Causes, Symptoms, Treatment, and Prevention

Males can get urinary tract infections, and they are typically classified as complicated infections. Symptoms may include urgency, frequency, and burning when you urinate.

Urinary tract infections (UTIs) occur when bacteria, often from the rectum or skin, enter and overgrow in the bladder, kidneys, or the tubes that drain urine from the kidneys to the bladder.

Most UTIs can be cured easily with antibiotic drugs.

Language matters

In this article, we use “male and female” to refer to someone’s sex as determined by their chromosomes, and “men and women” when referring to their gender (unless quoting from sources using nonspecific language).

People often use the terms sex and gender interchangeably, but they have different meanings:

• “Sex” refers to the physical characteristics that differentiate male, female, and intersex bodies.
• “Gender” refers to a person’s identity and how they feel inside. Examples include man, woman, nonbinary, agender, bigender, genderfluid, pangender, and trans. A person’s gender identity may be different from the sex they were assigned at birth.

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Females are 30 times more likely to get UTIs than males, according to the Office of Women’s Health (OASH). This is due to anatomy. People with vaginas typically have shorter urethras. This means the bacteria need to travel less distance to reach the bladder.

UTIs in males are more common with older age. One reason is that older males are more likely to develop noncancerous enlargement of their prostate gland, called benign prostatic hyperplasia. The prostate wraps around the neck of the bladder, where the urethra connects to the bladder. Enlargement of the prostate gland can compress the bladder neck, making it harder for urine to flow freely. If the bladder does not empty completely, bacteria that are normally flushed out with the urine can gain a foothold.

The symptoms of a bladder infection include:

• painful urination and a burning sensation
• needing to urinate frequently
• sudden urge to empty your bladder, called urinary urgency
• pain in your central lower abdomen, just above the pubic bone
• blood in your urine

Certain symptoms in addition to those of a UTI could mean you have a prostate infection (prostatitis). These can include:

• fever
• chills
• fatigue
• difficulty urinating or “dribbling”
• pain in your pelvis

Most UTIs are caused by the bacterium Escherichia coli (E. coli), which is naturally present in your body. The bacteria gets into the urinary tract through the urethra. The urethra is the tube that drains urine from your bladder through your penis.

Factors that can put you at greater risk for UTIs may include the following:

• a previous UTI
• long-term use of a urinary catheter
• being immobile for long periods
• not drinking enough fluids
• recent urinary tract or kidney surgery
• urinary tract blockages like kidney stones or an enlarged prostate
• diabetes
• being uncircumcised
• fecal incontinence
• engaging in anal intercourse, which can expose the urethra to more bacteria

To diagnose a UTI, a doctor will examine you and ask about symptoms, including any past history of UTIs. You will likely be asked to provide a urine sample to check for bacteria and white blood cells, which indicate that your body is fighting an infection.

Sometimes the doctor will perform a urine culture to get more information about the bacteria causing the infection. If you have had a UTI before, a doctor might also perform an ultrasound to check for abnormalities in your urinary tract.

UTIs are categorized into two categories, uncomplicated and complicated. An uncomplicated UTI affects the lower urinary tract and is also known as cystitis or a bladder infection. An uncomplicated UTI is treated with antibiotics, and people typically recover within 3 days to 6 weeks.

Anytime a person with a penis has a UTI it is considered complicated.

UTIs are considered complicated if they affect certain groups. This can include:

• people who have a penis
• pregnant people
• people who are immunocompromised
• older adults
• people who use catheters
• people who experience recurring UTIs

If you think you have a UTI, it’s best to make an appointment with a doctor. They will typically make a diagnosis you based on your urine sample. You also may have to get an ultrasound to check for any abnormalities in your urinary system.

If you have a UTI, you will likely need to take antibiotic medications. Depending on the type of antibiotic a doctor prescribes, you may take the medication for 10 to 14 days.

It’s also important to drink adequate fluids. You may be tempted to reduce your fluid intake if urinating is uncomfortable. But urinating can help flush the bacteria from your system. It important to stay hydrated if you have a UTI, including while taking antibiotics.

