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Anorgasmia in women – Symptoms and causes

Overview

Anorgasmia is the medical term for regular difficulty reaching orgasm after ample sexual stimulation. The lack of orgasms distresses you or interferes with your relationship with your partner.

Orgasms vary in intensity, and women vary in the frequency of their orgasms and the amount of stimulation needed to trigger an orgasm. Most women require some degree of direct or indirect clitoral stimulation and don’t climax from penetration alone. Plus, orgasms often change with age, medical issues or medications you’re taking.

If you’re happy with the climax of your sexual activities, there’s no need for concern. However, if you’re bothered by the lack of orgasm or the intensity of your orgasms, talk to your doctor about anorgasmia.

Symptoms

An orgasm is a feeling of intense physical pleasure and release of tension, accompanied by involuntary, rhythmic contractions of your pelvic floor muscles. But it doesn’t always look — or sound — like it does in the movies. The way an orgasm feels varies among women, and in an individual, it can differ from orgasm to orgasm.

By definition, the major symptoms of anorgasmia are the inability to have an orgasm or long delays in reaching orgasm that’s distressing to you. But there are different types of anorgasmia:

  • Lifelong anorgasmia. You’ve never had an orgasm.
  • Acquired anorgasmia. You used to have orgasms, but now have difficulty reaching climax.
  • Situational anorgasmia. You’re able to have an orgasm only in certain circumstances, such as during oral sex or masturbation or only with a certain partner.
  • Generalized anorgasmia. You aren’t able to have an orgasm in any situation or with any partner.

When to see a doctor

Talk to your doctor if you have questions about orgasm or concerns about your ability to reach orgasm.

Causes

Orgasm is a complex reaction to various physical, emotional and psychological factors. Difficulties in any of these areas can affect your ability to orgasm.

Physical causes

A wide range of illnesses, physical changes and medications can interfere with orgasm:

  • Diseases. Serious illnesses, such as multiple sclerosis and Parkinson’s disease, and their associated affects on psychological well-being can hamper orgasm.
  • Gynecological issues. Gynecologic surgeries, such as hysterectomy or cancer surgeries, can affect orgasm. Also, lack of orgasm often goes with other sexual concerns, such as uncomfortable or painful intercourse.
  • Medications. Many prescription and over-the-counter medications can inhibit orgasm, including blood pressure medications, antipsychotic drugs, antihistamines and antidepressants — particularly selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs).
  • Alcohol and smoking. Too much alcohol can hamper your ability to climax. Smoking can limit blood flow to your sexual organs.
  • Aging. As you age, normal changes in your anatomy, hormones, neurological system and circulatory system can affect your sexuality. Waning estrogen levels as you transition to menopause and menopausal symptoms, such as night sweats and mood changes, can have an impact on sexuality.

Psychological causes

Many psychological factors play a role in your ability to orgasm, including:

  • Mental health problems, such as anxiety or depression
  • Poor body image
  • Stress and financial pressures
  • Cultural and religious beliefs
  • Embarrassment
  • Guilt about enjoying sex
  • Past sexual or emotional abuse

Relationship issues

Couples’ problems outside of the bedroom can affect their sexual relationship. Issues might include:

  • Lack of connection with your partner
  • Unresolved conflicts
  • Poor communication of sexual needs and preferences
  • Infidelity or breach of trust
  • Intimate partner violence


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What Does An Orgasm Feel Like? A Neuroscientist Explains

For all the time our society spends talking about sex, many women are still asking themselves this question: What does an orgasm feel like?

As a certified sex therapist turned neuroscientist, I get asked about orgasms a lot. In my new column for Glamour, I’m here to address your pressing questions about sex, love, and pleasure. With over three decades of experience studying the science of pleasure, I can say without a doubt that the ability to experience potent and satisfying pleasures like orgasm isn’t a luxury—female pleasure is a necessity for our health and well-being (something I talk about in much more detail in my new book Why Good Sex Matters, out later this month).

The female orgasm is a fantastic thing: It can be triggered by stimulating the clitoris, the vagina, the nipples, the cervix, or an out-of-this-world combination of all of the above. Here’s what you need to know about what an orgasm feels like, and how to prioritize having more of them.

For starters, what is an orgasm?

Although there’ve been many attempts to define and describe the elusive experience of the “Big O,” my favorite, and simplest of all, was coined by Alfred Kinsey, a pioneer in the study of human sexuality. In scientist speak, he nailed it: “The expulsive discharge of neuromuscular tensions at the peak of the sexual response.”

Here’s how that breaks down: Neuro refers to the nerves of the body and neurons of the brain, muscular refers to muscles, and explosive discharge, well, speaks for itself. An orgasm is an intensely pleasurable response to sexual stimulation.

Having one doesn’t necessarily involve the genitals. Case in point: “nipplegasms.” There are even some talented individuals who appear able to experience a thought- or imagery-induced orgasm, without any physical stimulation at all. Lucky them.

My research has demonstrated that the Big O is indeed a “big brain” event, increasing blood flow to a range of brain regions, which is good for brain health. In fact, having an orgasm may be better for your brain than doing crossword puzzles—not to mention, much more fun.

What should an orgasm feel like?

A study done back in the 1970s asked male and female college students to describe how their orgasms felt. Most of the descriptions involved a pleasurable release of built-up tensions, experienced as an explosion of sensation, sometimes bordering on the ecstatic, and finally a wave of warmth, peace, and relaxation.

The truth is, orgasms exist on a spectrum: There are orgasms, and then there are ORGASMS! Some are pleasant but not earth-shattering, and others are screaming-laughing-crying episodes of pure ecstasy. Both are important and valid.

I tend to discourage people from “shoulding” on themselves or their experiences. When we evaluate how things should feel or how they should be, we take ourselves away from the experience. My book, Why Good Sex Matters is not entitled Why Great Sex Matters for an important reason; when we start evaluating our erotic lives, chasing and seeking great sex or super or multiple orgasms, we miss the point, likely sabotaging our own capacity for pleasure. Good sex involves being present to the experience we are having. And a good orgasm is any orgasm that comes along.

What is the difference between the female orgasm and the male orgasm?

One big difference is that males have a refractory period after orgasm, which shuts down the sex party, at least for a while. Females are not wired that way—women are capable of experiencing multiple orgasms during sexual activity. In a recent study using a nationally representative sample of 1,005 women, a whopping 47% of women reported having multiple orgasms.

