should have, at worst, a dress rehearsal, at best – a premiere. “

It is no longer so convenient to write Alla’s aphorisms with a hand smeared with lubricant, but I succeed. Better than holding your face, by the way. “Shiis-ki!” Again. Smile, smile. And also to straighten up and straighten your shoulders, because … “Girls, do not forget to show the man how you like it! Raise your hand higher, even if there are five centimeters, dance, dance around it, have fun with your body. There is no other way – if you do not like your body, he will not like it either! ”

During the break, we are discussing the advantages of erotic lingerie.It turns out that there is nothing better than a mesh jumpsuit: it will make a man feel like he has caught you, and testosterone levels will skyrocket. The look of the suit seems ridiculous to me, but Alla claims: these fishnet tights, stretched to the very neck, look just brilliant on any figure.

In the evening, a friend will say the same to me, who, it turns out, already has such a suit, and I will begin to be fiercely jealous.

The next set of techniques includes “Boat”, “Swing”, “Castle”.It seems easy, but Alla always comes up to correct me. Am I so hopeless ?! But no: “Diana, no, no, you have to put your hands in a boat – and like a dolphin, like a dolphin! – she turns to the girl on the right. – Oh-oh-oh-oh, well done! ” “I was just recently at the dolphinarium,” Diana breaks into a smile.

“Fan of a Geisha”, “Handshake”, “Flower”, “Violin”. They opened their fingers, held their palms down, up, turned their palms … “In sex, it is important for a man not only to see and feel, but also to hear,” Alla says and invites you to groan, gasp, moan, smack your lips and smack.Right now. “Let’s all together!”

“Ah …” – well, well, this is a failure. I clearly lack acting skills.

On the stimulation of the testicles, I am finally convinced of this: they are also encouraged to praise, without hesitation in expressions. The girls speak with enthusiasm, my weak squeak is drowned in a friendly chorus of voices. No, after all, this is not an occupation for intelligent women.

However, it is difficult only for the first time – I leave the class in a rather cheerful mood and report to my nonsexually groaning girlfriends that I have never giggled.I even liked it – after all, it was fun.

I suddenly find myself convincing my friends to go to the training too. How long can you live according to the “home-work-home” schedule. There should be a place for new knowledge in life.

90,000 Male and female orgasm: differences

1. 1.7 seconds is the average duration of a female orgasm. 12.4 seconds is the average duration of orgasm in men.These are the data obtained by the German sexologist Rolf Dagen. Summing up all the average orgasms, it turns out that a woman in her life is in a state of pleasure for 1 hour 24 minutes, and an average man – 9 hours 18 minutes. This contradicts the conventional wisdom that female orgasms take longer.

2. 41% of men who answered the questionnaire of the Russian edition of Playboy consider oral sex their favorite form of orgasm.

3. A woman has a 30% increase in the likelihood of having an orgasm if she has warm feet. This is the conclusion reached by Dutch scientists from the University of Groningen. True, in addition to the temperature of the legs, the researchers add, a comfortable psychological environment matters. So now sex in socks is not only a male prerogative.

4. 86% of men, according to one German survey, admitted that they experience the greatest pleasure from sex if their partner is inferior to them in terms of intelligence and education.In women, the opposite is true: the women who participated in the survey reported that the greatest orgasms are achieved with men whose intelligence is equal to or greater than their own.

5. 20-30 cm at an average speed of 45 km / h, sperm can fly if there are no obstacles in its path. The semen is thrown out at a frequency of about 3-4 doses, about once a second.

6. The number of pelvic floor contractions during a female orgasm varies from 2-4 to 10-15.

7. Women who often reach orgasm smile and laugh 2.5 times more often, French sexologist Margaret Leroy found out. Tests have shown that women who often orgasm have lower levels of anxiety. They also sleep better and (for some reason) have more vocabulary.

8. 62% of women with higher education experience regular difficulties in achieving orgasm, while among women with secondary education, only 38% have this problem. These are the data of a survey conducted by German researchers among 2,000 women aged 18 to 49 years.

