What are the main causes of UTIs in males. How are UTI symptoms different in men compared to women. What are the most effective treatments for male UTIs. How can men prevent urinary tract infections.

Understanding Urinary Tract Infections in Males

Urinary tract infections (UTIs) are often associated with females, but males can also experience these uncomfortable and potentially serious infections. While less common in men, UTIs in males are typically classified as complicated infections due to anatomical differences and underlying health conditions.

UTIs occur when bacteria, usually from the rectum or skin, enter and multiply in the urinary system, which includes the bladder, kidneys, and the tubes connecting them. Although most UTIs can be effectively treated with antibiotics, understanding the unique aspects of male UTIs is crucial for proper diagnosis and management.

Why are UTIs less common in males?

The lower incidence of UTIs in males can be attributed to several factors:

• Longer urethra: The male urethra is typically longer than the female urethra, making it more difficult for bacteria to travel to the bladder.
• Prostatic fluid: The prostate gland produces fluid with antibacterial properties, which can help prevent infections.
• Drier urethral opening: The area around the male urethral opening is generally drier, creating a less hospitable environment for bacteria.

Common Causes of UTIs in Males

While UTIs are less frequent in males, several factors can increase the risk of developing these infections:

1. Prostate enlargement (benign prostatic hyperplasia)
2. Catheter use
3. Urinary tract obstructions (e.g., kidney stones)
4. Diabetes
5. Weakened immune system
6. Recent urinary tract procedures or surgeries
7. Uncircumcised penis
8. Engaging in anal intercourse

How does prostate enlargement contribute to UTIs?

Benign prostatic hyperplasia (BPH), a common condition in older males, can significantly increase the risk of UTIs. The enlarged prostate can compress the urethra, making it difficult to empty the bladder completely. This retention of urine creates an environment where bacteria can thrive, leading to a higher likelihood of infection.

Recognizing UTI Symptoms in Males

Identifying the symptoms of a UTI in males is crucial for early detection and treatment. Common signs include:

• Painful or burning sensation during urination
• Frequent urge to urinate
• Difficulty starting or maintaining urine flow
• Lower abdominal pain or discomfort
• Cloudy or bloody urine
• Fever and chills (in more severe cases)

Are UTI symptoms different in males compared to females?

While many symptoms are similar, males may experience some unique signs of a UTI:

• Pain or discomfort in the rectum or perineum
• Swelling of the prostate gland
• Testicular pain or swelling
• Painful ejaculation

Diagnosing UTIs in Males

Proper diagnosis of a UTI in males involves several steps:

1. Medical history review
2. Physical examination
3. Urinalysis
4. Urine culture
5. Imaging studies (in some cases)

Why are urine cultures important for diagnosing male UTIs?

Urine cultures are particularly valuable in diagnosing UTIs in males because they can identify the specific bacteria causing the infection. This information helps healthcare providers select the most effective antibiotic treatment, reducing the risk of antibiotic resistance and ensuring faster recovery.

Treatment Options for Male UTIs

The treatment of UTIs in males typically involves:

• Antibiotics: The primary treatment for bacterial UTIs
• Pain relief medications: To manage discomfort and fever
• Increased fluid intake: To help flush out bacteria
• Treating underlying conditions: Addressing factors like prostate enlargement or diabetes

How long does antibiotic treatment usually last for male UTIs?

The duration of antibiotic treatment for male UTIs is generally longer than for females, often lasting 7 to 14 days. In some cases, particularly for complicated UTIs or recurrent infections, treatment may extend to several weeks. It’s crucial to complete the entire course of antibiotics as prescribed, even if symptoms improve, to prevent the development of antibiotic-resistant bacteria.

Preventing UTIs in Males

While not all UTIs can be prevented, several strategies can help reduce the risk:

• Maintaining good hygiene
• Staying well-hydrated
• Urinating regularly and completely emptying the bladder
• Managing underlying health conditions
• Using condoms during sexual activity
• Avoiding the use of spermicides

Can dietary changes help prevent UTIs in males?