Why aren’t straight women having as many orgasms as men? – The Hook Up

Straight women are not having near as many orgasms as men or lesbian women. It’s time to close the “orgasm gap”.

The orgasm gap isn’t a very widely known phenomenon, so we asked sex therapist Tanya Koens to walk us through it: what is the orgasm gap? Why does it exist? And how can we fix it?

What’s the orgasm gap?

Simply put: the orgasm gap is the frequency with which men have orgasms during sex vs women. Tanya explains that 95% of straight men always orgasm during sex, compared with 89% of gay men and 86% of lesbian women.

Get to the amount of straight women having orgasms during sex, though, and that number drops sharply. Only 65% of straight women always have an orgasm during sex, and that number goes even lower when looking at the statistics of casual hookups – on a first time hookup, the gap is 80% of men to only 40% of women.

Why does the orgasm gap exist?

There are a variety of reasons the orgasm gap exists.

Tanya says a common reason women don’t always orgasm during sex is that there are misconceptions about what leads to an orgasm. “If we look at movies and porn – we’re talking about heterosexual sex here – it looks like you put a penis inside a vagina and then the women will automatically cum, and it’s a few thrusts and then everyone’s happy,” says Tanya.

“For a lot of women, they need direct clitoral stimulation in order to have an orgasm.”

Another reason? Very few couples allow time for the woman to become adequately aroused. Tanya says it takes the average woman 45 to 60 minutes to become fully aroused and in that time, lots of things need to happen to allow a penis to enter the vagina easily without any pain or discomfort.

“A lot of people think the vagina is just a little hole that’s waiting for a penis to drop in for a visit, but actually, it’s like a squashed flat balloon most of the time and it needs to be aroused.”

“[Women] have the same kind of erectile tissues as men, but all on the inside,” says Tanya. “We need a lot of time for that stuff to come into play.”  

How do we close the orgasm gap?

Okay, so you know the orgasm gap exists – how do we fix it? Well, Tanya has some tips.

  • “After 15 to 20 minutes of foreplay, all the woman’s pelvic floor muscles drop down and make room for a penis to come in,” says Tanya. “When women get very excited, the uterus starts bouncing around and gets pulled back and out of the way, pulling the cervix back with it. For a lot of women, if you get a penis banging into your cervix, it can feel very uncomfortable or unpleasant.”
  • Tanya stresses the importance of allowing time for the female partner to become aroused. “One of the advantages of really warming up is that there are parts of the vagina on the inside that we call the orgasmic plateau,” she says. “It’s like it’s got all these lovely little pinball spots that feel great when you hit them. You need to have blood and mucus in the area and flowing to make it work. You can’t just shove a penis in there.”
  • Most importantly, if you’re getting close, don’t stop. “If you’re getting very excited and if you’re feeling close to cumming and you want to cum, whatever you’re doing, don’t stop – keep doing the same thing. If you stop and change it up, the clitoris is moving back and you might miss that boat.”

Isn’t penetration enough?

The Hook Up listener Kate has never orgasmed from penetrative sex.

“Every relationship I’ve ever had, or any hookup I’ve ever had, I’ve just faked it,” says Kate. “When you’re a bit younger, you don’t really know what you’re supposed to be feeling anyway, so when I had my first serious relationship I’d be hearing stories [about orgasms] and I thought ‘I don’t know if this is right.'”

According to Tanya, most women are in the same boat as Kate – only 28% of women can have an orgasm from penetrative sex alone.

“Most women need clitoral stimulation too,” she says. “It’s got to do with how the penis is designed, how the vagina is designed, where the g-crest is, all sorts of things go into play.”

“I meet lots of young men who say ‘All of my female lovers have been able to come from penetrative sex’, but maybe the partners are just putting on a very good act.”

Tanya says it takes people an average of four minutes to orgasm when masturbating, regardless of gender. But in partnered sex it takes men about five and a half minutes, and for women it takes about seventeen and a half minutes. Realistically, there needs to be some kind of non-penetrative stimulation in order for the female to achieve orgasm during sex.

Note: This article only covers the orgasm gap between cisgender men and women due to a lack of data about trans people and orgasms.

RELATED: ‘How depression meds affect your sex life’

Listen to the full segment on the orgasm gap below.

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What Does An Orgasm Feel Like For A Woman? 6 Things To Know About Coming

It can be tough to tell what an orgasm really feels like for a woman. Whether you’ve been trying to have one on your own, or with a partner, you’re likely looking for that intense, explosion-like sensation so many people seem to talk about. And while that can happen, it’s much more common to feel like you’re never really quite getting there, and are left wondering: How can I know if I’m having an orgasm?

It’s a frustrating situation to be in, but one that is probably more common than you realize, Vanessa Marin, a sex therapist who focuses on helping clients have tells Bustle. “When women sign up for the free orgasm workshop I give away on my website, I ask them about their current relationship with their orgasm,” she says. “As of this publication, 32% of women responded that they didn’t know if they were having orgasms or not.” So you’re definitely not alone in feeling confused.

There are quite a few reasons why it might be tough to orgasm, or why it might not be the “mind-blowing” experience were hoping for. But Marin says it’s important not to give up hope on the journey learning how to orgasm on your own. To help guide the way — and help you have better sex, a better orgasm, or a better relationship — she offers a few thoughts on what an orgasm really feels like.

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All Women Experience Orgasms Differently

Having an orgasm is an incredibly personal experience, and it varies from woman to woman. Marin says a lot of women come into her practice hoping to find out what to expect, but there isn’t a straight answer to this question. It isn’t easy to describe what it’s like to have one, the same way it isn’t easy to describe what it feels like to fall in love

“That being said, I can give you some general descriptions of what orgasm can feel like,” Marin says. “Most orgasms tend to fall in three very broad categories. Orgasms may feel like: The peak of sexual pleasure during that particular encounter, something that feels different from the other sensations you felt, or a release of built-up pressure.”

She says some women have described their orgasms as “tremors,” “little blips of pleasure,” “an out-of-body experience,” “a small sigh,” “hurts-so-good,” and “an intense, focused pinpoint of pleasure. ” These individual experiences are just so different that it makes the word “orgasm” hard to describe, and it contributes to the idea that you might not be having one at all, if yours is “smaller” than expected.