The worse a woman’s education is, the better her orgasm: This finding is supported by a Canadian study that found that 55% of university graduates rarely have an orgasm, and 70% of women who never attended high school had orgasms. everything is fine.

9. 15-17% of women are able to experience multiple orgasms, which lasts up to 20-30 seconds. The peculiarity of multiple orgasm is that a woman has several waves of rise and fall of arousal, and only the last one ends with the release of sexual tension.

10. The frequency of female orgasms increases in proportion to the increase in the partner’s income. This is the conclusion reached by Dr. Pollet and Professor Nettle of the University of Newcastle in their study. Scientists call this “evolutionary adaptation”: income is a measure of the male’s rank in modern society.

11. Up to 100-150 beats per minute (and in some cases up to 180), the pulse of a man increases during orgasm.

12. 2 pacifists from San Francisco in 2006 organized the action “Global Orgasm for Peace”.Its essence is that as many people around the world as possible in one day and at the same time reach orgasm – especially in countries with weapons of mass destruction.

Since then, the action has become an annual event, usually timed to coincide with the winter solstice. Participants choose the degree of privacy themselves: no one calls for orgasm on the streets. More than 25,000 people visit the website of the action www.globalorgasm.org every day. The site has a calendar indicating what time in your time zone you should strive for orgasm.

13. The fate of 300 women who recovered from anorgasmia was observed for 10 years by American psychologists under the leadership of R. Levant. Their biographies were compared to biographies of a group of women who had similar orgasmic problems, but refused or interrupted treatment.

As it turned out, in the group who learned to achieve orgasm, the number of divorces was less than 20%, while in the group of women without orgasm, it exceeded half. Women from the first group showed stable career growth and a higher level of income compared to women who did not learn to reach orgasm.

British physician A. Fielding conducted an experiment: 100 men at the age of 40 were asked to assess the appearance and character of 50 girls on a ten-point scale, and “secretly” men were told that the first half of women reach orgasm, and the second does not. As a result, “orgasmic girls” were rated three times higher.

Can a man experience multiple orgasms and how to do it

Katerina Khripko

Multi-orgasm usually means the ability to experience several orgasms with a minimum interval – from a few seconds to several minutes.More often women have it – due to the absence of the so-called refractory period, which men have: after ejaculation, they need some time to rest. As a rule, in the next 10-60 minutes (each has its own period), a man is not ready for new ejaculations, so he usually does not want sex either. The girl, even after intimacy, remains a little excited and is more open to tenderness, hugs and new orgasms.

How a man can experience multi-orgasm

The main thing that is known about male orgasms is that they are very poorly studied , unlike female ones.For example, researchers from Canada and Australia collected data on male multi-orgasms 90,153 through surveys – not the most objective method.

However, it turned out that male multi-orgasms are of two types: when it is possible to cum several times in a row during one “run” (condensed multi-orgasms), and when a man goes through all stages several times in a certain time, for example 15 minutes, from arousal to orgasm and ejaculation (sporadic multi-orgasms).

You need to understand that orgasm and ejaculation – although parallel, but different processes.In light of this fact, talk about the fact that the male orgasm, in contrast to the female, has an obvious reproductive function, loses its meaning.

Ejaculation is what includes the refractory period in the male body. But if you learn to orgasm without spilling sperm, then you can cum several times in a row, according to 90,153 researchers.

For these purposes, some practice a radical technique: if, on the eve of orgasm, squeeze the penis just below the head, in the place where it grows together with the bridle, then you can finish dry.

But as the main method, men, consciously achieving multi-orgasm, use the trained pubic-coccygeal muscle – to delay ejaculation and come without it. To do this, you need to practically reach orgasm, to catch the moment when “almost everything is already” – and by muscle tension to block ejaculation.

It may take some time to find the threshold of the “point of no return”. Perhaps, on the first try, nothing will work, or it will work, but without an orgasm. You can start by training without a partner (or partner), and having already learned how to control the process, “roll in” it in sex.