While diet alone may not prevent UTIs, certain dietary choices can support urinary tract health:

• Increasing vitamin C intake: May help acidify urine, creating a less favorable environment for bacteria
• Consuming probiotic-rich foods: Can promote a healthy balance of gut bacteria
• Drinking cranberry juice: Some studies suggest it may help prevent UTIs, though evidence is mixed
• Limiting caffeine and alcohol: These can irritate the bladder and increase urinary frequency

Complications of Untreated UTIs in Males

If left untreated, UTIs in males can lead to serious complications:

1. Kidney infections (pyelonephritis)
2. Prostate infections (prostatitis)
3. Sepsis (a life-threatening systemic infection)
4. Urethral strictures
5. Chronic pelvic pain syndrome

How quickly can a UTI progress to a more severe infection in males?

The progression of a UTI to a more severe infection can vary depending on factors such as the individual’s overall health, the specific bacteria involved, and any underlying conditions. In some cases, a lower urinary tract infection can ascend to the kidneys within a matter of days if left untreated. This underscores the importance of seeking prompt medical attention at the first signs of a UTI.

Special Considerations for Male UTIs

Several factors require special attention when dealing with UTIs in males:

• Age-related risks: Older males are more susceptible to UTIs due to prostate enlargement and other age-related changes
• Catheter-associated UTIs: Males using long-term catheters require specialized care and monitoring
• Recurrent UTIs: May indicate an underlying structural or functional issue in the urinary tract
• Antibiotic resistance: A growing concern that may complicate treatment

How do healthcare providers approach recurrent UTIs in males?

When dealing with recurrent UTIs in males, healthcare providers often take a comprehensive approach:

1. Thorough evaluation of the urinary tract: This may include imaging studies to identify any anatomical abnormalities
2. Assessment of risk factors: Identifying and addressing underlying conditions or behaviors that may contribute to recurrent infections
3. Long-term antibiotic prophylaxis: In some cases, low-dose antibiotics may be prescribed for an extended period to prevent infections
4. Urological consultation: A urologist may be involved to provide specialized care and interventions if needed

By addressing the root causes of recurrent UTIs, healthcare providers aim to break the cycle of infections and improve the patient’s quality of life.

Emerging Research and Future Directions

The field of urology continues to advance, offering new insights and potential treatments for male UTIs:

• Novel antibiotic therapies: Researchers are exploring new classes of antibiotics to combat resistant strains of bacteria
• Immunotherapy: Investigating ways to boost the body’s natural defenses against urinary tract infections
• Probiotics: Studying the potential of beneficial bacteria in preventing and treating UTIs
• Biofilm disruption: Developing strategies to break down bacterial biofilms that can contribute to chronic infections

What role might personalized medicine play in treating male UTIs?

Personalized medicine holds promise for improving the treatment of male UTIs:

• Genetic testing: Identifying genetic factors that may influence susceptibility to UTIs or response to treatments
• Microbiome analysis: Tailoring treatments based on an individual’s unique urinary microbiome
• Targeted therapies: Developing treatments that specifically address the patient’s particular strain of bacteria
• Predictive modeling: Using artificial intelligence to predict UTI risk and optimize prevention strategies

As research progresses, these personalized approaches may lead to more effective and efficient treatments for male UTIs, reducing the burden of these infections and improving overall urological health.

Causes, Symptoms, Treatment, and Prevention

Males can get urinary tract infections, and they are typically classified as complicated infections. Symptoms may include urgency, frequency, and burning when you urinate.

Urinary tract infections (UTIs) occur when bacteria, often from the rectum or skin, enter and overgrow in the bladder, kidneys, or the tubes that drain urine from the kidneys to the bladder.

Most UTIs can be cured easily with antibiotic drugs.

Language matters

In this article, we use “male and female” to refer to someone’s sex as determined by their chromosomes, and “men and women” when referring to their gender (unless quoting from sources using nonspecific language).

People often use the terms sex and gender interchangeably, but they have different meanings:

• “Sex” refers to the physical characteristics that differentiate male, female, and intersex bodies.
• “Gender” refers to a person’s identity and how they feel inside. Examples include man, woman, nonbinary, agender, bigender, genderfluid, pangender, and trans. A person’s gender identity may be different from the sex they were assigned at birth.

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Females are 30 times more likely to get UTIs than males, according to the Office of Women’s Health (OASH). This is due to anatomy. People with vaginas typically have shorter urethras. This means the bacteria need to travel less distance to reach the bladder.