Many people drink cranberry juice when they have a UTI in hopes of clearing the infection. Lab experiments with mice showed that several substances in cranberry juice lowered the bacteria count in the bladder. This suggests that there may be some benefits to drinking cranberry juice for humans with UTIs. However, there is no strong evidence that drinking cranberry juice while you have a UTI eliminates the infection or speeds recovery.

Recovery

After starting antibiotics, you should feel noticeably better within 24 to 48 hours. If your symptoms don’t clear up after taking antibiotics, talk with a doctor.

It’s important to finish all antibiotics prescribed, even if you’re feeling better. Stopping your antibiotics prematurely can encourage the growth of bacteria resistant to common antibiotics. In effect, less than the full course of treatment kills off the “weak” bacteria, leaving them stronger and more resistant strains.

People with prostates may need to take a longer course antibiotics in case the infection has reached the prostate, according to the National Institutes of Diabetes and Digestive and Kidney Diseases (NIDDK).

If you think you have a UTI, you should seek medical attention right away. If left untreated, a UTI can spread from your lower to the upper urinary tract and cause a kidney infection like pyelonephritis.

Symptoms of a UTI that involves the kidneys can include:

• pain in your sides or back that doesn’t change when you change position
• fever and chills
• nausea and vomiting
• a burning sensation when you urinate

If you have a kidney infection and can take medication by mouth, a doctor will prescribe antibiotics. Some people, such as children or those with other health concerns or complications, may have to stay in the hospital for treatment.

If pyelonephritis or an upper urinary tract infection is left untreated, it can lead to sepsis. Sepsis is a life threatening condition.

Symptoms of sepsis can include:

• irregular or fast heart rate
• sudden changes in body temperature
• change in mental status
• fever and chills
• difficulty breathing

Sepsis can be caused by an infection in the urinary tract. Treatment for sepsis includes hospitalization, antibiotics, and fluids.

Emergency situation

Sepsis is a life threatening infection. If you believe you or someone else may have sepsis, seek immediate emergency medical attention or call your local emergency services.

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To prevent UTIs, the most important thing is to reduce the chance of bacteria invading your urinary tract. Steps you can take to prevent UTIs may include:

• Urinate when you feel the need. Don’t “hold it in.”
• Drink adequate fluids. For most people, that means drinking when thirsty and drinking during meals. When it’s hot and you’re active in hot weather, drink a little extra water.
• Keep your genital area clean and dry.

UTIs are less common in people with penises but have similar causes and treatment. Taking antibiotic medications usually clears the infection. If you have prolonged UTIs or UTIs that come back frequently, you may need to be evaluated by a doctor for conditions like a prostate gland infection.

The following are frequently asked questions about UTIs.

How can you tell the difference between a UTI and bladder infection?

Bladder infections are a type of UTI that involves the lower urinary tract, including the bladder. A bladder infection can spread to other parts of your urinary tract or kidneys if left untreated. The symptoms of bladder infections and UTIs can be similar. See a doctor if you are experiencing symptoms of a UTI, such as painful or frequent urination, pain in your central lower abdomen, or blood in your urine.

Is it possible to treat a UTI at home without the use of antibiotics?

Most UTIs require treatment with antibiotics. When certain groups of people, including people with a penis, have a UTI, the infection is usually considered to be complicated. Delaying treatment of complicated UTIs can lead to complications, such as a kidney infection or sepsis. If you are experiencing symptoms of a UTI, visit a doctor or healthcare professional and have a urine test performed.

UTIs occur when bacteria enter the urinary tract system. They are more common in females than in males. However, males who are older in age, have diabetes, are immunocompromised, or use a catheter may have a higher risk of developing a UTI.

If you are experiencing symptoms and think you have a UTI, visit a doctor for treatment.