How to train the pubic-coccygeal muscle

A set of Kegel exercises will come in handy. There are many variations of them, but in general they are similar. Sexologist William Hartman, founder of the Center for Marriage and Sexual Research, describes exercise in Any Man Can: The Revolutionary New Multiple-orgasmic Technique for Every Loving Man.

To feel the right muscle, try interrupting your urine several times. By pumping it up, you can prevent ejaculation as well, since semen flows out through the same channel as urine (don’t worry, both fluids can’t flow out at the same time).

There are two types of exercises that can be used one after the other. In the first case, you tense the muscles and hold the tension for three seconds, and then relax. Start with daily sets 25 times in a row and gradually increase the load.

In the second exercise, quickly contract the pubic muscle and quickly relax. Also start with 25 times a day.

Exercise until you feel a little tired, do not overextend the muscle, build up the load gradually.

Can retention of sperm be harmful to health

It is rumored that the lack of sex life is harmful precisely because of the stagnation of sperm – if not wasted, it will stagnate, which can lead to inflammation. Some suggest that even masturbation will not save you from such a problem, since it is associated with weaker ejaculation.

Urologist-andrologist of the highest category Alexander Batsenko explains that the intensity of ejaculation is influenced by psychological problems, sexual fantasies, stress and physical fatigue, sleep disturbances, the state of the vessels and muscles of the pelvic floor, the balance of hormones, the number of sexual acts the day before and other factors, therefore the quality of ejaculation with or without a partner or partner is not entirely correct.

Alexander Batsenko

Urologist-andrologist of the highest category.

There is no evidence in the literature that multiorgasm (and the ways in which it is achieved) is harmful or beneficial. From experience I can say that sometimes men come to me who, after such practices, have problems with the prostate gland, urination and others.

But this is unlikely to indicate that multi-orgasms and delayed ejaculation were the main cause of these disorders.Rather, it means that there were already chronic diseases or a predisposition to them, and such sex practices simply accelerated their manifestation. I think there are a huge number of men who, experiencing multi-orgasms, feel great and, accordingly, do not go to the doctor.

Aleksandr Batsenko also claims that the absence of any sexual activity can lead to negative consequences due to stagnation of venous blood in the pelvic organs, and not at all due to stagnation of sperm.In turn, stagnation of venous blood in men can develop due to genetic predisposition, passive lifestyle, alcohol abuse – and only then from the frequency of erection and ejaculation. The urologist emphasizes that in case of a lack of sexual life, nature itself has created a mechanism for training blood vessels in the form of night and morning erections.

Against the theory of sperm stagnation, the fact that men who have undergone a vasectomy (ligation or removal of a fragment of the vas deferens) for contraceptive purposes always end without ejaculation (although sperm is produced) and this does not cause them health problems.Otherwise, medicine would refuse such operations.

Nevertheless, Alexander Batsenko recommends completing sex with full ejaculation, during which it turned out to delay the release of sperm a couple of times. In the end, this is how nature is laid, and until we have high-quality medical research on the safety of such experiments, it is better not to go against it.

If such practice instead of pleasure brings discomfort, pain in the lower abdomen, testicles or perineum, leads to the appearance of blood in the semen and other alarming symptoms, then this is a reason to consult a doctor.

What affects the period of “rest” between intercourse

As for sporadic orgasm – when after ejaculation a man is almost immediately ready for a new approach, then the situation is slightly different and almost impossible to control and train.

A study from the International Journal of Endocrinology shows that a surge in prolactin is responsible for the decrease in libido after orgasm – it decreases the level of hormones responsible for sexual desire: testosterone in men and estradiol in women.

However, a person is not an easy creature, and hormones, apparently, are not the only thing that influences attraction . Using the same surveys of 90,153, Canadian and Australian researchers identified several factors that help to make orgasms not only more frequent, but also brighter.


This is a lover who enjoys the process, is in no hurry to finish everything as soon as possible, who excites you very much and with whom you have an emotional closeness.A comfortable leisurely environment is also desirable.