UTIs in males are more common with older age. One reason is that older males are more likely to develop noncancerous enlargement of their prostate gland, called benign prostatic hyperplasia. The prostate wraps around the neck of the bladder, where the urethra connects to the bladder. Enlargement of the prostate gland can compress the bladder neck, making it harder for urine to flow freely. If the bladder does not empty completely, bacteria that are normally flushed out with the urine can gain a foothold.

The symptoms of a bladder infection include:

• painful urination and a burning sensation
• needing to urinate frequently
• sudden urge to empty your bladder, called urinary urgency
• pain in your central lower abdomen, just above the pubic bone
• blood in your urine

Certain symptoms in addition to those of a UTI could mean you have a prostate infection (prostatitis). These can include:

• fever
• chills
• fatigue
• difficulty urinating or “dribbling”
• pain in your pelvis

Most UTIs are caused by the bacterium Escherichia coli (E. coli), which is naturally present in your body. The bacteria gets into the urinary tract through the urethra. The urethra is the tube that drains urine from your bladder through your penis.

Factors that can put you at greater risk for UTIs may include the following:

• a previous UTI
• long-term use of a urinary catheter
• being immobile for long periods
• not drinking enough fluids
• recent urinary tract or kidney surgery
• urinary tract blockages like kidney stones or an enlarged prostate
• diabetes
• being uncircumcised
• fecal incontinence
• engaging in anal intercourse, which can expose the urethra to more bacteria

To diagnose a UTI, a doctor will examine you and ask about symptoms, including any past history of UTIs. You will likely be asked to provide a urine sample to check for bacteria and white blood cells, which indicate that your body is fighting an infection.

Sometimes the doctor will perform a urine culture to get more information about the bacteria causing the infection. If you have had a UTI before, a doctor might also perform an ultrasound to check for abnormalities in your urinary tract.

UTIs are categorized into two categories, uncomplicated and complicated. An uncomplicated UTI affects the lower urinary tract and is also known as cystitis or a bladder infection. An uncomplicated UTI is treated with antibiotics, and people typically recover within 3 days to 6 weeks.

Anytime a person with a penis has a UTI it is considered complicated.

UTIs are considered complicated if they affect certain groups. This can include:

• people who have a penis
• pregnant people
• people who are immunocompromised
• older adults
• people who use catheters
• people who experience recurring UTIs

If you think you have a UTI, it’s best to make an appointment with a doctor. They will typically make a diagnosis you based on your urine sample. You also may have to get an ultrasound to check for any abnormalities in your urinary system.

If you have a UTI, you will likely need to take antibiotic medications. Depending on the type of antibiotic a doctor prescribes, you may take the medication for 10 to 14 days.

It’s also important to drink adequate fluids. You may be tempted to reduce your fluid intake if urinating is uncomfortable. But urinating can help flush the bacteria from your system. It important to stay hydrated if you have a UTI, including while taking antibiotics.

Many people drink cranberry juice when they have a UTI in hopes of clearing the infection. Lab experiments with mice showed that several substances in cranberry juice lowered the bacteria count in the bladder. This suggests that there may be some benefits to drinking cranberry juice for humans with UTIs. However, there is no strong evidence that drinking cranberry juice while you have a UTI eliminates the infection or speeds recovery.

Recovery

After starting antibiotics, you should feel noticeably better within 24 to 48 hours. If your symptoms don’t clear up after taking antibiotics, talk with a doctor.

It’s important to finish all antibiotics prescribed, even if you’re feeling better. Stopping your antibiotics prematurely can encourage the growth of bacteria resistant to common antibiotics. In effect, less than the full course of treatment kills off the “weak” bacteria, leaving them stronger and more resistant strains.

People with prostates may need to take a longer course antibiotics in case the infection has reached the prostate, according to the National Institutes of Diabetes and Digestive and Kidney Diseases (NIDDK).

If you think you have a UTI, you should seek medical attention right away. If left untreated, a UTI can spread from your lower to the upper urinary tract and cause a kidney infection like pyelonephritis.

Symptoms of a UTI that involves the kidneys can include:

• pain in your sides or back that doesn’t change when you change position
• fever and chills
• nausea and vomiting
• a burning sensation when you urinate

If you have a kidney infection and can take medication by mouth, a doctor will prescribe antibiotics. Some people, such as children or those with other health concerns or complications, may have to stay in the hospital for treatment.