Urinary tract infection (UTI) in men: Symptoms, causes, and treatment

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A urinary tract infection (UTI) is a bacterial infection in the urinary system. UTIs usually affect females, but males can also develop them. They often stem from a sexually transmitted infection (STI) and need treatment with antibiotics.

Most UTIs affect the bladder and the urethra, which is the tube that drains urine from the bladder to outside the body. However, it can affect any part of the urinary system, including the kidneys and ureters.

Although a UTI is one of the most common infections in women, it is rare in men. UTIs are estimated to affect around 3 percent of men worldwide each year. This means that most men will have never had a UTI, especially if they are young.

When a UTI develops in men, it is usually considered complicated and more likely to spread to the kidneys and upper urinary tract. Some cases may even require surgery. We learn more about this condition, including its symptoms and treatment options, in this article.

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Share on PinterestA frequent urge to urinate is one of the symptoms of a UTI.

Men with UTIs may have no signs or symptoms of the infection. However, when symptoms do occur, they can include:

• pain during urination
• frequent urge to urinate
• inability to start urinating
• a slow urine stream or urine leakage
• a sudden need to urinate
• the release of only small amounts of urine at a time
• blood in urine
• pain in the central lower part of the abdomen
• cloudy urine with a strong odor

Men with complicated UTIs can also experience one or more of the following symptoms:

• fever
• chills
• nausea
• vomiting
• back pain

These symptoms are signs that the disease has spread to the kidneys or the upper urinary tract. An infection that has spread here is a more serious problem that requires prompt treatment.

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UTIs are caused by bacteria. Older men have a higher risk of having a UTI, especially if they are after the age of 50. Most cases in older men are caused by the bacterium known as Escherichia coli, which is naturally present in the body.

Cases similar to UTIs in younger men are typically caused by sexually transmitted infections (STIs).

A UTI develops when the bacterium gets into the urinary tract through the urethra and starts multiplying.

As men have longer urethras than women, they are less prone to UTIs because bacteria need to travel a longer distance to reach the bladder.

UTIs are four times more common in women than in men.

A person’s risk of developing a UTI increases if they have:

• diabetes
• kidney stones
• an enlarged prostate
• an abnormal narrowing of the urethra
• an inability to voluntarily control urination
• an inability to empty the bladder completely
• not drunk enough liquids
• not been circumcised
• a past diagnosis of a UTI
• urinary tract abnormalities that prevent urine from leaving the body normally or cause urine to back up in the urethra
• had anal intercourse, which can expose the urethra to bacteria
• a health condition or taking medication that suppresses the immune system
• had a procedure involving instrumentation on the urinary tract

Examples of these procedures include the insertion of a tube to drain the bladder, or a small camera, known as a cystoscopy, to examine the bladder and urethra.

Can men get UTIs from women?

Men can get UTIs from women during sex, by getting the bacteria from a woman with the infection. However, this is unlikely.

Typically, the infection arises from bacteria that are already present in the man’s body.

Share on PinterestA physician may carry out a urine dipstick test to identify a UTI.

A doctor can diagnose a UTI by carrying out a physical examination, taking a medical history, and through laboratory tests.

Physical examination

The doctor may perform a physical examination that includes:

• checking the vital signs
• checking the abdomen, bladder area, sides, and back for pain or swelling
• examining the genitals

Medical history

The doctor may ask if the person has had other UTIs in the past, or a family history of UTIs.

They may also question the person about their symptoms.

Laboratory tests

Laboratory tests are required to diagnose the infection as the symptoms of a UTI can be common to other diseases.

A urine sample is usually needed to look for the presence of pus and the bacteria causing the infection.

Men may be asked to give a urine sample. A man will need to start the urine stream to clean the urethra, and then collect a midstream sample in a cup. As bacteria multiply quickly at room temperature, this urine sample is either sent to the laboratory immediately or kept refrigerated until later.

The doctor may also ask for a urine test strip, also known as a urine dipstick test. This is a quick test in which a plastic or paper ribbon is dipped into the urine sample and then removed. If the person has a UTI, the ribbon will turn a particular color.