Most of the respondents reported that they can experience multi-orgasms with one girl, but cannot with others. For example, one man said that he had finished many times before, but with his current wife, who quickly gets tired in the process, he prefers to stop after the first orgasm.

Different types of stimulation

The survey participants noted that if they were strongly aroused, then stimulation after orgasm returned the decreasing arousal almost immediately.Most of the men reported that a change in activity helped them to recover: oral sex could change into massage or caress with a sex toy.


Despite the fact that in the survey among the multi-orgasmic factors, the novelty of the partner was highlighted, the key here, most likely, is the very fact of novelty. In sexology, there is the concept of the “Coolidge effect”. Its essence is that with a new partner, the refractory period is often shorter than usual. The novelty is associated with the main hormone of love passion – dopamine.This probably explains the indomitable desire, which will not stop either increased prolactin or fatigue.

Sometimes it is enough to bring something new to sex with a wife or a constant girlfriend – role-playing games, for example.

Group sex

Also, some survey participants admitted that they did not need a break during group sex. Again, the point is, apparently, in the change of partners and the feeling of novelty.

In any case, with multi-orgasms, you should know when to stop and not engage in violence against yourself if something does not work out.The main conditions for achieving multiple orgasm are sincere pleasure from the process (and not a desire to surprise a lady with three hours of continuous sex) and self-care, including an active lifestyle, proper nutrition and refusal to consume excessive alcohol.

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Secret of the perfect male orgasm solved


As it turned out, the pleasure of sex depends not only on the qualities of the partner

Sex with a woman you know, who is not a constant sexual partner of a man, brings the stronger sex the least pleasure.This is the conclusion reached by experts representing the Canadian University of Queens, based on the results of their recent study.

Scientists invited 26 men of traditional sexual orientation aged 18 to 40 to participate in the study. Each of the participants was asked to listen to a series of audio recordings describing a particular scenario of sexual contact. At the same time, the specialists observed how obvious the external manifestations of sexual arousal were, and also asked the participants to tell about their own feelings.

The main difference between the scripts we listened to was the relationship between the man and his partner – in some cases it was about a stranger, in others – about a friend, in the third – about a woman with whom the man was in a long romantic relationship.

It seemed to the men themselves that in all three cases they experienced approximately the same arousal, but observation showed that in reality their bodies reacted somewhat less actively to recordings describing “friendly” sex, while sex with a stranger woman excited the imagination of the participants approximately to the same extent as having sexual intercourse with a long-term regular partner.According to experts, this also means that in a permanent relationship or, on the contrary, casual relationships, men experience a stronger orgasm than if they first have sex with an “ordinary” acquaintance.

The study was published in the scientific journal Archives of Sexual Behavior.

Experts note that in the past they have obtained similar results in a study in which women took part. According to the researchers, this means that the pleasure of sexual contacts depends not only on the appearance and skills of partners, but also on the status of the relationship between them, and in a rather unexpected way.

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It would seem: what could be simpler than a male orgasm? And it seems that a man does not need to make special efforts to achieve the peak of pleasure. But everything is not as simple as it seems in our female view.

Stages of male orgasm

The process of male orgasm can be divided into several stages.

  1. Stage of excitement : rush of blood, erection , acceleration of heartbeat, elevation and increase in the size of the testicles, stimulation of the nipples.

  2. Plateau phase : further increase in the size of the penis and testicles, complete elevation of the testicles, crimson head color (not always), secretion of Cooper’s glands, hyperventilation.

  3. Orgasmic phase : Semen and accompanying fluids are expelled from the vas deferens, seminal vesicles and prostate gland, accumulating at the base of the urethra near the prostate.
    Next, there is a tonic muscle spasm, an increase in blood pressure and respiratory rate, tight closure of the sphincter of the bladder, rhythmic contractions of the prostate, perineal muscles and the release of semen.
    The man feels a certain clouding of consciousness.

  4. Resolution phase : loss of erection, lowering of the testicles and relaxation of the scrotum, complete suspension of muscle spasms and blood congestion, lowering of heart rate and blood pressure.

The female orgasm is important for men!