If pyelonephritis or an upper urinary tract infection is left untreated, it can lead to sepsis. Sepsis is a life threatening condition.

Symptoms of sepsis can include:

• irregular or fast heart rate
• sudden changes in body temperature
• change in mental status
• fever and chills
• difficulty breathing

Sepsis can be caused by an infection in the urinary tract. Treatment for sepsis includes hospitalization, antibiotics, and fluids.

Emergency situation

Sepsis is a life threatening infection. If you believe you or someone else may have sepsis, seek immediate emergency medical attention or call your local emergency services.

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To prevent UTIs, the most important thing is to reduce the chance of bacteria invading your urinary tract. Steps you can take to prevent UTIs may include:

• Urinate when you feel the need. Don’t “hold it in.”
• Drink adequate fluids. For most people, that means drinking when thirsty and drinking during meals. When it’s hot and you’re active in hot weather, drink a little extra water.
• Keep your genital area clean and dry.

UTIs are less common in people with penises but have similar causes and treatment. Taking antibiotic medications usually clears the infection. If you have prolonged UTIs or UTIs that come back frequently, you may need to be evaluated by a doctor for conditions like a prostate gland infection.

The following are frequently asked questions about UTIs.

How can you tell the difference between a UTI and bladder infection?

Bladder infections are a type of UTI that involves the lower urinary tract, including the bladder. A bladder infection can spread to other parts of your urinary tract or kidneys if left untreated. The symptoms of bladder infections and UTIs can be similar. See a doctor if you are experiencing symptoms of a UTI, such as painful or frequent urination, pain in your central lower abdomen, or blood in your urine.

Is it possible to treat a UTI at home without the use of antibiotics?

Most UTIs require treatment with antibiotics. When certain groups of people, including people with a penis, have a UTI, the infection is usually considered to be complicated. Delaying treatment of complicated UTIs can lead to complications, such as a kidney infection or sepsis. If you are experiencing symptoms of a UTI, visit a doctor or healthcare professional and have a urine test performed.

UTIs occur when bacteria enter the urinary tract system. They are more common in females than in males. However, males who are older in age, have diabetes, are immunocompromised, or use a catheter may have a higher risk of developing a UTI.

If you are experiencing symptoms and think you have a UTI, visit a doctor for treatment.

UTIs in men? It happens. Here are 10 things to know

Editor’s note: Dr. Jamin Brahmbhatt is a urologist and robotic surgeon with Orlando Health and president of the Florida Urological Society.

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“Wait … can men really get urinary infections? Is this fake news?”

This was one of the messages I received over the past 24 hours.

Yes, men can get urinary tract infections. Not fake news.

All of this interest was sparked by news this week that President Bill Clinton has been hospitalized for treatment for a urinary tract infection that spread to his bloodstream.

I first heard the news when I was in a room with a new male patient who recently had two back-to-back urinary tract infections. This patient is one of hundreds I may see in a year as a urologist. They’re sent to me to help figure out why these infections are occurring and how to prevent the next one.

To quench the curiosity driven by the recent news, here’s what I’d like you to know about UTIs.

UTI is short for urinary tract infection. It’s an infection of the organs in your body – I call them pipes – that are meant to funnel your urine out of your system and into the urinal. Most UTIs are caused by bacteria that work their way into the urethra, prostate, bladder or kidneys.

Way more women than men are diagnosed with UTIs. Anatomically, we feel this happens because women have a shorter urethra – the tube that connects the bladder to the outside world. The shorter length makes it easier for bacteria to travel to the urinary system. Men have longer urethras and therefore can be protected against urinary infections.

But the length of the urethra alone cannot protect men against UTIs – over their lifetimes, 12% of men will get urinary symptoms linked to a UTI. This by no means implies a urethra or penis are short or small. In men, there is usually a more clear pathologic cause to the infection beyond just the length of the urethra.

NEW YORK, NEW YORK – SEPTEMBER 26: Former U.S. President Bill Clinton attends The George H.W. Bush Points Of Light Awards Gala at Intrepid Sea-Air-Space Museum on September 26, 2019 in New York City. (Photo by Jamie McCarthy/Getty Images)

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Former President Bill Clinton hospitalized for infection but ‘on the mend’

There are many reasons why a guy may get a UTI – all of them we take seriously and should not be ignored.