To obtain the best results for this test, the doctor will probably request that a person does it first thing in the morning.

Other medical exams

For people with a history of kidney stones, diabetes, polycystic kidneys, or tuberculosis, the doctor may also require imaging exams.

UTIs in men are usually complicated and require treatment.

The goal of treatment is to prevent the infection from spreading to the kidneys or the upper urinary tract.

The type of treatment used depends on the cause of the infection. Treatment plans usually include antibiotic medications to kill the bacteria and drugs to reduce the person’s symptoms, including those of pain and burning while urinating.

The duration of treatment can vary between 3 days and 6 weeks, depending on complicating factors, though a minimum of 7 days is usually warranted.

Prescription medications

Medication prescribed by a doctor may include:

• antibiotics, such as nitrofurantoin (Macrobid), fluoroquinolones, trimethoprim-sulfamethoxazole (Bactrim), fosfomycin, or aminoglycosides
• medications to reduce the fever
• medications to reduce or eliminate pain, including urinary analgesics such as phenazopyridine

Those with more complicated infections may require surgery. This can involve either draining areas of the urinary tract that are causing the infection, or removing inflamed areas of tissue.

In addition to treatment from doctors, the following home remedies may help with treating an infection:

• Drinking plenty of liquids, especially water. This is important to stimulate urination and flush the bacteria from the body.
• Drinking cranberry juice. Although it is not scientifically proven that cranberry juice is effective against UTIs, it contains substances that make it difficult for bacteria to stay in the urinary tract, helping to flush it out. Cranberry juice is available for purchase online.

Share on PinterestNot drinking sufficient liquids raises the risk of a urinary tract infection.

Men can take a series of actions to reduce the risk of getting a UTI, such as:

• emptying the bladder often
• drinking plenty of liquids, especially water
• carefully cleaning the area under the foreskin after showering if not circumcised
• carefully cleaning the genitals before and after sex, to remove bacteria
• cleaning from front to back when toileting
• wearing condoms during sex. Condoms are available for purchase online.
• urinating after sex, to remove any bacteria that might have been passed during intercourse

UTIs are rare in adult men. This is mainly due to the longer length of the male urethra, and because the antibacterial properties of prostatic fluid prevent bacteria from growing. The incidence of the infection increases with age.

The clinical symptoms of UTIs in men are similar to women and include painful, urgent, and frequent urination.

UTIs in men are usually complicated and warrant at least 7 days of antibiotic treatment to prevent complications.

“Oooh, my daddy’s everything”: a model from Nigeria and a blue-eyed blond from Yakutia have a son

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Baby was born on November 24 [photo, video]

Dmitry Rut became parents Photo: social networks

Many people know about this unusual couple. On social networks, they were dubbed “marshmallows in chocolate. ” She is an amazingly beautiful black girl, he is a blue-eyed blond. In 2018, Dmitry Makrygin and Ruth Tette got married in the registry office of Yakutsk. And so they had a son. Firstborn in mom or dad? Most often they are now asked about this. Parents are in no hurry to answer this question. Only sometimes on her page on the social network, a young mother uploads a photo where she hugs her baby.

Chance acquaintance

How could Dmitry Makrygin, a businessman from Yakutia, son of a military man, freelance photographer, musician, fisherman, hunter, have thought that his trip to the northern capital would be fateful. While walking in the park, he saw an amazingly beautiful girl. Many can envy her appearance and figure.

Beautiful couple Photo: social networks

He started taking pictures of her. Ruth, a graduate economist and a model who grew up in a large African family, was at first taken aback by such impudence. But having heard his pure English (a rarity for Russian guys) and accepting his apologies, she allowed me to take a couple more shots. Their romantic relationship began. For two years they lived in two cities – he is in Yakutsk, she is in St. Petersburg. Neither one nor the other had the opportunity to change something. They lived in rare meetings and every day they “met” at the screen of their mobile phones.