In this case, the task refers to the satisfaction of the woman.The drive that a man experiences in bed is directly related to the satisfaction of needs … his own ego .
That is why for many men the orgasm of a woman is very important – this is his reward for a job well done; and your own orgasm remains in the background.
There are negative sides to this male attitude towards sex.
For example, if a partner for some reason cannot experience an orgasm, sex for a man becomes a real torment, morally exhausting and lowers his self-esteem.
In such situations, sexologists recommend that women give men rest by taking the initiative in sex. Give him pleasure by becoming the sex leader and letting him be led.
Experts recommend to switch places with each other more often , alternating the roles of an active and passive partner.

How to reach the peak of pleasure!

  1. Abstinence is a powerful aphrodisiac.

Women probably notice that male orgasms after forced abstinence – for example, after a business trip – are especially intense.And if you also occasionally flirt with your own husband on the phone or in ICQ … This tactic works great even when the man is around. It is enough to tease a man during the day, letting him know that you are just dying, how much you want to make love to him . Sexologists, for example, recommend, as it were, accidentally exposing your breasts in front of him when you dress in the morning, rushing to work, or call him in the office in the afternoon, telling him straightforwardly about your sexual desires.

  1. Delaying the final moment intensifies the orgasm.

For both women and men, the rule works: the longer the foreplay, the stronger the orgasm. Foreplay is especially important for men over thirty. But, at the same time, the instinct pushes men to constantly “inseminate”. The task of a good lover is to be able to restrain the onset of orgasm in a man , so that sex lasts enough time to build that tension, which then turns into a bright ending.

  1. Spontaneous sex – strong orgasm.

Sexual arousal is a mysterious and very powerful thing. Sometimes a spontaneous impulse to jump into the pool headlong, indulging in frenzied passion, can lead to the strongest orgasm. This is inherent in nature: sex without unnecessary ceremony allows the male animal instinct to manifest.

  1. His main erogenous zone is his cock!

When arousal reaches a critical point and orgasm is inevitable, a man has only one “erogenous zone” active – member .This does not mean that men do not like caresses and kisses. I really like it very much. But when it comes to orgasm, all of a woman’s attention should be focused on the penis.

  1. Men need love!

In fact, many men seek in sex the same thing as women, namely love, partner’s affection, emotional closeness. And although men do not like to show their emotions, 90,090 at the time of orgasm, they cannot hide anything .

What is good for a woman is for a man…

Orgasm without ejaculation and multiple orgasm are not myths, but pathology!
There are two main differences between male and female orgasms: first, men ejaculate during orgasm, that is, they throw out sperm; second – after ejaculation, they need rest to recover, while a woman, continuing sexual intercourse, can get repeated orgasms.

However, men, like women, can experience 90,090 multiple orgasms, but in the case of men, this is a pathology of and a reason to see a doctor.

According to the candidate of medical sciences, sexologist Sergey Agarkov, male multiple orgasm indicates a problem in the brain: such a man may have manic-depressive psychosis or some kind of brain damage caused by trauma or tumor.

Also in a healthy man, orgasm is always accompanied by ejaculation, that is, the release of sperm .

If a man has an orgasm without ejaculation, this indicates some kind of neurological disease in which ejaculation occurs inside the bladder.

True, there is another explanation for male orgasm without sperm ejection – he simply simulates it !

Scientists have uncovered the secrets of male sexuality thanks to the love hormone


Scientists have revealed the secrets of male sexuality thanks to the love hormone

Scientists have revealed the secrets of male sexuality thanks to the love hormone – RIA Novosti , 09.01.2021

Scientists have discovered the secrets of male sexuality thanks to the love hormone