Every Orgasm Will Be Different

Orgasms can happen at different intensity levels, so you might have big ones some days, and smaller ones other days. “Sometimes it may feel incredibly powerful,” Marin says. “Other times it might feel tiny and inconsequential.” That’s why it’s important not to judge each and every one, or wonder if it “counted” as an orgasm or not. As long as you feel good — even if it’s just a “little blip of pleasure” — that’s all that really matters.

There are also different kinds of orgasms that can occur in various areas of your body. Did you know you can have a clitoral orgasm, a vaginal orgasm, or orgasm during a really passionate kiss? There are erogenous zones all over the body, which means you can stimulate yourself in more than one way.

There Are Some Tell-Tale Signs You’ve Orgasmed

According to Marin, if you find yourself truly puzzled about whether or not you’re having an orgasm, try paying more attention to how your body responds when you think you’re close. Again, everyone is different, but most people will have some sort of involuntary physiological response.

You might feel your muscles shaking or twitching uncontrollably, for example, or your heart rate increase suddenly. Similarly, if your breath skips a beat, or your chest gets flushed, you might be having an orgasm.

It Won’t Always Feel Like You’re Done

We women are lucky — we’re capable of having multiple orgasms in quick succession, as well as something called a blended orgasm, which means orgasming in more than one area, like the clitoris and vagina, at the same time. That said, it won’t always feel like you’ve completely finished or that you had a big explosive experience, and now want to roll over and fall asleep.

“A lot of women are looking for a feeling of ‘completion’ after an orgasm, which they won’t always get since their bodies are primed to have another orgasm right away,” Marin says. “Sometimes, an orgasm may feel like a release, but don’t rule out the possibility that you had an orgasm just because you don’t feel finished.”

They Don’t Always Feel That Great

“Almost all of my clients expect to have earth-shattering, mind-boggling, limb-weakening orgasms,” Marin says. “In reality, orgasms don’t always feel amazing.” Again, some orgasms can actually feel like a letdown, while others can feel mildly painful or uncomfortable. Some can trigger emotional releases, she says, or feel like when you have to sneeze really badly, but the sneeze dies in your nose.

“I think a lot of women feel pressured to have incredible orgasms, so they play up just how good their orgasms are when they’re talking to their friends,” Marin says, or even while still in bed with their partner. This, of course, leads to even more unrealistic expectations about what orgasm is like. “I think it’s important for us as women to acknowledge that not all orgasms are life-changing,” she says.

You Can Make Your Orgasm Better

Like the old saying goes, practice makes perfect. “The more you keep masturbating, the better you’ll get at making yourself orgasm,” Marin says. “You should expect to have occasional duds, but more experience will help you be able to identify your orgasms more readily, and learn what your body needs to have even better orgasms. For example, you might discover that your body responds really well to a certain level of pressure or a specific stroke. Check out one of my recent articles for even more tips on creating stronger orgasms.”

It can be a frustrating process to go through. After all, you just want to have a that amazing sense of release, and to be able to achieve it again and again. But the absolute best thing you can do is try to enjoy the process of figuring out how to masturbate. “Remember that masturbating should feel pleasurable throughout the entire experience, not just at the end,” Marin says. “Learn to enjoy the ride, and I promise that you’ll have more obvious orgasms in the future!”

Expert:

Vanessa Marin, sex therapist

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Ever since 1948 when Alfred Kinsey launched modern sex research, one finding has been confirmed and re-confirmed over and over again. Compared with men, women are considerably less likely to have orgasms. Men report orgasms in approximately 95 percent of heterosexual encounters, but for women, depending on the study, the figure ranges from only 50 to 70 percent.

Why? Two possibilities. Something about the women, or something about the sex.

Psychologists and sociologists have focused on women. They’ve found that four variables make modest differences in women’s rates of orgasm:

  • Demographics. As age, education, and income increase, the likelihood of orgasm increases somewhat.
  • Beliefs. Compared with women who embrace religious fundamentalism and traditional sex roles (woman as homemaker), those who espouse more liberal religious and social views are a little more likely to have orgasms.
  • Relationships. As happiness with the relationship increases, women’s likelihood of orgasm increases modestly.
  • Sexual trauma. Compared with women who have experienced incest, other sexual exploitation, and/or sexual assault, women free from sexual trauma are somewhat more likely to have orgasms.

Meanwhile, sex researchers have focused on what happens in bed. They’ve found that the quality of couples’ lovemaking makes a major difference in women’s rates of orgasm, much more difference than psychological or sociological factors.

Recently a large Australian study confirmed the sexological view. Ability to have an orgasm has less to do with differences among women than with the erotic stimulation they receive.

Demographics Have Little Impact

Australian researchers asked 5,118 men and women age 16 to 59 about the four factors mentioned above, and then asked them to describe what had happened during their most recent partner-sex encounter, and if they’d had an orgasm. Overall, 95 percent of men reported orgasms, but only 69 percent of women.

The women’s demographics, beliefs, relationships, and histories of sexual trauma made some difference in their rates of orgasm—but not much. The only demographic factor that really mattered was the level of commitment in the relationship. In a committed relationship, 70 percent of the women reported orgasm. But with casual partners, the rate was just 49 percent.

The researchers concluded: “Demographic and relationship characteristics were associated with frequency of orgasm, but the differences were not as dramatic as the associations with sexual practices.”

The Key to Women’s Orgasms: How Men Pleasure Women in Bed

During their most recent partner-sex experience, in addition to kissing and hugging, the study participants reported six genital sexual activities:

  • Vaginal intercourse. 96 percent of men said their lovemaking had included this and 94 percent of women.
  • Hand massage of the penis by the woman. 81 percent of men said they’d received this. 76 percent of women said they’d provided it.
  • Hand massage of the vulva/vagina by the man. 81 percent of men said they’d provided. 76 percent of women said they’d received.
  • Fellatio. 26 percent of men said they’d received. 24 percent of women said they’d provided.
  • Cunnilingus. 30 percent of men said they’d provided. 24 percent of women said they’d received.
  • Anal play. 1 percent of men said they’d provided. 1 percent of women said they’d received.

For the vast majority of these couples, the erotic dance involved three actions: Vaginal intercourse—almost universal. Mutual genital hand massage—about 75 percent. And oral sex, around 25 percent.

For men, rates of orgasm varied only slightly based on how many of these three actions they’d reported:

  • One (just intercourse): 96 percent of the men had orgasms.
  • Two (hand massage and intercourse): 95 percent.
  • Three (hand massage, fellatio, and intercourse): 98 percent.