Wedding Photo: social networks

At some point, Dima decided that he had had enough. Secretly, he flew to his beloved. Persuaded a friend to bring her to a cafe. He himself dressed as a bear and in this form proposed to her. Right on the street – he got down on one knee and held out the ring. Since then, they have not parted.

We are expecting a baby

They got married in 2018. And in 2020, they found out that they would become parents.

– We will have a son soon, in November, – Dmitry admitted. – I found out about it in early April. I arrived from a business trip at 5 am, and Rusya shows me the test. What are two stripes, I know and immediately understood everything. He shouted: “I knew it!”. He jumped up to the ceiling, ran to the balcony. Just uncontrollable emotions. For my parents, this will be the seventh grandchild. It is highly likely that the baby will be light. I myself am fair, and in Ruth’s family all fair mulattos. She herself is an exception. Well, maybe a coffee baby will work out. Actually, I wanted a girl. But the son is a continuation of the clan, the surname. And then let there be daughters.

Waiting for a miracle Photo: social networks

Both of them are active users of social networks. They run their Instagram pages. But at some point they disappeared. It was an exciting time, too personal. Ruth wrote her first post at 37 weeks pregnant.

“The emergency case is packed. Pregnancy is wonderful, we are almost at the end of the road. We are waiting, we will not wait for our precious treasure. We are enjoying the last days of pregnancy, our baby will be born very soon, in fact, at any moment.

Dima and Ruth made percentage calculations Photo: social networks

Dima and Ruth once asked themselves the question: what nationality blood will be present in their son? And even made calculations in percentage terms. Here’s what happened:

Russian – 50%

Ghanaian – 25%

Nigerian – 12.5% ​​

British – 12.5% ​​

Mister son!

November 24th. In the evening, Ruth gave birth to a son.

Ruth in the hospital Photo: social networks

“The first night in the hospital with the baby was magical. I couldn’t close my eyes or look away from him for a minute. I just looked at him my night. I immediately became obsessed with him. Yesterday he began to try to communicate, something like “aha”. Very smart, but what strikes me the most is his strength. So small and so cheeky.”

Every day Dmitry came to the maternity hospital. Ruth waved to him through the window, and once showed her son. And he took a picture. Just like in The Lion King.

Like in the cartoon “The Lion King” Photo: social networks

Relatives and friends also arranged a surprise. They all arrived in a crowd under the windows of the maternity hospital and celebrated the birth of the baby – loudly and with champagne.

Long-awaited discharge!

“Daddy is coming,” the nurse says, handing over to Dmitry a bundle in which the baby snore.

He sees his son for the first time. Smiling proudly.

Dmitry meets his wife and son

social networks

Ruth is hugged by her husband’s sisters: “Hello! Congratulations!”

“Get in the car, otherwise it will freeze,” Grandma orders.

– Today I took my son home, – said Dmitry. – I saw him for the first time. Until that moment, I refused to watch photos and videos with him that Rusi did in the maternity hospital, because I really wanted to get to know him personally. He is just a magical child.

Big family Photo: social networks

Who would have thought that he would make such a loving and restless dad. But Ruth declassified it.

“Being a mother is probably the best feeling in the world. By the way, about “shaking over a child”, you should have seen his daddy, who does not have a soul in him and guards every hair on his head and also constantly teaches me how to hold a child correctly, what and how to do and what not to do ” .

Ruth congratulated everyone on Mother’s Day Photo: social networks

“You are so similar, beautiful and harmonious,” they write to young parents. But who does their son look like? On Mother’s Day, Ruth posted a touching photo with her son. Dark hair, swarthy hand. And then suddenly another photo – the palms of the father and the heels of the crumbs – light. The intrigue is revealed by the third picture, which already shows the baby better. Eeeee, the reaction of subscribers:

Love, she is so Photo: social networks

“The son turned out so white, there is nothing from his mother’s skin color.”

“Oh my, my daddy’s all”.

Ruth and Dimitri have not yet spoken about their son’s name.