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MOSCOW, January 9 – RIA Novosti, Vladislav Strekopytov. Previously, it was believed that the hormone oxytocin is produced primarily in the female body. But it turned out that he plays an important role in male sexuality. How this protein controls sexual behavior and why the hormone of calmness, empathy and trust sometimes causes anxiety and suspicion, RIA Novosti understood. The hormone of love Oxytocin is a small protein, a peptide of nine amino acids. It is produced by certain brain cells – hypothalamic neurons.It affects female reproductive function, lactation and childbirth, and also determines the model of maternal behavior, therefore it is often called the “female” hormone. Oxytocin also affects the psycho-emotional sphere: it makes a person trusting and benevolent, especially within the framework of his own social group or family. But the most popular and well-known role of oxytocin, which gave it the name “love hormone”, is in relation to reproductive functions, sexuality and romantic emotions.Its effect on female sexuality has been fairly well studied. It has been proven that it stimulates the smooth muscles of the uterus, increases the frequency and amplitude of its contractions, enhances sexual arousal and orgasm in women. But it turned out that men also have physiological mechanisms that control oxytocin. Test in rats Oxytocin is transmitted from the brain to various parts of the body through the blood and along neural circuits through structures called synapses. Japanese researchers led by Professor Hirotaka Sakamoto of Okayama University, along with colleagues from the United States and the United Kingdom, suggested that some of the oxytocin chains reach the lumbar region and control sexual function in men.To test this hypothesis, the authors injected the hormone of love into the spine of male rats, which increased the sexual activity of the animals. It turned out that oxytocin spurred on neurons in an area of ​​the spinal cord called the spinal ejaculation generator (SEG) – these neurons control the muscles at the base of the penis, so scientists injected animals with a substance that inhibits the activity of oxytocin receptors. Sexual activity and the number of ejaculations in rodents decreased. According to the researchers, this confirms the key role of the love hormone in the sexual function of males – it fully justifies its name.The Oxytocin Paradox However, it is not entirely clear whether oxytocin production is a cause or effect of sexual arousal. American scientists from the University of Utah have prepared a review in which they have combined the results of work on this topic over the past twenty years. And they were surprised to find that when oxytocin was dripped into the nose of the volunteers, their sexual arousal did not increase in comparison with the control group. But the opposite situation was observed: with arousal in people, regardless of gender, the level of oxytocin increased.The hormone promoted erection in men and the release of lubrication in women. The maximum level of the hormone of love is recorded, according to research, during and after orgasm. In men, it provides a rapid release of sperm, and in women, it stimulates the contractions of the uterus, helping the male reproductive cells to reach the target of the egg. The level of oxytocin in men returns to normal about half an hour after ejaculation. It is with this, according to scientists, that the so-called “feeling of satiety” arises immediately after intercourse.Moreover, those who received oxytocin intranasally before sexual intercourse had a brighter orgasm, a “satiated feeling” deeper, and they did not want to repeat intercourse any longer. It turned out that the hormone is also responsible for the relaxed state of calm that occurs in men after sex. Perhaps, the authors of the review suggest, the main task of the love hormone is to create special sensations after sexual intercourse. And here it is interesting to consider its effect on the psychoemotional sphere of a person as a whole. The hormone of trust and … suspicion Men participating in the experiments most often received oxytocin through the nose.It is not safe to perform such experiments on women: this substance greatly affects their reproductive function. So the psychotropic effect of the hormone has been better studied in men. Numerous studies have shown that oxytocin reduces anxiety, tension, anxiety in men, they become more open, look the other person in the eyes more often, understand and feel people better, and trust them. This state helps the onset and development of romantic relationships. Recent experiments in mice have shown that after mating and the release of oxytocin, males become calmer and bolder, less responsive to stressors and less actively avoiding dangerous situations.Scientists attribute this to the fact that the main part of the hormone is produced in the hypothalamus – the part of the brain that regulates the endocrine system. All the positive feelings associated with it arise here, but there is another area of ​​the brain that also produces oxytocin – the supporting nucleus of the marginal strip of the amygdala. When the researchers injected the hormone directly into the parts of the brain to which the neurons of the amygdala support nucleus connect, mice, usually not under stress, showed signs of anxiety.Although the authors found oxytocin neurons in the amygdala in both males and females, it turned out that in the latter, stress increases the production of the hormone more actively. According to the researchers, this explains why women have more and more anxiety disorders than men.