But for women, rates of orgasm varied considerably based on the number of actions:

  • One (just intercourse): 50 percent of the women reported orgasms.
  • Two (hand massage and intercourse): 71 percent.
  • Three (hand massage, cunnilingus, and intercourse): 86 percent.

For reproduction, sex is all about intercourse. But for pleasure, especially women’s pleasure, it’s about men providing all three actions.

In men, the head of the penis (glans) contains the largest concentration of orgasm-triggering nerves. Intercourse stimulates these nerves a great deal, which is why, among men whose sex involved only intercourse, 96 percent had orgasms.

But in women, orgasm-inducing nerves are located not in the vagina, but in the clitoris, the little nub of tissue that sits a few inches north of the vaginal opening nestled under the upper junction of the vaginal lips. Intercourse provides some women with enough clitoral stimulation to elicit orgasm, which is why half of the women in this study reported orgasms from just intercourse. But intercourse—even extended, vigorous intercourse—provides only a little direct clitoral stimulation, which is why half the women didn’t have orgasms from normal intercourse.

Unfortunately, many men believe that women “should” have orgasms during intercourse. This belief often comes from the sexual mis-education men receive from pornography. In porn, the women look like they have orgasms during intercourse. Actually, they don’t. I’ve interviewed several women involved in porn. None of them ever had orgasms on camera no matter how long the intercourse lasted. However, they had orgasms at home during lovemaking in their private lives—thanks to receiving direct caresses by their lover’s hand or mouth or a vibrator.

Compared with intercourse, hand massage of the vulva and cunnilingus are considerably more likely to stimulate the clitoris, which is why lovemaking that included them made such substantial differences in women’s rates of orgasm.

Most women’s need for direct clitoral stimulation also explains some of the demographics of women’s orgasms:

  • As age and education increase, so do women’s rates of orgasm—because older and better-educated women are more likely to speak up and ask for direct clitoral touch.
  • And as women move from traditional roles into the labor force and from fundamentalism toward religious liberalism, their rates of orgasm also increase—again because they are less likely to feel cowed by convention and more likely to assert their needs.

Over my 40-plus years as a sexuality journalist and counselor, I’ve heard many psychologists insist that women’s sexuality is so complicated and individual that the “cookbook” advice found in “sex manuals” is simplistic and largely beside the point. Perhaps. But with all due respect to women’s emotional complexity, this study shows that the key to women’s erotic satisfaction and orgasm is the sex itself, specifically direct stimulation.

I’m not dismissing the pleasure of intercourse. Many women insist they love it. They say they enjoy the special closeness it provides and the marvelous sensations involved in holding their lover during intercourse.

But when it comes to women’s orgasms, intercourse often falls short. So, guys, if you want to give her the gift or orgasm, listen to what dozens of surveys—from The Hite Report (1976) to a recent study English study of partner satisfaction (2015)—have revealed about how women prefer to make love:

  • More kissing, cuddling, and sensual whole-body massage.
  • Slower pace. Don’t rush into intercourse. Don’t try to imitate pornography.
  • And when she feels ready for genital play, direct, gentle, loving caressing of her clitoris.

What Type Of Orgasm Feels Best For Her?

You may have heard that vaginal orgasms are “more intense” than clitoral ones. 

The idea dates all the way back to Freud, says sex researcher Nicole Prause, Ph.D.

But a new study, authored by Prause, puts that myth to rest. 

Researchers surveyed 88 women about what type of stimulation usually caused their orgasms—vagina, clitoris, etc.,—and how intense those orgasms were.

The researchers didn’t find a link between the source of orgasm and how good it felt, on average.

Related: These 5 Science-Backed Tweaks Will Make Her More Likely to Orgasm 

And in fact, it doesn’t really make sense to distinguish between “clitoral” and “vaginal” orgasms at all, says Prause.

“We’ve been asking women the wrong question for a very long time,” she says. 

When scientists ask a woman about what causes her orgasm, she’s usually forced to choose between just vaginal or just clitoral stimulation, when, in fact, most women often need multiple types of stimulation to climax, says Prause. 

(For in-depth instructions on how to please her in bed, check out How to Pleasure a Woman—the ultimate sex manual from the editors of Men’s Health.)

Plus, it’s nearly impossible to penetrate a woman’s vagina without also stimulating her clitoris, says Prause.

In this study, Prause and her coauthors allowed women to answer “both” to the orgasm source question, and 64 percent of them chose that option. That means that two thirds of the women usually climaxed from clitoral and vaginal stimulation combined—not one or the other.

Related: 16 New Ways to Touch Her Vagina 

So don’t worry about giving her one particular type of orgasm. 

Instead, just check in with her about what she wants you to do to her. And depending on what she says, you make be able to make use of these articles on How to Find the G-Spot and 13 Things You Should Be Doing To Her Clitoris.

Alisa Hrustic
Deputy Editor, Prevention
Alisa Hrustic is the deputy editor at Prevention, where she leads the brand’s digital editorial strategy.

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Personal factors that contribute to or impair women’s ability to achieve orgasm

As far as we are aware, this is the first study from Latin America comparing women who have orgasm during sexual activity with those who do not. The proportion of women with orgasm problems (23%) is consistent with the literature from both Brazil (21%)5 and other Western countries. In the United States of America, Canada, Australia and Sweden, for example, the prevalence of orgasmic dysfunction ranges from 16 to 25%.27 Although these rates are higher in Eastern countries,14, 18 our numbers can be considered alarming, especially in this work, where only women with no chronic diseases and under no medications were included.

In many surveys considering female sexual functioning, contradictory findings appear across demographic variables, such as education and age. For instance, although many studies have shown a positive association between education level and female sexual dysfunction,4, 18, 28 others report that there is no relation,29 even specifically between orgasm and education.11, 13 In contrast, our results, as well as those in Ojomu et al.,14 have shown that higher levels of education have an important role in OA. Although further investigation is required owing to the lack of consensus in the literature, the magnitude and significance of our results suggest that an association exists, at least in our population. This relation may be explained by the fact that women with higher education may be more knowledgeable about their bodies and their inner workings. More education may also lead to more access to information about sex and general health.

The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders IV6 notes that orgasmic capacity in females increases with age and orgasmic difficulties may be more prevalent in younger women. Some studies have confirmed this statement,30 whereas others reveal the opposite: orgasm problems are more common in older women.31, 32 Our research found no association between age and orgasm problems, such as the findings of Fugl-Meyer et al.,2 Laumann et al.,33 and Oberg et al.29 It is possible that older women and younger women have different advantages with respect to achieving orgasm. Although older women may have more sexual experience and greater knowledge of their own body, younger women have more sexual desire,34, 35 which, according to our study, is an important factor for achieving orgasm. Thus, it is difficult to claim that any age group is more affected than the other with regard to OA.