My little son turned out white Photo: social networks

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“Black Panther” from Nigeria and blue-eyed blond from Yakutia – this couple, popular in social networks, dubbed “marshmallows in chocolate” – they look too unusual together. Dmitry is a businessman from Yakutia, owns a garage cooperative and is engaged in real estate, the son of a military man, a freelance photographer, musician, fisherman, hunter. Ruth is a graduate economist, a model who grew up in a large African family. How did fate connect people from different parts of the world? An unusual love story was recognized by Komsomolskaya Pravda (more).

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“Uti-puti” and “Lapusi” // OPTIMIST

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…I not at all against female coquetry and very much for girlish helplessness. Ready to translate unintelligent charmers through all the roads of life, hail them a taxi and at three o’clock in the morning tell them how to get to the library. But when a young lady, mature in every sense, begins to build a “Bambi deer” out of herself, the gentleman in me quickly dies …

Phew, what an opportunity happened to me the other day! They celebrated the birthday of Alla Sergeevna’s colleague from the accounting department, wished the birthday girl “happiness, success, love,” and everything went decorously and nobly until Irochka from the advertising department looked into the light.

Actually, it is absurd to call Irochka a lady of deep Balzac age, raising three children and being in a protracted divorce from her second husband. But she chirps and flutters so much that only a deaf-blind-mute, who is unaware that the young lady actively wants to please, will dare to call the enchantress Irina Stepanovna. To convince you that I’m right, I quote Irochka’s monologue:

– Oh, Allusik (remark: the birthday girl is 55), congratulations, dear! I wish you everything, everything, and that you have nothing for it, ha ha ha! (Laughed for a long time, loudly and all alone). Men, what are you doing? Pour me some champagne! Oh, Anatoly Sergeevich, just don’t aim the cork at me, I’m afraid, ha ha ha … Pavel Semenovich, could you give me a box of sweets? Preferably, with a milk-nut filling, try a frankly inviting look) … Now I’ll get drunk, ha ha, and I will behave indecently! (in a childish, capricious tone). Men, are there brave souls among you who are ready to take a fragile woman home?.. Oh, Sergey, thanks for the orange. Wow, what beautiful hands you have, they give out an interesting personality …

The ladies present fell silent, Alla Sergeevna smiled forcedly, most of the men capitulated on the pretext of smoking, and I enjoyed the free concert. Irochka simpered, flirted, sprinkled with old jokes and aphorisms on duty, that is, she was at the zenith of her glory. Seryoga, following the orange, regaled her with pineapple from a fork and obviously stuffed himself into the mourners. Okay, he can be forgiven: the guy recently returned from the army, some “promiscuity in the means” is understandable. Very soon, the nonsense will disappear from his head and the truth will be revealed: only songs like “And her golden eyebrows are earing under the sign of the moon” are more stupid than inappropriate coquetry.

Can anyone draw the line between charming femininity and deliberate affectation?

Pretty women almost always speak in “toy” voices, as if they were possessed by the spirit of Cheburashka. This, in my opinion, is only permissible for Klara Rumyanova and other women who voice cartoons and play in children’s performances. I still remember the terrible shock that seized me at the sight of a smart aunt of retirement age, who was talking loudly with her Pekingese: “Lalya, where did you run away to? Ah, you are my golden toy! Who doesn’t listen to mom? And all this is sickeningly sweet voice of a girl from a nursery …

By the way, for some reason diminutive words predominate in the lexicon of coquettes – “musiki”, “bunnies”, “lapusi” and other “uti-ways”. Once, the ever-memorable Ira made a request: “Max, hare, I need your help. The computer is crashing, won’t you take a look, babe? I had plenty of free time, there is always a desire to help humanity, but after the “calling” of a sweetie, I sharply stopped wanting to repair Irochka’s car.

Themes raised by coquettes deserve special attention. As a rule, they complain in unison about their inability to live due to their subtle mental organization. I agree to some extent: women do not have to be aware that nails need to be driven in, and screws need to be screwed in, and not vice versa. And what is the difference between 60-watt bulbs and 100-watt bulbs, they have the right to know only by hearsay. But when a lady who has received some kind of education and life experience assures that she has no idea where the nearest bakery is, I want to advise: “Madame, get a compass or get a full-time Susanin.”