Men older than 50 tend to get more infections than younger men. As a urologist, I see men get recurrent infections when they do not properly empty their bladder because of an enlarged prostate. Beyond the prostate, men may not empty their bladder if they have nerve damage from stroke, uncontrolled diabetes or injury to the spine. Men can also get infections that start from the prostate or testicles that seed up into the bladder, or the opposite can happen where the infection goes from the bladder to the other organs. Kidney stones can also be a cause of infection. (I know this from personal experience – I’ve had a kidney stone myself!)

Younger men may also present with urinary infections because of sexually transmitted diseases. Men can also get an infection if they have a recent procedure done in the urinary system.

Burning with urination (dysuria), increased urinary frequency, urgency, incontinence, foul smell, blood in the urine, fevers, chills, pain in the abdomen near the bladder. Believe it or not, some men may have zero symptoms and still get diagnosed with a UTI based on urine cultures done for other purposes.

UTI is diagnosed by sending your urine off for a culture. This is when a sample of your urine is processed and evaluated for various strains of bacteria. The most common bacteria identified in urinary tract infections is E.coli. Once the culture is done, the results can guide treatment, which is usually oral antibiotics. There is a test called a urine analysis which can be done quickly in our office which can suggest an infection. However, the best test is an actual culture.

Doctors do not wait for the culture results – which can take one to three days – to start treatment. If an infection is suspected, an antibiotic will be started immediately and then adjusted based on the culture results.

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Doctors treat female UTIs with wrong antibiotics nearly half the time, study finds

UTIs generally are treated with oral or IV antibiotics. Most infections can be treated with oral antibiotics. However there are superbugs that may be resistant to what we can give you by mouth that may require the use of stronger antibiotics through an IV. Most treatments last seven to 10 days, but can be longer.

In severe cases of infection that has spread to the bloodstream, strong IV antibiotics are started immediately to control the infection. Patients are placed in the hospital to start these strong treatments. You do not have to stay in the hospital for weeks if you have infection in your bloodstream. As long as you are doing well – no fever, normal labs, heart and pulse OK – then you may continue these IV treatments from home. Each treatment is tailored to your condition.

As a doctor, my answer is: No. Men should not try to treat infections on their own. If you have symptoms, get yourself to a doctor or emergency room.

The best prevention is making sure first there is nothing anatomical that needs to be corrected, such as an enlarged prostate, kidney stone or blockage.

Proper hygiene can help prevent infections. Men with uncircumcised penises should make sure they can retract the foreskin and clean under the foreskin and the glans properly. Cranberry supplements have been shown to help prevent infections. Staying hydrated by drinking enough fluids/water during the day can also help. Making sure you don’t hold your urine can help, too. Staying in good health to avoid chronic medical conditions such as diabetes and heart disease will also protect against infections.

Recurrent, untreated infections could cause strictures, or tight scars, in your urethra that would slow your stream and make it difficult to empty your bladder. Infections could also cause the bladder to lose its ability to fill and empty properly. In the long run, if you are getting constantly treated with antibiotics, we may run out of antibiotics to give you due to resistance.

The first priority is to clear the infection with antibiotics.

From there, we do a full workup with a detailed history, evaluation of chronic medical problems and exam of the genitals to look for anatomic issues such as a foreskin that won’t retract back. Imaging may include a CT scan of the abdomen and pelvis to look for kidney stones, blocked tubes and other abnormalities.

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If you see a urologist, you will likely get a cystoscopy, where we place a camera inside of a small tube into the urethra to look at the inside of your urine channel. The cystoscopy helps look for strictures, large obstructing prostates and changes to the bladder walls. Once a cause is found, it’s aggressively treated with either medication or surgery.

“Uti-puti” and “Lapusi” // OPTIMIST

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… helplessness. Ready to translate unintelligent charmers through all the roads of life, hail them a taxi and at three o’clock in the morning tell them how to get to the library. But when a young lady, mature in every sense, begins to build a “Bambi deer” out of herself, the gentleman in me quickly dies …

Phew, what an opportunity happened to me the other day! They celebrated the birthday of Alla Sergeevna’s colleague from the accounting department, wished the birthday girl “happiness, success, love,” and everything went decorously and nobly until Irochka from the advertising department looked into the light.