As we did not specifically investigate the distress criteria from the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders IV, the orgasmic dysfunction group cannot be diagnosed with female orgasmic disorder,6 but only with orgasmic dysfunction.7 Our focus was not the distress caused by lack of orgasm, but whether there was sexual satisfaction in women with and without orgasmic difficulties. From this perspective, our findings are in agreement with the end of sexual response by the circular model of Basson,36 which states women can be sexual satisfied although not reaching orgasm. However, our study reveals that sexual satisfaction is more common in women who do have orgasm (83.7 vs 50%; P<0.001).

An American study from 197837 found that although 63% of married women reported arousal or orgasm problems, 85% of this ‘problem group’ said that they were satisfied with their sexual relationship. More recent studies30, 38 have shown a positive association between women who did not experience orgasm and distress about sexual relationship. Although these studies did not use the same method, these findings may reflect a cultural change through time of the meaning attributed to female orgasm. It is possible that today, owing to greater dissemination of sexual topics and validation of sexual health as an important aspect of quality of life, women give more importance to orgasm and consider it more relevant to sexual satisfaction.

Regarding masturbation, it is possible that for some women orgasm is a motivation for masturbating. Thus, women who have difficulty in reaching orgasm may have no interest in masturbation. On the other hand, women who masturbate can acquire more awareness of their bodies, knowing the intensities, frequencies and places the partner must stimulate in order for them to reach orgasm. From this viewpoint, masturbation and orgasm would have a bidirectional relation in which one influences the other.

Although we found no association between depression and orgasm difficulties, there was a significant association (P<0.001; V=0.43) between sexual dysfunction in general (FSQ⩽60) and depression, as other studies have shown.10, 17, 39 This suggests that depression is an impediment to the female sexual response in general and probably the impediment is greater in the previous phases to orgasm (desire and arousal). Once a satisfactory level of arousal is obtained, women may have no problems reaching orgasm, even if they are depressed.

Anxiety, however, is an obstacle to achieving orgasm, as other studies have already shown.11, 39 Here, it is clear that increased levels of anxiety also increase the odds of OD. Anxiety can cause women to turn their focus to sexual performance concerns (for example, their ability to reach orgasm), which acts as a distraction that disrupts the processing of erotic cues.1 Thus, the difficulty to reach orgasm in anxious women can lead to a problematic cycle: the less a woman focuses on sex due to anxiety, the less frequently she will achieve an orgasm due to distraction, thus becoming even more anxious and even less likely to climax. Our exploratory analysis, nevertheless, reveals that, although anxiety increases OD, the absence of anxiety may not necessarily improve OA. Further studies are required to determine the nature of this asymmetric relation.

Limitations of the current research include the relatively small sample size and lack of psychosocial variables, such as quality of the relationship and the specific forms of partner’s stimulation that leads to orgasm (for example, in the vagina or clitoris; by hand, mouth or penis). Nonetheless, the sample and variables studied in this work enabled findings of considerable relevance, especially for those working with female sexuality issues. First, they suggest that masturbation can be beneficial to the improvement of OA. Second, they set anxiety as an important factor in cases of orgasm difficulties. When anxiety is present, strategies must therefore be proposed to address it, as this alone could improve orgasm capacity.

In summary, OD is a complex phenomenon of multiple etiologies. Identifying the factors involved in orgasm problems is an intricate task, but necessary in order to manage patients to whom orgasmic difficulties are a concern. Women differ in how important orgasm is to their sexual satisfaction, although for most, it represents a relevant component of sexual response. Future works include the impact of medical conditions and specific psychological aspects of orgasm, such as personality traits, beliefs and other sexual behaviors.

90,000 8 facts about female orgasm that will make you happy

14 September 2018 19:20
Alexander Kiva

The female orgasm is called much more mysterious and unpredictable than the male.

According to sexologist Alfred Kinsey, healthy 20-year-old men almost always experience an orgasm during sex, but women only come to this by the age of 35, and then not in 100, but in 90% of cases.True, the female orgasm has one plus: it is longer and more intense than the male. We have collected other facts about achieving the highest degree of pleasure from British scientists in this material.

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With age, orgasm gets better

This is a proven fact, preceded by sociological survey data. So, in the interval of 18-24 years, 61% of women experience orgasm, after 30 – 65%, from 40 to 55 years, more than 70% of women reach a peak.This is despite the fact that the intensity and frequency of sexual intercourse at an older age decrease.

Contraceptives do not prevent a woman from having an orgasm

The authors of the theory that sex with contraceptive is less conducive to female orgasm are, of course, men. British scientists call it a myth, claiming that the presence of a contraceptive cannot in any way affect the brightness of female sensations during intercourse.

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Orgasm is a natural pain reliever

This is one of the nicest facts that the study authors do not deny.On the contrary, it is argued that orgasm relieves any pain, even that experienced by women during childbirth.

The brightest orgasm occurs when several erogenous zones are stimulated

Scientists explain this fact by the woman’s ability to experience clitoral and vaginal orgasms. It is believed that it is easier for a woman to achieve orgasm by combining several types of sexual activity, for example, oral and vaginal sex. To bring this to life, you can use the so-called sex toys.

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Self-confidence is the key to a bright orgasm

Confidence in general is such a thing that greatly facilitates all areas of life, including sexual. Therefore, never doubt your own attractiveness.

Some women need more time to reach orgasm

There are rare cases when a woman cannot have an orgasm. The exception is psychological trauma or physical characteristics of the body.In most cases, a woman is able to experience an orgasm, she just needs a little more time: 20-30 minutes.

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Men call female orgasm an assessment of the quality of their work

This is the conclusion reached by Charlene Muhlenhardt, professor of clinical psychology at the University of Kansas at Lawrence. After conducting relevant research, she found out that men continue to move inside a woman until they receive acceptable feedback for themselves.

Men find it difficult to recognize simulated orgasm

Moans, convulsions, arching of the back and release of claws are only external signs, sometimes having nothing to do with orgasm. This is the so-called imitation of him, which not all men are able to recognize. If we proceed from statistics, then women really quite often imitate orgasm. 65% of the beautiful half of humanity do it sometimes, the other 25% turn to the art of imitation during each intercourse.