Another observation: minnows are very troublesome to maintain. That is, at a party, men endlessly have to give them cheese-salmon-olives, fill a glass in time and rush about in search of salt, if – God forbid! – a greasy spot will bloom on the new skirt of the twitterer. And all this to the “accompaniment” of lamentations: “I myself am not able, oh, noble name, what would I do without you?” You know what’s embarrassing?

In fact, mademoiselles can perfectly get cheese and salmon, will not deprive themselves of champagne and will be able to avoid greasy stains, but beautiful maidens, you see, have a special tactic.

A meager consciousness and glossy magazines assured them that they had to be weak with men. Well, at least it seems. Because women have become – what a horror! – self-sufficient, and men have nowhere to put the heroic power. For this reason, the knights mope and wait, they can’t wait until someone asks them, if not to kill the dragon, then at least bring a napkin and help hail a taxi.

Dear ladies, this is nonsense. Don’t think of men as idiots: we are able to understand when a girl is really confused and needs help, and we are ready to come to the rescue without further requests. But the ostentatious pouting and capricious tone in me personally cause only dull irritation. I am sure that if a ready-to-serve man is not in the field of view of the mince, she will successfully catch a taxi herself. At worst, cheerfully dash to the house, like a horse, frightened by a truck.

Another one of their “horses” is “glamorous” clothes, mainly in pink and blue tones and outlandish styles. If a girl of the age category “slightly over 30” catches my eye, dressed up in gizmos from a children’s and teenage wardrobe, I can say with 99 percent certainty that this is a cutesy woman.

Ruffles, frills, polka dots, mini-length and hyper-fitted silhouette – oh, girls know how to transform into a “darling”! No wonder, because there are a lot of publications that teach cuties to “dilute the dullness of everyday life” with a hat with a pompom and “throw off ten years” with a skirt with embroidered butterflies. When I meet such an “embodiment of optimism and eternal spring”, I sigh knowingly: of course, you need to dress in such a way that, looking at yourself in the mirror, you no longer want to go to the circus.

I remember one day I came to visit a friend and could not find his house among the “colony” of one-story buildings. Cursing the private sector as a phenomenon, I came across a compassionate uncle who advised me to find the chairman of the street committee, they say, the respectable lady knows everyone in the district and will lead to the right person. I pressed the button of the fence bell, the gate swung open and the grandmother-God’s dandelion appeared before my eyes. The fragile figure was wrapped in a pink crimped dressing gown, faded eyes looked with childish curiosity, and two gray pigtails with blue bows adorned her head.

An arrogant thought flashed through my mind: “Hmmm, the striving for beauty in a woman is indestructible. Regardless of age.” And he was immediately ashamed: it was not the desire to return to the era of youth that made the grandmother braid liquid pigtails and preen, but an irreversible process called “fall into childhood”. But she can be forgiven, she has almost a century behind her. ..

So, let’s sum it up: it’s not piles of swallowed up glossy magazines, whims and a pink mini that make a woman a woman. Femininity is the ability to remain beautiful, self-respecting, kind, compassionate. This is the ability to wear cute scarves so that a man wants to touch them, inhale the faint scent of perfume, and most importantly, smell the Woman… And all this miracle should not depend on social status: you can make serious decisions, lead a large team, and even decide the fate of mankind being fragile, delicate, charming.

Now coquettes have the right to exclaim: “Demand creates supply! Men want to see us as defenseless dummies, so we have to meet the set standards! Dear ladies, believe me, a strong, self-sufficient man will never belittle the role of a woman. Only those who themselves are not seven spans in the forehead and are simply afraid of smart independent ladies want to have a talking doll next to them. There is a kind of “slippery” guys who are happy with easy victories and are ready to take cutesy antics for outright sympathy.