Actually, it is absurd to call Irochka a lady of deep Balzac age, raising three children and being in a protracted divorce from her second husband. But she chirps and flutters so much that only a deaf-blind-mute, who is unaware that the young lady actively wants to please, will dare to call the enchantress Irina Stepanovna. To convince you that I’m right, I quote Irochka’s monologue:

– Oh, Allusik (remark: the birthday girl is 55), congratulations, dear! I wish you everything, everything, and that you have nothing for it, ha ha ha! (Laughed for a long time, loudly and all alone). Men, what are you doing? Pour me some champagne! Oh, Anatoly Sergeevich, just don’t aim the cork at me, I’m afraid, ha ha ha … Pavel Semenovich, could you give me a box of sweets? Preferably, with a milk-nut filling, try a frankly inviting look) … Now I’ll get drunk, ha ha, and I will behave indecently! (in a childish, capricious tone). Men, are there brave souls among you who are ready to take a fragile woman home?. . Oh, Sergey, thanks for the orange. Wow, what beautiful hands you have, they give out an interesting personality …

The ladies present fell silent, Alla Sergeevna smiled forcedly, most of the men capitulated on the pretext of smoking, and I enjoyed the free concert. Irochka simpered, flirted, sprinkled with old jokes and aphorisms on duty, that is, she was at the zenith of her glory. Seryoga, following the orange, regaled her with pineapple from a fork and obviously stuffed himself into the mourners. Okay, he can be forgiven: the guy recently returned from the army, some “promiscuity in the means” is understandable. Very soon, the nonsense will disappear from his head and the truth will be revealed: only songs like “And her golden eyebrows are earing under the sign of the moon” are more stupid than inappropriate coquetry.

Can anyone draw the line between charming femininity and deliberate affectation?

Pretty women almost always speak in “toy” voices, as if they were possessed by the spirit of Cheburashka. This, in my opinion, is only permissible for Klara Rumyanova and other women who voice cartoons and play in children’s performances. I still remember the terrible shock that seized me at the sight of a smart aunt of retirement age, who was talking loudly with her Pekingese: “Lalya, where did you run away to? Ah, you are my golden toy! Who doesn’t listen to mom? And all this is sickeningly sweet voice of a girl from a nursery …

By the way, for some reason diminutive words predominate in the lexicon of coquettes – “musiki”, “bunnies”, “lapusi” and other “uti-ways”. Once, the ever-memorable Ira made a request: “Max, hare, I need your help. The computer is crashing, won’t you take a look, babe? I had plenty of free time, there is always a desire to help humanity, but after the “calling” of a sweetie, I sharply stopped wanting to repair Irochka’s car.

Themes raised by coquettes deserve special attention. As a rule, they complain in unison about their inability to live due to their subtle mental organization. I agree to some extent: women do not have to be aware that nails need to be driven in, and screws need to be screwed in, and not vice versa. And what is the difference between 60-watt bulbs and 100-watt bulbs, they have the right to know only by hearsay. But when a lady who has received some kind of education and life experience assures that she has no idea where the nearest bakery is, I want to advise: “Madame, get a compass or get a full-time Susanin.”

Another observation: minnows are very troublesome to maintain. That is, at a party, men endlessly have to give them cheese-salmon-olives, fill a glass in time and rush about in search of salt, if – God forbid! – a greasy spot will bloom on the new skirt of the twitterer. And all this to the “accompaniment” of lamentations: “I myself am not able, oh, noble name, what would I do without you?” You know what’s embarrassing?

In fact, mademoiselles can perfectly get cheese and salmon, will not deprive themselves of champagne and will be able to avoid greasy stains, but beautiful maidens, you see, have a special tactic.

A meager consciousness and glossy magazines assured them that one has to be weak with men. Well, at least it seems. Because women have become – what a horror! – self-sufficient, and men have nowhere to put the heroic power. For this reason, the knights mope and wait, they can’t wait until someone asks them, if not to kill the dragon, then at least bring a napkin and help hail a taxi.

Dear ladies, this is nonsense. Don’t think of men as idiots: we are able to understand when a girl is really confused and needs help, and we are ready to come to the rescue without further requests. But the ostentatious pouting and capricious tone in me personally cause only dull irritation. I am sure that if a ready-to-serve man is not in the field of view of the mince, she will successfully catch a taxi herself. At worst, cheerfully dash to the house, like a horse, frightened by a truck.