All this is due to the fact that we do not know how to talk about intimacy, we are afraid to do it. Therefore, that very amazing sex for a particular couple is postponed indefinitely. But not so much is needed: to feel, understand, speak. Don’t be afraid to do this with a partner you trust.

Let us remind you that earlier we wrote 6 things that must be tried in sex.

An intimate question: how long does a woman have an orgasm?

23 May 2019 19:00
Alla Lysak

What are orgasms?

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Women are able to feel the feeling of sexual arousal, both with a partner and alone.

At a certain moment excitement , overcoming a special threshold, turns into an orgasm. It can last from a few seconds to several minutes.

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Sexologists claim that one and the same woman is capable of feeling many different orgasms, some will be short and bright, others long and almost intangible. Some ladies claim that orgasm is for them one-time bursts of delight, others describe it as convulsive thrusts for 15-20 seconds.Both orgasms are physiologically normal.

The sensation of orgasm depends on the type of sexual activity: it is known that clitoral orgasms are different from vaginal ones.

During masturbation, women feel the strongest sensations, but they do not bring such satisfaction as sex with a partner.

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And, finally, the most interesting findings of sexologists. After laboratory studies, during which women were asked to masturbate, it was found that the average female orgasm lasts 26 seconds.Deviations for 15 seconds occur both in one direction and in the other direction. Curiously, the women themselves suggested that their orgasms lasted about 13 seconds! Half the real time.

Accordingly, the activation of the brain during this period prevents a person from objectively feeling the time.

Recall that scientists have found the cause of accelerated aging .

Scientists have found out why women need an orgasm

Why women need an orgasm, Austrian scientists have found out.Researchers believe that it was once necessary for ovulation, but later it became an independent mechanism, and orgasm remained a pleasant addition to sexual activity.

Austrian researchers from the University of Vienna have found out why women need an orgasm. Scientists believe that it was once necessary for ovulation, like in some modern animals, but later ovulation became an independent mechanism. The study was published in the journal PNAS .

The question of why a woman needs an orgasm was a subject of interest to Aristotle.If the male is necessary for fertilization, then the female is not necessary for him, and its purpose is still a mystery. There were many hypotheses about this. According to one of them, the female orgasm strengthens the relationship between partners, increasing the chances of reproduction. According to another, muscle contractions during orgasm help sperm to enter the uterus. However, research does not support these versions. In addition, it is possible that the female orgasm does not have any function at all, but exists only because both female and male genitals develop from the same “blank”.

The authors of the work suggested that orgasm was once necessary to stimulate ovulation during intercourse.

In humans and apes, ovulation occurs regardless of sexual intercourse, but in rabbits, camels, cats and other animals it occurs during mating. This mechanism is called reflex ovulation. Therefore, scientists assumed that in the past and in human ancestors, ovulation could occur directly during sex under the influence of hormones and signals from the nervous system.

To test this version, the researchers conducted a series of experiments on female rabbits. For two weeks, they gave experimental animals the antidepressant fluoxetine daily, one of the side effects of which is the inability to achieve orgasm. They then mated the rabbits with the male and measured the number of ovulations compared to the control group.

Rabbits who received fluoxetine were found to ovulate 30% less than those who received nothing.

Now, however, it was necessary to prove that fluoxetine acts specifically on the central nervous system of rabbits, and not directly on the ovaries.To do this, the researchers injected the rabbits with human chorionic gonadotropin, a hormone that stimulates ovulation, instead of mating. This time, the number of ovulations in both groups was approximately the same.

Fluoxetine works by preventing the reabsorption of serotonin at neuronal synapses, and the same occurs in several other tissues. Therefore, the researchers conducted another experiment in which fluoxetine was injected directly into rabbit ovarian cell cultures. So they finally proved that it did not accumulate in the ovaries, but acted directly on the brain.

“Natural selection can reshape something to fulfill a new function,” says anthropologist David Poots. “Our ear holes were originally gill slits. Functions change over time. ”

In addition, the authors of the work note, animals with reflex ovulation usually have a clitoris located so that it can be stimulated during mating.

However, it is not known whether rabbits and other animals with this type of ovulation experience orgasm in the human sense of the word.

“This is a difficult question,” the researchers share. “We can’t talk to them about it.”

Neuroendocrinologist Julie Bakker from the University of Liege in Belgium, who studies ovulation in ferrets, was skeptical about the findings.

“The 30% reduction in ovulation looks very small. It would be much more convincing if there was no ovulation at all, she points out. “It would be nice if the authors measured the serotonin levels in the rabbits’ brains to determine if the serotonin levels increased after taking fluoxetine.”

In addition, studying the mechanisms of orgasm in animals is not entirely correct, she said.

“In rabbits, there is no such thing as an orgasm,” Bakker explains.

It is also not known whether the same nerve fibers are involved in orgasm in women as in animals with reflex ovulation. The question remains open as to why, if the female orgasm was once necessary for ovulation, it is so similar to the male.Nevertheless, the theory about the possible role of orgasm in ovulation in the past does not contradict the version that it is associated with a similar structure of the genitals of men and women, the researchers say.

90,000 All women do it – Ogonyok No. 34 (5530) dated 09/10/2018

Why are we pretending to be in the bedroom

A new survey of married couples shows that almost half of husbands have no idea if their wives are getting orgasms. In any case, this definitely applies to Americans, the study was carried out by scientists from Brigham Young University in Utah, married respondents answered the question of how often they and their partners achieve relaxation.So husbands, assessing the “happy ending” of their faithful, were mistaken in 43 percent of cases.

– Men are more inclined to overestimate their achievements, the Daily Mail writes about this, and this suggests that almost thirty years after the release of the movie “When Harry Met Sally” with the famous scene in which Meg Ryan imitates orgasm in a cafe, women still do it.

In that film, the hero claimed that all the girls were crazy about him in the bedroom, and the heroine was indignant: you probably couldn’t be sure here.In confirmation of her words, she began to moan right at the table, bend over, scream: “Yes! Yes! Yet!”. When she finished and leaned back exhaustedly in a chair, an elderly woman at the next table said to the waiter, “Bring me what you gave her.”