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MOSCOW, January 9 – RIA Novosti, Vladislav Strekopytov. Previously, it was believed that the hormone oxytocin is produced primarily in the female body. But it turned out that he plays an important role in male sexuality.How this protein controls sexual behavior and why the hormone of calmness, empathy and trust sometimes causes anxiety and suspicion, RIA Novosti investigated.

Love hormone

Oxytocin is a small protein, a peptide of nine amino acids. It is produced by certain brain cells – hypothalamic neurons. It affects female reproductive function, lactation and childbirth, and also determines the pattern of maternal behavior, which is why it is often called the “female” hormone.

Oxytocin also affects the psychoemotional sphere: it makes a person gullible and benevolent, especially within the framework of his own social group or family. But the most popular and well-known role of oxytocin, which gave it the name “love hormone”, is in relation to reproductive functions, sexuality and romantic emotions.

Its influence on female sexuality is well understood. It has been proven that it stimulates the smooth muscles of the uterus, increases the frequency and amplitude of its contractions, enhances sexual arousal and orgasm in women.But it turned out that men also have physiological mechanisms that oxytocin controls.

December 3, 2020, 14:50 Japanese researchers led by Professor Hirotaka Sakamoto of Okayama University, along with colleagues from the United States and the United Kingdom, suggested that some of the oxytocin chains reach the lumbar region and control sexual function in men.

To test this hypothesis, the authors injected the hormone of love into the spine of male rats, which increased the sexual activity of the animals. It turned out that oxytocin spurred neurons in a region of the spinal cord called the spinal ejaculation generator (SEG) – these neurons control the muscles at the base of the penis.

Then scientists injected animals with a substance that inhibits the activity of oxytocin receptors. Sexual activity and the number of ejaculations in rodents decreased. According to the researchers, this confirms the key role of the love hormone in the sexual function of males – it fully justifies its name.

The oxytocin paradox

However, it is not completely clear: the production of oxytocin is the cause or effect of sexual arousal. American scientists from the University of Utah have prepared a review in which they have combined the results of work on this topic over the past twenty years.

And they were surprised to find that when oxytocin was dripped into the nose of the volunteers, their sexual arousal did not increase in comparison with the control group.

But the opposite situation was observed: upon arousal in people, regardless of gender, the level of oxytocin increased.The hormone promoted erection in men and lubrication in women.

The maximum level of the hormone of love is recorded, according to research, during and after orgasm. In men, it provides a quick release of sperm, and in women, it stimulates the contractions of the uterus, helping the male reproductive cells to reach the goal of the egg.

Oxytocin levels in men return to normal about half an hour after ejaculation. It is with this, according to scientists, that the so-called “feeling of satiety” arises immediately after intercourse.

Moreover, those who received oxytocin intranasally before sexual intercourse had a brighter orgasm, a deeper “feeling of fullness”, and they did not want to repeat intercourse any longer. It turned out that the hormone is also responsible for the relaxed state of calm that occurs in men after sex.

Perhaps, the authors of the review suggest, the main task of the love hormone is to create special sensations after sexual contact. And here it is interesting to consider its effect on the psychoemotional sphere of a person as a whole.

April 16, 2019, 21:00 It is not safe to perform such experiments on women: this substance greatly affects their reproductive function. So the psychotropic effect of the hormone has been better studied in men.

Numerous studies have shown that oxytocin reduces anxiety, tension, anxiety in men, they become more open, look the other person in the eyes more often, understand and feel people better, and trust them.This state helps the onset and development of romantic relationships.

Recent experiments on mice have shown that after mating and the release of oxytocin, males become calmer and bolder, less responsive to stressors and less actively avoiding dangerous situations. Scientists attribute this to the fact that the main part of the hormone is produced in the hypothalamus – the part of the brain that regulates the endocrine system. This is where all the positive feelings associated with it arise.

But there is another area of ​​the brain that also produces oxytocin – the supporting nucleus of the marginal strip of the amygdala.Its regular activation causes frustration and depression, and signals of danger and anxiety come from there.