Another one of their “hot spots” is “glamorous” clothes, mainly in pink and blue tones and outlandish styles. If a girl of the age category “slightly over 30” catches my eye, dressed up in gizmos from a children’s and teenage wardrobe, I can say with 99 percent certainty that this is a cutesy woman.

Ruffles, frills, polka dots, mini-length and hyper-fitted silhouette – oh, girls know how to transform into a “darling”! No wonder, because there are a lot of publications that teach cuties to “dilute the dullness of everyday life” with a hat with a pompom and “throw off ten years” with a skirt with embroidered butterflies. When I meet such an “embodiment of optimism and eternal spring”, I sigh knowingly: of course, you need to dress in such a way that, looking at yourself in the mirror, you no longer want to go to the circus.

I remember one day I came to visit a friend and could not find his house among the “colony” of one-story buildings. Cursing the private sector as a phenomenon, I came across a compassionate uncle who advised me to find the chairman of the street committee, they say, the respectable lady knows everyone in the district and will lead to the right person. I pressed the button of the fence bell, the gate swung open and the grandmother-God’s dandelion appeared before my eyes. The fragile figure was wrapped in a pink crimped dressing gown, faded eyes looked with childish curiosity, and two gray pigtails with blue bows adorned her head.

An arrogant thought flashed through my mind: “Well, the desire for beauty in a woman is indestructible. Regardless of age.” And he was immediately ashamed: it was not the desire to return to the era of youth that made the grandmother braid liquid pigtails and preen, but an irreversible process called “fall into childhood”. But she can be forgiven, she has almost a century behind her…

So, let’s sum it up: it’s not piles of swallowed up glossy magazines, vagaries and a pink mini that make a woman a woman. Femininity is the ability to remain beautiful, self-respecting, kind, compassionate. This is the ability to wear cute scarves so that a man wants to touch them, inhale the faint scent of perfume, and most importantly, smell the Woman. .. And all this miracle should not depend on social status: you can make serious decisions, lead a large team, and even decide the fate of mankind being fragile, delicate, charming.

Now coquettes have the right to exclaim: “Demand creates supply! Men want to see us as defenseless dummies, so we have to meet the set standards! Dear ladies, believe me, a strong, self-sufficient man will never belittle the role of a woman. Only those who themselves are not seven spans in the forehead and are simply afraid of smart independent ladies want to have a talking doll next to them. There is a kind of “slippery” guys who are happy with easy victories and are ready to take cutesy antics for outright sympathy. And my position – even to “pass the evening” would not agree with this. Ask how low intelligence and affectation are consistent? Ha, elementary: the second follows directly from the first. Since a smart woman has more reliable weapons in her arsenal than shooting at a target with her eyes and batting her eyelashes . ..

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…When I kissed Alla Sergeevna’s hand goodbye, Irochka announced herself: “Max, are you leaving already? Then kiss my hand too, not just Allusik!” – and held out her withered paw. And I didn’t kiss, I just shook it hard like that, in a comradely way. Irochka was loudly indignant: “Fie, this is not a gentleman’s way!”

Did not refute:

– But with all my heart.

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“Oooh, my daddy’s all over”: a model from Nigeria and a blue-eyed blond from Yakutia had a son

December 7, 2020 14:57

The baby was born on November 24 [photo, video]

Dmitry Rut became parents Photo: social networks

Many people know about this unusual couple. On social networks, they were dubbed “marshmallows in chocolate.” She is an amazingly beautiful black girl, he is a blue-eyed blond. In 2018, Dmitry Makrygin and Ruth Tette got married in the registry office of Yakutsk. And so they had a son. Firstborn in mom or dad? Most often they are now asked about this. Parents are in no hurry to answer this question. Only sometimes on her page on the social network, a young mother uploads a photo where she hugs her baby.

Accidental acquaintance

How could Dmitry Makrygin, a businessman from Yakutia, son of a military man, freelance photographer, musician, fisherman, hunter, have thought that his trip to the northern capital would be fateful. While walking in the park, he saw an amazingly beautiful girl. Many can envy her appearance and figure.