Filmmakers often make fun of male self-confidence. On Seinfeld, former lovers Jerry and Elaine also discuss pretend women. Jerry brags that he is able to spot falseness in bed on the fly: “This is one of my superpowers,” and Elaine insists that it is not so difficult to deceive men, all ladies do it from time to time.“How can you fail to notice! – Jerry laughs. – Only if you get drunk to unconsciousness. Elaine also chuckles: “You, for example, did not notice.” The dumbfounded guy then finds out for a long time and tediously: “What? With me? You? That is, it was all this, it was all a performance? .. I am shocked, I am in shock. How many times have you done this? ” Elaine herself is not happy that she started this conversation, but she has to admit: “Always! .. Jerry, you know, it’s not about you …” Jerry then complains to his best friend: “She’s like Meryl Streep! This is sexual perjury! Are they all pretending? ” And Elaine, in turn, asks her friend how often she is disingenuous with her husband.“If we have good spots at the Broadway musical,” she replies. “Or if that’s enough and I want to fall asleep as soon as possible.”

Psychologists and sexologists are in a hurry to console men, explain that not all women need relaxation during sex in order for it to be a pleasant experience, and understanding this is the best way to make everyone happy. The experts seem to have no idea: if the guys could accept this truth, no one would have lied to them for thousands of years.

“I have been simulating an orgasm all my adult life, and this is already 15 years, – this is a typical story from a women’s forum.- Not a single partner had any suspicions. I tried to be honest, but it brought nothing but problems. Are there still people like me here? ” – and hundreds of pages of comments …

And in Sex and the City, Miranda wonders: “Last night he said he loved it when I cum during sex. How can he take everything at face value ?! ”, and her friends explain to her that just women, thanks to many years of practice, have become very skilled in matters of forgeries and all kinds of imitations: they fake hair color, cup size, lip shape…

Like psychologists, wise girls, both in the movies, on the forums, and in confidential conversations, convince men and each other that they do not have to achieve an orgasm every time, the main thing is not to imitate the whole relationship. Although, I must admit, some imitate this too – just not to be alone.

90,000 Body reactions during sex 9,0001

During sex, men and women go through several stages of arousal.Each person goes through these stages in different ways. The stages are each time of different durations and different intensities. These stages are as follows:

Attraction

If you are sexually attracted, you want to have sex, you want someone to touch you, you enjoy fondling your partner / your partner or touching yourself / yourself.

Excitation

The touch of your partner / your partner or your own touch can cause sexual arousal. Your body / your partner’s / your partner’s body reacts to sexual arousal:

  • The vagina is hydrated (in women).
  • The labia are swollen (in women).
  • The cavernous body of the clitoris fills with blood, the clitoris increases in size, rises and becomes very sensitive (in women).
  • Nipples harden (in women).
  • The corpus cavernosum of the penis fills with blood, the penis increases in size and rises: an erection occurs (in men).
  • Some liquid may drip from the penis (in men).
  • The heart beats faster (in men and women).

You may have tender feelings towards your partner / your partner or have sexual fantasies.

Your arousal gets stronger. It is an intense, pleasant sensation.

Orgasm

Orgasm is the release of sexual energy by the body:

  • Pelvic floor muscles contract.
  • Men often ejaculate during orgasm. Sperm is ejected from the penis.
  • During orgasm, some women experience some fluid leakage from their vagina. This is similar to ejaculation.

Relaxation

After orgasm, the excitement gradually disappears and the body relaxes.Sometimes after an orgasm, you feel a little tired all over your body.

90,000 Weak orgasm, how to treat, symptoms, indications

Orgasm

A feeling of physical pleasure, a feeling of relaxation that occurs in response to sexual stimulation, accompanied by rhythmic contractions of the pelvic floor muscles.

Orgasm is a complex reflex act, a reaction to many physical, psychological, and emotional factors.

A number of factors can lead to a weakening of orgasm, individually or in combination:

1. Concomitant pathology. Diabetes mellitus is especially singled out as a disease leading to disruption of the work of blood vessels (in the sensation of orgasm, the outflow of blood from the genitals matters).

2. Neurological diseases.

3. Diseases of the female genital organs. Operations on the urogenital organs of a woman can lead to the development of secondary anorgasmia.

4. Taking certain medications, such as first generation antihistamines with hypnotic side effects, antihypertensive drugs, antidepressants

5. Psychological problems (dissonance in a couple, stress, excessive fatigue, etc.).

6. Age (with age, there is a decrease in the synthesis of female sex hormones, which leads to changes in anatomy, physiology, work of the cardiovascular system)

Treatment:

The treatment regimen depends on the cause, which does not allow you to get a full orgasm.

If the problem has a psychological genesis, the doctor of our clinic will refer the patient to a consultation with a psychologist or psychotherapist.

If a gynecological disease or a physical defect was an obstacle to achieving a full orgasm, modern gynecology is able to solve these problems.

Treatment can be conservative or operative

Conservative hormone therapy is carried out to correct the hormonal background of a woman, which helps to improve the quality of orgasm.

Or, corrective procedures corresponding to the problem will be prescribed, such as gynecological massage and physiotherapeutic procedures (darsonvalization, faradization, vaginal diathermy, irrigation with mineralized water, vaginal mud tampons, etc.).

In addition, the doctor will give recommendations on changing the lifestyle, taking medications, and prescribing physiotherapy exercises.

Timely addressing the problem to our gynecologist, the appointment of hormone replacement therapy will help return a full orgasm to women in menopause.

In addition to classical medical gynecological methods, we offer our patients the most modern procedures to improve the quality of orgasm, such as:

1. Non-surgical laser vaginal narrowing – Petit Lady procedure. This is a laser therapy procedure performed in our clinic with the Lutronic Action II, the latest in erbium fractional laser. The procedure is painless and has a minimal recovery time.A vaginal handpiece is inserted into the vagina for dosed laser radiation. As a result of the procedure, the vaginal wall thickens, rejuvenates, becomes more elastic and sensitive. The effect affects all tissues and builds up within a month after the procedure. The procedure is performed on an outpatient basis, immediately after the patient can go home.

2. We increase the sensitivity of the female genital organs by augmentation of the G-spot and the clitoris with a gel based on stabilized non-animal hyaluronic acid.This drug does not cause an allergic reaction and is not rejected by the body. Filler injections provide an increase in the area of ​​the erogenous zone, and, accordingly, contribute to its better stimulation during intercourse. In addition, the hyaluronic acid contained in the gels improves blood flow to the G-spot and to the clitoris during arousal, increasing the woman’s sensations. The augmentation procedure is performed on an outpatient basis using local anesthesia and takes no more than 15 minutes. Reorganization of the vagina is preliminarily carried out.The doctor then inserts the dilator and exposes the organ. By palpation, he determines the localization of the G-spot and injects the drug submucosally to a depth of 2-3 mm. Recovery after the procedure takes 2-3 days. At this time, sexual rest is recommended.

Female Orgasm: What You Need to Know About It

The Female Orgasm: What You Need to Know About It: Pixabay

Many modern women have gotten rid of stereotypes and learned to enjoy their sex life.But even today, gaps and controversial issues remain in the topic of female orgasm. What is a female orgasm, what types are there and how to learn to reach the peak of pleasure in sex?

What is the female orgasm?

Orgasm in women is the culmination of sexual arousal, which is a nervous discharge and is accompanied by contraction of the muscles of the vagina. It occurs when stimulating erogenous zones of the body rich in nerve endings. At this time, a signal is sent to the brain that triggers the production of neurotransmitters and hormones.Orgasm is not necessary for reproduction, but it has a positive effect on the psychological state of a woman.

How does a female orgasm work? During stimulation of the genitals, nerve impulses are transmitted to the brain. As Smitha Bhandari, MD, explains in the journal WebMD, cells begin to release dopamine, a neurotransmitter that helps you feel pleasure and not feel pain, affects mood and sleep.

How a female orgasm occurs: Pixabay

At the peak of pleasure, a large amount of serotonin and oxytocin enters the bloodstream, and involuntary contraction of the vaginal muscles occurs.These processes occur as a result of mechanical stimulation of the erogenous zones during vaginal, oral, anal sex and masturbation.

Three nerves are involved in the formation of sensations:

  • ilio-hypogastric;
  • ilio-inguinal;
  • femoral-genital.

The mechanism of the female orgasm is known, but there is no guarantee of reaching a climax. The same type of stimulation can affect the female body in different ways. The result is influenced not only by technique, but also by the psychological state, concentration, mood, fatigue, atmosphere, sounds and smells, the phase of the menstrual cycle and other external factors and characteristics of the body.

How long does a female orgasm last? On average, spastic muscle contraction lasts from 5 to 12 seconds, but this reaction is individual, so its duration may differ. Netizens are of the opinion that a woman’s average orgasm time is 20 seconds. Moreover, in men, the peak lasts 3-4 seconds.

The main difference between female and male orgasm is not the duration of sensations, but ejaculation, which ends with sexual intercourse for a man. This is the main sign of a male orgasm, so it cannot be imitated.The spasms that accompany the peak of pleasure in a woman are not always noticeable. Moreover, the brain activity in men and women during intercourse is almost identical.

What types of female orgasm are there?

In sexology, it is believed that a woman can experience clitoral and vaginal orgasms. This division was formed thanks to Sigmund Freud, who in 1905 expressed his opinion in “Three Essays on Sexuality.” In this work, the Austrian psychologist suggested that the clitoral orgasm should be considered fake, incorrect, and the vaginal orgasm real and complete, correct.For a long time, this division remained relevant, but thanks to new research it was refuted.

With the study of the anatomy of the clitoris, the division of orgasm into clitoral and vaginal has lost its relevance. Urology professor Helen O’Connell explains that the clitoris is a multi-planar structure with extensive attachments to the pubic arch, pubic bone, and labia by extensive supportive tissue, centrally attached to the urethra and vagina. Its components include the erectile bodies (paired bulbs and paired bodies that continue with the legs) and the head of the clitoris.

Types of female orgasm: Pixabay

Achievement of orgasm is associated with the stimulation of this particular organ. Its parts can be stimulated in different ways, including through penetration (intercourse). The study of brain activity at the peak of sexual intercourse allows us to conclude that clitoral and vaginal orgasm does not exist. Modern science speaks of clitorovaginal orgasm and suggests calling it female. Therefore, the division into species remains in the past.

The classification that appeared in Freud’s work has led many women to consider themselves inferior.According to Elizabeth Lloyd’s book A Case of the Female Orgasm: A Bias in the Science of Evolution, about 75% of women do not experience orgasm with vaginal stimulation. Many of them note the desire to learn how to experience the “right” pleasure.

This is connected with the emergence of the concept of “frigidity” (coldness, inability to enjoy sexual intercourse), which is no longer used by psychologists and sexologists. The inability to experience orgasm is called anorgasmia. This feature refers to sexual dysfunctions and is observed in 4% of women.

How to get an orgasm for a woman?

You can get an orgasm both from sex with a partner and from masturbation. In both cases, you need to focus on the sensations. To reach orgasm:

  1. Create a pleasant and safe atmosphere, relax.
  2. Start sex with foreplay.
  3. Select the appropriate stimulation method, posture and rhythm.
  4. Let your imagination run wild.
  5. Don’t think about orgasm.

The ability to culminate in sex largely depends on the psychological state.The atmosphere, the relationship with the partner, the ability to concentrate and the knowledge of one’s own body are important. In WebMD magazine, Loanne Cole Weston, Ph.D., reports that 10% of women never have an orgasm. To learn how to culminate in sex with a partner, many women study their bodies and their responses to masturbation.

How to get a woman orgasm: Pixabay

How to enhance a female orgasm? For a more intense sex experience, follow these tips:

  1. Consider the phase of your menstrual cycle.During ovulation, libido and sensitivity of erogenous zones increase.
  2. Exercise your pelvic floor muscles. Kegel exercises will help keep the muscles toned and increase the sensitivity of the genitals.
  3. Have sex in the morning. In the morning hours, men and women are more easily and actively excited, since the brain is not yet overloaded with other tasks.
  4. Experiment with poses. Find a position in which you can experience the maximum pleasure. Focus on your needs, not statistics: desires and feelings in sex are always individual.
  5. Use sex toys. To enhance arousal, you can use special tools (gels, creams, lubricants).

Explore your body without relying on classifications and rules. Stereotypes and outdated judgments can get in the way of enjoying sex, so feel free to reject them and rely on your feelings.

The female anatomy, like the female orgasm, began to be studied much later than the male. In science, it is believed that 90% of women are able to experience an orgasm, but many are deprived of this pleasure due to shame, lack of knowledge, lack of trust in a partner.Knowledge of the anatomy and individual characteristics gives every woman the opportunity to achieve the peak of pleasure in intercourse.

Attention! The material is for informational purposes only. You should not resort to the treatments described in it without first consulting your doctor.

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