Beautiful couple Photo: social networks

He started taking pictures of her. Ruth, a graduate economist and a model who grew up in a large African family, was at first taken aback by such impudence. But having heard his pure English (a rarity for Russian guys) and accepting his apologies, she allowed me to take a couple more shots. Their romantic relationship began. For two years they lived in two cities – he is in Yakutsk, she is in St. Petersburg. Neither one nor the other had the opportunity to change something. They lived in rare meetings and every day they “met” at the screen of their mobile phones.

Wedding Photo: social networks

At some point, Dima decided that he had had enough. Secretly, he flew to his beloved. Persuaded a friend to bring her to a cafe. He himself dressed as a bear and in this form proposed to her. Right on the street – he got down on one knee and held out the ring. Since then, they have not parted.

We are expecting a baby

They got married in 2018. And in 2020, they found out that they would become parents.

– We will have a son soon, in November, – Dmitry admitted. – I found out about it in early April. I arrived from a business trip at 5 am, and Rusya shows me the test. What are two stripes, I know and immediately understood everything. He shouted: “I knew it!”. He jumped up to the ceiling, ran to the balcony. Just uncontrollable emotions. For my parents, this will be the seventh grandchild. It is highly likely that the baby will be light. I myself am fair, and in Ruth’s family all fair mulattos. She herself is an exception. Well, maybe a coffee baby will work out. Actually, I wanted a girl. But the son is a continuation of the clan, the surname. And then let there be daughters.

Waiting for a miracle Photo: social networks

Both of them are active users of social networks. They run their Instagram pages. But at some point they disappeared. It was an exciting time, too personal. Ruth wrote her first post at 37 weeks pregnant.

“The emergency case is packed. Pregnancy is wonderful, we are almost at the end of the road. We are waiting, we will not wait for our precious treasure. We are enjoying the last days of pregnancy, our baby will be born very soon, in fact, at any moment.

Dima and Ruth made percentage calculations Photo: social networks

Dima and Ruth once asked themselves the question: what nationality blood will be present in their son? And even made calculations in percentage terms. Here’s what happened:

Russian – 50%

Ghanaian – 25%

Nigerian – 12.5% ​​

British – 12.5% ​​

Mister son!

November 24th. In the evening, Ruth gave birth to a son.

Ruth in the maternity hospital Photo: social networks

“The first night in the hospital with the baby was magical. I couldn’t close my eyes or look away from him for a minute. I just looked at him my night. I immediately became obsessed with him. Yesterday he began to try to communicate, something like “aha”. Very smart, but what strikes me the most is his strength. So small and so cheeky.”

Every day Dmitry came to the maternity hospital. Ruth waved to him through the window, and once showed her son. And he took a picture. Just like in The Lion King.

Like in the cartoon “The Lion King” Photo: social networks

Relatives and friends also arranged a surprise. They all arrived in a crowd under the windows of the maternity hospital and celebrated the birth of the baby – loudly and with champagne.

Long-awaited discharge!

“Daddy is coming,” the nurse says, handing over to Dmitry a package in which the baby snore.

He sees his son for the first time. Smiling proudly.

Dmitry meets his wife and son

social networks

Ruth is hugged by her husband’s sisters: “Hello! Congratulations!”

“Get in the car, otherwise it will freeze,” Grandma orders.

– Today I took my son home, – said Dmitry. – I saw him for the first time. Until that moment, I refused to watch photos and videos with him that Rusi did in the maternity hospital, because I really wanted to get to know him personally. He is just a magical child.

Big family Photo: social networks

Who would have thought that he would make such a loving and restless dad. But Ruth declassified it.

“Being a mother is probably the best feeling in the world. By the way, about “shaking over a child”, you should have seen his daddy, who does not have a soul in him and guards every hair on his head and also constantly teaches me how to hold a child correctly, what and how to do and what not to do ” .

Ruth congratulated everyone on Mother’s Day Photo: social networks

“You are so similar, beautiful and harmonious,” they write to young parents. But who does their son look like? On Mother’s Day, Ruth posted a touching photo with her son. Dark hair, swarthy hand. And then suddenly another photo – the palms of the father and the heels of the crumbs – light. The intrigue is revealed by the third picture, which already shows the baby better. Eeeee, the reaction of subscribers:

Love, she is so Photo: social networks

“The son turned out so white, there is nothing from his mother’s skin color.”

“Oh my, my daddy’s all”.

Ruth and Dimitri have not yet spoken about their son’s name.

My son turned white Photo: social networks

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